Upset for no good reason?

[Jenn060306]

When it came to Mark and my wedding. An old family friend who we haven't seen in a couple years and weren't really planning on inviting to the wedding called up my MiL and went on a whole rant about our wedding being on the same day they were to receive an award out of town. They weren't mad. But disapointed they wouldn't be able to come (Even though they hadn't received an invite yet). There was even some comments about not going to receive the award so they could attend the wedding insted. My MiL told me this and Mark and i decided to send them an invite even though we knew they wouldn't be able to come.

Well now they have gotten married. When i found out when it was i started watching the mail thinking we would be invited. Maybe i was a bit presumsuous in thinking that.... but considering the things said before our wedding i didn't think it was wrong of me. So my MiL and SFiL and both my SiL's were invited. Mark's older sister was only invited after they asked her husband to play music at the ceramony. But still they got invited. Mark and I were never invited.

Yesterday was the wedding so some of our family members were talking about it today at brunch. I felt like i wanted to cry. I can't belive how hurt i am feeling that we were never invited. They invited everyone eles in our family BUT us. It seems so weird and kinda rude. my BiL was going on about how small everything was and that they had to keep their numbers down because money is tight and such. That's totally cool.... But what makes people think that Mark and i had the money to invite everyone and their dog to the wedding?!

Am i being stupid about this all and getting upset over nothing? Or are my feelings justifable?! I asked Mark his thoughts and he thinks it was not nice and he told me he was bothered by us not being invited as well. I just can't help but wonder if i'm just being pety.

[AngelinLove]

I feel that you are justified in being upset. I mean they expected to be invited to your wedding, but did not invite you to theirs. The only thing I can think is that they somehow knew you weren't planning on inviting them, so they did as payback. I don't know...but I would suggest letting it go. I mean you have enough to worry about right now anyways, so who needs to worry about going to a wedding and spending the money involved in that...for people you didn't even want to invite to your wedding anyways!!!

[WhiskeyGirl]

I agree with Angel. Right now Jenn is not the time to really worry about those people. You need to try and keep yourself as little stressed out as possible, though I agree that I would have been hurt too. In the future though, you'll know that they aren't good people adn you won't go out of your way to do anything nice for them or invite them to anything. I know it's a crappy feeling, but just try to let it go. If you Inlaws talk about it, politely excuse yourself from the conversation!! :) Take care Hun!!

[Jenn060306]

Thanks Angel and Shawna. I'm think knowing that i am not totally un-reasonable makes me feel better about it. I know it's really not worth worrying about. What's done is done.
I won't see anyone from our family until the end of the month anyways so i don't think i need to worry to much about them talking about it. My MiL knows that we are hurt about not being invited. So i'm sure she will respect our feelings and not bring it up.
Thanks Againg :)

[WhiskeyGirl]

I can totally understand how you would be hurt!! Like I said, but yeah, concentrate on you and Mark and your health Hun!! :)