Anything gonna go right?

[sstark1218]

I am having such a hard time with this and I just need to vent. When we decided our wedding date, we already knew the church and reception hall we wanted. First, we found out we couldn't use the church we wanted cuz we aren't members. His parents and grandparents are.. but they still won't let us. Then we just found out that the person who was to reserve the reception hall for us (through his employment, it was gonna be free), is going to be fired soon. I don't know what we're gonna do! I have already started looking for churches, but nothing jumps out at me.. now I have to find another reception hall too.. AAHHH

[WhiskeyGirl]

Ok, so deep breath now. Lol. Let me tell you, there a lot of things that will come up through this whole planning stage that may drive you absolutley stark craving mad, but its ok, you are so not the only one! The good thing is, by the looks of things you still have 13 months to go. Keep looking, and keep your options open. Perhaps you could have a nice ceramony in a garden or outside somewhere. Look at local hotels and see what they have, perhaps they will have a nice banquet hall. You could always get married in the banquet hall and also have your reception there.


~CanadianBride~

[sstark1218]

Good ideas that I never really contemplated. I considered the outside thing, perhaps our local park, but his family really has a problem with it for whatever reason, so that's out too. Thanks for the encouragement.. hopefully it works out.

[WhiskeyGirl]

This is your wedding, you can choose where to get married. If you want to get married outside in a park, then its your and your FH's choice! Make yourself happy, you only get married once and this is YOUR day! You do what you want, make you and your FH happy first, the rest will fall into place after that!

~CanadianBride~

[usahgrad]

Of course, if your Catholic or plan on having a Catholic ceremony, you can pretty much nix the outside idea. I hear you in your frustrations. I just found out that the minister I was going to have perform the ceremony can't do it because I'm not a member of his church and even if I was, he couldn't do it because I'm getting married in another state. The original officiant I wanted can't do it because he's a Catholic Priest and it's apparently against the Catholic Religion to get married outside (with a few, very rare, exceptions). I didn't know there were so many politics when it came to God! I'm to the point where I'm going to say "F-it! I'm calling a JP!" At least they are supposed to be political. Oh it makes me want to cry. To top it off, I'm finishing up school, so I have the stress of that. I'm moving soon, so I have the stress of that. And I have no one to vent this stress too because if I talk to my mother she'll just say to have the wedding in a church and I can't talk to my fiance because he is currently without a phone. I catch him in emails every now and then, but no phone conversations in the past week. This is heartbreaking for me because we used to talk all the time.

[Wildfire97504]

I agree that there seems to always be problems when planning a wedding. as for the officiat, there are a lot of pastors of non-denomination who perform really nice ceremonies. Now, I understand if you are catholic and want to be married in the church, that is not an option. I am catholic, but my fiance is non denominational, so we opted for the pastor, but he has no advised us he is moving. we are also looking for other options. Good luck, and keep your chin up, it all has a way of working out. The girls on this site are awesome with advice!