Baby boys and circumcision...

[Heywie]

Hey ladies!

I know this subject can be a bit controversial, but I'm curious if you are planning to or have had your baby boys circumcised.

We're trying to decide if it's something we want to do. What are your thoughts?

[savepaws]

We are planning on circumcising if we have any boys. Mostly just because its what our families have done and its what we we know. DH thinks that we should and since he would know, I am going along with what he thinks is best.

[FFC]

We will be doing it if/when we have a baby boy... not only is it more sanitary.... I think it looks better. :blink: Weird reasoning sorry... but hey lol... you asked:lafhard:

[mitch]

Step Daughter wishes she had Grandson done. Poor little bugger had big problems potty training etc.

I'm with Justina. I does look better and is more hygenic.

Infact when DH and his Brother were growing up. BIL used to chat the girls up with a line about being done. :blink:

TMI but it used to work. He always had the girls fighting over him. :rofl:

[firespirit]

I did with my son. Never really thought twice about it.

My ex's sister had some problems with her son, they didn't get all the skin removed and he had to go back when he was a few months old and get it fixed.

I never asked DH what he thinks on the matter, but I guess I figure I'll worry about it after we manage to concieve. I'm pretty indifferent either way.

ETA: Oh and I agree, it does look better. I've only been with 1 guy who wasn't... and well it looked weird....

[uptowngirl]

I am really torn about this one...and have done a lot of reading on both sides of the argument. At this point I am just really really really hoping that we have a girl. ;)

I think that if we have a boy I will ultimately leave the decision up to DH since he has a little bit better idea about how a guy would feel growing up one way or the other... I think DH is pro-circ, but I don't think he's done any research on it...

[Chele&Chris]

I had my son circumsized and DH had to have his done when he was 7 because of issues from it not being done when he was a baby.. poor thing! He and his sister tell me the horror stories about it. If we have another boy I won't even think twice about it being done. It only causes the little guys discomfort for a little while as long as you take care of it properly until it's healed all the way.

[mj512]

This is something I've tried to read a lot into. If when we have a baby we have a boy I will for sure be looking more into it. I would love to keep him intact, for a few reasons - but wouldn't make a full decision until further research. There are pros and cons for both, so we will see I guess.

Just a friendly reminder that this can be a really controversial subject, and I know it goes without saying, I'm sure it won't be an issue but I have seen some REALLY heated debates over this so just remember to be respectful of everyone's thoughts and opinions :)

[Ninedays9]

Interesting question! My DH comes from a Catholic family, and they don't have it done... so he wants to follow that if we have a boy. I can't really argue with that, and I figure it's more a personal issue for guys (if that makes any sense?), so I don't mind if he takes the full reign on making that decision if we ever have a boy.

[SkippyNXC]

We will... FH wasn't as a baby and ended up getting an infection that was very painful then he had to get it done anyways and didn't have a choice... he still vividly remembers it... which i could imagine would be pretty bad...

[WBandMe]

DH and I have talked about this and we will have it done. No major research or overwhelming arguments on either side--it's just a preference.

ETA--Okay, I just watched a couple of videos, and hearing those babies scream just about made me sick. It sounds like they do stuff for pain more often now than they used to--even if it was just topical, there would have to be SOME kind of pain management otherwise I don't think I could bear putting my baby through it. But even though it would be hard for me to have it happen, long term I would still prefer that it be done.

[Heywie]

Thanks for the opinions, ladies! DH and I have talked about it a lot and at first we were so sure we'd do it, now we're more iffy. I don't like the trauma it puts the baby through, but I also wonder if it's more traumatic being the only boy in the locker room with a hood when he's growing up!

I guess we will have to look into it more and talk to our doc about it. We still have a few months to make the call!

[ChibiAiChan]

i'm glad this was made a topic! research on this is *so* hard so it's nice to just have a disscussion instead... no babies for me yet though lol

[SkippyNXC]

I don't like the trauma it puts the baby through, but I also wonder if it's more traumatic being the only boy in the locker room with a hood when he's growing up!



if your looking at it from that perspective, i would thing as an infant, your kids not gonna remember a thing... YOU'LL remember it and it may make you feel sad/anxious at the time but if they need it later on due to infection, they're gonna reeeeaallly remember it... plus i would think the teasing of adolscents is MUCH more power and would have a longer lasting impact...

[dizy1j62881]

if your looking at it from that perspective, i would thing as an infant, your kids not gonna remember a thing... YOU'LL remember it and it may make you feel sad/anxious at the time but if they need it later on due to infection, they're gonna reeeeaallly remember it... plus i would think the teasing of adolscents is MUCH more power and would have a longer lasting impact...
I can kinda put some info on here, Nicholas never had a "circ" per say. he had little problem down there not too horrible but he looked like he had one done...and speaking from experience, the biggest thing with infants while undergoing anything medical is they don't like being held down. Nicholas spend many months and many trips to dr's hospital when he was here with us. At one time I had to give him shots 2x a day for blood clot, I was so quick with it and didn't hold him down and it was a "eh" for a minute and he was 6 months old. Nicholas had multiple surgeries, 1st one at 24 hours old and many there after. They do have little things that help "ease" the pain of course but honestly they really do forget. My nephew didn't get his "circ" done til he was 2 cuz of parents uncertainty and omg seriously that was the worst thing ever....trying to change him and everything for almost a month. Also look at it like if he see's daddy will he think they are different or same...

[gwenshack]

if your looking at it from that perspective, i would thing as an infant, your kids not gonna remember a thing... YOU'LL remember it and it may make you feel sad/anxious at the time but if they need it later on due to infection, they're gonna reeeeaallly remember it... plus i would think the teasing of adolscents is MUCH more power and would have a longer lasting impact...

I haven't really given this subject too much thought, although I'm pretty sure we'd do it if we found ourselves with a little boy at some point, but I do completely agree with what Nicole said here. :yesnod:

[NOTKT]

I also think we will do the circ if we have a boy. Its just seems like its easier for everyone involved.

[KMS]

None of the men in Chad's family are and he has always said that he wouldn't want to have our baby circumsized if we had a boy. I have seen compelling arguments on both sides and honestly have no idea what I would choose if I had to make the call right now. It's something that I would research a lot more before making my decision.

[ikkin510]

We had both of the boys circumcised. I let DH make the decision. Figured he's a guy, he would know that area better. He did his research and decided to just go ahead with it.
When Carter was done last week the doctor said there really is no medicial reason that it needs to be done anymore. They do use a shot to numb the area before they do it. The only reason most boys cry is because they are being held down and infants aren't too fond of that.
The only pain they really have from it comes afterwards. They did give him some tylonal afterwards to play on the safe side incase he did have some pain. We just had to make sure to avoid the area with wipes, soap ect. Just wash with a wet cloth. And we had to put some petrolium jelly on it with each diaper change...just to avoid it from sticking at all to the diaper. Otherwise it all went really smoothly.

[Brian's Bride]

We also had Brant circ'd at the hospital the morning we left. We had to stick around for an hour or two to make sure he peed, then we were good to go. When we discussed it beforehand, Brian was adamant about doing it. And honestly, Brant's privates looked almost like a baby carrot and I said to Brian that I didn't remember Sam's looking like that when he was an infant. That was pre-circ. Afterwards, I was like, Okay! Now it looks like what I remembered. The care wasn't too bad, we used gobs of petroleum jelly on a square of surgical gauze under his diaper until it was healed.

[MrsDM]

We've never had the discussion on whether to or not, we've just always been on the same page regarding the topic. So yes, when we have our little boy, it will definitely be done.

[Heywie]

Also look at it like if he see's daddy will he think they are different or same...

That's a really good point! I didn't even think about that until you mentioned it! Thanks!

[melissa1031]

I had my son done.He had it done right after he was born,before he even came home from the hospital.I never considered not having it done.I think it's more hygrntic to have it done.And it does look better.

It's funny that I saw this.I saw a news report on TV where more parents are opting not to have it done.They think there's no reason for it.They believe that the foreskin should be left there.

[Nekochanpurr]

I don't know.. I'd probably do it. :) But who knows, since i don't have any kids or anything. lol

[FutureKelley]

I told my husband it was his choice and I would support whatever he decided on. He told me if we have a boy he wants him to be circumsized, so I suppose that is what we will be doing if we have a boy.

[Katie-ryn]

I'm leaving it up to FH. I have no experience with those parts, whereas he does.

[heather2010]

I think boys should look like their dad so they don't wonder why theirs is different. I know that it is less and less popular to do it, there is only 1 dr here who offers to do it anymore, they don't even ask you in the hospital, you have to call that dr and set up an appt, and he just tells you to buy numbing cream and put it on an hour or so before. I didn't have my boys done, but my girlfriend who had her boys done told me all this.

[f77g4]

Interesting topic...

Maybe this is the small-town sheltered girl in me but I always thought that this was something that Jewish people did and hadn't even thought twice about it until a co-worker (who's not Jewish) said that they have raised the price of having it done here now from when she had her first boy almost 4 years ago to now (she's due early July with another little guy).

So I came home and asked DH and said I thought that only Jewish people did that and he thought the same thing.

So if/when that time ever comes and we have a boy, I don't think he will be done since DH isn't.

[Spatch4Officers]

ya kno i'm pro circ - cpl reasons -
1- i agree it does look better hahah
2- i had a friend in high school that i was sorta dating and he told me he was having it done and that he couldn't see me for a cpl months b/c he couldn't have an erection til' it healed - i don't remember the reasoning lol but i thought it was kinda funny that he couldn't see me b/c he didn't wanna get excited haha. but that brings up another question i had that he could never answer -- don't men usually get a morning wood??? lol how the heck are you going to get past that!??! :p

[WBandMe]

don't men usually get a morning wood??? lol how the heck are you going to get past that!??! :p

Maybe the body just knows better than to do it, like when I got my tonsils out and I didn't have to sneeze, cough or yawn for three weeks!

[Heywie]

LOL Kay, I just saw your post. That would be incredibly difficult, I would imagine!!! I have also heard that it's incredibly painful for an adult to be circumcised.