Family

[Amanda1991]

I absolutely hate that I can not complain to my family. If I have any complaints they tell me that I should not be getting married then and I am tired of people telling me that I shouldn't be getting married, that I am too young. The only person I can complain to is my FH and it has really frayed my family relations. I am always yelling at my family and angry at them and it reflects on my relationship with my FH the only time I really laugh and talk without getting mad is when I am on a date with my FH or I am alone with him. I am almost hoping my wedding just gets over with. Yet I've been planning and looking forward to my own wedding since I was 3. Literally, my family has told me that I was planning a wedding when I was 3. I really don't like that they are putting me off my own wedding. :bang_head:

[gwenshack]

I absolutely hate that I can not complain to my family. If I have any complaints they tell me that I should not be getting married then and I am tired of people telling me that I shouldn't be getting married, that I am too young. The only person I can complain to is my FH and it has really frayed my family relations. I am always yelling at my family and angry at them and it reflects on my relationship with my FH the only time I really laugh and talk without getting mad is when I am on a date with my FH or I am alone with him. I am almost hoping my wedding just gets over with. Yet I've been planning and looking forward to my own wedding since I was 3. Literally, my family has told me that I was planning a wedding when I was 3. I really don't like that they are putting me off my own wedding. :bang_head:

I'm sorry you're having a hard time with your family. We've had many younger brides on here, mostly successfully, and they've also had a mix of reactions when it comes to their age. I think the thing that I noticed about them is that they just let their maturity speak for itself. There's probably nothing you can say - all you can really do is show your family, through your actions, that you are indeed old enough and mature enough to start your own family unit. ;)

Wedding planning at 3 huh? Well then you should be all set by now huh? :rofl: :congrats2:

[Amanda1991]

yeah i had it all planned, just had to aquire everything

[MrsFuchs09]

We've had many younger brides on here, mostly successfully, and they've also had a mix of reactions when it comes to their age. I think the thing that I noticed about them is that they just let their maturity speak for itself. :

I was one of those young brides and I'm now a young wife. I was just about to turn 18 when I joined this site. :lafhard:

I fully agree with Gwen on this.

And remember, you can always use this forum to complain. That's what I did and still do! We're very friendly here. No judging or anything.

Don't let your family get in the way of anything related to your wedding. Enjoy this time in your life. You only get to plan this day once!

[nononsense]

I got engaged while we were in college and everyone thought we were too young to get married. Though I have had a long engagement (by force not choice) We are a very solid couple that in every way are married but legally. Now both sides talk about how we are the perfect couple and can't wait for our big day!!!! We are still the exact same couple that we were 5yrs ago nothing has changed but the amount of bills we pay ;)

[RosieAngel]

If you can't complain to them, complain to us! One of the few things that got me through the wedding planning drama was the ladies here! We're also not ageist here - I've met plenty of wonderful, levelheaded young brides here.

I'm not a young bride myself (I was 25 when I got married), but I did begin "planning" my wedding when I was 6, and I sadly discovered that my "plans" weren't budget-friendly. :sob:

Anyways, if you need to vent about anything, we're here!

[FutureMrsGunderson]

It's sad that you are to the point that you just hope it gets over with. This is the most important day of your life. Complaining is a part of wedding planning. There is going to be something you don't like (or if your me, you won't like anything!).

As far as being too young, I can see where they're coming from, but only you know if your ready to get married. It is your choice, not theirs. I've been with my fiance' since we were 16 (we will be 25 this year) and we aren't getting married until next year. We didn't get married when we were younger because we weren't ready. We knew we'd always be together, but we just wanted to be young for awhile before we got married. We did move in together at 18, and for us, that was the best thing ever to do. We learned so much about each other in the first 5 years we lived together.

If in your heart you know you are ready, don't let anyone stand in your way. Like you said, it causes problems between you and your FH, and everyone else involved.

Hang in there, we are all here for you! :bbbiggrin: