Children Giving their blessing?

[Myakatt]

I have no family still living. This seems to concern my DF. So I came up with an idea to fill that aspect but I'm not sure if it is offensive or not.. So let me run it by you guys. He has two boys ages 9 and 11 and I am mom. Bio mom is out of the picture.. So I thought it would be nice to have the boys on the invitations something sort of like this.

Christian and Arron would like to cordially invite you to the wedding of their Father Kevin to Kristina.. and so on and so forth.. Then in place of one of my family members giving me away.. Having the boys stand up to offer their blessing for us to be married. "who offers their blessing for this couple to be wed?" Kinda thing..

I think it is a good way to include the children seeing as this effects them for rest of their lives too..

Is this tacky or in poor taste?

[gwenshack]

I think it's cute, so long as the kids are comfortable with it.

[Myakatt]

LOL! The kids are just fine with it.. they've been begging for us to get married for 2 years now.. Daddy when are you and mom gonna get married! Hey dad wouldn't that be a pretty dress on mom! Mom when you get married can I wear a suit!.. You know subtle hints that only children can give! :)

[dearmissie]

If the kid are fine with it I think it's a great idea!! It's great when melting to families together that the kids get some sort of recognition in the wedding. Because it's not just two adults getting married. It's also marrying into their lives as well. When one of my girlfriend's Mom got married many many years ago, when her Mom and Step Dad went up to get get blessed, she went up there with them and was included in the blessing and parts of the ceremony. It helped a lot with the transition and made her a little closer to him (they were never close.) I say go for it!!

[melissa1031]

I think thats a great idea.I'm doing it also.My father is deceased.So my son(who will be 10 at time of wedding) will give me away.Except he doesn't want to wear a suit,he wants to wear jeans and t-shirt.

[Myakatt]

I think thats a great idea.I'm doing it also.My father is deceased.So my son(who will be 10 at time of wedding) will give me away.Except he doesn't want to wear a suit,he wants to wear jeans and t-shirt.

LOL.. my oldest is that way.. but we have compromised.. Slacks, dress shirt and tie.. for the wedding.. and a change of clothes for the reception.. He said.. "yeah.. I guess that will work" .. the youngest is dead set on wearing a white tux.. (yeah.. umm.. no! ;).. lol)

[jennybaby]

I totally agree. It's a wonderful idea! I believe it's important for the boys to be involved because they are such a big part of the family.

Have you seen some of the ideas for Family Medallions often given to the children in a second marriage? It's a wonderful way to include them in the ceremony as well and so many ways to do it. If it's something that appeals to you, just google it. I've seen it done and let me tell you... it's a beautiful gesture!

[Invitations4LessJoyce]

I've seen the type of wording you are suggesting, and I've also seen something like:

Kristina (last name, if you want more formal)
and
Keven (see note above)
along with
children's names
invite you to share in their joy
at a
Marriage and Joining Ceremony
...

I think it's a lovely idea to involve the children in the ceremony as jennybaby suggested above. The Family Medallions are very pretty and meaningful:
http://www.familymedallion.com/

There are also some invitation designs available that reflect the fact that families are joining together.
Anything you do to involve the children shows that they are an important part of your lives and they'll really appreciate that.

[RosieAngel]

I love this idea! :heart: I'm sure it would make the children feel special and important.

[The Proper Wedding]

I also think it's a great idea. My cousin got married over the summer. It was her second marriage, and she had a little girl. She along with another little girl were flower girls, except the daughter was dressed just like her mom, like a little bride. And during the ceremony, my cousin's husband "married" her daughter to. He made vows to her, but instead of vows for being a husband, they were vows for always being there as a father. I wasn't there, but my family told me about it, and I thought it was so cute! So whatever you want to do to include the boys would be nice! :)

[WebLady]

Yeah I think it is fine to include the children ... but also, you shouldn't feel like you have to have more than just your own names on the invite; there is nothing wrong with "Kristina and Kevin invite you" ;)

All the best :flower:

[RevMatty]

That is not to bad of an idea. Or there is another option, of having the whole congregation bestowing their blessing on your marriage.
Minister could say something like.... To all gathered here today, will you bestow your blessing upon so and so. Will you pray that they will remember their vows. Etc. Etc.

Plus there is other options to adding kids to the ceremony. One is in the sand ceremony. Be more then glad to PM you them.