Twigler
07-25-2006, 10:20 PM
I have been having some problems with my brohter. My fiance and him do not get along at all, and well my brother is not one of the groomsmen. Well, I want to make my brother feel important without just making him an usher (he feels like it is an embarrasement if he doesn't get to stand up at the alter with me...my mother has told me all of this information and he doesn't know I know he is complaining). Nonetheless, I have a special job that I am going to ask him to do at the ceremony. Both of my Grandpas have passed away, but I still have both of my Grandmas. I thought it would be fitting to have my brother walk them (and my mother) down the aisle, and then light the candle for our Grandpas. I also thought it would be nice if he sat with my Grandparents. This way, he feels important and still gets to be included in pictures and all of the wedding party stuff, but he isn't "just an usher." I may also have him read something during the ceremony. Do you have any other suggestions? Also, the only problem is, I am not sure what I should call this "position" in the wedding program. Does anyone have any suggestions? I would prefer if the word "usher" was not included. Thanks a ton!!