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Goders
10-03-2009, 04:47 AM
I figured I'd start a baby journal. I've heard so many women say that pregnancies fly by, even though it may not feel like it, so I think, by starting a baby journal I can track and even go back and see all that I was going through for nostalgic purposes later on, especially since we plan on having more than one child. I love comparing and contrasting past experiences.

I'll start from before we knew. We were not actively TTC, however, having a baby has been a subject that's come up for years now. We both want children, so though the pregnancy was a surprise and shock, we're both more than happy.

I thought everything was normal, I'm really irregular when it comes to AF. Sometimes it's more than two weeks late for me, but I've always been that way. Before we got married, I was a lot more concerned about being pregnant, since my family is rather traditional and though they would never hold it against us or the baby, they like to see everything go in order, get married, buy a house, have children.

Unfortunately, we don't have our own house, but the apartment we live in is owned by DH's uncle, he even lowered the rent for us by $125 per month when he found out I was pregnant.

When AF was late this time, I wasn't too worried. We've had scares in the past, but whenever I took a hpt, it came back negative and I'd get me period within a couple of days. With the wedding being just a month before, us moving, and a couple of small problems that popped up during the month, I figured I was just stressed, and still out of whack from the wedding. I had a hpt from the last scare, and decided I would take it the next morning, just so I could get AF to come. My breasts were extremely sore (as per usual when AF comes around), and I had some strange almost cramping pains I've gotten before, but not regularly. I also had a pretty bad cold at the time, so I didn't think anything weird was going on.

Well, the next day (can't really say morning since it was 3pm, LOL) I took the hpt. Almost instantly it came back positive. I definitely wasn't expecting that! I spent about 5 minutes pacing between the kitchen and bathroom until I finally woke up DH and putting the test right in his face.

Now, DH has ALWAYS joked with my MIL about how I was pregnant when I wasn't, so she told us the day of the wedding she wouldn't believe I was pregnant unless I showed her the test to prove it, which I had no problem doing. However, with the time between taking the test, pacing around the house for a couple of minutes, and showing DH, the results started to fade, but we got the test to her in time to see the positive.

She was super excited for us, especially since it's her first grandchild, but she wanted us to make sure, and to get another hpt (this time an EPT, not a cheapo wal-mart knock off) before telling too many people. DH's grandmother was there, and she was excited, though with her already having 21 grandchildren and great-grandchildren, the excitement wasn't as much as it was with my MIL, which I can understand, however, she is very happy since we live two houses down and across the street from her, so she will have unlimited baby access.

The next morning I took the EPT test and confirmed the first hpt. We took the second test down to MIL and she was extremely excited. I called my family to let them know. DH has a huge family, so though everyone was excited, with the exception of my MIL, my family was more excited, since it's smaller. For both my parents, our baby will be the first blood related grandchild (my step-brother on my dad's side had a baby earlier this year, but my dad wasn't really as excited about it as he is our baby since it's going to actually be his grandchild), and my mother has been bugging us since Feb. about when we were going to be making her a grandmother.

My grandmother on my father's side is a great-grandmother by marriage, but this being her first great-grandchild by blood was extremely exciting for her. She's just worried that with the baby I won't go back to school, however, me and DH have talked about this, and with online schooling after we have the baby, I'm going to be going to school while taking care of domestic affairs.

All in all, both families have shown us nothing but support since we found out. I made a confirmation pregnancy test with a local women's clinic and found out I was pregnant and got the confirming letter to take to my first appointment. The place I went to was Women to Women, I'm not sure if it's national or not, but let me tell you, I would take them any day over Planned Parenthood. The women there were so nice and helpful. They suggested I take over the counter prenatal vitamins, since we weren't actively TTC, I never even thought to take them beforehand.

The doctor there gave me a couple of local places to call to make my first prenatal appointment, and answered all 438502845 questions I had for her.

I tried calling the one place the doctor most recommended to me yesterday, but I called too late, and they're closed for the weekend so I'll have to call back on Monday.

This is all so surreal to me. I never expected this to happen, which I think makes it all the more better and exciting for us. My MIL's friend just had a baby last year, and the baby has already grown out of a lot of her baby stuff, so we'll have everything but a crib for our new bundle of joy.

I don't think the whole pregnancy thing has sunk in yet. It's almost all I think about, but I don't think it'll hit me totally until I see the first ultrasound and heartbeat.

I have been lucky so far and haven't had a sign of morning sickness, knock on wood, and I haven't been overly emotional, other than crying a lot easier over sentimental stuff, which has been a surprise since normally when I PMS, my emotions go all sorts of crazy, however, I'm not complaining and I am once again, knocking on wood.

I'm a little worried that time is going to go by super slow, but I was already told by my MIL that if it does, savor it because after 9 months of pregnancy, time flies by faster than I will want it to. I just can't wait to see my baby's face and hold it in my arms!

gwenshack
10-03-2009, 12:19 PM
Glad you started a journal! :heart: The OW baby boom continues!

ikkin510
10-03-2009, 01:12 PM
COngratulations on your pregnancy! I can't wait to hear more about it.
My experience with my first pregnancy 2 years ago was it went really slow. This time around now that I'm chasing a toddler it is flying past.

BTW, I just noticed you are from Wilkes-Barre. I'm about 30 minutes north of there!

Qtpie
10-03-2009, 02:24 PM
Congratulations on your BFP. These next few months will go by super slow, but once you hit the second trimester it will fly by. Heres to a healthy nine months ahead. :confetti:

Danielle9608
10-04-2009, 06:08 PM
Congrats on your pregnancy! I look forward to hearing more about your journey.

Heywie
10-05-2009, 01:59 PM
Welcome to the :BFP: club! Sounds like you've had a fun baby experience so far! Here's hoping the MS stays away and you continue to have a happy and healthy pregnancy!

uptowngirl
10-05-2009, 02:57 PM
How exciting!! Congratulations!

I don't know from experience, but I imagine waiting for baby can be like waiting for a wedding day - time ALWAYS goes much too slowly!

Brian's Bride
10-05-2009, 03:02 PM
Congratulations! That's awesome that you started a journal!

Goders
10-05-2009, 04:55 PM
Thank you all!

So today I called and made my appointment. It's going to be October 27. I wish it was sooner, but I had a choice of either this appointment, or wait until after the new year, and frankly, I'm WAAAAY too impatient to even think of waiting that long, lol.

NOTKT
10-05-2009, 05:31 PM
Congrats on the pregnancy! I look forward to hearing your progress!

Nekochanpurr
10-07-2009, 02:39 AM
Aww!! Congrats!! I love the baby boom going on around here. :D

Goders
10-08-2009, 07:51 PM
Here goes a long and pretty sad/upsetting update.

On Tuesday morning I started spotting, which for me, no matter how much I read online or was told by others not to worry, I of course, worried. We called the OB/Gyn office we have the appointment with, they told us unless I start getting pain or cramps with the bleeding, or if it feels like I'm having contractions, then we should worry and go to the hospital.

Well, for the rest of the day, the bleeding subsided and everything was going fine until about 9:30 p.m. DH works nightshift, so he was getting ready to go to work when the spotting started, along with a stabbing like pain in my abdomen. He took me to see my MIL, she told us we should go to the hospital. We went with MIL and BIL in-tow.

We get to the ER at 10, and they checked my bp, heart rate, took a urine and blood sample. The waiting room was packed. We were talking to one family who was there for close to 9 hours already.

Finally, after six and a half hours they have a room open for me. They wouldn't let DH back with me right away, and I had more blood work to do (did I mention I HATE needles and need someone to keep my attention or else I freak out?) and they wanted to do an ultrasound. So I wait for an hour in the room. The doctor finally comes in and tells me since it's still early in the pregnancy, I'll probably need an internal since the baby's probably still too small to see.

I really wanted DH to be able to be there for the ultrasound, but they still said no. As expected, they couldn't see anything, so the doctor said DH could finally come back and see me, and we'd have to wait for the internal. By this time, it was already 6 by the time they got DH in my room. He was freaking out pretty badly at that point.

7 rolls around and they let my MIL and BIL back with me, and my MIL started screaming at nurses because they wouldn't tell us anything. The doctor comes in, and he told us we had to wait for an ultrasound technician, which the earliest they could call was 7, but an elderly lady needed to get one done first, as it was a life or death situation.

The doctor was really nice, and he had a great sense of humor, so he was able to put us all at ease. He told me my pregnancy hormones were a little higher than he'd like, but the ob/gyn would know better. By that point, my MIL and BIL were falling asleep in the room, so DH took them home. Within 10 minutes after he got back, they took us back for the internal ultrasound. They had DH stay in the ultrasound waiting room, and they did the internals.

We wait back in the room until about 9 when a new doctor comes in and tells me they couldn't see anything on the internal. He then proceeded to tell me that the best case scenario would be that I had a miscarriage, and the worst case scenario would be that I'm having an ectopic pregnancy. Immediately I started crying and freaking out. The new doctor left without saying anything and avoided us like the plague.

Around 10, a nurse came in and took me down for another ultrasound, this time telling DH he couldn't even wait in the ultrasound waiting room! I was still crying and the ultrasound tech was trying to cheer me up. She told me an ob/gyn would be coming in to talk to us as soon as they could get to the hospital.

They took me back to the room with DH, and we watched tv until the ob/gyn got there around 12:30. He apologized for being so late, but he had an emergency surgery he got called in to. He was honestly the nicest and most awesome gynecologist I've ever met. He did a pelvic and uterus exam and told me I seemed 100% healthy.

We told him what the other doctor told us, and he started freaking out. He said not to listen to him. He asked about the pain I had, and said since it wasn't cramps or contractions, we probably had nothing to worry about. He said my hormone levels were a little higher than he expected them to be at 7 to 7 and a half weeks. He did say I was still at risk of a miscarriage, especially being in a stressful environment like the hospital, but it was much more likely that everything was fine.

He said I had a very small risk of an ectopic pregnancy, however, he wants us to come in on Friday to do some more blood work and see if my hormones doubled, in which case the pregnancy was fine. He did say since both our families have had twins in the past, it was a possibility that we might be having twins. He said so even if I do have a miscarriage before Friday, to still come in for the blood work, because you never know.

It was 1pm by the time the gynecologist left, and the nurse said we'd be discharged soon. By 1:30, DH was freaking out, went out the car and slept for a bit. At 2, a nurse finally came in with my discharge paperwork. She told me the doctor ordered me on bed rest until Friday, and I wasn't allowed to do more than walk to and from the bathroom, eat, and change the channel on tv.

We got home and passed out. Last night I started feeling like I had indigestion, I figured it was from the onion rings I ate and thought nothing of it. Then about half an hour later, I think I had a miscarriage. Me and DH had hope that everything would be fine (and to a point, still do), but we were also expecting the worst.

We had a long talk about things, and even though the pregnancy was unplanned, what we want most right now is to be parents. We decided if the worst happens, we're going to try again the end of Winter/the beginning of Spring.

I'm really hoping that tomorrow when we go for the blood work, they tell us everything is fine. But I'm not really expecting that. We have our fingers crossed for the best though.

Next time though, we're not going to tell anybody (except you ladies of course!) until the second trimester. I just can't believe all this is happening right now. :bbconfused:

Nekochanpurr
10-08-2009, 09:40 PM
Oh goodness.. ::Hugs.. LOTS OF HUGS:: Honey, you don't know how hard i will be praying for you.

Qtpie
10-08-2009, 09:50 PM
Oh honey, I hope everything is ok. I am so sorry you had to go through so much stress at the hospital. You and your hubby will be in my thoughts. Good Luck tomorrow.

kgvettegirl
10-08-2009, 09:52 PM
Hang in there I will be praying for you and the little one. I had 3 miscarriages so if you need someone to talk to, I'm here to listen.

NOTKT
10-08-2009, 09:52 PM
:( I really hope everything is ok.

Brian's Bride
10-08-2009, 10:30 PM
Hoping for the best possible news tomorrow!

Heywie
10-09-2009, 10:37 AM
((HUGS))

I'm so sorry you're going through this! Let us know what the doctor says today. You'll be in my thoughts!!!

savepaws
10-09-2009, 01:18 PM
Oh I'm so sorry you are going through this. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I am praying for good news for you today.

jessicermoon
10-09-2009, 01:49 PM
Oh no. I am so sorry that you are going through these things. I really hope you get some good news today.

uptowngirl
10-09-2009, 01:57 PM
Oh no...I am so sorry! I hope you can rest and take care of yourself.:hearts:

Goders
10-10-2009, 09:13 PM
Our worst fears came true, we lost the baby.

DH and I have talked a lot over the past couple of days. We expected the bad news, but to hear it was more awful than expected. My HGC count went from 1800 on Wednesday, to 300 yesterday.

We want to try again. We're thinking of either April or May to start TTC. This time, we're going to try to do everything right.

Once I get a job (I'm hopefully going to be getting my old job at a ski resort back), we're going to be able to start eating healthier. I'm going to cut out my morning coffee (I was told 3 4oz cups a day are okay, but I'm not even going to attempt it).

We're both really upset, but we've also been trying to see the good. Now we're going to be able to save longer, we're going to be able finish remodeling, and this time, we'll be able to tell our baby that they were planned and not just an "oops!".

We never really realized how much we fell in love with the idea of being parents. Even though the pregnancy hadn't quite kicked in all the way, the idea of being called "Mommy" and "daddy" really excited us.

I'm trying to decide whether or not I should retire this journal for now, but I may just turn it into a food journal until we're actively TTC.

Thank you ladies for all your support and prayers, DH and I really appreciate it.

Nekochanpurr
10-10-2009, 09:21 PM
::hug:: i will be praying for you guys.