Postpone or Not?

[SerendipityCrafts]

Would you postpone your wedding if a parent was hospitalized a month before the wedding?

[WhiskeyGirl]

Depending on what they were being hospitilized for and how long, how fatal, how sick, etc. I would maybe but again it would really depend on what the parent and me and my fiance would decide on.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Depending on what they were being hospitilized for and how long, how fatal, how sick, etc. I would maybe but again it would really depend on what the parent and me and my fiance would decide on.

Tricky one isn't it? FH's Dad was hospitalized last week. It looks like the surgery will be delayed one month so that he can get some strength back but it certainly got us thinking!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Tricky one isn't it? FH's Dad was hospitalized last week. It looks like the surgery will be delayed one month so that he can get some strength back but it certainly got us thinking!

It is very tricky! I would talk with his dad and hash out a plan!! Good luck Hun!! :)

[ladymelissa]

It would certainly depend on the circumstances.

I hope your FH's dad will be okay, I'll keep him in my thoughts.

[hummingbird521]

I hope he is ok. Let us know what happens. He will be in my prayers this morning.

[Kacie_bride]

I guess it would depend. I really don't know what I would do.

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

I know that I would want to postpone it but I think I would have to talk to the parent that was sick and see how they felt about it. I think if it was really really serious, then we would definitely postpone it without a second thought, but again it really depends on the situation and how the parent feels about it.

[LaceyinPgh]

I faced this problem. The Friday (I think) before my wedding my mother was diagnosed with a major heart issue that was going to require immediate open heart surgery on that following Monday, 5 days before my wedding. THe doctor wasn't able to say if she would be out of the hospital or not. In fact the type of surgery had major risks. I had deposits down, people coming in from as far away as China, and 15 months of work including a non refundable honeymoon. I would have gone on with the wedding. I wouldn't have had a choice. Thankfully mom decided against the surgery. When two additional doctors ran the same tests, it turns out the problem was non existant.

[WebLady]

Depending on what they were being hospitilized for and how long, how fatal, how sick, etc. I would maybe but again it would really depend on what the parent and me and my fiance would decide on.
That is what I would say ... sorry about FH's Dad!

[SerendipityCrafts]

He needs a gallbladder operation and they have found cancer. As it stands now, he won't be having an operation until after the wedding *phew* but the whole thing had us rattled.

Dad remarked that he was worried too and we just told him to concentrate on getting better and nothing else.

We don't have deposits on anything (our reception is in our church hall and we are buying the food). The problem for us was that 90% of our guests are coming in from out of town and we just couldn't see another time to do it. That said, I guess we would have had it been necessary.

BTW - We would appreciate any and all prayers.

[MOB Karen]

I'm sending my thoughts and prayers to your family, Elizabeth! Good luck with everything! :D

[CindySue]

My prayers are also with you and your family.

It would definitely have depended on the situation for us. When we found out his daughter wasnt going to be able to be here for the wedding, I offered to postpone it till she came down this summer. Brian said no.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Got word last night from his parents that they won't be coming. The operation is scheduled for August 28 and they don't feel that they should travel so close to the operation date. :(

[LaceyinPgh]

Got word last night from his parents that they won't be coming. The operation is scheduled for August 28 and they don't feel that they should travel so close to the operation date. :(

I'm so sorry for you both. Is Hugh all right with it?

[SerendipityCrafts]

I'm so sorry for you both. Is Hugh all right with it?He is disappointed but he doesn't want to postpone (& I left the choice up to him).

We picked Aug. 25th so that it would not interfere with school schedules (re our kids), summer jobs (our kids again), and it wouldn't be during our peak crafting period (Sept - December).

I don't know what we are doing for a honeymoon (because he won't tell me - it's a surprise!) but I do know that we aren't going to be away for the full two weeks. I have suggested that we take the 2nd week to travel to see his father after the operation.

[AngelinLove]

My thoughts and prayers are with Hugh's fatehr and I hope that everything goes fine!!! I ma sorry for you that they won't make it to the wedding, but it would be a great idea to go and see them through the operation!!!

[Jenn060306]

Depends on what's causing them to be there, and how they feel about it.

My mom was in the hospital a number of times in the months leading up the wedding. She had a serious problem with her gallblater and was scheduled to have it removed just over a week after the wedding. She was pretty good and it was usually only a trip to the e.r. and she wasn't addmitted. But she had to be extremely careful with what she ate and had to keep her stress levels in check. Had she needed to have her gallblatter removed a month before we mostlikely would have postponed the wedding because i don't think it would have felt right to not have her there.

[Jenn060306]

Oh Elizabeth i am so sorry to hear that hughs parents won't be coming. That's terrible.

[SerendipityCrafts]

FMIL is stressed about everything (including the fact that she had already bought her dress, shoes, bag etc. :) ) I don't think they want the added stress of planning a trip to go back & worry about the operation.

I wonder what it would take to hook up a live video feed :bbidea: