Do you and your FH/DH fight?

[WebLady]

I am sure we all fight or at least argue every now and then. How often would you say that you fight with your SO? And what do you usually fight about?

Me, DH and I rarely fight, the few times I can remember that we have it was either when he did or said something stupid (he has a habit of talking to me like a child) or had something to do with my family.

[Jenn060306]

Mark and i do fight. Not often are we really screaming. I think maybe 2 or 3 times has it gotten that bad.
We don't always share eachothers views which is totally cool with me. I think us having different views is good, we talk alot about what we think about things and are very respectful of that. Somthing like this might come up once a month maybe twice. Depends on what's happening in the world.

When we fight its usually over not doing somthing one said they would or saying somthing stupid and hurtful. Sarcasim is fun until someone doesn't get it. Maybe once a month we get into an arguement about not doing a chore or somthing. Not alot.
Since we went to the marriage prep course in April we have stopped fighting as much. We seemed to have a better understanding of eachother and what we needed/wanted in our relationship.

[70707Bride]

At first before we were dating and when we started dating (he claims up til the day we got engaged) we never fought. He says ever since I got the rock, I've changed. Its not that, I think its just that he's taking things that I say differently now. We argue a lot about useless things. Or I'll just ask him why he does something a certain way and he thinks I'm just complaining because "I don't think he's good enough". I don't know, its just weird. Any advice? lol.

[LizabethDavis]

We do fight, although not that often anymore and usually about stupid stuff or the usual stuff like money or who get the outside of the bed. The good outweighs the bad though!

[mariaandmanish]

We fight for the same reasons, usually over stupid little things, usually caused by somone saying something sarcastic. We rarely have big fights. Honestly, in the 6+ years we have been together, I think we've only had 3 major fights, and only one with screaming and yelling. Usually, if its something major that we're upset about, we wait until we can speak calmly and rationally (as much as possible!) about what's bothering us.

[WebLady]

Yeah, DH and I have only fought/argued a handful of times in the 7+ yrs we have been together. (and they were all his fault :bblol:) My ex and I fought on pretty much a regular basis, :bblol: that is one of the reasons he is my ex ;) I am so glad that DH and I can talk to each other about anything, and he usually sees my side ... or at least pretends to ;)

[WhiskeyGirl]

Oh yes, we fight. I'm a fighter by nature unfortunately. But I have to say there was only one time where we screaming at each other. Most times it's just arguing, I think a person would be lying if they said they never have a disagreement, but I have to say usually our fights come from us being stressed for one reason or another. Sometimes I think I forget that Matt is on my side through this whole infertility thing. That really messes with a person and causes them to lose site of even themselves and I just find myself angrier then I used to be. I guess that's what counselling is for. I'm just thankful that Matthew recognizes when I'm stressed and that's usually around the time that evil AF shows up and I'm pissed because another month has gone by and I'm still not pregnant!!! Two years is a long time to deal with something so emotionaly and physically taxing!

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

Jonathan and I fight. We usually go a while without fighting but then all of a sudden the walls come crashing down and we have a fight. We've fought twice this week (highly unusual) and both of us have stress levels through the roof. Usually our fights stem from one of us feeling second to something else. Usually he feels that way about my school and friends and I feel that way about work and video games. I cant say that we have huge fights, because we dont scream and yell, but we both get pretty upset and butt heads about the issue. We can usually resolve the issue by talking it out. There was one issue that we couldnt resolve and it worked itself out like we expected it to.

[Valmai]

We rarely fight, theres only been one occasion that i can think of when we were screaming at each other (and that was over family issuses). Neither of us like arguing with each other and if we do then we seem to make up really quickly, i think a lot of it is cos we have both been in previous relationships and dont want ours going the same way as them. We have lots of 'discussions' tho, about poitics, religion the world and so on lol xxx

[brewsells]

FH and I do fight, as every couple does. Usually they are just little spats though. Mostly when he is at work and stressed and he takes something I say wrong. I can could on one hand how many screaming matches we have had in 3 years.

[cowboysbride]

Eric and I don't fight (when I heard that prior to meeting Eric I laughed in their faces) but we don't...we have had 2 arguments (both of them totally silly and a result of my stubborness).

Eric is probably the easiest person in the world to get along with, he doesn't like to argue and he is very good natured. I on the other hand am quick tempered, moody and opinionated (gasp, such a shock:bblol: ). I won't argue with him because when it comes to me he gets very emotional and if I argue with him it breaks his heart and that's something I can't handle so I don't pull my **** with him!

[KristyGirl]

We don't really fight, just nitpick. They're stupid, silly things, like who forgot to take out the trash or put the laundry away. It usually happens when we're both stressed or tired.

[LaceyinPgh]

Amazingly Sean and I don't fight. The reason for this is that Sean won't fight back. He knows that I won't stop until either the world comes to an end or I win. (Go figure!) So, he just doesn't fight, hence getting to the I win stage a lot quicker and saving the American Express from having to go "angry shopping".

We have only had a couple of major fights and guess who caused them, that is right, his mother. Our biggest fight that we had in which I packed up the dogs and left for the weekend was because of the way she was treating me. Since that time though, he has stopped and looked at the situation and done some things to rectify it.

[AngelinLove]

Joel and I have small spats, but we don't fight. We have only been in maybe 2 real arguments in 3.5 years. Our little spats are usually over stupid things like chores, or difference in opinions, or just one of us being stressed out. When we do have spats we can't stay upset with each other for any real significant amount of time...so we just make up. Joel puts up with alot of my hormonal, emotional ****. My ex and I used to argue all of the time and I could never be in a relationship like that again!!!!

[CindySue]

Me, DH and I rarely fight, the few times I can remember that we have it was either when he did or said something stupid (he has a habit of talking to me like a child) or had something to do with my family.
This is the stuff Brian will do that really irritates me. He also has a tendancy to act as if Im incapable of making household decisions. (Hes used to having to make them ALL and so am I.)
We dont fight often, but lately when we do theyve been doozies!!!

[cowboysbride]

So, he just doesn't fight, hence getting to the I win stage a lot quicker and saving the American Express from having to go "angry shopping".

LOL Angry Shopping..I used to call it mad plastic...the ex and I would fight and wallah....new outfit, new shoes, new purse! I kept it hid in the truck until he went out and then it got stuffed into the closest (minus the tags) and was described as "This old thing? Why do you NEVER pay attention to me?" END of discussion!

[LaceyinPgh]

LOL Angry Shopping..I used to call it mad plastic...the ex and I would fight and wallah....new outfit, new shoes, new purse! I kept it hid in the truck until he went out and then it got stuffed into the closest (minus the tags) and was described as "This old thing? Why do you NEVER pay attention to me?" END of discussion!
Angry shopping can be REALLY REALLY bad. But, I don't hide things I parade the bags in while he is standing there and immediately snip off all the tags so they can't be taken back.

[cowboysbride]

Angry shopping can be REALLY REALLY bad. But, I don't hide things I parade the bags in while he is standing there and immediately snip off all the tags so they can't be taken back.

I can see you doing that! I tried to avoid confrontation and still get my new ANGRY outfit LOL!

[LaceyinPgh]

I can see you doing that! I tried to avoid confrontation and still get my new ANGRY outfit LOL!
Oh, there has never been confrontation, because my car knows it's way back to Shadyside and the mall all too well. Besides, he has to know he was bad and is being punished for it!

[BriansBride07]

Me and Brian have been together for going on 14 years and have been living together for going on 13 years we have 2 children, so yes we have fought. Usually b/c we are both very hard headed that we let it get out of control. But most of the time we are very good communicator's. The people who know us the best say that we sound like an old married couple. Somethings working b/c we still act like teenagers in our first love, after all these years.

[Kacie_bride]

Justin and I do fight! We have had some knock down drag outs. We don't do it to often, but they have gotten bad. It is mostly because neither one of us know when to shut up and both want the last word! I get into fights with everyone so it's not that big of a deal.

[WebLady]

Well, DH and I got into a little tiff today. I guess it really wasn't that bad ... I have a habit of trying to call for him and/or ask him something while I'm in another room (that and I apparently mumble alot) and it irritates him. So I did it today and he was all like "Look, I can't hear you so I don't know why you keep on" It really wasn't so much what he said that bothered me but how he said it. But we talked it out ... I am gonna try to be better about not trying to talk to him while in the other room and he is gonna try not to take an angry tone when he gets irritated ;)