Cash Gifts

[Bradaven760]

Hey All,


I was wondering if any of ya'll have simply just asked your invited guests for cash instead of gifts? We are so busy with our everyday lives, work, kids, etc. that we just don't want to bother with registering anywhere. Besides not wanting to bother with registering, the money would help out greatly and we already have all the household stuff you'd normally ask for.


What do you think, any suggestions?


Brad and Jordan

[gwenshack]

Hi Brad and Jordan - :welcome2:

Personally, I've always been taught that it's bad etiquette to ask for cash, so that's what I've chosen to live by. Some people who don't want to register for gifts use those honeymoon registries, where they register for money toward their honeymoon. It's not something I'd personally do, but it's a trend that seems to be catching on.

What we did - my husband and I asked for no gifts - we felt that we didn't need anything and didn't want people to feel obligated to get us anything. So we didn't register and the people who still wanted to get us something, for the most part, gave us cash. Maybe that's something you could consider. Of course you run the risk of people actually not giving gifts, which is honestly what we wanted, or getting things that people picked out, like the array of crystal bowls that we received but will never be used.

But, in general, to answer your question, no, I wouldn't feel comfortable asking people for cash.

Best of luck to you! ;)

[Bradaven760]

Thank you Gwen... Is it bad to return gifts that are given? I probably won't advertise that we returned gifts that were given to us but I was thinking maybe we could return the gifts for the cash and use that for the things we really need. I hate to sound shallow but the cash would reallly help. Every little bit helps, especially now.

P.S. Sorry about the blank post. I am new to forums and I couldn't figure out how to delete the post.

[gwenshack]

Thank you Gwen... Is it bad to return gifts that are given? I probably won't advertise that we returned gifts that were given to us but I was thinking maybe we could return the gifts for the cash and use that for the things we really need. I hate to sound shallow but the cash would reallly help. Every little bit helps, especially now.

P.S. Sorry about the blank post. I am new to forums and I couldn't figure out how to delete the post.
You're welcome! I deleted the post for you - only moderators can delete posts. ;)
I wouldn't advertise returning gifts and I would make sure to send a thoughtful thank you for each one received, but if you can't use it I'm sure the gift giver would prefer you have something that you will utilize versus something that you won't.
:goodluck:

[Bradaven760]

You're welcome! I deleted the post for you - only moderators can delete posts. ;)
I wouldn't advertise returning gifts and I would make sure to send a thoughtful thank you for each one received, but if you can't use it I'm sure the gift giver would prefer you have something that you will utilize versus something that you won't.
:goodluck:

I appologise for being such a newbie on here but I figured you'd be one to help me delete that post. Afterall it does say Moderator next to your name.

I definitely would keep a detailed list of gifts people gave us. I am sure that would make the thank you card writing nicer, and more personalized.

I have not done any investigating as of yet but are there even stores that I could register that do cash refunds? Ever heard of anything like that? :confused:

Brad

[Bradaven760]

I appologise for being such a newbie on here but I figured you'd be one to help me delete that post. Afterall it does say Moderator next to your name.

I definitely would keep a detailed list of gifts people gave us. I am sure that would make the thank you card writing nicer, and more personalized.

I have not done any investigating as of yet but are there even stores that I could register that do cash refunds? Ever heard of anything like that? :confused:

Brad

bed bath and beyond or macys or somthing?

[gwenshack]

bed bath and beyond or macys or somthing?
I really don't know store policies, but I'm sure some of the ladies on here probably do. Make sure to check back in the morning when more people are up and active and hopefully you'll have some answers to that. ;)

[Bradaven760]

I really don't know store policies, but I'm sure some of the ladies on here probably do. Make sure to check back in the morning when more people are up and active and hopefully you'll have some answers to that. ;)

I will definitely do that. I am sure I will be on here a lot until I get all these wedding hiccups out of the system. Thanks for your advice.

[sandy03]

To answer your first question, I agree with Gwen. It's not really in good taste to ask for cash. (Technically, it's not in good taste to ask for anything!) If cash is what you really need/want, the best way to get that out is through word of mouth via family and perhaps the wedding party.

I really don't know of any place that will do cash refunds. Most will give you a gift card/store credit for returns. If nothing else you could always register someplace like Target or Wal-Mart and use your returns toward more "everyday" stuff like groceries and whatnot. It might give you a few more "practical" options for using store credit.

[SkippyNXC]

i agree w/the others... if u don't want box gifts than u don't have to register anywhere and you'll probably be more likely to get gift cards and cash...

There's no store that I know of that will give you cash for your gift. i know in NY the law states that you can ONLY give refunds via the same way they were purchased... so if someone pays w/a credit card you HAVE to refund to the credit card...

perhaps you could register online at like Target or Bed Bath Beyond... and create a small registry for those that prefer to do box gifts...

I always find that those who cannot afford the typical wedding gift prefer to be able to buy a small gift :)

[Bradaven760]

i agree w/the others... if u don't want box gifts than u don't have to register anywhere and you'll probably be more likely to get gift cards and cash...

There's no store that I know of that will give you cash for your gift. i know in NY the law states that you can ONLY give refunds via the same way they were purchased... so if someone pays w/a credit card you HAVE to refund to the credit card...

perhaps you could register online at like Target or Bed Bath Beyond... and create a small registry for those that prefer to do box gifts...

I always find that those who cannot afford the typical wedding gift prefer to be able to buy a small gift :)

Wow.. State law? Thats crazy. I had no idea. I do not live in NY but I wonder if thats the same everywhere.

I really appreciate you ladies helping me with this. I know its very taboo and I am glad I didn't just get roasted for asking. ha ha.

I think I will just register at more everyday stores that I can use as time goes by. I really liked that idea.

Thanks again.. Any other suggestions lemme know.

Brad and Jordan

[The Proper Wedding]

Walmart's usually good about returns! I think if you don't have a receipt they give you a gift card, but who can't use a gift card to walmart!

[Tammy]

I am kinda in the same boat...FH and I are both in our early 30's and had been living in our own place until April when we moved in with my FMIL. I originally hadn't registered in hopes people would just give cash or gift cards. I felt kinda bad after a lot of people had asked if we registered. So we registered at Target, it's very practical. I just registered for a few upgraded appliances and a couple of things I would like to have(GPS, Camcorder) but couldn't justify buying myself. Good luck and welcome to One Wed!!!