Who is paying/paid for your wedding?

[mariaandmanish]

Traditionally, parents paid for weddings. Are you following tradition, or not?



As for me, Manish and I (mostly manish) are paying for ours almost completely. My parents are paying for things that we are not allowed to pay for by Hindu tradition. His parents are paying for absolutely nothing. But, his brother and SiL are paying for our "engagement" party the night before our wedding.

[cowboysbride]

We had a thread about this a while back but here goes:

My folks: Reception, my dress and accessories
His foks: Rehearsal dinner, fresh flowers for: wedding, rehearsal and reception. The Band for the wedding.
Us: Everthing else

[Amber818]

My mom is paying the majority of it so I picked my parent.

[LaceyinPgh]

Sean and I paid for the majority of it. My mom paid for my dress and veil. My dad paid for his guests at the reception. Sean's parents paid for the band and dj. (They were supposed to pay for their guests as well but since the reception has long since been paid for by us; I don't anticipate that money ever showing up.)

[I'm That Girl]

Billy and I were going to pay for the whole thing. But a week ago, Billy's dad said he would pay for the DJ. He is the only parent between the 2 of us, so he's the only one who can help. I'm glad he is!

[Jopet]

We will be paying for ours, although my mum is making our dresses :).

[brewsells]

My folks are paying for the majority of things. I am picking up what I can here and there.

[AngelinLove]

Joel and I are paying for everything at this point. Joel's mom did offer to help pay for the flowers and the rehearsal dinner, which will definitely be appreciated!!!

[Smile1Jen]

my parents are pretty much paying for everything..rickys parents are giving some money on the food at the reception and are paying for the rehearsal dinner, me and ricky are goin gto pay for something at the wedding just not sure what yet, maybe the pictures

[WhiskeyGirl]

My parent's put in $6000 dollars and Matt's dad was forced to pick up the rest which was Waaaay more then $6000. Lol. (But Matt's dad said he'd have paid for it all if my parent's couldn't have afforded a dime.)

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

My parents are generously paying for the wedding. I'm trying to keep my costs low so that my parents arent drivin into debt over it. They are also paying for my college until I get married.

[mariaandmanish]

My parents are generously paying for the wedding. I'm trying to keep my costs low so that my parents arent drivin into debt over it. They are also paying for my college until I get married.


Sounds like you've got great parents!

[KristyGirl]

My parents paid for the RD and reception, DH's dad paid for the flowers, and we took care of everything else.

[AngelinLove]

My parents are generously paying for the wedding. I'm trying to keep my costs low so that my parents arent drivin into debt over it. They are also paying for my college until I get married.

It definitely seems like you have great parents!!!

My parents paid for the RD and reception, DH's dad paid for the flowers, and we took care of everything else.

If I could get someone to pay for the Reception I would be in heaven...it is soooooo expensive!!!

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

Sounds like you've got great parents!
I do have wonderful parents!! They even let me live at home rent free!

[sherrybaby]

DH's parents paid for my dress and we got their church for free. DH and I paid for everything else on our own.

[Kacie_bride]

My parents are paying for pretty much everything. We are doing things pretty traditional. Justin is paying for my bouquet, the guys bouts, and the mothers/grandmothers corsages, and of course the honeymoon. His parents are paying for the rehearsal. Everything else is being paid for by my parents.

[rainbowtreat]

For the most part Nicholas and I paod for every thing. But we had alot of people doing htings and paying for things here and there. A freind of ours paid for our photographer, my mom and her husband paid for the flowers ( bouquest , bouts., and coursages ). My BIL and his mother did the food for the recetption. A friend of mine did the cake for us. The girls paid for their own dresses and the guys paid for the rental of their tuxes.

All and all all we realy spent money on was our clothing ( my dress, my daughters dress, my flower girls dress, the ring bearers tux, my sons tuxs, and renting Nicholas' tux) and all the decorations. Which added up fast.

So I voted for other as alot of people pitched in to help us with our wedding and we were so grateful for this.

[Crystal05]

My parents paid for most of it, and DH's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner.

[LizabethDavis]

I voted for other because really, everyone is pitching in!

[WebLady]

As some of you know, DH and I didn't have a traditional type wedding, but what we did, we paid for. I think FIL paid for the minister ... my parents don't have alot of money so they weren't able to give us anything. I am happy that way, I didn't have to worry with other ppl telling me what I should do ;)

[mariaandmanish]

Ah, if only it were that easy! My FH and I are paying for our wedding basically by ourselves only, but his whole family still feels the need to tell us what we should do and how we should do it! SOme of it has been useful, getting married in their cultural way, but some of it has been just way overbearing. Luckily, I love them anyway!

[katieandalex]

My parents are paying for everything with some help from us.

[catmeo]

We paid for half of our wedding, the other half was covered by my parents, and my husband's parents - thank god we had help, or we never would have got there in the end!

[nikkiana]

My parents are paying for the majority of my wedding.

[EarlyBird]

my parents are giving between 20-25k which accounts for the food and drinks and probably cake and venue- it will probably also cover most of the band but unfortunatley its very expensive so maybe it will only conver photog or something.
Then fh parents are paying for the rd and giving us another 5k to put toward whatever we want-
My mom is paying for my dress - even though my parents are still married, its something that my mom told my dad she really wanted to pay for ooutside the 25k she said it was very personl to her and she wants to pay for it. weird but very appreciated. There are other things my parents are paying for but its more things we are picking up here and there. like the thank yous- we already got them, my dad was with me and he paid the 25 bucks for them - (im personalizing them)
everything else fh and i are paying for - like aanother 10k for his tux, our fg and rb outfits etc etc

[candyt2009]

Me and my fh is paying for are wedding and his auntie is making my dress and my bridesmaid dress and his tux

[Hope75]

Hey All,

I've read a few posts about people paying for their own weddings, and that is mostly what we are doing too.

We got 1000$ from my parents, and 2000$ from FH's mother, and other than that, we are paying for the rest of the wedding. We have been saving, so when the big day comes around, it will be paid up and we can start our new lives as husband and wife without being in debt for the party.

I'm curious, who is paying for your wedding, and how are you paying?

[Kirby]

We are splitting it between his parents, my parents, and ourselves.

[sweetvenus]

We are paying for 99% of it ourselves. My mom has bought random little things, like some stuff for our centerpieces, whenever she comes across something she thinks we can use, but other than that, it's all us.

[Hope75]

We are splitting it between his parents, my parents, and ourselves.

Are you splitting it equally 3 ways, or is one party paying more than others?

(just curious!)

[MrsFuchs09]

Rick and I are paying for most of it. My parents are helping. And his mom is paying for the rehearsal dinner.

[mitch]

FH and Myself are paying 100% of it ourselves.

There is no help from my Family because they don't even know we are getting Married. And FH doesn't speak to his Dad so that's another no-no.

So far i have stuck to a tight Budget of £500 ($1,000 ish) But that does not include the rings.
Although i have been nosing on eBay today and found a great shop in the UK that sells Titanium Wedding Bands for £35 including postage ($70 ish). FH wants something hardwearing and i don't mind matching the ring only in a smaller width.
So at the rate i'm finding bargains we might be able to get those out the budget too. :winktongue:

[MrsGrady08]

I voted other.My mom gave us about $3,000. My dad and stepmom paid for the reception which was 2,500. Then we paid the rest. But we had to end up getting a loan, which I REALLY did not want to do. But the job I had at the time cut my hours big time...some weeks I wouldn't work at all. So we got a $4,000 loan to finish paying off the honeymoon and all the final payments we had.

[SerendipityCrafts]

We did it all ourselves (except for my shoes that my mother insisted on buying and which I ended up getting for .99 cents on ebay :rofl:).

It was a second wedding for us both and we wanted to do it on our own. We didn't have a large wedding, and it wasn't fancy but it suited our budget and our style. It also negated anyone telling us how we should do it and that was worth every penny spent! :)

[mitch]

We did it all ourselves (except for my shoes that my mother insisted on buying and which I ended up getting for .99 cents on ebay :rofl:).



eBay is such FUN!!!! Gotta love a bargain. :winktongue:

[acidcookie]

I am proud to say that FH and I are saving all we can of our measly grad student incomes to pay for 100% of the wedding without going into debt.

[Nekochanpurr]

We are paying most of it ourselves, and refuse to go into debt!!! We put money in our savings, then put it in my checking before paying something off.. Write a check so i have that written back up (just in case).. We went into it thinking we'd get no help, so we wouldn't put ourselves in trouble. His parents ended up paying for the photographer, drinks at the wedding, and the rehearsal dinner. We are very blessed. *^^*

[acidcookie]

We put money in our savings, then put it in my checking before paying something off.. Write a check so i have that written back up (just in case)..

Sounds like our system. Except I put it on my card so I get rewards :grinhappy: But then I yank it out of savings to pay off the card right away. When I booked the place I was going to send a check and then asked "Wait! Can I give you a CC # over the phone?" so I could get some cash back :bbmrgreen:

[Hope75]

That sounds like what we are doing too- we have an account and when we pay a bill we either write a check, or use the CC and then pay our CC bill with the savings acct.

We won't use our bank card anywhere because there is a lot of $ in it and if someone got a hold or it we'd be in trouble!

[mitch]

We won't use our bank card anywhere because there is a lot of $ in it and if someone got a hold or it we'd be in trouble!

I can understand that. We had our card "cloned" after i put it in the ATM. It was a few days later before i realised something was amiss because my card was refused. When i went into the bank, our account had been stripped of £2,000 (approx $4,000) and spent in Asia!!!

After i proved the point that i was still in the country, plus another $500 went missing whilst i was standing in the bank. I managed to claim it all back through their insurance. But still had to pay a **** bank charge for being overdrawn. :bbeek:

[mrssaferitetobe23]

My fiance and I are paying for everything ourselves. We're not asking either family for help and neither one offered to pitch in, so.....it's all us. :-)

[Tericia]

We are paying for the wedding ourselves as well.

[rainbowtreat]

We payed for ours. It was my second and his first. Both moms didn't have the means to help us. We got things as we went. We didn't save. Each week soemthing else was bought or paid for.

We had somethings done for us like the photographer was paid for by a friend. That was her wedding gift to us. My BIL did the food. Again another wedding gift. I loved those gifts lol. My mom bought flowers and the girls made their own bouquets. My moms husband bought mine and my daughters bouquets and the bouts. for the guys. ( yes another gift ) They were gifts. Every one who did something like that for our wedding told us they would do it as a gift to us. So I didn't see it as getting help. Just less cards or gifts at the wedding.

[brendalin]

Our parents both gave us money to do what we wanted with it, and we are paying for everything else by ourselves. We are using credit cards to back ourselves up with purchases, but they are paid off right away with the money in the bank.

[Danielle9608]

Our was a joint effort - my parents gave us $6,500 his parents gave us $3,000. The rest about another $19,000 was paid by us. So we paid for most of it but got some help, which we really appreciated!

[Tadswife]

We paid for everything ourselves. I saved all my dimes, quarters, nickel and pennys. That got us our dj, flowers and cake..:D
my dad gave us $600 dolalrs as a wedding gift before the wedding and told us to do what we wanted. my sister got us most of our odds and ends( unity candle, cake topper, knife and cake server) as a gift. My mother in law wanted to pay for the flowers I told her NOOOOOOO! So she got me my tiara. And my mom made my junior brides dress and throw bouqet..:) We didn't want the debt when we got married. So all was paid for up front

[karkar]

My FH and I are paying for it all by ourselves. I guess I'm lucky because we have money saved and our able to pay for things in cash. I'm sure my mom will help with little things, but I dont expect her to.

[spuls5]

I voted parents paying 100%, but there are things I am going to pay for. I am saving for as much of it as I can, but my mom keeps saying she will pay for it and his mom is going to give me money to put in my account to use to pay for things as they come up.

[081608Bride]

I voted for 100% parents paying. My parents offered to pay for the wedding and the reception. We are on a budget with them but at the same time they tell us that it is our day. I have purchased things for the wedding. I have also made all of the wedding invites and did the wedding favors. FH parents are paying for the rehersal dinner and his mom is making all of the table runners for the reception. We are blessed to have our family's to offer to pay for the wedding and we are both very great full for everything they do for us.

[f77g4]

We are going into the planning as if we are going to pay for everything ourselves, however my parents keep insisting that they are pay for this and that - like the reception, limo (my dad's idea), etc. But since I'm unsure of how they are going to do this, I am still planning to put everything aside that I can to save. FH says he doesn't mind if we have to take out a bank loan, however, me being an accountant and like very OCDish/anal with money I'd like to save as much as we can and only use the bank loan option if/when we absolutely need to - i.e. for a possible honeymoon maybe?

[lisa&matt2792008]

matt (Fh) and i have been saving monies since we got engaged(2006) hopefully we will have about $8000 NZD (new zealand dollars) in addition both my mum and dad have given us $2500 NZD and have got $1000 NZD from his dad but nothing from his mother (shes really tight and probably got more money than any of the other parents, as my mum said theres a reason why shes got so much money *coughs tight b!tch coughs* )but saying that she has made the bridesmaids dresses not that hard though you can see them in my journal

[L.J.Aguirre]

vic and i paid for ours 100% and its paid off.... except for my ring but oh well lol

[*Lisa*]

As it stands with now with our current plans, our parents are paying 100% of the cost.

My mom & step dad are covering the trip to Jamaica. That includes our stay for a week, the wedding package & photogaphy. My mom is also covering the dress & accessories.

FH's parents are setting aside an amount of money ($10,000) that will be used for our second week in Jamaica, and the reception/party when we return.

We're very very lucky and can't be thankful enough. Having them help out in such an enormous way lets us save for a house which is extremely important to us & our families.

[Cassie'smom]

We are paying for 99% of the wedding, our daughter and her fH paid for the rings and little extras.

[Brian's Wife in 09]

we are splitting it up. Both sets of parents are helping out as are we.

[sjk1431]

We paid for it with a little help from his parents. Mine didn't help at all.

[acidcookie]

I am proud to say that my FH and I are saving our own grad student salaries to pay entirely for our wedding.

[MrsBacon_092708]

I voted that we are paying for our wedding. But there are alot of family members that are doing little things as gifts for us. But for the most part we are paying for it all.

[joraye]

Me and FH are paying for it. His amazing parents will be paying for the Rehearsal Dinner as they have already offered. My parents aren't helping, as they said "we don't want our money going towards some stupid flowers...." :( This will be a rant when I'm ready!

[WBandMe]

FH and I are paying for the majority of it. My mom bought my dress, veil and undergarments and my dad is going to give us some money too, although I don't know how much of that will actually go to the wedding. Most of it is just us though.

[Nekochanpurr]

We paid for most of it.. Planned on paying for all of it.. Steves parents stepped up and helped.. a LOT. My mommy is renting a van to get the gimpy people from ceremony to reception.. We are very blessed!

[08chrissy08]

FH and I are paying for it all. His parents are in a lot of debt or I know they would help, but my folks just don't want to. Eh, I don't really care though.

[garnet]

mostly me. some of fh.

[vicky_vicky]

I voted other as for our wedding everyone will pay something, we havent figured things out yet but I know very well that my parents are paying, his parents are paying, I am paying and FH is paying. We will all contribute as much as anyone can.

Best man has to pay for something as well. Usually flowers.

[southern*belle*]

My husband and I, my parents and his parents each paid for a portion of the wedding.

[Scrwballsgrl]

Fh & I are trying to pay for as much as possible ourselves....we don't really expect his parents to pay (or offer to pay) for anything.
My Dad keeps saying he's got $5k set aside for both mine and my sisters weddings, but I'm hoping Fh & I can cover everything and maybe let my parents pay for the reception food (we estimate it to be around $1200).