Nasty vendor email- did you get one and how to react?

[amjhdrummer]

Hi! So; I'm not sure where to put this thread so feel free to direct me to the right place- thanks!

I ran across a vendor from Craigslist, he was selling christmas decor, and I inquired about white christmas lights for my wedding, and he didn't have any but has been a DJ for 25yrs and wanted to know if I had my DJ yet, gave me his number...

I called him, told him no, and that because of budget and it's not highly important to us, we were planning on using an Ipod and our laptops (my venue has speakers that can reach across the grounds, a stereo and mics, so no big deal)... And after our convo I told him I'd get back to him after I discuss it with my FH. We didn't want to be rushed so we researched other DJs, interviewed a couple... almost every other day I'd get an email or a phone call from the DJ. I kept telling him I'd get back to him in a week or so, because we were still deciding (plus my FH's mom didn't know we were getting married because she was out of the country, so we were waiting for her to get home last week for her input).

Well, today I finally told him (because we just decided last night) that we decided not to use him, and I apologized for wasting his time, but thanks.

He told me on the phone I was making a big mistake, and I'd regret it... I politely said thanks again, but we'll figure it out, and have a good day.

He sent me an email with the subject line "BRIDEZILLA! WEDDING RECEPTION CHEAPSKATE!‏"

and the message "BRIDEZILLA, THANKS FOR JACKING ME AROUND AND WASTING MY TIME!"


I'm really not sure how to respond to it. I want to ignore it- but he was the one who kept calling me when I kept telling him that I'd get back to him when we figured it out, and he kept saying "another bride has inquired about your date..." and "if you don't decide to hire me, please let me know the reasons why so I can improve my company" (which I will...his attitude!)

Yup. Has anyone else gotten something like this? How'd you react? Thanks!

[WBandMe]

Wow! I had some vendors that were less than exceptional, but nothing like that! Does he work for a DJ company that you could contact, or is he self-employed? I don't know if you could do much more than post a review online.

Good news is that you know for sure that you're better off without him!

[gwenshack]

That's horribly unprofessional. You inquired about Christmas lights, he pushed his DJ service on you, you decided you didn't want it - end of story. He should have said "If you ever have any future needs for a DJ, please let me know." Instead he went ballistic and that really doesn't inspire any need to pass his name on to others or anything.

Here's what I wouldn't do - don't write him back. Obviously he's unstable so I wouldn't communicate with him further.

Does he work for a company or does he work solo? If he works for a company I would report him. If he's listed with the Better Business Bureau I would call them. And if he contacts you again I would even consider filing a police report for harassment.

[amjhdrummer]

Wow! I had some vendors that were less than exceptional, but nothing like that! Does he work for a DJ company that you could contact, or is he self-employed? I don't know if you could do much more than post a review online.

Good news is that you know for sure that you're better off without him!

He's the owner (with his friend or business partner) of the company... which I only know because he kept saying I'd get the owner and the owner cares more than employees do so I'd get the "real deal" ... I'll definitely be posting a review online! I wanted to pass the word along but didn't know how too- never thought about an online review! (which is odd because I do a lot of reviews for other companies!)

That's horribly unprofessional. You inquired about Christmas lights, he pushed his DJ service on you, you decided you didn't want it - end of story. He should have said "If you ever have any future needs for a DJ, please let me know." Instead he went ballistic and that really doesn't inspire any need to pass his name on to others or anything.

Here's what I wouldn't do - don't write him back. Obviously he's unstable so I wouldn't communicate with him further.

Does he work for a company or does he work solo? If he works for a company I would report him. If he's listed with the Better Business Bureau I would call them. And if he contacts you again I would even consider filing a police report for harassment.


unprofessional- yes! I told my MOH that at least my iPod doesn't have an attitude..!

I guess I'll have to look into the Better business bureau.. I'm all for not contacting him! My FH is pissed and wanted too...

works solo- no, he's the owner (see above).

Thanks ladies :)

[WebLady]

Yeah that is pretty crazy ... sounds like he was harassing you and you were trying to be nice by saying you'd get back to him instead of just telling him to bug off right from the start. Any good vendor would know to leave you alone after 1 or 2 follow up calls.

Heck, even if you were a bridezilla cheapskate that jacked him around, it is still unprofessional of him to email you calling you that!

I would still ignore it though; you didn't loose anything and nothing good is going to come of it if you try to talk more with him about it, so what is the point in arguing with him anyway.

Tell your friends about his attitude, but I wouldn't bother responding to his rude email.

If you want to post a review and name him then please post in the Announcements & Opportunities forum (or we can move the topic thread there). As long as you don't name him the topic is fine here.

[amjhdrummer]

Yeah that is pretty crazy ... sounds like he was harassing you and you were trying to be nice by saying you'd get back to him instead of just telling him to bug off right from the start. Any good vendor would know to leave you alone after 1 or 2 follow up calls.

Heck, even if you were a bridezilla cheapskate that jacked him around, it is still unprofessional of him to email you calling you that!

I would still ignore it though; you didn't loose anything and nothing good is going to come of it if you try to talk more with him about it, so what is the point in arguing with him anyway.

Tell your friends about his attitude, but I wouldn't bother responding to his rude email.

If you want to post a review and name him then please post in the Announcements & Opportunities forum (or we can move the topic thread there). As long as you don't name him the topic is fine here.


Thanks, I'll definitely ignore it...

And I won't name him; nor his company... But if anyone lives in Northern Indiana, or around there, and is looking for a DJ, let me know(!) and I'll tell you who not to go too..

Thanks again :)

[amjhdrummer]

Hmph.. The business isn't even listed with the Better Business Bureau! And if you Google it to review it, only Craigslist ads show up. For someone who was supposedly in "business" and is a "professional" for 25years, I'm glad he was rude and I'm not hiring them now!

[The Proper Wedding]

I think you already got the best advice for this situation. But I just wanted to say I'm sorry you had to deal with someone like that...and you weren't even inquiring about his DJ services to begin with. That's just silly! lol I'm glad you guys decided not to go with him after all!! Worked out for the best :)

[Ptrst]

If he posts all of his ads on Craigslist, you could try posting a PSA about him on there ("Don't even contact Dude X, he's creepy and unprofessional").

[pinkbride]

wow thats awful!! ugh im so sorry you had to dealwith that, Im glad you are sticking with the i-pod! Imagine if he was that rude to you on the day?!

well done for not replying, its just best left, hes obiviously got a screw loose... Deejzilla!!!x

[WeddingAdvice]

He's a desperate loser and his reaction only proves that! Don't let it ruin your day and if you're really upset you can always paste a warning about him and his service on Craigslist. Honestly, that is really not cool and nobody should have to deal with that. Vendors shouldn't try to force couples into choosing them and then act like sore losers if the couple decides against it.

Think about it, if you went for a job interview and didn't get hired for the position would you call up the office and tell them they were making a HUGE mistake and call the employer a derogatory name? Hopefully your answer is NO. The guy just looks like an idiot, good thing you didn't hire him!

[amjhdrummer]

He's a desperate loser and his reaction only proves that! Don't let it ruin your day and if you're really upset you can always paste a warning about him and his service on Craigslist. Honestly, that is really not cool and nobody should have to deal with that. Vendors shouldn't try to force couples into choosing them and then act like sore losers if the couple decides against it.

Think about it, if you went for a job interview and didn't get hired for the position would you call up the office and tell them they were making a HUGE mistake and call the employer a derogatory name? Hopefully your answer is NO. The guy just looks like an idiot, good thing you didn't hire him!


Thanks!

I hadn't thought about a craigslist reply...




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On another note- I called my florist today. She's been a florist for I believe 25 or so years, and a wedding planner for 30 years. I asked if she had heard of that guy/the company, if she'd recommend him or not, or knew of anything bad... She said no, and I went on to tell her what happened (how we meant, and then the email) and she said basically everything you all did (thanks!) and that if I still have the email (of course I do, so I can show brides if they're thinking of him...) And to forward it to her, and she'll definitely take care of it..

I'm not sure what "take care of it" is, but she also said she'd pass around the word to let people and other wedding planners know of his unprofessional-ism. So this makes me very happy because I don't know a ton of brides and I know this way she can definitely get the word out with all her contacts.. She also said she had heard of OneWed (cause I mentioned I posted it on here) and she recommends this site and loves it :)

Thanks ladies!

[WeddingAdvice]

When your wedding planner says she'll "take care of it" it basically means that she is in the wedding mafia and she is going to put a hit out on the guy...JK. That is funny that she said that!

[amjhdrummer]

When your wedding planner says she'll "take care of it" it basically means that she is in the wedding mafia and she is going to put a hit out on the guy...JK. That is funny that she said that!

ROFLOL.... That's awesome... wedding mafia! Thanks- I needed that!!!

[savepaws]

Wow that was really rude of him! I'm so glad you didn't hire him! Word of mouth is how we got most of our vendors and he's going to miss out on a lot of business if he treats people that way! What a jerk!

[Brian's Bride]

I loved the DeeJayzilla comment! :) The guy sounded like a creep. If you do post a thing on Craig's List, make sure it's anonymous or else you might never get rid of the guy...

[amjhdrummer]

Wow that was really rude of him! I'm so glad you didn't hire him! Word of mouth is how we got most of our vendors and he's going to miss out on a lot of business if he treats people that way! What a jerk!

Word of mouth is how we found most of ours as well... including even avoiding a photographer because of one bad review..

I loved the DeeJayzilla comment! :) The guy sounded like a creep. If you do post a thing on Craig's List, make sure it's anonymous or else you might never get rid of the guy...


Thanks for the tip- If we do my FH told me to post it under his account so it's not linked to my email and he has no way of knowing it's me..

And if he does contact me again, I'll be taking up gwen's advice and contacting the police about filing a report..