Urgent Invite Help Needed!!

[countrygirl]

Hey Ladies, I am printing the response card envelopes right now, and don't know if I am supposed to put both J's name and mine on it. We are collecting the invites ourselves. HELP ME PLEASE!!!

Also, we are not doing place cards at the wedding, but I thought that maybe I could use them for the address of the church and directions.

AND, I am not sure what to do about the 'registering' part. I was told that by etiquite, you should send the places you are reg'd at in the bridal shower invites, but most of our guests will not be invited as they are either out of state, or young military guys. What do I do about that?

[The Wedding Diva]

Can you just put your registry info on your website and your website URL on cards to go in your invites?

[countrygirl]

Can you just put your registry info on your website and your website URL on cards to go in your invites?

I could, but I didn't know if that would be w in "etiquite" guidelines. I don't want to seem tacky at all. I JUST DON"T KNOW ANYMORE!!!!!:bbeek:

[CindySue]

Ok....I would leave Js name off the response cards. Just put yours. The map/info cards are a great idea. And I would just have the registry info travel by word of mouth. OR.....you can include you wedding website which will have your info without looking tacky.
Good Luck!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Heather

It's your wedding so I say do what you want.

-If you want both names on the response cards, go for it.
-The direction cards are a great idea!
-And yes ettiquette dictates you shouldn't...but the times are a changin! If you want to, go for it. Just because you include it doesn't mean they have to buy anything off of it. I prefer when the couple sticks something like that into the invitations becaues they are more likely to get a gift and a nice one then if they don't, I won't waste my time trying to track down where they are registered. KWIM?

In any case, ultimately it is your call! You can't be hung for doing any of these things, in fact none of them are illegal! ;) Have fun!! :)

[Kacie_bride]

About registering, put the information on your website, and put your website address in with your invitations. Also be sure to let people know casually when talking to them. Most people will probably call you or your parents or something to ask them where you are registered.

I don't think it really matters all that much who the response cards are addressed to. In your situation I would probably just have them sent to your name. But I don't think it really matters.

[countrygirl]

Ok....I would leave Js name off the response cards. Just put yours. The map/info cards are a great idea. And I would just have the registry info travel by word of mouth. OR.....you can include you wedding website which will have your info without looking tacky.
Good Luck!

That is what our local diva just said too. I think you both are right. I think that is what I am going to do.

Thanks ladies!!!

[nikkiana]

As for the return envelope, I only put my name on it just because I didn't feel like writing his out as well.... Don't quote me on it, but I don't think it really matters all that much....

You're correct in the fact you're not supposed to put where you're registered in with your invitations... However, you CAN put in an insert saying where your wedding website is and you can put links to your registeries on there. That's what I did.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Guess I'm tacky because I did what I wanted and did things my way because it was my wedding! lol

[Kacie_bride]

Oh I forgot to say that I am going to put website information in my invites.

[KristyGirl]

We didn't put anyone's name on the RSVP cards, just our address.

As for registry info, we put that on our website, then put the web address on the information/directions card. The website also had more extensive area directions, hotel info, and other things on it, so I didn't feel it was in the right to put it there.

[AngelinLove]

I just put my name on teh return envelopes, I did include address and directions cards, because I think that it is a great idea, and I didn't have a problem with the registry issue, becuase pretty much everyone was invited to one of the showers. I think that putting your wedding website address in teh invitation would be fine though...and I think people would appreciate it!!!

[CindySue]

Guess I'm tacky because I did what I wanted and did things my way because it was my wedding! lol
Youre not tacky......Everyone does things different. Im just glad we didnt have to worry about all that stuff with ours. Remember? I forgot to put RSVPs in mine!!!!:bbconfused:

[Kacie_bride]

Youre not tacky......Everyone does things different. Im just glad we didnt have to worry about all that stuff with ours. Remember? I forgot to put RSVPs in mine!!!!:bbconfused:

LOL! I remember that!

[countrygirl]

Guess I'm tacky because I did what I wanted and did things my way because it was my wedding! lol

You're not tacky in the least Shawna!!!!!

[hummingbird521]

Guess I'm tacky because I did what I wanted and did things my way because it was my wedding! lol


All I can say is "Amen". Your wedding, your way.

[countrygirl]

Thanks ladies. I decided to print the wedding website on one place card, and the addresses on another. I lucked out and had enough for every invite, so they worked out great. Thanks for the advice and the help. It is greatly appreciated and the quick responses proves why we are all here!!!!!!!!!

[mj512]

I have to say, I WILL be sticking my registry stuff in my invitations... tacky? blah blah blah I don't care what the "experts" say, every invitation I have ever gotten had the registry stuff in it, and was I offended? uhh no, it help me to know what I should get them. I say put the info into the invitations :)

[LaceyinPgh]

I put my name only on the response cards. I was handeling them all so I thought that they should come to me. My mother is the LEAST organized person on the planet and Sean tends to store up mail like a squirrel with nuts in winter.

As for the registry, I'm sorry but it is the pinnacle of rudeness to put that in invitations. Guests aren't even obligated to bring a gift to your wedding. I would just stick your website address on the direction cards (that is what we did). Then on the website list your registries. Trust me, people will check it out. My registry was almost bought out, plus I always look up the websites when I get invitiations in the mail.

[MOB Karen]

All the etiquette websites say not to do it. But every wedding invitation Amber has ever received had it in there. And we both thought it was tacky because we had read so much stuff about not doing it. So we would never do it, but it is done, that's for sure. :)

[theweddinghelper]

In any case, ultimately it is your call! You can't be hung for doing any of these things, in fact none of them are illegal! ;) Have fun!! :)

I totally agree! But the 1 good thing about not putting it in your invitations is you'll prob. get more money! LOL! (Which that is the best present if u ask me! :))

[mj512]

I totally agree! But the 1 good thing about not putting it in your invitations is you'll prob. get more money! LOL! (Which that is the best present if u ask me! :))

I agree with that money is a great gift! But for my fiance and I we are in college and will be going into our first apartment together, so we have nothing in the way of appliances and stuff ... soooo we will be registering for the typical toaster :)

[Kacie_bride]

All the etiquette websites say not to do it. But every wedding invitation Amber has ever received had it in there. And we both thought it was tacky because we had read so much stuff about not doing it. So we would never do it, but it is done, that's for sure. :)

I don't think I've ever received an invitation with registry information in it, but I wouldn't be offended if I did. I never knew it was against etiquette until I started all this wedding stuff. Even though I'm not doing it, I wouldn't care if I got an invite with registry information.

[Valmai]

All wedding invites i have had in recent years have gift registry details in them like Kacie said i didnt even realise it was wrong or impolite. We are not having a list so the issue does not arise for us thankfully! xxx