When to tell family?

[Danielle9608]

Haley's when to tell work thread got me wondering about this, but I didn't want to hijack so I started a new thread. When do/did you tell your family? Did you only tell your immediate family or the whole family. Just curious.

[FFC]

If we get pregnant before Christmas or Thanksgiving - I want to tell our families at one of the gatherings. However, if we get pregnant afterwards, we'll probably tell our family by hosting a party at our place - like a BBQ or something, then tell them that way - most likely within the first month or so of finding out cuz I can't keep that a secret - no way Jose!

[savepaws]

DH thinks we should wait until I get through the first trimester before we tell anyone, even family. That is going to be HARD to keep it a secret that long! I guess he just worries that if I have a miscarriage, then we'll have to go and tell everyone about that. I personally wouldn't care if our parents and siblings knew. If (God forbid) I did have a miscarriage, I think it'd be nice to have people who care about us for support. So basically I guess DH and I will figure it out when the time comes since we have different opinions about it right now.

[Danielle9608]

I wanted to wait till I have my first ultrasound picture, but depending on how the doctor is that could be a while. My RE isn't shy about giving me ultrasounds at all but that isn't how will be taking care of me once I get pregnant.

[gwenshack]

Most of my friends who've gotten pregnant hypothesized beforehand that they'd wait a while before telling people...

And then the majority of them got the :bfp: and started making phone calls while still gripping and gawking at the test. ;)

[Danielle9608]

Most of my friends who've gotten pregnant hypothesized beforehand that they'd wait a while before telling people...

And then the majority of them got the :bfp: and started making phone calls while still gripping and gawking at the test. ;)

LOL you crack me up Gwen! :rofl:

[FutureKelley]

My husband started calling everyone the minute he found out, lol.

[ikkin510]

When I was pregnant with my son, we waiting until after my first appointment (at 9 weeks) to tell immediate family. We told everyone else around 14 weeks or so.
This time around I told 2 friend (one being Amanda...LOL) the day after I found out. Then we started tell family and everyone else around 7 weeks or so.

[Dani]

After i took the hpt test, and told Doug I called my parents. I told my dad to get mom on the phone too..he said your pregnant aren't you. He said it about 3 times before he would put her on the phone, then I told them together. I could hear my moms jaw hit the floor....I think she thought me being 36 she was just going to accept having my dogs as grandkids.

Then when Dougs parents came out a few days later, on his birthday..he said did you tell them? His mom said tell me what? That she's pregnant? She looked at me to see if he was joking....then the family phone calls were made. However, our 92 year old grandma thought we were having puppies...then it dawned on her that it was me that was having a baby and asked how many I was having. (She's hard of hearing so you can only imagine this phone call).

[Heywie]

My husband started calling everyone the minute he found out, lol.

Mine too! He couldn't keep his mouth shut! He tells strangers! I still haven't told some of my closest friends and I personally haven't told extended family, but with my family, I'm sure they all know!

Kev had me calling my mom about 5 minutes after we took the first test. Then he called his mom. Once we had confirmed with more tests the next day, I called my gramma and my uncle and he called his grandma and his aunt. We let them break the news to everyone else.

I, too, wanted to wait until we had an ultrasound picture to share, but that would not have flown with my mom! My brother waited and she was so bummed he waited 8 weeks to tell her! Also, I've been so sick lately, sometimes I just need to call my mommy!

[Mrs.Goff]

DH and I have already starting talking about this. We've decided that we'd wait until at least 8 weeks (he wants 12 weeks) to tell everyone. However I told him that I'd have to tell someone earlier so he said that I could tell my best friend (MOH) and of course you ladies. :D

That being said I know it's going to be really hard not to tell people. I'll probably bug him night and day until he let's me tell everyone. haha

[ChibiAiChan]

when i eventually ttc i will probably wait until the first trimester... except Stacy will know (of course) and you girls =) I will have to let *someone* know!

[susanwild]

"I've always told right away. But everyone is different. For me, I would want my family, friends there for me if something happened.

[WBandMe]

I wouldn't tell until after the first trimester, for a couple of reasons. First, if something were to happen, I wouldn't want to have to tell everyone and have them trying to make me feel better and, in doing so, rub it in even more to me. Also, we have to tell my parents and his parents around the same time... so even though I'd be comfortable with my mom knowing earlier, I wouldn't want my in-laws to know at that point. Plus whenever our mothers find out the news is going to fly through the families at the speed of light... and I'd kind of like to have the first trimester to enjoy it, just me and DH, our special little secret.

Although, I can't keep secrets, so I'm sure I will find *someone* I just have to tell!

[dizy1j62881]

I think we'll tell DH family first probably like right away, we are both very afraid because of everything thats happened...My parents well really they can wait some....my sisters on the other hand I will probably have both on phone while doing the hpt...thats how it happened last time...lol. Its hard because we have alot of people that want it like now or last 7 months, but in long run I know everyone will be excited for us. I know if I even think I am you ladies here will know before i test because you've all been really supportive!!!!!!!!! :hearts:

[Goin2thechapel]

Most of my friends who've gotten pregnant hypothesized beforehand that they'd wait a while before telling people...

And then the majority of them got the :bfp: and started making phone calls while still gripping and gawking at the test. ;)

This was me!!! LOL I had all of these plans and ideas....Big mouth couldn't keep her trap shut! LOL

[Nekochanpurr]

when i eventually ttc i will probably wait until the first trimester... except Stacy will know (of course) and you girls =) I will have to let *someone* know!

Dude, my 'twin sense' will be tingling. LOL

No, seriously. I say i would do the same, but i know i won't be able to keep my fat mouth shut. haha. Hopefully it doesn't happen for a while, though.