Need some advice mamas

[hisfuturewifey]

My son is only 19 mths old. Im guessing he's just going through a phase right now but its a phase that is hurting me. He likes to constantly hit people and kick people, and also he likes to throw things at people. He especially likes to hit me. How can I get him to stop hitting, kicking and throwing things? and how can I get him to especially stop doing those things to me? It makes me sad that he would do those things and he doesnt even want me to hold him anymore he just constantly wants daddy. I miss my baby boy wanting his mommy. :( Any advice?

[ikkin510]

It is exactly that, a stage. A hard one at that to see your little boy not wanting to be with you.
My son is 21 months old and started the hitting a few months ago. Thankfuly it hasn't been a big issue. He only really does it with me or my DH and he thinks it's funny. For us, we stop him immediately, by grabbing is arm and say no. Then telling him how sad it makes us and we make sure we look sad. The first time or two he laughed but the consistancy helped. He has been much the last few weeks.
As for him not wanting to let you hold him, I can't help much there. My son has always been a cuddler. But I hope the phase passes quickly and you get your little boy back!

[FFC]

I'm sorry to hear your baby is going through this stage.

Are there surroundings that can be initiating this stage in him? Maybe tv shows or specific toys that show/encourage this type of behavior?

Like Nikki said, I'm pretty sure this is just a stage. I hope it blows over quickly for you!

[melissa1031]

The other lasies are right it's just a stage.It'll pass.Telling him no,that that isn't the nice thing to do is the right thing for you to do.

As for wanting his daddy more then you.Does he spend more of his time with you?I mean while dad works.Sometimes when a baby spends more of their time with 1 parent(lets say mom),then when the other parent is around(dad).the baby will rather be with the dad.In thats realy just because they miss the parent that they spend the less time with.

I'm a stay at home mom.When my 3 1/2 year old was smaller she would prefer to be with her dad when he wasn't working.I didn't let it bother me to much I knew she just missed him.Now she won't let him do anything for her.Babies go through all kinds of phases this 1 will pass soon.

[hisfuturewifey]

Yeah, since Daddy is an EMT he sees me everyday but even when Daddy is at work and its just me he just seems soo hateful. I hope it is just all a stage and it ends soon.

[LuLu86]

my step son (whom ive raised) started this just now and hes 4. So what i do is tell him that his behavior is ugly and rude. But a thing that works is spacing urself from him. like ill go get my nails done after work n karson is left there with dad. he snapped outta it then. when he's used to u being there all the time then when ur not he'll realize it.

PS. u could always use a lil 'me time' in these tough situations anyways. :yesnod:

[Nekochanpurr]

Just make sure you are consistent when you are disciplining him. He'll get it. :) Thats just an age where they don't understand what they are doing is wrong and actually hurting someone..

[SkippyNXC]

consistency is KEY but don't ignore it... if it doesn't get address at this age it will become more and more difficult to be changing his behaviors later on in life...

[hisfuturewifey]

Thanks ladies for the awesome advice!!! As you can tell this is my first kid and any advice that I can find is awesome!

[Brian's Bride]

Is it too soon for time-outs on the naughty rug/step/chair? One minute per year, so I guess you'd put him in timeout for a minute. That's what I've seen work on Supernanny and it worked when my son was a toddler! Just need to keep placing the child on the spot and if they get up, just put him right back on it until they spend the total amount of time on it.

[hisfuturewifey]

Is it too soon for time-outs on the naughty rug/step/chair? One minute per year, so I guess you'd put him in timeout for a minute. That's what I've seen work on Supernanny and it worked when my son was a toddler! Just need to keep placing the child on the spot and if they get up, just put him right back on it until they spend the total amount of time on it.


We started doing time out a few months ago and he's slowly getting the hang of it. He knows that he is supposed to sit there but he still likes to get up and move around and try to find something to play with. So I have to sit him down in his time out spot again and tell him that mommy put him in time out for (i name the reason) and he is supposed to sit there til mommy tells him to get back up. everytime he moves and gets up I restart his time.