Maid of Honor Can't Make It

[JennF]

I'm feeling a little down today.

My MOH broke the news to me today that she's not going to be able to come to the wedding. I knew that this was a possibility when I asked her last year, but I decided to keep my fingers crossed and hope for the best. I'm not upset with her at all, just dissapointed. I really wanted her to be there. We've been friends for 18 years.

I've asked another friend of mine to stand up with me instead, but she's in Japan and apparently not checking her email...and I really need to order her dress.

Ah well, I guess if this is the worst thing that happens I should count myself lucky. Not a disaster, I just need to buck up.

[BriansBride07]

I don't think that you need to buck up at all. So sorry to hear that your MOH cannot make your wedding. Glad to hear though that you have found a replacement. Who knows maybe in the near future you and your old MOH can catch up some where and relive a little of your wedding with pictures.

[Kacie_bride]

I'm so sorry your MOH can't make it. That's horrible. I'm also sorry you found out this close to your date. Hopefully your friend in Japan will check her e-mail soon.

[cowboysbride]

I'm sorry too! What a bummer, but like Karen says everything happens for a reason...hopefully you won't endure too much stress over this (I know where you are, I've been there!) Good luck with that, vent anytime you need to, that's why we're here!

[JennF]

Thank you for the kind words. It's all ok. It was nice to have a place to come and mope for a bit. I'm feeling better now, and consoling myself with the thought that she's going to come up for a visit in September.

[nikkiana]

I'm so sorry to hear that you're MOH can't make it! What a terrible dissapointment that must be...

[LaceyinPgh]

I'm sorry to hear you MOH won't be able to make it. My best friend and I have been inseperable for 22 years. I couldn't imagine walking down the aisle without her standing next to me.

[Twigler]

Although my MOH will be at my wedding, I somewhat feel your pain. My MOH, and best friend, lives in a completely different state. I miss her so much and wish she could be here to help me more. It sucks not having your best pal around. So sorry!

[septemberbride06]

my MOH wasn't at my wedding shower, and that was dissapointing, so I can imagine how you are feeling. Things will get better.

[racecargirl]

Although my MOH will be at my wedding, I somewhat feel your pain. My MOH, and best friend, lives in a completely different state. I miss her so much and wish she could be here to help me more. It sucks not having your best pal around. So sorry!

Same here. My MOH lives in DC and I live in Omaha. She is coming for the wedding, but it will also be the first time I've seen her in a year.

Sorry yours can't make it.That would be hard.

[JennF]

my MOH wasn't at my wedding shower, and that was dissapointing, so I can imagine how you are feeling. Things will get better.

I'm really sorry to hear abott your missing MOH. Was there a good reason? I'm sure she was just as dissapointed.

I'm feeling ok about everything now. My friend agreed to step in and she emailed me her measurements in record time so hopefully I'll be able to get her dress here on time. And since she's going to be planning a wedding someday in the near future she's almost as wedding mad as I've become. So I think this will be fun for her. I hope so anyway!

[Twigler]

Same here. My MOH lives in DC and I live in Omaha. She is coming for the wedding, but it will also be the first time I've seen her in a year.

Sorry yours can't make it.That would be hard.

Thank you. I am sorry as well! At least it is easier to stay in touch with the internet anymore.

[mj512]

wow, I can't imagine what would keep your MOH from your wedding? I hope she is okay any everything?

I hope your friend from Japan comes in contact soon!

[*Stacie*]

I am so sorry that had to happen! Hopefully your other friend will do it instead. You don't need to buck up at all, that would be disappointing and you are not over reacting by being sad about it.

[JennF]

wow, I can't imagine what would keep your MOH from your wedding? I hope she is okay any everything?

I hope your friend from Japan comes in contact soon!

Yup, my friend did agree to be in the wedding. I ordered her dress on Friday and it looks like there won't be any problems at all getting the dress here on time for her to get it altered. (She's as short as I am at 5'3" so I know it's going to have to be hemmed).

As for my first maid of honor, she made a career switch a little while ago and is now a teacher in California. When I asked her to be in the wedding she was teaching Kindergarten. Since her school has some sort of trimester system, this meant she'd have the month of October off. She did warn me at the time that if they switched tracks on her for 2006, that it might cause a problem. Well, she's now teaching fourth grade which means she has September off instead of October. :( She did approach her principal about taking the time off...and the principal said yes but she also made it clear that it wouldn't be a good idea. So MOH #1 made the sensible decision. She's wrenched about it, but I completely understand.

I think what made me so sad on the day is the fact that it really hit home how few people will be able to make the wedding. Sometimes you can know something intellectually, but it takes a while for it to sink in emotionally.

[kevinsbride2B]

I'm so sorry Sweety!!!!!!!!!! That's so a stress that you probably don't need right now!!!
One of my close friends is getting married in a couple of weeks. Her sister in law and brother were to be the BM and the MOH. They backed out last week out of knowhere. They thought they had it figured and stuck in 2 other memeber of the bridal party and the new BM said sure sure sure not a problem sounds great. yesterday he backed out too. Now they have 1 usher, 2 bride's maids and a MOH. I know the stress she is goign through and I can only imagine yours!!!!!!!!!
The best of luck! Everything will turn out OK, and 10 years from now it'll be "that thing" that happend at your wedding!