Ceremony type

[Kacie_bride]

Religous or civil ceremony and why?

Mine is a religous ceremony because I am religous. We are having a Lutheran wedding. I was baptized into the Lutheran church as an infant, confirmed at 13, and I am still a member of the Lutheran church. I plan to always be that way. Justin was a Baptist, but since has converted to a Lutheran. I probably could not have married anyone who was not atleast willing to have a Lutheran wedding and have our children raised Lutheran.

I wish our wedding could be in the church, but our church is to small. However, the church is coming to us in a sense! Our old pastor is doing the ceremony and we are inviting all the congregation!

[Kacie_bride]

I just wanted to add, in case any feathers get ruffled, that I do not have anything against anyone who is not Lutheran. It kinda seems by reading my post that I only like Lutheran people. It is just important to me to have my wedding this way and to have my family raised in the Lutheran church. None of my BM are Lutheran nor are any of the GM. I even have an athiest friend. Get what I mean?

[nikkiana]

I'm undecided.... I'm open to either or.... It basically is going to depend on whether we have a JP or a minister when we finally find someone to officiate.

[Jenn060306]

We had a religous wedding. It was in the Catholic Church because Mark is Catholic. I am United. He really felt that it was important to him that it be in the church. We had the chapplin from Mark's high school preformed the Ceramony and it was great!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Religious.

Our faith is very important to us & is something we share.
We feel very blessed & thankful to have found each other again and we have no doubt that God played a part.
Our minister is a very dear friend of ours and we wouldn't consider having a wedding without him. In fact, if he was unavailable when we wanted to get married, we would have changed our date.
Our readers are a married couple who also happen to be ministers and who are also very dear friends.

Our service is going to follow something similar to a regular Sunday order or service - hymns, communion, readings, silent time etc.

I was going to ask having communion as part of our service (not usually part of a Protestant wedding) when our minister beat us to it and asked us if Hugh and I would like to serve it. He will serve the wine since I will be wearing a "purty" dress LOL

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

Its a religious ceremony for us! We feel that its really important for us to have a traditional religious ceremony.

[WebLady]

Technically we had a civil ceremony since it wasn't in a church (we got married in our living room) We still had our faith represented :)

[Kacie_bride]

Religious.

Our faith is very important to us & is something we share.
We feel very blessed & thankful to have found each other again and we have no doubt that God played a part.
Our minister is a very dear friend of ours and we wouldn't consider having a wedding without him. In fact, if he was unavailable when we wanted to get married, we would have changed our date.
Our readers are a married couple who also happen to be ministers and who are also very dear friends.

Our service is going to follow something similar to a regular Sunday order or service - hymns, communion, readings, silent time etc.

I was going to ask having communion as part of our service (not usually part of a Protestant wedding) when our minister beat us to it and asked us if Hugh and I would like to serve it. He will serve the wine since I will be wearing a "purty" dress LOL

Our pastor asked if wanted to do communion. I decided against it because none of our friends are Lutheran (I mean non-church friends) and my dad's side of the family are all very strict Baptist. It would look pretty weird to only have my immediate family and my mom's side of the family take communion.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Our pastor asked if wanted to do communion. I decided against it because none of our friends are Lutheran (I mean non-church friends) and my dad's side of the family are all very strict Baptist. It would look pretty weird to only have my immediate family and my mom's side of the family take communion.

I would say that most of our friends and some of our family are Catholic. That said, Derek is very good at making people feel at ease about taking it or not. Everyone is invited but it's their choice whether or not they want to receive it.

For something so "ceremonial" & meaningful, it is done pretty casually in our church. Derek affectionately refers to it as the "rip and dip" LOL (communion by tincture - dipping a piece of bread into a chalice of wine)

[katieandalex]

Ours is a civil ceremony...we are getting married by the JOP at a non-denominational chapel on the university campus. The most religious our ceremony gets is having 1 Bible reading.

[cowboysbride]

Ours is a religious cereomony...Eric and I both are Church of Christ and the minister that is performing the ceremony is a very close friend of the family. He and his wife and children have been a part of Eric's family since before Eric was even born.

[LaceyinPgh]

I gave into having a religious ceremony to appease my grandmother. I got married in the Nazarene Church although I haven't attended it since I was about 4. Sean was raised Catholic but I refused to have a Catholic wedding for personal reasons. The minister we used is my cousin. I met with him several times and felt that his socila views were a close enough match to mine that I wouldn't be totally uncomfortable allowing him to officiate the ceremony. I also only allowed for an opening prayer at the begining of the ceremony. Other than that it was just a basic ceremony that wasn't religious in nature. In the end I regret my choice. It was the only thing that I did for someone aside from Sean and I when planning the wedding because I thought my grandmother and I were close. She and the rest of my family on her side ended up not even showing up at the wedding (with the exception of 2 cousins who were bridesmaids, they showed up, walked down the aisle, stood there, walked back up the aisle, and left). This was because I didn't allow children at my reception or ceremony.

I would have been much happier with a civil ceremony. This is probably the biggest regrett of my wedding.

[SerendipityCrafts]

(with the exception of 2 cousins who were bridesmaids, they showed up, walked down the aisle, stood there, walked back up the aisle, and left). This was because I didn't allow children at my reception or ceremony.

Wow ... it's amazing at how petty some people can be!

[LaceyinPgh]

Wow ... it's amazing at how petty some people can be!
I'm more mad at myself. I have dealt with them for 27 years and should have anticipated something like this. The whole lot of them are a$$holes.

[cowboysbride]

I'm more mad at myself. I have dealt with them for 27 years and should have anticipated something like this. The whole lot of them are a$$holes.

Aww Lacey, there are always a few in every crowd...I'm just happy that you morphed into the LACEY we all know and love and not like the people that made you so unhappy! I look at some of my family and shudder...Mom says blood is thicker than water but I got mad once over some stupid family drama and told her I was having my blood changed, like an oil change...I KNOW it can be done!

[MOB Karen]

Aww Lacey, there are always a few in every crowd...I'm just happy that you morphed into the LACEY we all know and love and not like the people that made you so unhappy! I look at some of my family and shudder...Mom says blood is thicker than water but I got mad once over some stupid family drama and told her I was having my blood changed, like an oil change...I KNOW it can be done!


LOL!!! Good try, Ellen!!! :bblol:

[LaceyinPgh]

Aww Lacey, there are always a few in every crowd...I'm just happy that you morphed into the LACEY we all know and love and not like the people that made you so unhappy! I look at some of my family and shudder...Mom says blood is thicker than water but I got mad once over some stupid family drama and told her I was having my blood changed, like an oil change...I KNOW it can be done!

My mother and I would be right there at the Jiffy Lube with you!

I had a choice, I could be like them and live in my own self pity and misery. Or, I could enjoy the time I have on this earth and make the most out of it.

[cowboysbride]

My mother and I would be right there at the Jiffy Lube with you!

I had a choice, I could be like them and live in my own self pity and misery. Or, I could enjoy the time I have on this earth and make the most out of it.

EXACTLY! Here's to us and our wonderful lives!:cheers:

[LizabethDavis]

We are being married by a Notary Public so we will be having a civil ceremony. We were originally going to have a Catholic Ceremony, until we found out that Patrick was not baptised a Catholic as he had been led to believe all these years.

[HalloweenBride]

We are having a ceremony that is about love and trust, but not any specific religion, our officiant is helping us write it, she is a humanist celebrant.

[asm198]

We are having a civil ceremony. I'd like to get married by a judge or something, but haven't researched the legal aspects of that in our state yet.

[Crystal05]

We had a religious ceremony. That was both important to us.

[mariaandmanish]

Ours is religous. My fiance is of the Hindu faith and his family really wants as traditional a wedding as they can get with an American, christian background. We decided against doing the christian ceremony as well because it's too hectic to plan one, never mind two. After all the exhausting planning though, I almost wish we were having a simple civil ceremony!

[Trish]

I would like to have a civil ceremony in a chapel we found in Austin on the Wizard academy....a school for writers.

[KristyGirl]

We had a simple religious ceremony, although it wasn't exactly what I had wanted. I'm Catholic and would have loved to have gotten married in my church and had a full mass, but DH isn't Catholic and wasn't interested in jumping through all the hoops. It was alright though, the ceremony was still nice.

[ladymelissa]

I am not sure how to answer that. It was in a church but only b/c we liked the building, I am not much of an outdoor wedding person and didn't really want it in the reception room. So by process of elimination it ended up in a church.