Guest has said they can't come to wedding

[bridesmaid101]

We did not do a Save the Date but we did send a link to our wedding website.

A couple of our guests (who I had already informally invited) have already told us that they can't make our wedding.

I would assume that since they have already declined our informal invitation that it would be improper to send them a formal invitation? (Is that correct?)

I just don't want them to wonder why they never got an invitation and then question if they were ever supposed to be invited initially. I know I would never have the balls to assume an invitation!

What do the experts say- no invitation at this point?

[Brian's Bride]

Still send it, but don't expect to get the RSVP card back! :) I would still send it because they might want a keepsake.

[gwenshack]

I would definitely still send it. :)

[savepaws]

Agreed. I knew that some people had other plans the day of our wedding but I still sent them an invite because I wanted them there and if their plans fell through, they would still know they are invited.

[WBandMe]

Yeah, you definitely should still send it!

And if you're worried, you could always send them an email or call a few days later and say I know you mentioned that you can't attend, but I wanted you to know that if your plans change we'd still love to have you!

... But I'd just send it and not say anything :)

[The Proper Wedding]

Yeah, you definitely should still send it!

And if you're worried, you could always send them an email or call a few days later and say I know you mentioned that you can't attend, but I wanted you to know that if your plans change we'd still love to have you!

... But I'd just send it and not say anything :)

This is what I was going to suggest to. Definitely send it. And if you feel you must, let them know you remember them telling you they wouldn't be able to make it, but you wanted to send them an invite anyways, and let them know they are still welcome. :)

[mj512]

I would also send it - and then maybe either include a note in theirs or call them and let them know you understand they couldn't come but you still wanted them to have an invite anyways.

[sophiesmart1]

I agree - we had some guests that had already said "I dont think I'll be able to make it" but we still sent them a proper invitation just in case. We didn't get a reply from 1 or 2 people, but at least we tried! :laugh2:

Sophie x

[BlondeBride]

Definitely send it! We had people do the same thing, but did go ahead and mailed them an invite. Like the other ladies said, don't expect to get an RSVP card back. :laugh2: I was a bit shocked at the number of people that don't think it's important to send an RSVP back, but oh well! :coffee:

[FedererPhoto]

I'll join the chorus: Send it anyway.

The extra 5 minutes and couple of bucks it might cost to send them an invite is WAY better than not sending it and risking having them end up mad at you. I love Jacklynn's idea of sending a special note acknowleding their inability to attend, but that if plans change, you'd love to have them.

Remember, people are really weird about weddings -- the most understanding people in the real world lose all grasp of reality when a wedding comes around.

[Invitations4LessJoyce]

Of course another option is to send a wedding announcement. These traditionally are printed on the same paper as your invitation and mailed the day of or day after the wedding.
I don't see any harm in sending an invite with a note, but if you fear they might be offended that you didn't take in their prior notice about the date, announcements would always work.