stealing my thunder

[LuLu86]

ok DH, stepson and I went to DH's sister and BIL house this past wknd. So somehow at dinner we get on the topic of DH and I TTC. So bro n sis in law ask well when are yawl gunna start? When i tell her the end of dec, she blurts out ha! we're gunna start in March! Our baby will be MIL's 3rd grandbaby all from DH, but my first baby. It made me feel like my baby wouldnt get the attention he/she should get as a new baby. Is this wrong of me? If we get preg when we want our baby will be born in oct and theirs will be born 2 months later.

[FFC]

I understand exactly how you feel. I've got the same fear with my mom because she burnt herself out with her first two grandbabies that I'm worried she's not going to be as excited for me (as her only biological daughter) as she was for my brother and my sister (adopted). I don't think it's wrong of you. Then again - consider that it's not likely either of you will get preggers right away. Maybe if you're lucky you'll get preggers right away and they'll take awhile.... Kinda wrong to think of it like that but hey - they don't gotta know ;)

[Danielle9608]

I understand you wanting your baby to have the full attention that he or she deserves but I don't think because there will be another baby in the family that he/she wont get the attention. I am sure there is plenty of people between your two families to dote over your child. Also just because you start in December and BIL/SIL start in March doesn't guarantee that you children will be 2 months apart. Getting pregnant usually doesn't happen on the first try, I have been trying for almost a year. Good luck to you.

[LuLu86]

thanks justina. now i dont feel quite so evil! lol but yawl are both right i doubt either one of us will get preg right when we want...

[FFC]

I even talked to my mom about it. I told her I really hoped she wouldn't burn herself out to not be excited for me when I have a baby. LOL.... we'll see how well that talk went when we do finally get :bfp:

[gwenshack]

I think that it'll be ok. Timing is everything and you don't know that either of you will get a BFP right away. I would just concentrate on your own baby making and enjoy the process! Your baby will be loved and doted on regardless of how many other babies there are in the world! :)

[amisteratwisterandme]

I have to agree with Gwen. There are lots of babies in my family, and I find that the capacity to love each of them is just there. I love them all the same. My grandparents have over 30+ grand kids, but not once did they make us feel that we weren't as special or loved because of the others. As a matter of fact, they had a knack for making us all feel special.

[LuLu86]

I even talked to my mom about it. I told her I really hoped she wouldn't burn herself out to not be excited for me when I have a baby. LOL.... we'll see how well that talk went when we do finally get :bfp:

thats kinda how i feel about DH's mom. both grandkids moms did DH wrong so she is kinda burnt on having a grandkid then having it taken away

[melissa1031]

I know how you feel.With me it was my sister.I found out I was pregnant with #3,she kept going on and on about how 2 was enough for her.At the time we both had 2 girls.When she found out I was having a boy.She was mad.2 months after I gave birth she found out she was pregnant.I think she got pregnant on purpose,to try for a boy(she got a boy).She didn't want my son to be the only grandson.

She's like that with everything though.She has to be 1 up on every body.But I just ignore it.

Your baby will be special and well loved.I wouldn't worry about what she said.