United In Death

[mitch]

The house we rent belonged to an old couple who were absolutely devoted to each other. On the day we moved in, neighbours were coming over to tell us about the old couple that lived here. Sadly the Lady passed away before Christmas. Leaving her Husband unable to fend for himself with dementia. So he went into a Nursing Home. The house then went to their Son and Daughter-In-Law who in turn became our Landlords.

I said to DH it wouldn't surprise me if the old man passed away within a year of losing his wife. You often hear about people dying of a broken heart. If they were that devoted then it wouldn't surprise me.

Today we finally got chatting to our next door neighbours. We have only ever said Hello up until now. But we were putting our England Flag out for the World Cup and they came out.

Turned out that the old man who lived here passed away last week. We never knew them. Infact we have only met the DIL two times. Once when we viewed the house and another time when she came to get the Washing Machine. We have never met the Son.

It's very sad to hear of their loss. And because we live in their home i want to plant two little trees in the front garden in memory of them. Do you think this is over the top or daft? Ideally i would invite the Son and DIL round to see the trees go in. But i'm worried they may take it the wrong way. OK we never knew them. But this was their home for years.

RIP Mr and Mrs C.

[gwenshack]

I think that's really sweet of you Mitch. :heart: I think I would send a note to your landlords telling them how sorry you are to hear of his passing and let them know that you plan to plant two trees in the yard in their memory. I think they'll be very touched by the gesture. I know I would be.

[WebLady]

I think it is a nice thought.

Maybe you can mention it to them saying how much you were touched by their love story and wanted to do something. Maybe ask them if they think it is ok (I assume you rent since you said landlord) and if they want to be there.

[mitch]

I think it is a nice thought.

Maybe you can mention it to them saying how much you were touched by their love story and wanted to do something. Maybe ask them if they think it is ok (I assume you rent since you said landlord) and if they want to be there.

Yes we do rent the house. The DIL is the "Landlady" more than the couples Son. The Son was born here so has no intention of selling it. (At least i hope not, i dont want to go through that again) Any problems / queries are dealt with by the Letting Agent because the house is "Managed". The Letting Agency boss is very good friends with the DIL. That's why our Letting Agent is in the same town as the Landlady and not in the town where we live.

I might phone the office tomorrow and speak to the Agent and see what she thinks. She will probably phone the Landlady on our behalf.

I would really like to do something. But was worried about seeming daft.

[amisteratwisterandme]

I think that's really sweet of you Mitch. :heart: I think I would send a note to your landlords telling them how sorry you are to hear of his passing and let them know that you plan to plant two trees in the yard in their memory. I think they'll be very touched by the gesture. I know I would be.

I think that is a beautiful gesture. How could they not appreciate the thought behind that?

[Nekochanpurr]

I think its a really sweet idea! :D

[mitch]

I spoke to the Letting Agent who knows our Landlady. First of all i wanted to pass on our condolences to the family. I then mentioned the memorial. She thinks it's a brilliant idea. She knew the couple herself and got a bit choked up when i mentioned doing something. Especially when i didn't know them personally myself.

I said i'll sort something out after the World Cup. Because we have a HUGE England Flag hanging from the top window. It almost covers half the house. I thought it's best to do something when that is down.

The couple that lived here were Irish. So it would look better without a 15ft X 8ft St George Flag in the background.

I've also decided to go with Standard Roses for the two of them. That way they are "above" the rest of the garden. Then friends and family walking by or driving by on the Bus can see them.

Something like this.

http://i177.photobucket.com/albums/w229/mitchymoomoo/RO0097.jpg

I don't mind what colour Rose. Everything out there is shrubs. So nothing will clash. Might be able to find out what colour they prefer.

The Agent is going to let the family know. And will ask them if they want to be here when the Roses go in the ground.

I should be seeing the Agent personally sometime today when i go in to pay the rent. Will talk to her more in depth face to face.

[gwenshack]

I'm glad the letting agent thinks it's a good idea. I'm sure the family will be touched, even if they choose not to be present when you do the planting. :luxlove:

[jamt]

Mitch that is such a sweet thing to do and i think roses fit the bill perfectly

[NOTKT]

That is very sweet. :)

[f77g4]

You're so thoughtful! That's a great idea! And I love the idea of roses!

[Thalia_themuse]

You are so sweet!! That's a lovely idea! :luxlove:

Maybe the DIL and son will know what colours would best represent them... Otherwise, would you have them matching or complementary? Or maybe two-toned colours to represent how they were both such a big part of each other...?

[mitch]

We've been given the go ahead on whatever we deem suitable. So i've been online and down the Nursery to have a look at some Roses. It all depends what is available. We are a tadge late in the year to be putting Roses in. But we're still gonna go for it. We have decided to go with one Rose so they are united in one memory. Plus space is a bit limited out there.

Some ideas.

Together Forever.

http://i177.photobucket.com/albums/w229/mitchymoomoo/together_forever.jpg

Sweet Memories.

http://i177.photobucket.com/albums/w229/mitchymoomoo/sweetmemories.jpg

Loving Memory.

http://i177.photobucket.com/albums/w229/mitchymoomoo/lovingmemory1.jpg

[Thalia_themuse]

Together Forever.

http://i177.photobucket.com/albums/w229/mitchymoomoo/together_forever.jpg


This is prob my favourite - the name sounds fitting for them, and having the two colours mixing together is sweet. Two souls in one bloom together, you know?