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UnderRainySkies
05-04-2005, 11:21 AM
Hi guys I'm Sara, I'm 19 and I just joined. I'm getting married on August 6th of this year to a wonderful man named David. Anyway getting to the point I have a couple of questions, I hope this is the right catagory to post it under.

1. We are getting married at Graceland (we live in Memphis) at this place called Chapel in the Woods. It sounds really cheesy but it's not. It's a very naturey (I think I just made a word up) chapel and it only holds 60-65 people max. The reception however is across the street in Elvis' Automobile Museum (again not cheesey but a very non traditional reception site, just what we were wanting) and can hold a lot of people (probably around 250). We decided to send out two sets of invitations, the first going to our families. Let them RSVP back and then start sending out invitations to our friends. We need the family to all RSVP back by the middle of June in order to send out the second set and give them time to RSVP in time to talk numbers with a caterer, and then find out how many centerpieces, tables, linens, etc we will need. Well I just got my invitations and they were wrong so the company is sending them again at no charge but will be here in about a week or so. Our RSVP cards already have a June 15th RSVP thing, that is going to give the family enough time to check it over with work etc. Should I just not send the RSVP cards out and send out all our invitations (around 80-90) and just hope only 60 show up but plan for 80 people with the caterer? I have no idea what to do.


2. Davey and I are both very into music (mostly punk, emo, screamo, indie, rockabilly type stuff) and he has been playing guitar for about 11 years and been in bands for about 5 of those, we already quoted one of our favorite bands on the invitation, Saves The Day (name of the band) but as far as decorations on the tables go what could we do? Our colors are red, black, white, and silver. My maid of honor and I thought we could get these black and silver star beads to sprinkle on the table along with some red or black guitar picks and then the centerpiece be a votive holder with a white bow on it ontop of a mirror, but inside the votive holder have red glass beads and a red votive. Is that too simple for an evening wedding? We don't want flower centerpieces that's for sure.

3. We are both into tattoos, so we thought we could give out maybe temporary tattoos to the guest but I think only our friends would appreciate that one. We both have conservative, religious families. How can you do a punkish indieish wedding with that type of family because we certainly don't want to offend anyone.


Sorry this turned out to be so long. I'm going to try and post a picture of us, hopefully it will work.

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usahgrad
05-04-2005, 05:29 PM
If I were you, I'd send out the RSVP cards anyways. Maybe they'll get there with enough time to get back. If not, I'm sure everyone will call you and say, the date on the RSVP card is this and we didn't get it in time, Can we still RSVP? And then you can explain whatever you want to them.

As far as the punk thing goes...I would do some funky candles with some silver confetti around it. You know the kind of candles you pick up at a spencer's or something. I'm not a big punk person, but I have a lot of friends who are (I even know Saves the Day). So that's what I would do if I were in your shoes.

Lastly, you're right, the temp tattoos probably aren't a great idea. Can you transfer the tats to a votive instead of to skin? Or maybe do guitar shaped soaps...or shot glasses?

Good luck and congrats!

LaceyinPgh
05-04-2005, 06:28 PM
Don't panic about the invitations. Even if you don't get them until next week, you are still having a small enough wedding that you can get them out rather quickly. By chance, do you have the envelopes that the originals came with? You could start addressing those now which is the biggest part of it. Then when the new ones come in, you can just stuff and mail them. People will still have well over a two weeks to check and get back to you. That is plenty of time.

As for the tatoos, where as I think it is an original idea, I am with Kelli. It probably isn't the best idea. Look online, you can find really original twists on traditional ideas like candles and candy. That way everyone is happy.

neeni13
05-30-2005, 04:52 AM
I agree that since you are into music, and the wedding is in Graceland, that guitar soaps or chocolates would be perfect.

Your families know what you are about so the tatoo thing might not be a big taboo unless they were satanic. I would stick to guitars and music notes

neeni13
05-30-2005, 05:08 AM
Oh if you are seating everyone, you know what tables your friends will be at so you could have the tattoos on those tables

WhiskeyGirl
05-30-2005, 12:34 PM
If it were me, I'd put the tattoos on every table as you wish! Its your "thing" and it says who you are! If they don't like the tattoos thats their "thing" and they don't have to take them home or do anything with them!

~CanadianBride~

sstark1218
05-31-2005, 10:45 AM
I agree.. if there's one thing I have learned in here it's to do what you and your FH want. Don't worry about what others think.. it's your day, make it special!