The Proper Wedding
02-24-2010, 07:23 AM
Ok, so here's the issue, some of you have sorta read about it in other posts in other threads. But I'm going to lay it ALL out there, and see what you all think...
I got a cloak for my wedding a while ago, probably like a year ago. Got it from ebay. The listing said "burgundy". I went and bought my dress this past weekend. The dress I fell in love with was discontinued, so I had no choice but to buy the exact one I tried on. I originally wanted it in ivory and wine or ivory and sangria. But since they could not order it anymore, I was stuck with what the sample dress was, which was white and apple. Still not happy about the whole white part of it, but I had no choice, that was the dress I felt me it. The apple part of it is just slightly off from what I had in mind. It's still really beautiful. But here's the problem. It doesn't quite match the cloak. It's "apple" which isn't really RED red, but still kinda red. The cloak is considered "burgundy" according to the seller, but my consultant at the store said its actually more of a sangria...which is slightly more purple then burgundy...
Everyone agreed when I was trying on the dress that I can't have that cloak. So first off...I just wasted $35 on that cloak. But I agreed I would just get another cloak.
There's another seller on ebay. It appears their cloaks are more of a deeper red, rather than purple...not RED red, but like a burgundy. But you never know from the computer. All screens are different. I tried talking to the seller. First I asked what color he would consider it. I explained the situation, that the dress is apple, so I need something more along the redder side of the spectrum of the color burgundy rather than on the purpler side. (Haha, I totally thought I was making those words up, but my computer didn't underline them so they must be ;) hehe) His reply was something to the effect of he can't give me any color names because, like all computers show colors differently, so do eyes see them differently...blah blah blah BS!! He said he doesn't want to say something is grey when someone else would say charcoal. WHAT!?
So I send him another email. I asked if he could just mail me the teeniest tinniest little scrap that he would normally throw away (I'm talking 1"x1" here) just so I can hold it up to my dress and know for sure before I make any bids! He refuses...something about policy. He assured me the pic of the cloak would be the exact one I get. Said something about how his pics are professionally taken, so his colors are pretty much an exact match. Most all customers say they're pretty close, blah blah blah. Seriously??? I even told him I would pay for it all. HE WOULD BE THROWING THAT AWAY!!!!! WHY CAN'T HE MAIL IT TO ME!? I explained that I really liked his work and that I was already stuck with one cloak that I can't wear, I don't want to be stuck with 2, so I just want to be sure it's going to work. And he knows it's for a wedding and everything..so he was aware it's pretty important, he even acknowledged that he understands its for a wedding but... ugh
Here's what's holding me back from just going ahead and bidding. It's got pretty expensive shipping. For the length I would prefer, it would be $21 plus whatever the bidding ends up will jack it up. And of course, like most all other sellers, they accept returns, but ONLY for the bidding amount. Shipping to me (what the seller sets it at) and the cost for me to ship it back, is ALL on me! So if in fact it is the wrong color and we can't look at the cloak and dress together and say "good enough", then it's going to cost me $21 plus return shipping. I will get the bidding refund though, which may not be much. It may just be about $20.
I suppose I could resell them, both of them if I wanted. The first one has never really been worn, tried on a few times, but never actually worn. So that IS an option...
Lukas and I compared pics of the cloak (again professionally taken in a studio, so color is pretty darn close to actual, depending on color of monitor) with pics of the dress from david's website (which we assume would be pretty close to actual color because it's also taken in a studio, just depending on color of monitor). We figure, if you're looking at them both from same monitor, its going to affect the color the same way, so if they look "good enough" next to each other on the same computer, they should look "good enough" in person, right?
So here's pics of both...
http://img517.imageshack.us/img517/4237/hgdhgfd.jpg (http://img517.imageshack.us/i/hgdhgfd.jpg/)http://img168.imageshack.us/img168/6327/cloak.jpg (http://img168.imageshack.us/i/cloak.jpg/)
It's ok for them to just be "close enough" I don't expect anything to match 100%. If I get the chance, I'll take a pics of my old cloak with the dress together, but the dress is at my mom's house 1/2 hour away. I'm not sure if I will be going to her house today. But if I get the chance I will.
Should I just go for it??? Again, I could PROBABLY resell the cloak(s) if I wanted and get my money back that way....
I got a cloak for my wedding a while ago, probably like a year ago. Got it from ebay. The listing said "burgundy". I went and bought my dress this past weekend. The dress I fell in love with was discontinued, so I had no choice but to buy the exact one I tried on. I originally wanted it in ivory and wine or ivory and sangria. But since they could not order it anymore, I was stuck with what the sample dress was, which was white and apple. Still not happy about the whole white part of it, but I had no choice, that was the dress I felt me it. The apple part of it is just slightly off from what I had in mind. It's still really beautiful. But here's the problem. It doesn't quite match the cloak. It's "apple" which isn't really RED red, but still kinda red. The cloak is considered "burgundy" according to the seller, but my consultant at the store said its actually more of a sangria...which is slightly more purple then burgundy...
Everyone agreed when I was trying on the dress that I can't have that cloak. So first off...I just wasted $35 on that cloak. But I agreed I would just get another cloak.
There's another seller on ebay. It appears their cloaks are more of a deeper red, rather than purple...not RED red, but like a burgundy. But you never know from the computer. All screens are different. I tried talking to the seller. First I asked what color he would consider it. I explained the situation, that the dress is apple, so I need something more along the redder side of the spectrum of the color burgundy rather than on the purpler side. (Haha, I totally thought I was making those words up, but my computer didn't underline them so they must be ;) hehe) His reply was something to the effect of he can't give me any color names because, like all computers show colors differently, so do eyes see them differently...blah blah blah BS!! He said he doesn't want to say something is grey when someone else would say charcoal. WHAT!?
So I send him another email. I asked if he could just mail me the teeniest tinniest little scrap that he would normally throw away (I'm talking 1"x1" here) just so I can hold it up to my dress and know for sure before I make any bids! He refuses...something about policy. He assured me the pic of the cloak would be the exact one I get. Said something about how his pics are professionally taken, so his colors are pretty much an exact match. Most all customers say they're pretty close, blah blah blah. Seriously??? I even told him I would pay for it all. HE WOULD BE THROWING THAT AWAY!!!!! WHY CAN'T HE MAIL IT TO ME!? I explained that I really liked his work and that I was already stuck with one cloak that I can't wear, I don't want to be stuck with 2, so I just want to be sure it's going to work. And he knows it's for a wedding and everything..so he was aware it's pretty important, he even acknowledged that he understands its for a wedding but... ugh
Here's what's holding me back from just going ahead and bidding. It's got pretty expensive shipping. For the length I would prefer, it would be $21 plus whatever the bidding ends up will jack it up. And of course, like most all other sellers, they accept returns, but ONLY for the bidding amount. Shipping to me (what the seller sets it at) and the cost for me to ship it back, is ALL on me! So if in fact it is the wrong color and we can't look at the cloak and dress together and say "good enough", then it's going to cost me $21 plus return shipping. I will get the bidding refund though, which may not be much. It may just be about $20.
I suppose I could resell them, both of them if I wanted. The first one has never really been worn, tried on a few times, but never actually worn. So that IS an option...
Lukas and I compared pics of the cloak (again professionally taken in a studio, so color is pretty darn close to actual, depending on color of monitor) with pics of the dress from david's website (which we assume would be pretty close to actual color because it's also taken in a studio, just depending on color of monitor). We figure, if you're looking at them both from same monitor, its going to affect the color the same way, so if they look "good enough" next to each other on the same computer, they should look "good enough" in person, right?
So here's pics of both...
http://img517.imageshack.us/img517/4237/hgdhgfd.jpg (http://img517.imageshack.us/i/hgdhgfd.jpg/)http://img168.imageshack.us/img168/6327/cloak.jpg (http://img168.imageshack.us/i/cloak.jpg/)
It's ok for them to just be "close enough" I don't expect anything to match 100%. If I get the chance, I'll take a pics of my old cloak with the dress together, but the dress is at my mom's house 1/2 hour away. I'm not sure if I will be going to her house today. But if I get the chance I will.
Should I just go for it??? Again, I could PROBABLY resell the cloak(s) if I wanted and get my money back that way....