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[lizloveskar]

So once again its all about what she wants. We started talking about things and i thought we were clear on what song i wanted to walk down the isle with. So we are discussing things that need to be done and FH says k well i dont want her walking down the isle to here comes the bride and she FLIPPED out!! She said well what the hell do you want than and is now telling us that this couple people are going to sing and that someone has to sing at my ceremony.

Than we get to who is being invited and she invites one person i HATE she has started **** between me and FH but FMIL loves her and trust me wishes they were getting married and starts talking about how they used to spend so much time together. I dont care!! She starts yelling at us saying how she is paying for 75% of the wedding well thats her fault not anyone elses!! She is doing it how she wants to so why is she gonna ***** about paying for stuff that she has planned. I just want simple stuff to get it over with i don't need all these dinners and **** but she is throwing a fit. If i could right now i would change everything and make this whole thing last an hour with ONLY VERY close friends and family not anyone who she is trying to show off too!!! UGH

[gwenshack]

I'm sorry. :( A lot of times when people are paying they feel like they're owed certain considerations, and that definitely seems like the case with your FMIL. I guess you just have to pick your battles. Like, if it was me, I would walk down the aisle to whatever you want - change it at the last minute if you have to...but the girl she invited - yeah, it sucks, but I'd just let that go. Your FH picked you and is going to marry you, and if she has any designs on him, she'd have to come WATCH him marry someone else. I'd highly doubt she'd even come. Just my two cents...:twocents: Regardless, I'm sorry you guys are having such a hard time. I would try to work with her as best you can so that you won't be tortured by her forever and ever, since you're going to be related to her. Which is a whole other barrel of monkeys - trust me on that one. ;)

[dearmissie]

Exactly what Gwen said. When they are paying for it, they do have some say. Thankfully, both sets of our parents are very relaxed and for the most part is letting us do whatever we like (esp. my Mom). But DF and I already had discussed, if it goes out of control and we weren't having OUR wedding, but instead our parents vision of their wedding then we'd politely tell them we'd just do it our way and fork over the money ourselves. It's not worth the stress and breaking up our family over. Both sets of our parents know this, we told them we don't want the wedding to create drama. It's our wedding, they already had their chance. Wishing you the best of luck sweetie!! Virtual hugs!!

[lizloveskar]

Thanks. Yeah she is just a pain cause she is like well i did this and i wouldnt change it for the world and your gonna regret doing that. I want to walk down the isle with so much by spill canvas i LOVE this song and fh dedicated it to me when we first started dating. It means a lot to both of us and it just irritates me she tells us to be open minded but she wont be. She wants it just how she wants it!!! I can't wait for the wedding to be over and we can go on our honeymoon just the two of us =] I'm going to vegas on tuesday for my bachelorette party and gonna go buy some lingerie!! Woo can't wait i just really want to get my mind off of things.

[Tammy]

You should be able to walk down the aisle to whatever you choose, it is after all YOUR time to shine!! My sister seemed suprised that I opted for Here comes the Bride. I may change my mind later but for now that's how it is.
I'm starting to think wedding planning would be a whole lot less stressful if people kept their unsolicitated advice to themselves. Easier said then done I know!;)