How involved were/are your in-laws in the planning process?

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

I know some of us have in-laws we love and others have some they dont. How involved were they with the wedding planning process?

[Valmai]

As much as i love mine to bits they have not really been involved in anything, nobody has! Jamie and I have done it all ourselves and apart from venues then nobody else knows much either - they'll just have to wait and see lol I have tried asking what they think about certain things but thats only so they dont feel left out our decisions were made anyways! xxx

[AngelinLove]

My fmil and fsil pretty much know about everything and I always talk to them about the stuff that I am trying to figure out!!! Thye are great help and I don't know how I would have gotten through it without them!!! We are pretty much paying for everything ourselves though!!!

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

Jonathan's parents are really involved with almost everything. His dad is always suggesting things and his mom loves going shopping with me and looking at wedding stuff. There are a few things that I havent talked to them about, but its bound to come up. They arent really pushy about anything so its nice.

[JennF]

My FMIL is very involved. Since we can't be there until the month before the wedding, she scouted venues, suggested our florist, booked our photographer, arranged for our cake and purchased stuff for our favors. There have been moments where this has made me a little nervous (especially the photographer..that was one of the important things on my list.) but on the whole it's been a dream. We have very similar taste.

Thinking about it though, I bet that the reason I've thrown myself in to designing the invitations is because it's something that's completely under my control. (I can't wait until they're all done so that I can show everyone.)

[WhiskeyGirl]

Hey! Where's the option that they just forked over the money? lol. They liked to hear of our plans but they were to busy farming to help us plan anything out! And when we needed a cheque, they would sign on the line and hand it over. My mil helped me with my center pieces and a few decoration issues but that was about it! :D

[KristyGirl]

My ILs weren't involved at all. All we asked them to do was give us a guest list and show up.

[brewsells]

My inlaws haven't been involved at all. Well, my FMIL is taking me to Costco a couple days before to grab some last minute stuff. Does that count?

[StaceyMc]

My FMIL hasn't asked anything about the wedding since we set a date. Her response to the date was "Who wants to get married in February?!?!?"

[mariaandmanish]

Unfortunately, none of those options work for me. My in-laws were'nt technically involved in the actual planning and decision makoing steps, bu they were invaluable in planning it because they told me what I had to do to have a traditional Hindu Wedding Ceremony. Other than that though, they're just showing up - though that's not certain now either, since I have a 2 year old for a FFiL.:)

[Kacie_bride]

My in-laws have not been very involved. His mother went with us to look at the venue one time, but that's it. I don't really want them to be involved that much. I tell her my plans when I talk to her. If she wanted to be more involved I wouldn't care.

[LaceyinPgh]

My wedding was my business. I didn't really involved anyone in it. But, if my in laws asked a question, I answered it. They were great about backing me up wit hmy family about the entire "no kid" thing so I appreacite that. But really the only thing I asked from them was for a guest list of no more 100 people. I got one with 118 on it. No biggie, more gifts for me.

[MOB Karen]

Well, Jason's mother died before he met Amber so that was never an issue. But his grandma and his great-grandma ask how things are going occasionally. :D But they are not involved at all.

[CindySue]

Brians mom liked hearing my plans, and if she had an idea, she would offer it, but she left the planning up to me. She told me if there was anything she could help with she would.....and she did. And I didnt have a problem sharing all my ideas with her and getting her opinion.

[countrygirl]

J's mom wants to do things, but she lives in Tenn, so there isn't much she can do. She is coming out a week before the wedding to help me finish up the little things.

[cowboysbride]

MY MIL WAS VERY INVOLVED....FROM THE FLOWERS TO THE CHURCH DECORATIONS TO THE RECEPTION HER SIGNATURE WAS EVERYWHERE AND IT WAS GORGEOUS....

She and I danced barefoot at the reception and sang a song with the band before Eric and I left on our honeymoon and it was very special...I could have never done it without her! She treats me like one of her own children!

[ikkin510]

My FMIL likes to ask about how things are going and has lots of suggestions. FILs can't afford to give money towards the event, but love to help with ideas. There are time when I truely believe they are more into planning our wedding then FSIL's. Just because we are doing something simple and inexpensive.

[Jena1984]

My dad and Step mom are just showing up, my mom has been very helpfull. I have done most of the planning myself and she doesn't want to step on my toes, but she has been there for me when I have needed her. My step dad is also just showing up. My FFIL and FMIL are driving me up the wall with their unwanted opinions, they keep printing things off of the internet to try to prove me wrong, and I am wish they would just stay out of the planning. To many cooks spoils the broth!!!!