MIA Bridesmaid

[go4me77]

My wedding is April 17, 2010 and I have tried many times to get my only bridesmaid to meet up with me so she can try on a dress I have for her. (My sister and I were in a pervious wedding and I want to use those same dresses for my wedding.) My sisters dress fits perfect but I haven't been able to track down my bridesmaid so she can try on mine to see if it will fit her. It beats anyone having to buy one!

I found out a few days ago that she was in another town visiting my sister! I thought to myself "Why can she go up there but not come to my parent's home to try on this dress!?!? So, I flat out asked her if she really wanted to be in my wedding. Her response? "Of course I do, Why wouldn't I want to be?" Another thought by me "Well, you haven't met with me to try on this dress and I'm wondering if you are serious about this". It's been one crazy thing this that has annoyed me to death! I've hunted high and low to find another dress that will work and save HER some cash in the meantime. I know in this day, not many people can afford to buy a pretty dress to wear only once. I even told her I would buy her dress if I had to!!!! COME ON NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP PLEASE???

[The Proper Wedding]

What about taking the dress to her house and have her try it on there?

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I'm having trouble meeting up with my MOH, so I sorta know how you are feeling. It's very stressful. But my situation is different. It's not that she refuses to meet up with me. She lives 4 hours away at school and she also works, so it's hard for her to get away. So we've been trying to do everything online together instead of in person...and that's very hard for me emotionally.

I hope it all works out for you! :)

[WBandMe]

I agree with Whitney, that maybe it would be best if you brought the dress to her. Maybe you could make a lunch date or something so you guys are getting some time to spend together too. Good luck!

[gwenshack]

I'm sorry to hear that your BM isn't being cooperative. Are you all about the same size? Maybe she just assumes it'll fit. I think a lot of times BMs don't really realize the amount of time it takes to get everything ready for a wedding - it's possible she sees an April date and thinks that she has plennnnnnnty of time to try on the dress. Has she been a BM before?

Either way, I'm sorry she's letting you down. I would definitely try to talk to her again though. :goodluck:

[go4me77]

Thank you to all of you who took the time to read my post and to reply. I never expected to get replies! Thank you again!

I live in a different town as my BM. The dress is at my parent's house and I assumed that it would just be easier for her to come there since I have to make trips myself. I can try to offer to take the dress to her place. I hope it works! I'm giving her until the end of the week to try it on or she's sitting in the audience. I don't want to become a Bridezilla, but she's starting to turn me into one. She's never been a BM to my knowledge, and I assume that she thinks she has all the time in the world. HELLO! NO! She gave me her jean size which is an 11 and my dress is an 8. I don't think it can be let out quite that much. Even if we were to rent dresses, I still need her there in person to try it on. I hope something will work, b/c I hate to just throw her out of my wedding, but I can if that's what it comes to.

[Dave]

Do you have a Hen/Bachelorette Party arranged? or any other social function that you know your Bridesmaid will be at? If so try to get her to meet you a few hours before the event to try the dress on, not ideal:sorry: I know but worth a try maybe.

[go4me77]

Do you have a Hen/Bachelorette Party arranged? or any other social function that you know your Bridesmaid will be at? If so try to get her to meet you a few hours before the event to try the dress on, not ideal:sorry: I know but worth a try maybe.

Yes, she has already said she's planned out a Bachelorette party for me 2 days before my wedding.

[The Proper Wedding]

Yes, she has already said she's planned out a Bachelorette party for me 2 days before my wedding.

eeek, that's cutting it pretty close!!! I really hope you can meet up with her SOMEHOW with enough time to find a different dress if yours doesn't work for her!!! :bbconfused:

edit: maybe you can meet each other halfway for lunch or something somewhere? Not sure how trying on a dress would really work if you did that, but I'm sure if that was your only option you guys could figure something out ;)

[hmz819]

I have no advice to offer. So far my bridesmaids say tell me what you want and I will do it!!!

I think if you explain to her the timeline of things in case the dress doesn't fit she may be a bit more understanding.

Good Luck.

[erinw]

I know how you feel, what about giving her a time limit... If she doesn't get together with you by then, find someone eles?My wedding is April 17, 2010 and I have tried many times to get my only bridesmaid to meet up with me so she can try on a dress I have for her. (My sister and I were in a pervious wedding and I want to use those same dresses for my wedding.) My sisters dress fits perfect but I haven't been able to track down my bridesmaid so she can try on mine to see if it will fit her. It beats anyone having to buy one!

I found out a few days ago that she was in another town visiting my sister! I thought to myself "Why can she go up there but not come to my parent's home to try on this dress!?!? So, I flat out asked her if she really wanted to be in my wedding. Her response? "Of course I do, Why wouldn't I want to be?" Another thought by me "Well, you haven't met with me to try on this dress and I'm wondering if you are serious about this". It's been one crazy thing this that has annoyed me to death! I've hunted high and low to find another dress that will work and save HER some cash in the meantime. I know in this day, not many people can afford to buy a pretty dress to wear only once. I even told her I would buy her dress if I had to!!!! COME ON NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP PLEASE???