Young RB and FG?

[asm198]

If you had them in your wedding, how old were your ring bearer and flower girl? And how young is too young? We have asked for his niece and nephew to be in our wedding. However, they are pretty young and will be 3 at the time of the wedding (they're twins).

Everyone in the family keeps making hints that they don't know if that will be a good idea, because they are so young and may not make it down the aisle. I've tried to assure everyone that I'm totally ok with that. I completely understand that they will only be 3 years old when we get married and might be shy or scared or not want to walk. And that's ok with me. I still want them to be in a position of honor in the wedding.

However, now I'm kind of thinking that it might be hard on the kids or their parents and that this might be their gentle way of saying they don't really want them to participate, but didn't feel like they could say no.

So, do you think that they are too young to be in the wedding?

[MOB Karen]

Both our flower girl and our ring bearer are 3-years old. I don't think that is too young, I have seen them much younger. They will be adorable at 3. The fun of it is waiting to see what they will do next. :D

[sarahomalley]

Mine were both a bit over 2. Everything turned out great!!

[rainbowtreat]

my flower girl was 6 and her brother our ring bearer was only 2 1/2 and they both did great, he walked in on his own during the wedding ceremony and went the short way to his dad who was a grooms man but he was so cute, and when we were announced in he held his sisters hand and they walked all the way in together, he did a great job, he ran around during the ceremony but family looked after him, he is a wild one but he did great

[Crystal05]

Mine were 8, but I recently went to a wedding where the FG was 1 1/2 and she did fine!

[Jenn060306]

My FG was 6 and My RB was 2 1/2. Morgan (6) was fine. She was super exsited about it all. Owen (21/2) was as well. But when it came to the actual day at the church he was getting nervous and a little upset because everyone kept making a big deal about how cute he looked in his tux. He was going to walk with Morgan. Then decided he wanted to stay with Daddy. Once everyone stopped talking about it all he was totally cool and him and Morgan made it down the isle perfectly. They got out on time and walked didn't run.

I think the key with have 2 little ones in that role is being VERY flexible. If you can have someone they are comfortable with or a parent at the end of the isle so they can simply go to them would help. But also be able to say its ok if they want to walk with someone they know or come in with the groom and groomsmen because they are feeling shy.

[Kacie_bride]

Mine are a bit older. I have 2 fg and 2 rg. The two FG will be 7 and 8 and the two RG will be 5 and 6. I have seen weddings with younger ones and they have done fine. They usually just do not stand up there the whole time.

[WhiskeyGirl]

My advice to you would be to pick a second flower girl that the younger FG and RB will look up to and will feel comfortable with. They will be more likely to follow her lead instead of getting stage fright and bolting!! good luck!! :)

[asm198]

Good advice everyone! I feel much more confident in this decision!

Canadianbride, I had thought about that, but the next youngest person that will definitely be coming is 21. Oh, well. I have no problem with them walking with one of their parents if needed.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Good advice everyone! I feel much more confident in this decision!

Canadianbride, I had thought about that, but the next youngest person that will definitely be coming is 21. Oh, well. I have no problem with them walking with one of their parents if needed.

Have you thought about just having them go with a bridesmaid then? And having her bouqet waiting for her at the front. She could drop them off with a parent at the front! Just a suggestion!! :)

[asm198]

Good idea! It's definitely something I'll keep in mind!

[LaceyinPgh]

My flower girls were 6 and 3. They both did fine. The 3 year old did better than the 6 year old in fact. But, it depends on the kid. You know their personalities. If they are an out going, friendly kid who isn't shy or withdrawn, they will be fine. However, if they are clingy, fussy, and don't like strangers, you might want to rethink your choice.

If you go with them, do what I did. I got them friendly with several bridesmaids who weren't their mother. At the rehearsal I just kept telling them again and again, "After Mommy walks up the aisle, I'll tell you when to go and you walk up the aisle. Then you go stand by Miss Jennie and Miss Kelly. When the wedding is all over Miss Kelly will tell you when to leave." I just kept repeating it over and over again to them that way they knew that they could count on other people and wouldn't have to try to remember it all. I got them on good terms with my two sisters in law, Jen and Kel and the girls were fine taking their cues from them.

[cowboysbride]

Our FG is 5 and our ring bearers are 7 and 4.

[mlm063007]

My FH has a niece & nephew that are twins also, they will only be 2 at the time of the wedding but I really want to have them walk down. We will probably have another FG & RB so they wont be as nervous.

[nikkiana]

My flowergirls are 4 and 8, so I'm not so worried about them.... However, my ringbearers will be a month shy of 2 (they're twins as well) when they go down the aisle. I'm personaly not too terribly worried if they walk or not... They're of that age where they'll do what they want to do. They're father's the best man so they'll be someone up front they know and will likely run to go see. :)

[ladymelissa]

Our FG was 4 and our RB was 7 and they were fantastic.

[BriansBride07]

Our FG will be 2 and our RB will be 2 also if they seem to be a little nervous before we start my MOH is willing to walk them down the aisle with her.

[cowboysbride]

Hunter is 7 and Logan is 4, Sydney is 5 (in background) (RB, RB, FG)

They did PERFECTLY.......Eric almost cried when he saw his nephews come down the aisle!

http://i59.photobucket.com/albums/g287/cowboysbride/hunterandlogan.jpg

[countrygirl]

OUr RB will be 6 and 9, and our FG will be 6, 7, and 7. I think those are pretty good ages.