DID FH/DH ask your parent/other parental figure for your hand?

[cowboysbride]

I was just curious to see if your FH/DH asked for your hand in marriage from a parent or parental figure....

Eric did (my father told him he'd have to think about it) Eric didn't know what to say! Dad laughed and told him that he'd be honored to have him in the family!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Matthew called my parents and asked for their permission to ask their daughter to marry him. I think it shows a lot about my man, he barely knew them and he called to ask if it was ok. I loved it. It was important to me that my parents accepted Matthew because in the past I've made some horriable relationship choices. All in all I'm happy Matt asked my parents, and it just felt that much more special to me.

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

He asked my father and both of my grandfathers as well as talked to my mom about it.

[mariaandmanish]

I couldn't really vote for any of them. My FH asked his father for his blessing, since in India they still do arranged marriages (1) and I'm not an Indian girl (2). But he didn't ask my family. They'd have laughed and told him that as long as I want it, then it's great by them.

[hummingbird521]

Jerry asked me about a month before proposing formally if and when he ever decided we would get married if I would like him to ask my father. He explained to me before even asking me this that he would like to do so. That since no one had ever asked my father before he felt it would be better. I opted not to have him do this. Later I told my mother about it and she said it would have been a nice gesture but quite honestly would have taken dad by surprise. They had never even met each other. thus, this is why i opted out of it.

[brewsells]

Adam went and asked my father. Then he talked to my mom about it. I think it's honorable when they ask the hand from the parents.

[CindySue]

Brian asked my children. I found this out afterwards, but he had asked them as a group and then one at a time what they thought about it.
Brian also asked my brothers if it was ok for him to marry their sister, but we were already engaged at the time.

[KristyGirl]

DH didn't ask anyone in my family, just me. Had he known them better, he possibly would have, but we were away at college and he'd only met my parents a few times.

[Kacie_bride]

Justin just asked me. He was going to ask my parents, but he didn't think they would be able to keep the secret from me!

[LaceyinPgh]

No. Sean knows me well enough to know that I wouldn't have approved of that. I'm not my parents, I belong to me. AS for my dad, I asked him if Sean asked. He said no and then pointed out that if Sean had asked he would have laughed and told Sean know becaue he obviously didn't know me well enough.

[Valmai]

Jamie said that he was going to ask my Dad and then thought better of it as he knew i'd not have been happy about it (like Lacey) xxx

[katieandalex]

He asked both of my parents long before he asked me to marry him....

[EarlyBird]

fh asked my brother what he thought about it, then asked my mom and my brother and my mom gave him the courage to ask my dad :)

[caligal85]

It would have been a lost cause. My dad had already let it be known that he'd say no to any guy, no matter who he was. :)

[saltyveruca]

Although we'd already been out shopping and purchased the ring together, he took my parents out to dinner and asked them. They were totally shocked. :w00t: It was so funny!

[vicky_vicky]

Tom aske my father formally and everything but it was typical, my parents had met him before and approved him!

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

My hunny asked both of my parents actually. My dad was like "absolutely not" (Obviously Bo knew he was kidding) hehe

[WebLady]

No asking here; I am not big on traditions like that ... plus we knew my parents would not be able to help finacially so we didn't feel the need to "ask" them at all ;)

We didn't have a formal engagement anyway; we had been together for nearly 6 years before we got married and both sides knew we planned to get married.

[RosieAngel]

Nope, he just asked me! I wouldn't have liked it if he asked my parents. I'm just too independent, and I would have married him even if they didn't approve!

[acidcookie]

He just asked me. My father's not in the picture and I don't think he saw any need to ask my mom first. We are paying the whole wedding anyway so it's not like anything is expected from mom except her presence.

[sandy03]

I didn't care if he asked my dad, but he really wanted to do it.

It was actually a funny story - he set up this meeting with my dad without my knowing about it. He was going to stop and see my dad one afternoon on his way home from visiting me for the weekend. Before he left my place on Sunday, my dad called me and said "Hey, will you give Jeff my cell phone number in case I'm not here when he stops by". I just said sure, and immediately let Jeff know he was busted. I kinda figured out what he wanted to ask him, but it was really funny.

I love my daddy, but he's not the brightest crayon in the box. He didn't recognize my engagement ring when I showed it to him - it was the one he had given to my mom! He also called me one day to ask where the can opener is, despite the fact that I live two hours away and hadn't been home in months!

[luckythirteen05]

no he didn't, but i wish he would have at least asked my mom, since i'm not very close to my dad.

[Katie-ryn]

No he didn't, I'm glad he didn't. I'm my own person, not my parent's, and if I wanted to marry him I would, whether my parents said yes or not. But my parents do like him, well my mom does, I could care less what my dad thinks.

[ktmb34]

he hasn't asked yet, but he plans to ask my fathers blessing, not permission. he says "i'm going to do it and no ones going to stop me, i would just like his blessing"

[Scrwballsgrl]

My fh asked my mom on mothers day, I was sick and I saw him talk to my mom in the kitchen(I was sitting on the couch in the living room) and she kinda got this surprised look on her face & hugged him then left the room. I didn't think anything of it my mom has hugged him before and he likes to joke around so I just assumed he said something funny. With my Dad I didn't know when or where but later he told me that he asked him and Daddy said,"Just be good to her & don't hit her." Which made me laugh bc I immediatley thought of the Lorretta Lynn story Coal Miners Daughter.
Anyway, I'm glad that Fh asked them, not b/c I wouldn't have married him if he hadn't but my parents are traditional like that and I know it really meant alot to them.

[MrsFuchs09]

FH proposed to me when I was 16 and he was 18! But there wasn't any ring, it was just him on his knee and us under a street light...it was more of him asking me to make a promise...A year later, we made it official (with a beautiful ring, he picked out himself, supposedly...his mom was just as shocked as I was, if not more.)....and he asked my dad (my dad told us that when we start planning the wedding, to not get in over our heads and to remember that we're doing this because we love each other...the wedding itself isn't as important as the marriage...VERY insightful words especially b.c my dad never says those kind of things. my father never officially said yes but those words and his smile did for him.) And now, my family thinks of him as family more than ever! I love how everything worked out for us!

Very cute story, IMO.

[FutureKelley]

FH not only asked my dad, but he asked my mom and step-dad as well. I was soooo impressed! :grinhappy:

[MrsBacon_092708]

He just asked me. I had already been married and divorced for over 8 years. My dad passed away a long time ago.

[sjk1431]

He asked my father and step father.

[dereknaut]

sweet thats cool that he did

[Whitewater]

FH just asked me. Although when I finally figured out what was going on and where we were headed, I asked my friends for their approval. After what happened last time, I wanted to make sure that they were all on board!

It was unanimous! So when we did finally make it official, I was able to say yes with a whole heart.


Whitewater

[snu]

Yes, he talked to both of my parents about a month before he proposed. It was mostly out of respect for them, and not really to get their "permission." It meant a lot to my parents, and he was glad he did it.

[gwenshack]

Nope. He just asked me. I actually would have been upset if he had asked my mom for permission - I know it sounds silly, but my hand is my own and mine was the only permission he needed! haha :)

[Thalia_themuse]

Nope. He just asked me. I actually would have been upset if he had asked my mom for permission - I know it sounds silly, but my hand is my own and mine was the only permission he needed! haha :)

Same here :)

[EmmaM]

I told my FH long before we got engaged that I would be really unimpressed if he asked my dad before he asked me! I get what everyone's saying about it being respectful, but... at the end of the day it's not up to my dad, or my mum for that matter.

I love that Brian asked your kids through Cindy, very sweet!

[FFC]

My hubby asked my grandpa. We already had mom, dad, and stepdad's approval - they were helping us plan the wedding before we were even engaged LOL. I wanted grandpa's approval though. He's been my rock through everything over the years. So, when Matt asked to take him out to dinner because he wanted to talk to him - Grandpa said that he didn't need dinner to tell Matt that he better treat me right :wub: He was so happy that Matt asked though :wub:

[tk93]

FH went to dinner at my parents' a week before he asked me. It had nothing to do with getting permission since my parents adore him. I asked him to visit them out of respect... also, that was the only way he could get the diamond for my e-ring from my parents without me knowing. My parents love telling everyone how FH prepared a speech in Korean. :)

[yam102284]

Just asked me. I wouldn't have wanted him to ask my mom or dad. I would've married him anyways, even without their approval. I'm my own person, and I'll be with who I want. My parents do definitely approve of him though, and we knew that before we even got engaged.

[Kate7950]

Yes he asked my father. Fred is very traditional. I remember the day he did it too. He was so scared my dad might say no. My father really appreciated the gesture.

[lizloveskar]

My FH asked the day before. I was right there and had no clue he even asked.

[AnnaBanana]

He just asked me. :) I'm glad he did, cause I think my parents would have said no.:irked: It took a little time for them to warm up to the idea of me getting married (to him and at a young age, in their opinion). Fortunately my mom is totally excited now, and my dad is somewhat there.