Favors and a Mother!!!

[Goin2thechapel]

Okay everyone, you've all helped me before, and I need you all again.
I am making my own favors for the wedding. They are small pots with a topiary plant in each one of them. Fake of course. I figured if I make like 10 per week then when it comes time for my wedding, they'll be long done and one less thing to worry about. My mother says that I am doing it all wrong because my bridesmaids are supposed to help with this, and that I'm "taking the fun out of being a bride".
I'm sorry, but having to interview DJ's, look for flowers, find a photographer, loose weight, and everything else has pretty much taken the fun out of being a bride. My whole thing is that my bridesmaids can never get together all at once (All busy lives) and I'm a control freak!!! They have to be done a certain way... She's insisting on having my bridesmaids there...Any suggestions or comments on how to deal with this?!?!

[LaceyinPgh]

Mom is just tryng to look out for you. I know how annoying that can be because I have one too. My advice would to do what I am doing, just don't tell her what you are doing and when you are doing it unless she needs to be involved. Go about your business and so it how YOU and your fiance want it done. There is no harm in doing a few favors a week. I don't have my bridesmaids overly involved either. Most of them live an hour away, with their own lives and families to worry about.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I agree with Lacey, a little white lie never really hurt anyone. I'm in the same boat, people keep telling me to include them but I have nothing for them to do! Or if I do, I'm also a control freak and I know how I want to do them and I am worried that someone else would completely screw them up! So I don't tell people about what it is that I am doing, the less they know, the better it is for them and me!

~CanadianBride~

[iluvweddings]

What I have learned is to never tell anyone my plans until they are done, unless I honestly want their opinion - and more than likely, they are going to tell you a different way to do things.

GOOD LUCK! :cry: