Did I handle this wrong? (long)

[CindySue]

Ok, most everyone knows that I was married on May 13th. Except for minor BS everything has been great. My step-daughter came down from Virginia the end of June and everything was fine there too. We had lots of plans to do things this summer as a family. That was untli she went and spent a week with her grandmother. (Actually she spent time during that week with both of her parents mothers.)
*FYI- I have no beef with Keilee at all. She is a great kid and has been nothing but kind to me and my kids. ANd this has nothing to do with her.*
So she comes home on Friday and stayed on her cell phone with one of her friends most of the evening. That irritated Brian but he didnt say anything to her. (He did ask me why she would rather be on the phone, ......um.....hello? shes a teenager....they LIVE on the phone!!!!!)
Anyway, he gets up Saturday and all the sudden it seems he went off the deep end. Its like my kids dont exist to him. He just stayed away from them. And instead of US doing the things we had planned, it was just him and Keilee doing the things we had planned. Keilees confused because shes thinking shes done something and she hasnt. My kids are wondering what they done to keep them from getting to go do the stuff we had talked about doing. When I asked him what the deal was, he just said "Im trying to spend some alone time with my daughter." :chair:Ok... this confused me, because he has spent more time with her alone than we have as a family. (And shes getting tired of it!)
How I handled this situation was to start planning little things for me and the kids to go do. Kinda cant do much since I have to work this week, but Im making do. Yesterday I took my crew to the pool in town. Brian and Keilee had went to the movies. Well they were home when me and the little ones came to fix sandwhiches for us to take back to the pool. Brian was mad because we didnt invite him. He overheard me and my mother making some plans for this coming weekend. He asked what we were doing this weekend. I told him I didnt know what him and Keilee were doing but me and my crew were going to Chandler. He asked why he wasnt invited. I said that I wanted to spend some alone time with my children. :bblol: He was so mad at me that he didnt speak to me when we came home from the pool. He was leaving this morning to go to Dallas with Keilee and they wont be home until tomorrow. This morning he was still pissed and told me that he felt like he was being excluded from the family. I said "Really? But isnt that what you have been doing to us? I guess now maybe you know how I have been feeling." He mouthed off something about how Id be without him for 2 days. Well me just having to have the last word, I told him I couldnt wait. :bbevil: Of course that really pissed him off and he left with barely even giving me a kiss. I was more or less aloof through it all.
Ok, he sends me a text message this morning after i got to work, telling me that he loves me and everything is going to be ok. Well Im sure it will be, but thats besides the point. He has no idea how hurt my children are over this. They (like Keilee) feel its their faults and they havent done anything wrong.
He has made plans to take the boat out Saturday. I hope he has fun. Hes going to want us to go. Hes going to be pissed, but Im not changing the plans me and the kids have made just because he wants to play nice. Maybe Im being selfish, but the moment my childrens feeling got hurt, the gloves came out.:boxing:
Sorry this was sooo long, but this has been going on for a few days and I had a LOT of steam built up.

[bnd94]

I think if I was in your shoes I would have handled it the same way. He really doesn't see that he was making you and the kids feel excluded!?! I hope when he comes back he will have time to think and will not do that again. Good luck :hug:

[CindySue]

Thanks Becky.
No I guess he didnt see what he was doing. My mom thinks it has to do with him only getting to see her once a year and having to share her with everyone. Who knows. I have put a wall of sorts between him and the kids. He doesnt like that, but my ex hurt them pretty bad and I swore it would NEVER happen again.

[cowboysbride]

I think you handled it just fine, he was pouting over getting excluded by Kellie and handled it wrong, he needs to apologize to your kids (won't hold my breath...no offense he's a man and they can't say SORRY) look for sorry like gestures and comments from him when he returns if not then ya'll need to talk (he needs to listen) and you tell him that yes I love you and yes it will all be fine but you hurt the kids feelings and that needs to be fixed...hopefully in the process he could stumble over an I'm Sorry to you too! Sounds like to me he is already feeling the pressure of his actions or he wouldn't text ya. Hold your ground he needs to learn a lesson.

FYI this is JMO...it's worth what you paid for it:bbmrgreen: !

:hug:

[CindySue]

I think you handled it just fine, he was pouting over getting excluded by Kellie and handled it wrong, he needs to apologize to your kids (won't hold my breath...no offense he's a man and they can't say SORRY) look for sorry like gestures and comments from him when he returns if not then ya'll need to talk (he needs to listen) and you tell him that yes I love you and yes it will all be fine but you hurt the kids feelings and that needs to be fixed...hopefully in the process he could stumble over an I'm Sorry to you too! Sounds like to me he is already feeling the pressure of his actions or he wouldn't text ya. Hold your ground he needs to learn a lesson.

FYI this is JMO...it's worth what you paid for it:bbmrgreen: !

:hug:
Thanks Ellen. I am standing my ground. I was totally blind sided by this and I wasnt really sure what to do. What hurt the most was the issues with the kids. I think he thought about what I said this morning, and maybe it touched a nerve.

[brewsells]

I think you are doing the right thing, Cindy. I know it has to be hard but basically, he started it. From what I have heard about Brian, it seems odd that he would do this. He needs to understand how it made your kids feel, as well as his daughter.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I would have done the same things because it's the children getting hurt but remember that a relationship is built upon communication and Brian needs to know how this has made you and most importantly the children feel. He can't go putting his daughter first and leaving the rest of the kids out, especially if he had originally made the plans with ALL the children. You said he'll be away tonight? After the kids are in bed give him a call and tell him just how upset this has made you. Keep an even tone and talk things through. Good luck Cindy! I hope it works out for you. And hey, maybe if you guys can get on the same page you can meet up on Saturday. ;)

[countrygirl]

Hey Cindy, I think you did a good job. I would have done the same thing. There have been times when Josh has been nicer to his kids than to my son. He didn't do it intentionally, but at times he seems to just be nicer to them. We have had severaly 'in depth' converstations about it.

I know how you feel Cindy. You are very protective over your children. I wouldn't give into the plans he makes. If he wants to spend time w you this weekend, he should make sure to do what you are doing.

[AngelinLove]

I agree with what everyone said. I would have been just as upset and I would have handled things the same way. That being said, as Shawna stated, communication is key. He needs to truly understand how he has made you and the children feel, and that he was wrong. I can understand that he is frustrated by having to share his short amount of time with his daughter, with others, but that should not mean you and the children. You are all a family, when you married each other and became one you joined families. I can see, maybe wanting to have a special day here and there for just his daughter, considering that the rest of the year he spends time with the other children without her, but not everyday...and not when it comes to plans that were already made to include everyone. I would definitely call him later tonight and really discuss this situation!!! Good Luck Cindy!!!

[MOB Karen]

I agree with what everyone said. I would have been jsut as upseta nd I would have handles things the same way. That being said, as Shawna stated, communication is key. He needs to truly understand how he has made you and the children feel, and that he was wrong. I can understand that he is frustrated by having to share his short amount of time with his daughter, with others, but that should not mean you and the children. You are all a family, when you amrried each other and became one you joined families. I can see, maybe wating to have a special day here and their for just his daughter, considering that the rest of the year he spends time with the other children without her, but not everyday...and not when it comes to plans that were already made to include everyone. I would definitely call him later tonight and really discuss this situation!!! Good Luck Cindy!!!

Excellent advice, Angel!!! :)

[WebLady]

I do think Brian handled the situation with Kellie wrong from the beginning and in the process he went and hurt his wife and his new family. However, I am not sure I would have handled it the same. (Yeah I would want to 'get him back' and show him how it felt, but that is not always the best way) I try to go by the old "two wrongs don't make a right" thing. (No, it doesn't work out like that all the time) I would have sat him down and talked about it and if he didn't see he was wrong then I would go on with making plans on my own and wait for him to apologize.

I hope this all works out for you guys!

[CindySue]

Well we talked a little about it this morning when we called after the text mess. and Im sure he will call me from his moms this evening. (She lives an hour away in Dallas and they had 2 days of things to do in Dallas so instead of using all that gas to drive back home and then back tomorrow, they are spending the night there.) Truth be told, Im kinda looking forward to no drama tonight.
Holly, youre right. I would never have expected this. I know its hard for him only seeing her once a year, but what he doesnt get is that I would like to spend some time with her too.
Brandi, I understand what youre saying and Im not really trying to be mean to him. We didnt do anything the 1st part of the summer because we were waiting on Keilee to get here. We were going to take all the kids and do a few different things. He decided he didnt want to share his time with his daughter and thats fine. I still want mine to be able to do something for summer break. I feel so bad that it seems we have out family torn in two. I talked to my kids and we along with my mom made plans for this weekend. Doing something WE want to do. I know Brian enough to know that hes not going to want to do what we have planned, but this isnt about him, this is about the kids. Im not going to change my plans because my kids are looking forward to this weekend. Enough has been changed on them already.
Sad part is that he thinks everything is just fine. Because I held back and didnt want to fight with him at work, when I do mention things to him tonight, hes going to accuse me of picking a fight..........
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[countrygirl]

Well, Cindy, you have to stick to your guns, even if he thinks that you are picking a fight. He has to understand that while he doesn't see his naturaly daughter but once a year, he is dad to your children also, and that they don't deserve to loose thier 'daddy' because another child comes into the pic. That isn't fair to them. Maybe you should have them tell him that it hurt thier feelings. Maybe that would let him know.

[CindySue]

Maybe you should have them tell him that it hurt thier feelings. Maybe that would let him know.
Thats probably a good idea, but right now Im in over-protect mode.

[countrygirl]

Thats probably a good idea, but right now Im in over-protect mode.

I totally understand. It could be a good thing for the kids too though. It may give them a new open line of communication that they didn't know was avail to them. Does that make sense? We had to do that w the kids when they were upset about something because they were starting to become angry w us for thier confusion w thier mom. Now, they do talk to us a bit more. It does help.

[hummingbird521]

I would have done the same thing. You and he need to talk it out and really listen to one another. Both should spend alone time with your children. But things having already been planned together should have been kept together. Then made separate times alone. Explain to him how this made you and your children feel. I am sure he will listen and understand it. More than likely he is thinking of nothing else right now. But do stand your ground. Tell him your children are just as important as his our. And that they are confused and upset and feel left out of being a family. Be sure and also tell him that you understand his need to spend time alone with his daughter, but not at the sake of the family times together. That he should have discussed this with you together and made different arrangments. also i am curious, did he give any reason or explaination to your children about why they couldnt' come along?

[WebLady]

Like Heather said, he only gets to see his daughter once in a while, and I can understand him wanting to spend time with her. But he has to realize that when he married you your kids became a part of his life too. If you guys had plans to do things together then he was wrong to change that. It isn't right to make anyone feel left out or more important.

You know Brian better than we do so I guess you gotta do what you think is the best way to get through to him. I don't know what else to say as I really don't have experience in this sort of thing (I do know how it would make me feel) So I will just wish you well and hope you guys can work it out and not have to fight.

Best to you! :hug:

ETA - I hope you didn't take offence to my previous post

[brewsells]

Thats probably a good idea, but right now Im in over-protect mode.

Cindy, I TOTALLY understand what you mean. I had the same feelings with my daughter and her dad last night and almost ended up in a fight with the women in his family because of it. But in the end, I made him understand what he had done to his 10 year old daughter by not holding up to his word. I had to try and comfort a crying little girl for 10 days because of it, so I was FURIOUS! You have to do what's right for your babies, whether it makes other people mad or not. I'm sure Brian will see your point and understand what happened. Best of luck with this, Cindy. I know it will all turn out for you.

[CindySue]

AARARGGGGGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!
Now my MiL has irritated me. Im sure Im blowing this out of proportion, but Ive been talking with her about some of the stuff that was going on. Anyway, she sent me an email asking how things were going so I more or less told her. It may be just me, but her emails read like she thinks I have a problem with Brian spending time with Keilee. I DONT!!!!! I dont care how much time he spends with her. This whole thing is about how he has been treating me and my kids. About the plans he made with us and then broke with not even a decent excuse.

You know what? I ******* quit! This **** aint even worth it. I will tell Brian that I dont give a flying **** what he does or who he does it with. He can go his way and I will go mine, maybe on occassion we can meet in the middle and spend time together, BUT HE WILL NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE HURT MY CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!

[WebLady]

... You know what? I ******* quit! This **** aint even worth it. I will tell Brian that I dont give a flying **** what he does or who he does it with. He can go his way and I will go mine, maybe on occassion we can meet in the middle and spend time together, BUT HE WILL NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE HURT MY CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!
I am so sorry you are going through this, but I hope it doesn't ruin your marriage. Don't let other ppl's views make it worse ... who cares what they think. You have to handle things on your own.

I know that you want to protect your children (and you should) and Brian should want to be a part of his childs life as well as yours. I don't know what I'm trying to say here ...

I just think you really need to take a breath, write out your feelings (it works for me) then go home and have a talk with your husband. Let him know how you feel and how it hurt you (and the kids) Try not to raise your voice, that will likely just make him defensive and/or raise his voice too.

I really do hope this all works out for you! :hug:

[CindySue]

I am so sorry you are going through this, but I hope it doesn't ruin your marriage. Don't let other ppl's views make it worse ... who cares what they think. You have to handle things on your own.

I know that you want to protect your children (and you should) and Brian should want to be a part of his childs life as well as yours. I don't know what I'm trying to say here ...

I just think you really need to take a breath, write out your feelings (it works for me) then go home and have a talk with your husband. Let him know how you feel and how it hurt you (and the kids) Try not to raise your voice, that will likely just make him defensive and/or raise his voice too.

I really do hope this all works out for you! :hug:
Thanks Brandi...I do understand where youre coming from. What hurts me the most is how hard he worked to earn the trust of these kids only to smash it over something sooo stupid. The least he could have done was tell them that he really wanted to spend time with Keilee before she goes back on the 1st. He didnt tell them anything, they over heard them talking about their plans and came to me. I not only had to try and explain what had happened but I also tried to figure it out myself.
I did this **** with my ex, Im not doing it again.
As for as my marriage, I hate to think we would split over this, but my trust in him is tainted as well. We do need to talk about this, but for right now he cant see anyone elses view but his own.
H3ll we were more of a family last year when we just dating than we are this year when we are actually supposed to be one. I guess that was just a stupid vision on my part. I will know better next time.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Thanks Brandi...I do understand where youre coming from. What hurts me the most is how hard he worked to earn the trust of these kids only to smash it over something sooo stupid. The least he could have done was tell them that he really wanted to spend time with Keilee before she goes back on the 1st. He didnt tell them anything, they over heard them talking about their plans and came to me. I not only had to try and explain what had happened but I also tried to figure it out myself.
I did this **** with my ex, Im not doing it again.
As for as my marriage, I hate to think we would split over this, but my trust in him is tainted as well. We do need to talk about this, but for right now he cant see anyone elses view but his own.
H3ll we were more of a family last year when we just dating than we are this year when we are actually supposed to be one. I guess that was just a stupid vision on my part. I will know better next time.

OK Hun! Deep breath! Exhale! And let me say, that the only way things will get better or work out is if the two of you really talk about this. I mean put everything on the table and talk, don't yell! I'm finding lately that yelling doesn't do any good, it doesn't! And I'm working so hard on stopping it from happening every time we get in an arguement. Like Brandi said, I'd write it down, I'd even write it in a letter to Brian. It's easier to put our thoughts and feelings into words sometimes and sometimes those words get through to our spouses MUCH better! Last year shortly after the wedding, Matt and I had a huge blow out (I can't remember why but we did!) and Matthew wrote me a letter teling me what he was feeling and why, and ya know what, it helped to understand his feelings and to understand what he was saying better. Take it one step at a time and don't call it quits just yet. Maybe Brian can't see past his nose right now, but if you put it all out on the table he will understand in the future. I'm not sure it'll be an hour from now maybe it'll be a day from now, but he will get it. Especially if you tell him exactly what your kids said to you and what they told you about how hurt they were and of course if any of them shed tears (including yourself) include that in the letter. Brian will never be able to better himself if he doesn't know what he did to funk up!! Good luck Cindy! I hope you are feeling better soon HoneY!! :)

[WebLady]

... my trust in him is tainted as well. We do need to talk about this, but for right now he cant see anyone elses view but his own.
H3ll we were more of a family last year when we just dating than we are this year when we are actually supposed to be one.

I'd tell him this too, put it in a letter and talk to him about it. Don't let the issue go unresolved too long (even if he doesn't see the problem right now) If he won't talk to you, then ask him "Is this how our marriage is going to be" DH and I had an argument about my mom right before we got married. He wanted me to sort of disown her. (We'd had sort of a blow out and I know DH wanted to keep her from bothering me anymore) He was so adamant that she wasn't going to mess with our lives anymore that he wouldn't listen to my side.

Anyway, I really do hope all this works out for you!

[CindySue]

Well I did speak with him earlier and I think he is going to call later tonight. I told him that we were more of a family last year than this year. I told him that I understand that he wants to spend time with Keilee. I want to spend some time with her too. I just didnt understand that he was going to take a whole month off from us. He said that we could make plans this weekend, I told him I already had plans of sorts. I told him what we were doing, and he just said that sounded like fun. The really deep stuff will have to wait.

[WebLady]

Well good luck with the 'deep stuff' hun :hug:

[countrygirl]

Hey Cindy, how are things this morning? Are they any better?

[Valmai]

Sorry ur going thru this Cindy the trouble is as all us mums know anyone hurt our children and the gloves come out and all rationality goes outta the window. I think u acted perfectly well by doing what u did - good on yah!! Im sure it made him think a lot more than if u had just sat at home and sulked, he also needs to realise that maybe keilee would like to spend time with u all(would he be jealous of that fact maybe?) hope it works out for u all xxx

[CindySue]

Hey Cindy, how are things this morning? Are they any better?
Well my head hurts and my eyes are swollen from crying so much last night but I think we had a good talk. We talked last night from 11:30 until 3:30. I am soooo tired, but also relieved in so many ways. I dont know if he actually heard what I needed him to hear but he pretended like he did so its all good. :) Actually I told him point blank everything. I started it with "my feelings may not make sense to you but they are MY feelings." He didnt like me crying as hard as I did a couple of times, because he wasnt there with me. Hell I didnt like it either, but I guess all that stress all bottled up just came rushing out. He comes home this afternoon and has asked that I be there. I guess we will see what happens.

he also needs to realise that maybe keilee would like to spend time with u all(would he be jealous of that fact maybe?) hope it works out for u all xxx
I actually said that to him. That he didnt want to share her. I reminded him that is was so important to him that we get along and bond, and I told him I havent had a chance to do that because he wont share. :D Must have hit a nerve. because he did a bit of stammering on that one, but i dont think he realized what he was doing. Maybe he does now. We will see.
I know he knew we wanted to spend time with them, I dont think he realized that we were wanting to spend time with Keilee, not take him away from her.

We do realize that we handled this situation all wrong. I gave him alone time when she first got down here, he wasnt expecting it then, he was going to do that during his vacation. He said he thought we were doing stuff this weekend and next as a family (the plans we had made). Im NOT changing the plans I made for this weekend. My kids are looking forward to this, and well I didnt know that he didnt have plans...

[countrygirl]

Well I am glad that you were able to talk to him Cindy. I am sure that it was worth being tired this morn. I know it would have been for me. I know that you are truely happy w Brian, I can tell by the way you talk about him. I really hope that this blows over soon. I am sure that he has some adjusting to do as a groom, as we do as brides (to be). I know that sometimes I forget that about Josh.

Good luck to you Cindy. Remeber that we are here for you.

LOVE YA BABE!!!

[bnd94]

I'm happy to hear that you two had a talk. I hope things are better when he comes home this afternoon!!:hug:

[CindySue]

I'm happy to hear that you two had a talk. I hope things are better when he comes home this afternoon!!:hug:
We will see. Im putting the ball in his court but Im not going to take any crud......

[SunnyAB]

I hope you dont mind a comment from a somewhat 'newbie' to this site and your thread - just something to think about. I can imagine how you felt - and how your kids felt as well, and I know you have their welfare as your top priority, (a mother bear with cubs - meant in the MOST flattering and sweet way). But it 'appears' your DH is really trying to fix things - and makes things better. Of course you know him best - so here comes the some things to think about. This is a new situation for him as well, and he is probably not sure what he's supposed to do - regarding, he and Keilee, you and he and your kids, and all of you together - and unfortunately, he chose the wrong thing - which he seems to have acknowledged, which at least, is good. About this weekend - can he and Keilee be included? I might be just interpretting this wrong, but are you excluding them - just to give him a taste of his own medicine? (re: swimming with your kids only) Thats not to say he didnt deserve that treatment - but aren't Keilee AND your kids feeling the tension and discord too? I can somewhat relate to how you must feel, you DONT want to repeat the past and especially the pain you and your kids experienced, so its VERY easy to fall back and put up walls - and just want to close him out completely. (Its very hard to for you to get all the details and 'atmosphere' by just typing things in a post, so please forgive me if I am not getting it completely) but he does seem to be trying - could you or did you invite them along for the weekend? And just a general suggestion - could you all go to family counselling? Thats NOT to say there is anything wrong with your family, its not really to 'fix' anything, but it cant be easy combining everyone - and maybe they can give you some tips and advice and information about things that could happen, and how to avoid the problem areas. There must be SO many adjustments, maybe they can make them easier for all of you, and avoid this type of thing in the future. I really hope things work out for you - and the rest of the summer is SUPER for all of you!

[CindySue]

Sunny, thanks for responding and I do understand what you are saying. I know he is trying. He really is trying to understand why I was hurt and why the kids got hurt. He realizes we had a whole lot of miscommunication.
As far as this weekend......its not that they arent invited. We are going to a rodeo. We talked about doing the new water park close by, but I think we have decided against that. They DONT do rodeos. Me and my kids have grown up around tham and we love them. If he did go, he wouldnt have fun and that would ruin it for me. He knows about it and hasnt said anything about wanting to be included.
The swimming we did the other night, they werent home. I didnt have a clue when they would be. Monday nights the pool is open from 4-10 and its only $1 to get in. Cheap fun. I came home around 7:30 to pack a picnic and they had just gotten home. He said the reason he was irritated was because he pulled up and didnt know where I was. He found the note I left but said that I should have called his cell. I told him I did send him a text......he looked in his inbox and it was still there, hadnt been read. He had to apologize for that one. We realize that we have been feeding off each others moods. He backs off, I back off....he sees Ive backed off so he backs off more, I see hes back off more so i do too........vicious cycle!!!!!!!
I do understand that hes having problems trying to make it work with everybody. It worked great the 1st week and a half, its only been the last few days that its not working...........
Weve talked about the problems we are having, maybe we can get back on track soon.......

[countrygirl]

Chin up Cindy, all will work out.

[SunnyAB]

I'm sure you WILL be back on track soon! Take care.

[CindySue]

I'm sure you WILL be back on track soon! Take care.
Thank!!!! :D

[WebLady]

Glad to hear you guys had a talk. I am sure it will all work out. Best to you!

[Valmai]

At least he has asked you to be there when he comes home, which is a start so at least some of what u said must have gotten thru - good luck i shall be thinking of u! xxx

[CindySue]

Ok...an update since hes been home:
We talked last night, but not a whole lot because I REALLY felt like crud and wasnt up to anything that was going to make me have to think. We have decided that all this cr@p boils down to some serious miscommunication. We werent talking to each other so we didnt know what the other was really wanting.....we just assumed.
Well he also said that he was a little standoffish towards the kids because he was worried about how Keilee was going to handle it. Apparently she asked him why he was acting that way. They had a long talk about it and she hasnt had a problem with anything. He has apologized to the kids (in his own way) and things are a LOT better there.
He wants us all to take the boat out Saturday as a family. Well my plans had just gotten pushed off till Sunday anyway. I made a deal with him. I want to see how things are for the next couple of days and if we are not fighting, then we will go. I will still take mine and do our thing on Sunday.
He has spent the morning hanging out with my crew. Keilee is enjoying the break from him I think!!!
Im still a little skittish, but he understands that and we are taking it one day at a time.
Thanks for all of yalls advice and for just listening. Yall are all the greatest!!!!!

[bnd94]

That is so good to hear Cindy!:D

[hummingbird521]

Glad to know you two are working it out. I have been wondering about you.

[brewsells]

Cindy, I am glad to hear that you two were able to talk and he is understanding. I think you should still keep your plans with your crew but I think it would also be a good idea to go out on the boat Saturday. Again, I am glad things are looking up.

[cowboysbride]

That hot shot came in handy didn't it:p !

Glad to know you guys are communicating! It'll all work out!

[AngelinLove]

I am glad things seem to be going better and that you have started to communicte about the problem and your feelings. I hope that things continue to improve and that the rest of the summer goes great!!!

[CindySue]

That hot shot came in handy didn't it:p !

Glad to know you guys are communicating! It'll all work out!

Shhhhhh!!!!! You wasnt supposed to tell.......

Actually I was talking to Brian on the phone when I read that and busted out laughing.:bblol: I then had to explain to him what was so d@mn funny. :bbeek: Of course he had a come back but I cant repeat what he said. :bbredface:

[mariaandmanish]

Miscommunication is a terrible thing, and usually the cause of most problems. I am glad, CindySue that you're working it out. Combining two families is never easy, and it's definitely a mark in his favor that he realized he was wrong, and is trying to fix it.

[countrygirl]

Hey Cindy, I am so glad that you two are doing better now. I was really worried about you. I know how much you love him, you know that the feeling is mutual there. I hope I was able to help in some way.

I hope everything goes well for you this weekend.