Wedding/Marriage Survey

[WebLady]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
IDK, I just know :wub:

How long were you together before getting engaged?
about 5 yrs or so

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yep!

How did the proposal go?
We just sort of talked about it off and on for a while then one day decided to do it.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
No rings for us ;)

Who did you tell first?
I think my sister

What is/was the date of the wedding?
April 8th 2005

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Yes; we wanted to get married close to our dating anniversary which is April 11th

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I was 31

Small wedding or big?
Very small, in our living room ;)

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
No

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
We had a party at a bar and had bar food ... wings, chicken finger, cheese sticks, chips & salsa, and I think there was a carrot and celery tray too.

Photographer and/or videographer?
A friend took our pictures

Dancing?
None of that

Bouquet and Garter toss?
None of that either

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Only our parents were at the ceremony. Everyone that RSVP'd to the party came and no one crashed.

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We went on a cruise to Key West and Nassau

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We didn't register but got a few gifts and gift cards and a couple of checks from family

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We lived in a house together before we were married and still live there

Do you plan on having children; when?
We do not want kids; have fur-kids instead ;)

Do you both work?
Yes, but he makes more money

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
IDK, sometimes I wish we had done a little more and both of us worn something a little nicer, and had better pictures ... I would love to renew our vows on the beach one day.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Don't rush into getting married ... trust, respect and communication are big ... never stop dating or saying I Love You ... never take each other for granted ... live, love, laugh :)

[FIFI]

Wow beautiful answers very unique in your on way about renewing your vows on a cruise .A cruise would be a nice and cheap destination .

[WebLady]

Wow beautiful answers very unique in your on way about renewing your vows on a cruise .A cruise would be a nice and cheap destination .
Yeah, never said anything about renewing our vows on a cruise ... I said "I would love to renew our vows on the beach one day" ;)

[FFC]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
Who knows.... I got a warm feeling all over whenever our eyes met :wub:

How long were you together before getting engaged?
Um.... about a year and a half lol.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yess

How did the proposal go?
Walmart parking lot - in a hurry - he cried, I laughed :) It was so cute.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yessss!

Who did you tell first?
We didn't exactly tell her - but Sierra saw the ring and knew what it meant and she kept quiet until MIL figured it out. :)

What is/was the date of the wedding?
07.06.08

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Our original date didn't work, and we both love the 4th of July, so we figured that the 6th would be perfect.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I was 23

Small wedding or big?
Medium - about 130 guests

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Yes - it was all unique in it's own way, revolving around the 4x4/rock crawling theme

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
Pasta & 3 sauces, a huge salad bar, candy buffet, chocolate fountain, & rolls.

Photographer and/or videographer?
Photographer

Dancing?
Heck yeah!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Yeppers

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Yes and yes

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We went to Jamaica and we can't wait to go back!

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We got a bunch of $$ added onto our honeymoon registry - YAY!

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We bought a house right before our first anniversary

Do you plan on having children; when?
Yes and NOW dangit! :) TTC!!!

Do you both work?
Yes.... I bring home the meager dough because he pays child support & alimony

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I'd want my grandma and brother there (RIP)

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Have FUN at your wedding! Oh wait, tha'ts wedding advice lol. Marital advice: communicate communicate communicate!

[ksherlin]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
As weird as it sounds, I had been having dreams with this guy in them and I kept marrying the man and when I saw FH he matched the man in my dream. I didn't really think much about it until we started to get to know each other and I was crazy about him. I had never felt like that about any of my other boyfriends.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
almost 2 1/2 years

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yes. For a long time

How did the proposal go?
We were on vacation at the beach and he took me for a walk and popped the question in the sand.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yep. The exact one

Who did you tell first?
We ran onto my cousins on the way back and we told them first.

What is/was the date of the wedding?
July 16, 2011

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Well it will be 2 years and 1 day from our proposal date

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
18

Small wedding or big?
Big

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Just the traditional Christian wedding

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
We are doing finger foods.

Photographer and/or videographer?
Both but both are family friends

Dancing?
No

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Both

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
Yes. Florida Keys, then Orlando

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
Well I would rather pick it out myself but some people know more of what we need

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We are just starting to build a house

Do you plan on having children; when?
When I have a job and am stable

Do you both work?
Yes, but he is the main provider

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
IDK yet

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Ill let ya know when we are married!

[MrsDM]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
Shortly after we started dating, he put his arms around me and I had this complete feeling of safety.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
4 1/2 years

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yes

How did the proposal go?
We were on vacation getting ready to go swimming. He was procrastinating getting his trunks on, so I was getting mad. I looked beside him and he had a box. He got done on one knee and and asked me to be his wife!

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yes, and then some!

Who did you tell first?
My mom (who was in on it!)

What is/was the date of the wedding?
August 22, 2009

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
No, wanted a summer wedding and a date not near anything else. Turns out it was his great grandparents wedding anniversary.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
21

Small wedding or big?
Don't know what is considered small or big, but we had about 140 people.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
We had the unity candle ceremony.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
For cocktail hour there was a fruit/cheese display, shrimp cocktail display, and mini beef wellington and chicken with a yogurt sauce on a spool that were passed by butlers.

Dinner we offered ny strip steak, lemon chicken, or vegetarian cheese wellington.

We also had a late night snack station that had chicken fingers, mini sandwiches, chips, salsa and gardettos

Photographer and/or videographer?
3 Photographers and a friend videotaped the ceremony

Dancing?
Oh yeah! We danced all night!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Neither - instead did the anniversary dance.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Actually, no! Everyone that RSVP came (besides one couple that let us know about a week in advanced that they had a family emergency).

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We had what I called a "mini-moon". We went back up to the town where we got engaged for a few nights. We are planning on going on a nicer trip sometime in the winter/spring.

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We actually had about 50/50 which was a good balance of the two!

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We lived together for 3 years prior to getting married in a condo that DH owned, but bought a house together about 6 months prior to the wedding.

Do you plan on having children; when?
Yes, in about 3 years (so, 2012-ish)

Do you both work?
Yes

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I wish FIL didn't make his stupid speech.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
I'm joining the rest - communicate and always remember why it was you fell in love in the first place. Take time for the two of you and go on a "date" at least once every 2 months.

[gwenshack]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
Well it certainly wasn't a right away thing. I couldn't stand him at first. I really don't know how I knew he was "the one" - I think I just woke up one day and knew.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
Almost four years

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Absolutely

How did the proposal go?
It went well! He proposed on a dinner cruise of the Seine in Paris. It was very romantic, which is funny because we're NOT romantic people. We're both pretty goofy.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
I didn't even want one, but the one he got me is beautiful and I love it.

Who did you tell first?
We sent out a group e-mail to our parents, my grandfather, and my best friend

What is/was the date of the wedding?
March 21, 2009

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
It was DH's spring break and it was the only time we could get away for our Vegas wedding with any time to spare on either end of the day.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
31

Small wedding or big?
Small - about 50

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Nope

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
There was a crazy amount of all kinds of food. There was a meditteranean tapas station, a carving and potato station, a salad bar, and a sushi/sashimi bar. Way too much food.


Photographer and/or videographer?
We just had a pro photographer for the first 2 hours - after that it was up to drunks with disposable cameras. The hotel provided a videographer for the ceremony as well.

Dancing?
Sure, there was even a conga line...

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Nope.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
We had a guy RSVP two weeks before the wedding, saying he was coming, and we rearranged everything and paid more on the deposit to include him. And then he didn't show up. I was PO'ed. Also, my best friend's father got ill 2 days before and he and her mother stayed behind in San Francisco. They were very disappointed to miss it, and I was sad they weren't there, but I wouldn't have wanted him to risk his health and well being.

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We had a great belated trip to Key West.

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We didn't get many gifts, which was what we wanted.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
I own a condo that I cannot sell anytime soon in this economy. So, no house in our future, especially if we want to stay in Los Angeles. Although, if we win the lotto that I don't play, a house would be my first purchase. ;)

Do you plan on having children; when?
Dunno. I vote no. DH sort of wants them. The conversation is still in the air.

Do you both work?
Yes, sort of. DH is in law school, which is harder work than a job.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I wish DH's dumb friend hadn't called my brother a derogatory name. I also wish I had gotten to eat more! :bun:

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Be friends. Be civil with one another. Don't yell. Always talk it out, but wait until you both have time to talk - don't just barge in and expect your DH to attend to whatever is bothering you on the spot. Somtimes he's doing something!
Brush the stupid stuff off because in the long run it won't have mattered if he left his socks on the floor. Yeah, it's annoying, but if that's the worst thing he does to you then you have a lot to be grateful for. :flopsy:

[Tadswife]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
he had me at "hello" litteraly. We met throught the internet, so it worked out on our first chat

How long were you together before getting engaged?
about 5 months and 2 days

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
yes. He gave me a promise ring shortly after we met face to face.

How did the proposal go?
We went to a bed and breakfast, scattered purple rose petals all over the floor sat me down on the bed got on one knee and asked me to be his wife

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yes, even better then the one I picked out

Who did you tell first?
my room mate I was living with at the time

What is/was the date of the wedding?
May 13, 2006

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
We wanted it as close to the day we first cooresponded on the net, which was May 12, 2003

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
29

Small wedding or big?
don't know what you would classify 150 people as.. medium I guess..???

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
yes, we had a full cathlic mass so plenty of readings

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
We had carved ham and a buffet style dinner. We had pizza later in the night for those who got hungry later


Photographer and/or videographer?
photography
Dancing?
yes we did... even had the locomotion line going...:cool:

Bouquet and Garter toss?
both

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
oh yes, we had wedding crashers. They approached the bar and asked for drinks, the bartender didn't recognize them so he sent them looking for the bride. They went to the miniture bride (who was 11 at the time) and asked to buy her a drink???? :petrified:She then sent them to me...I kicked them out

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We went to Walt Disney World.. LOVED IT!! were going back in 2011 as a second honeymoon

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We got about 50/50

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We bought a town house condo about 3 months before our wedding

Do you plan on having children; when?
Nope..fur babies for us

Do you both work?
yes, but he brings home way more then I do...

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I would have had a differant DJ.. our sucked

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
three words.. LIVE, LAUGH and LOVE. You can't do enough of it.

[mitch]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
We met Online and found ourselves telling each other stuff no one else knows.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
Depends if you count the "Online" stuff. So over Seven Years.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
We both said we would never get Married again. (Both Divorced) But look at us now lol.

How did the proposal go?
I thought he was joking around. So after i stopped laughing and he got up off one knee he asked me again.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
I picked it.

Who did you tell first?
We were backstage at a friends gig so we told the band. Our friend was Witness at the Wedding. Next person was our friends Wife to ask if she will be the other Witness.

What is/was the date of the wedding?
October 11th 2008.

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
We had to wait to see what weekend for free for our Witness. (The Band gigged every weekend). The bookings flooded in so they cancelled a date so we could get Married. Turned out to be six years to the day since i first met DH face to face.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
We were both 39.

Small wedding or big?
Small Registry Office Wedding. Then Reception back home.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Nope.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
I did the catering myself. Just a finger buffet, cake etc. Our Guests are more a "Liquid Lunch" crowd.

Photographer and/or videographer?
Friends took photos.

Dancing?
A bit. But then the Accoustic Guitars came out and we all jammed to AC/DC.

Bouquet and Garter toss?
None.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
We had a 100% success rate. Everyone we invited turned up.

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We went to Port Merion in Wales. (Where "The Prisoner" was filmed)

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We didn't need anything. But a few sent vouchers for one store. So we pooled then together and got a Flat Screen TV.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We've just moved back to a house we left three years ago. Hope to buy it from the Landlord next year.

Do you plan on having children; when?
DH already has Four Daughters and a Grandson. I can't have kids of my own. So we have a Fur-Kid instead.

Do you both work?
Yes. But DH keeps telling me to quit my job. He says it's not worth the hassle.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I wish we had a Professional photographer. It would have been nice to have more photos with our Witnesses. They move to Australia on the 30th and it will never be the same without them.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Listen to each other. Learn from each other. Love each other. Don't take each other for granted. Don't assume and never say never.

[auctions]

Wow!! Beautiful answers...........

[ChristineLS]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
The feeling grew over time...

How long were you together before getting engaged?
Two and a half years.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Oh, absolutely! I study sociology, and one of my research areas is gender. Marriage does not always benefit the wife, according the research, so we talked a lot about what we wanted our marriage to look like in order to keep it equitable. I was not going to get married if it was going to be a "traditional" marriage, and we both have our professional hopes and dreams.

How did the proposal go?
What proposal? We were laying in bed talking about our future, the possibility of getting married, how we'd compromise on the future together (since once you're attached, you can't do everything you want without doing severe violence on your spouse's dreams) and decided to get married.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Initially I wanted a diamondless ring with both an aquamarine and an emerald (our two birthstones). We could not find a couple's ring like that that wasn't really ugly. So my husband surprised me with the ring I have, about six months into our engagement.

Who did you tell first?
We announced it to my family at Easter, then went to his parents and told them.

What is/was the date of the wedding?
August 16, 2009

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Yep. It was available! :P

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
We were both 23.

Small wedding or big?
71 people, pretty relaxed.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
My sister read a poem by James Kavanaugh and Will's brother read an Irish Blessing.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
My family and us self catered. Pulled pork, salad, pasta salad, salt potatoes and blueberries with creme fraise.

Photographer and/or videographer?
We had a friend take pictures, and he did a good job for never shooting a wedding before!

Dancing?
Not from us!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Not at all. I didn't use a bouquet.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Everyone who said they'd come, came.

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
Yep, Saranac Lake in the Adirondack Mountains.

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We were overwhelmed with everyone's generosity. We didn't register anywhere, and got overwhelmingly cards. BUT - those who gave us gifts, gave us really, really thoughtful ones!

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
Oh now why would we do something like that, do you think we're adults or something? :rofl: Nope - not on a graduate student's salary!

Do you plan on having children; when?
We're trying for a kitty ;)

Do you both work?
We are both funded graduate students. He's got an office assistantship, I've got a teaching assistantship and some additional funding.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
Fix the coffee! And that's it, really.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Well, in my seventeen days of marriage... Communicate! Always say what you're thinking and always listen to where they are coming from!

[WBandMe]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
When I couldn't think of anything more I'd want. We sync up perfectly on every level. Even the stuff we disagree on, just matches up somehow.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
just short of two years

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yeah, I'm sure we did, but there isn't one conversation that sticks out to me

How did the proposal go?
He took me to all of the same places we went the first night we went out... and then went to the "eternal flame" on our campus where the story goes that if you kiss under it while it's lit, you'll be together forever... then we went to the rooftop where we had our first kiss and he got down on one knee. It was so cold that we didn't stay there long, and when we got back to my apartment he had set up champagne and three dozen roses in my bedroom.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yes! He got the setting I had told him I liked, and he picked out the diamond himself and it was better than I could have imagined!

Who did you tell first?
I called my mom while we were walking from the roof to my place

What is/was the date of the wedding?
June 20, 2009

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Well, we chose the date because it was my grandparents' anniversary. Found out a couple months later that it's also DH's grandparents' anniversary! Then we knew it was ours :)

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I was 23

Small wedding or big?
medium, we ended up with about 80 people

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
we had a sand ceremony, and I studied english literature in college so my brother did a reading of one of Shakespeare's sonnets

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
There were appetizers, cocktail meatballs and stuff that I never saw... then a sit down dinner with salad and rolls, chicken piccata, wild rice, and for dessert each table got an assorted sweets tray plus wedding cake

Photographer and/or videographer?
We hired a photographer and my mom's friend taped it for us

Dancing?
Yeah, we did the first dance and then opened the floor

Bouquet and Garter toss?
we did the garter, and I presented my mom with my bouquet

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Yes and yes. But the people who didn't come were dealing with flooding in their homes from the horrible rainfall that destroyed my brother's car the night before!

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We went to Disney World and Vero Beach, FL

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
we ended up with about half and half... worked out nicely!

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
we rent a townhome now and are trying to decide whether to buy or rent again when the lease ends

Do you plan on having children; when?
Well, he plans on it, I'm not certain yet, but it won't be for several years either way

Do you both work?
He works, and I'm trying to find a job!

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I wouldn't change anything... I was pleased with the whole day.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Talk talk talk... but know when to give each other space too. Find an activity that you both enjoy because it's good to have something to do and look forward to together. Stay romantic... don't stop sending sweet texts or bringing home flowers or going on dates just because you're married now.

[sandy03]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
We shared goals and priorities for our lives, and we knew we wanted to experience those things together.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
A year

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Absolutely!

How did the proposal go?
He took me up to the statue on a mountain that overlooks the whole city where we went on our first date after a really nice dinner.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yes, we used my mom's ring because I liked it and it was already paid for!

Who did you tell first?
I called several of my friends, but I can't remember who was first

What is/was the date of the wedding?
May 23, 2009

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
A lot of reasons - it was after my graduation in another state, gave us enough time to go on our honeymoon before I had to start a new job, got my name changed before I got my newest professional credential, and was Memorial Day weekend so everyone had an extra day to travel!

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I was 23, He was 26.

Small wedding or big?
Big! 250-ish invited, I think about 175-200 came.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
My friend Khette did our scripture readings, and at the time when my mother would have been seated my brother carried in a bouquet of tulips and laid them in what would have been her seat.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
Heavy hors d'oeuvres from a local restaurant - chicken fingers, mini quiche, stuffed mushrooms, baked brie, lots of fresh fruit, and a crudite tray.

Photographer and/or videographer?
Theresa Burns was our photographer and she is FANTASTIC! We had a couple of friends video everything, but we can't edit it because of some format issues.

Dancing?
No

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Yes

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
No meal, No RSVPs

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
Yes, Atlanta, Savannah, and Tybee Island, GA

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We got mostly gifts.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
Well, we've been married 3 months and we're house-hunting, but probably won't actually buy one for several more months.

Do you plan on having children; when?
Absolutely, we will probably start trying in about three years.

Do you both work?
Yes. He is a designer/draftsman for an engineering company and teaches part-time at a community college. I pastor a church.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
Not try to do so much myself, requested a different coordinator from the church, or just eloped!

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Just remember that it's hard work sometimes, but it's totally worth it!

[starsthrumysoul]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
I don't think I can pinpoint any one thing, just the realization that I loved him more than anything else in this world and I knew he felt the same

How long were you together before getting engaged?
4 1/2 years

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
uh huh

How did the proposal go?
He put "will you marry me" written out in Christmas lights at his parents house. It was so goofy because I couldn't read what it said :-P

Did you get the ring you wanted?
He picked it out, and it is perfect!

Who did you tell first?
Well we were at his parents house, so they knew. I texted a picture of my ring to my parents.

What is/was the date of the wedding?
June 27, 2009

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Nope. It was the only day our venue had left for that year

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
25

Small wedding or big?
Medium - about 125 people

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
A friend of ours (a bm) got ordained and performed the ceremony. We designed the ceremony together. We had a reading from the Velveteen Rabbit that was really sweet.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
Appetizers were chicken on a stick, fruit, baked brie with raspberry sauce, and one other thing I can't remember. Dinner was a choice of chicken florentine, parmesan tilapia or filet with roasted potatoes, veggies, garlic breadsticks and caesar salad. We were supposed to have late-night muchies but our venue forgot to bring them out! (we got our money back)

Photographer and/or videographer?
Photographer, my cousin, who is a photo student.. He did SO well!

Dancing?
Uh huh, and lots of it :) We had a live band

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Both

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
We had 5 people RSVP but then not show. We got a card from 2

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
Nope, we bought our house instead!

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We got lots of both

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
Already did - closed the week of the wedding :)

Do you plan on having children; when?
Yep - as soon as we can

Do you both work?
DH got laid off the same week as the wedding. I work full-time as a substance abuse counselor

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
Our cake. Though it tasted great, it looked nothing like what we envisioned.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Communicate. And fighting is great, so long as it's productive.

[tiger_fan3034]

OK...My turn

How did you know that she/he was the one?
He is able to put up with my axiety issues and cranky-ness lol

How long were you together before getting engaged?
3 years and a few months

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
yup

How did the proposal go?
Wonderful, it was during the nighttime fireworks in the Magic Kingdom at Disney World...The only think that would have mad it better would have been if I hadn't had a feeling it was going to happen and it was a complete surprise

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yuppers

Who did you tell first?
I texted my best friend while FH was gettimg some food about 5 minutes after it happened (yea that boy will eat anytime lol), then we called our parents when we got back to the hotel (just imagine my phone bill that month lol)

What is/was the date of the wedding?
07.16.2011

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
We wanted the summer and because both of us plan on being teachers June was out, and thre is too much going on in August so we settled for mid-July

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I'll be 25, he'll be almost 28

Small wedding or big?
pretty big - we're capping the guest list at 200

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Not really, it will be pretty traditional in that respect

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
pasta, chicken, viel, veggies...lost of yummy german desserts (I'm of german descent and we're geting an awesome germal club in our area to host the reception)

Photographer and/or videographer?
Photographer

Dancing?
definately

Bouquet and Garter toss?
of course

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
i dunno yet lol, but probably

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
Yes, we're heading back to Disney World the Monday after the wedding, then we're heading somewhere more exotic sometime in March whe it's cold here lol)

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
either or, no preference

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We'll have an apparetment, but once FH finishes his masters and becomes an architect he'll be designing out dream house :)

Do you plan on having children; when?
definately, but not right away...hopefully after 2 or 3 years

Do you both work?
Yes

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
1. I would want my Grandma and Pepe there
2. I want it sooner lol

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Not married yet, but communication always seems to work well in relationships so I'll use that as my advice

[FutureMrsWilson]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
We were talking one night about what love really is - I've always thought it was as much a choice as anything else - and he said a few things and I just remember getting this "Oooooh no. I'm about to fall hard" feeling - aaand I ignored him for two days until I decided to just take the plunge. :P

How long were you together before getting engaged?
Well, that was in 2005. So, roughly four years. We were only official for a year and a half, though.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
We talked about it before we were official, just in general not with each other, and for the last year or so have talked more specifically about it.

How did the proposal go?
AMAZINGLY! He surprised me at Callaway Gardens with a proposal note in the Brochure!!

Did you get the ring you wanted?
I have never looked at rings, but his great-grandmother's is very special and more than I ever would have wanted.

Who did you tell first?
Aside from everyone in our families who all knew it, I texted my best friend and my fav. co-worker!

What is/was the date of the wedding?
Around March 27, 2011. The actual date is not set, but it will be March/April of 2011.

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Summer is out, because he is a golf course Super.
Fall is out because we are both HUGE football fans and hunters (and I still pick on my best friend for letting his wife talk him into getting married on opening day of dove season and the first weekend of NCAA football :P )
So, we settled for Spring, since I'm too cold-natured for winter!

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I'll be 25, he'll be 27.

Small wedding or big?
Our tentative list is around 110 right now. I don't know if thats big or small..

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Maybe a unity candle, and I want to write our own vows.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
We want BBQ-ish, very traditional southern.

Photographer and/or videographer?
I'd like both :D We are getting a cheap photog, friend of a friend, though so that opens up some dough.

Dancing?
Heck yes!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
It depends - I don't have very many single friends! But if several show up, definitely.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Don't know yet.

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
Yep. We want to go deep sea fishing, maybe in the Atlantic, but we are trying to start saving now for Australia!!

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We haven't even decided if we're registering anywhere yet. We go back and forth.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
He bought a house a week before graduating college. We currently live there and are enjoying fixing it up to our dream home. :)

Do you plan on having children; when?
Yes - and we don't know. I asked him that and his eyes got all bulgy - but he's already said he definitely wants one or two. I never thought I'd be a mom... Hm.

Do you both work?
Yep

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
Don't know yet!! OH! I would want an endless budget!! Haha

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Never go to bed angry.
Say I love you every morning and every night.
Never argue in the bedroom.

[Ninedays9]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
I think I always knew in the back of my mind... I could tell he was different from the other guys I'd dated or had interest in. I remember thinking before we started dating that if we did start dating, it'd be the relationship that "stuck" and I was trying to figure out if that was what I wanted... as it turns out, it most definitely was!

How long were you together before getting engaged?
a year and 5 months

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
yup

How did the proposal go?
It was lovely and in front of friends and siblings.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
yup, I picked it out :)

Who did you tell first?
I think it was my supervisor at work... I think I waited to tell family/friends because I wanted to act like the whole proposal was a surprise.

What is/was the date of the wedding?
July 25th, 2009.

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
He wanted 8/8, that didn't work for our venue... then we could have any date in July, and he liked the 25th the best. Soo, we went with that.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
25

Small wedding or big?
medium

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
sand ceremony

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
roast beef, mashed potatoes, corn, stuffing, cole slaw, rolls, cranberries (which I just remembered I didn't even try)

Photographer and/or videographer?
The minister's wife... they were advertisering on Onewed.

Dancing?
yup

Bouquet and Garter toss?
nope!

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
a few rsvp'ed that didn't come... and one that wasn't on the rsvp list

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We went to his family's lake place the day after

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
a mixture is good... we got way more cards. His family all decided to give cards because gifts were kind of a hassle to carry at the last family wedding.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
I wish!

Do you plan on having children; when?
in a couple years when I'm done with school though I have major baby fever now... it seems like so many people are pregnant or have just had babies.

Do you both work?
yup, though I would like to bump up to something full-time sometime in the near future... not sure how likely that is.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
The timing of when we all got to the ceremony spot... If we had all gotten there on time there would've been more pictures... It wasn't just us; the photographer was also late (she got lost). Other than that, it was better than we could've possibly hoped for.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Talk big decisions through together... try not to over-react to fights and arguments. Make time for the two of you to be alone together (dates or just hanging out).

[f77g4]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
We became each others best friend and we enjoy each others company. I couldn't picture my life without him.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
7.5 years

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
We did - and DH always said he never wanted to get married so that was usually the extent of the conversation. I always hoped he'd change his mind but I was happy with the life we had.

How did the proposal go?
At home on my 24th Birthday in our living room just the 2 of us.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
I never looked at e-rings and the one he picked out by himself was gorgeous and perfect.

Who did you tell first?
My parents (but my dad already knew).

What is/was the date of the wedding?
August 15, 2009.

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
June and July are too busy at work and we aren't suppose to take time off and my next course starts in September so August seemed like a good time. The specific date just seemed to work.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
Me - 25 and DH - 27

Small wedding or big?
I'd say Medium - 115 people.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Each of the parents did a scripture reading and we did a unity candle ceremony.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
Traditional turkey dinner - turkey, new potatoes, stuffing, mixed veggies. Started with rolls & a salad. Apple crumble for dessert. Also a candy bar and we had locally made chips on the tables for the dance.

Photographer and/or videographer?
Photographer was the same one that did my parents wedding and DH's parents wedding. My cousin (who is a journalism student) videotaped the ceremony and the speeches at the reception.

Dancing?
You know it!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Yes to both.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Yes - so annoying! We had several actually that said they were coming and didn't. All on DH's side! Right off the top of my head I can think of 6 that were complete no-shows and then we have a friend and his girlfriend that came to the ceremony but never showed to the reception. We had also paid for meals for the minister and my photographer's wife as he said she may come to help with all his equipment who never came to the reception.

We also had a couple of people at the dance who weren't invited. They didn't dance but were drinking. One of them we know, the other we didn't. The one we know even signed our guestbook. They knew the bartenders working and I think that is why they were there.

We also had several people not RSVP at all.

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We left the Monday after the wedding and went to Niagara Falls.

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
Either or worked for us as we did a registry. I'd say that we got a 50/50 mix of cash and gifts. Not very many giftcards. However, the majority of the gifts received were items not on our registry which is rather annoying!

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
Been living in ours since 2007.

Do you plan on having children; when?
Undecided but we love our furbaby.

Do you both work?
Yes - DH is in IT and I work for the government.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
DH's parents leaving when they did (@ 8:30) before our first dance, special dances, bouquet/garter toss and the cake cutting. As well as them not speaking to me the entire weekend. They also didn't attend our rehearsal dinner or the gift opening.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Take time for each other - your day can easily get away from you with so many other things going on. Remember why you guys are together. Never go to bed angry and always kiss each other goodnight.

[Docsgirl]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
I knew I wanted to be with him and no one else.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
First dated when we were 14, but weren't ever really "together" before the proposal. No titles or anything. Haha.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Not even close. We had a spontaneous proposal and marriage.

How did the proposal go?
He totally caught me off guard. My response was a shaky "...kay".

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Didn't have a ring for the first proposal, but he did propose a second time with a ring I could have only dreamed of. It's perfect for me.

Who did you tell first?
My best friend.

What is/was the date of the wedding?
We were officially married in a JOP service on July 29th, 2008. Our wedding was on May 30th, 2009.

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Nope. I let him choose, as long as we could get married back home.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
We were both 22.

Small wedding or big?
JOP service was just us, the magistrate, and our witnesses. Our wedding was pretty big with 200+ people.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Yes. We did the blessing of the hands. I love it.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
DH and I had lobster. :D Our guests got to choose from oven fried chicken with thyme pan jus or braised beef short ribs. Both with garlic mashed potatoes and beans as a side. Bread baskets and salads as appetizers and wedding cake for dessert.

Photographer and/or videographer?
2 photographers and DH's father, who in my opinion, should be a professional photographer. He took some amazing pictures.

Dancing?
Yep.

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Both.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
We had some people that RSVP'd and never showed, but we also had people bring dates that they didn't RSVP for, so it's a good thing we had extra food!

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
No. We're moving to Yokosuka, Japan in 4.5 months for 3 years, so we figure that can play out as an adventure for us.

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We got a lot of cards with cash in them. We really liked everything we got though. There wasn't a single thing we had to return. :D

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
No. DH is enlisted in the military and we have to move a lot. So no buying a house for a while, although we'll rent many. :)

Do you plan on having children; when?
Yes. In 5-7 years.

Do you both work?
Yes.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I wish both of our dads could have been there. RIP, we love you.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Love is a crazy, wonderful thing. It'll take work sometimes and be effortless other times. Always think about your spouse first if you want them to do the same for you. If you know you're wrong, apologize. It's a two way street, kids. ;) And always, always kiss each other before you go to sleep, unless you're apart. :D

[RosieAngel]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
After chatting on the telephone for 13 HOURS straight (we actually started our relationship long-distance). We forgot to eat and drink during those 13 hours and were both totally sick the next morning - I called him to complain! And then we spoke over breakfast... I think that call lasted nine hours!

How long were you together before getting engaged?
4.5 years.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Of course! This is a must!

How did the proposal go?
He quietly proposed to me the day before Thanksgiving, at the sand dunes across the street from our house that overlook the sea. It was perfect!

Did you get the ring you wanted?
No, but I loved what he picked out anyways!

Who did you tell first?
I tried to tell my Dad, but he was blabbing over me about my aunt's mashed potatoes. I think that my father-in-law was the first to actually pay attention?

What is/was the date of the wedding?
September 26, 2008

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
We just talked to our most important friends and family (many of whom were living in Europe), and chose a date that was good for them.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
25

Small wedding or big?
Small! We had 30 people in all.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
We had a non-traditional ceremony performed by a family friend who is a Sufi. The main readings were by Khalil Gibran.

A really creative idea we came up with was to offer the parents of our partner "gratitude gifts" as a way of thanks for doing such a great job raising him or her to be the one we love.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
Beverages:
Top-Shelf Open Bar

Hors D'oeuvres:
Bacon Wrapped Scallops with Plum Sauce
Arugula Gorgonzola Crostini
Prosciutto Wrapped Melon
Milk Chocolate Dipped Strawberries

Elegant Fruit and Frommage Display

Salad:
Mixed Green Salad with Two Dressings
Cucumber Bay Shrimp Salad

Entrees:
Gorgonzola Crusted Filet Mignon
Mahi-Mahi with Macadamia Nut Crust and Mango Beurre Blanc

Sides:
Goat Cheese and Fresh Herb Stuffed Potatoes
Fresh Asparagus and Baby Carrots

Dessert Display (it had adorable little tarts, petit-fours, and cookies)

For the Kids:
Chicken Strips/Fries for 3

Photographer and/or videographer?
We had a photographer, a really nice lady named Vanessa Stump. If you're getting married in Souther California, I highly recommend her!

We didn't have a videographer.

Dancing?
Yes!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Sort of? We had a bouquet toss, but there was only one single, heterosexual male guest at the wedding, so we sort of handed him the garter as a joke.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
One friend had her grandfather die the day before the wedding and called me up sobbing. The other was a friend's boyfriend... I still don't know why he couldn't make it.

On the other hand, we had a friend call the morning of the wedding and ask if she could come on such short notice, so one of the seats got filled!

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We actually waited six months to go on our Hawaiian honeymoon, because the wedding left us flat broke!

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
I couldn't care less. I just wanted my loved ones to be there. I... think we got an even mix? I really don't remember.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
He owned our condo long before he met me.

Do you plan on having children; when?
We're planning on having one... eventually.

Do you both work?
Not at the moment; but I'm a full-time student! As soon as I finish my education, that's the plan!

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
My hairstylist! All of our hairstyles fell apart shortly after the ceremony, so we all look terrible in the formals.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Communicate openly and lovingly. Discuss any issues that might arise in a constructive manner. Oh, and never forget to be affectionate with one another, no matter how long you've been married!

[*andrea*]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
I really just knew. We're perfect together. Our biggest strengths are our communication and trust--two things I couldn't go into a marriage without.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
about 2 and a half years

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Sure did.

How did the proposal go?
Long story but we were at home and it was so sweet!

Did you get the ring you wanted?
I didn't have a ring picked out--he surprised me! But I trusted his judgement on jewelry so I never really worried about showing him pictures.

Who did you tell first?
I called my parents first thing! Of course, they already knew! haha

What is/was the date of the wedding?
October 10, 2009---4 weeks from today!!

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Not really. We wanted fall and loved October so that pretty much settled it!

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I'll be 27

Small wedding or big?
Small-ish. I'd say 75 people tops.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Not necessarily but my brother will be singing a song. I'm so excited!

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
We're having St. Moritz Chicken, garlic mashed potatoes, long green beans, salad and rolls! Mmmm....getting hungry just thinking about it!

Photographer and/or videographer?
We'll have both

Dancing?
Oh yes! We have to since that's technically how we met!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Both--I'm so excited too--I got my St. Louis Cardinals garters in a couple of days ago!

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Not sure yet!

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We aren't going to go on our honeymoon until April or May of next year, but we are going to go somewhere for just a couple of days to relax after the wedding

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
Eh, I don't really care--anything is appreciated! But we've definitely gotten more gifts so far.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
Nah, we're going to keep renting just to make sure we'll be staying in this area for awhile before we buy

Do you plan on having children; when?
Probably not. We want lots of dogs though!

Do you both work?
Yes....we're hoping in the next few years that I won't have to--at least not full time. I don't think I could ever not do anything. I need a purpose!

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
Well I'm not sure yet, but hopefully there won't be anything to change!

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
hmm...I guess I don't have any yet since I'm not married! :)

[FutureMrs.Lestician87]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
When he got run over at the go kart track and it felt like my heart stopped and I was so scared.:hearts:

How long were you together before getting engaged?
3 months

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yea

How did the proposal go?
It was the day that I was finally moving in with him and when we got back to the house and finished unpacking all my stuff,he got down on one knee,opened the little heart shaped box and asked me to marry him and of course,I said yes :yesnod::hearts:

Did you get the ring you wanted?
It was WAY more than I expected

Who did you tell first?
My mom already knew along with one of my good friends from my old job.So,I told one of my best friends

What is/was the date of the wedding?
March 26, 2011

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Well we got together officially April 27.March is in spring and it's never too hot,(I hate the heat) and it's near our dating anniversary.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I'll be 23 and he'll be going on 24

Small wedding or big?
A nice sized.We're planning on about 80 max

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Yea

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
Buffet hopefully

Photographer and/or videographer?
I want a photographer

Dancing?
Yea

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Bouquet toss but no garter toss

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
I haven't sent the invitations out yet

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
I think we'll probably wait for a little while

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
Doesn't matter

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We rent a house next to his parents and we'll still live there after the wedding.Eventually,we want to get a place of our own

Do you plan on having children; when?
We both want kids.Probably a few years after we're married.Right now we have fur babies.We have a cat,a rabbit,and a hamster

Do you both work?
Yea.We both work for his dad but he makes WAY more than I do

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I haven't had my wedding yet

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Don't have any yet :)

[allielaurent]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
He would do anything in the world for me. And he doesn't just say that, he's proven it. I guess the first time I realized that he was the one, we were sitting across the room from each other, and I kept catching him staring at me and smiling. He still doesn't know that I saw. ;)

How long were you together before getting engaged?
We've been friends since elementary school.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
To a certain extent.

How did the proposal go?
It was a surprise. On the beach. I looked like a hot mess.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yes, and I can't believe he spent that much!!!! But I love it!

Who did you tell first?
My parents and my best friends.

What is/was the date of the wedding?
December 18, 2010

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Sort of. We wanted to spend our first Christmas together without having to worry about who's family gets us when. So we're leaving for our honeymoon right after the wedding so we can be alone.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
28.

Small wedding or big?
Our American wedding will have probably 100 people. Our Indian wedding will be massive. I'm nervous about that one.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Yes, at the Indian wedding. I'm still learning about those.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
Still working on this one...

Photographer and/or videographer?
Both. The guy who took my high school senior portraits is doing it.

Dancing?
Yes, lots!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
I don't think I'm going to do either of these.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Guess I'll find out!

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
Yes. Tahiti!!!

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
Either will be fine!

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We already have a house.

Do you plan on having children; when?
We want between three and five children. And hopefully soon after the wedding!

Do you both work?
We own several restaurants and hotels. And I am also a law clerk.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
N/A

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
I don't have any of this yet! ;)

[LuLu86]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
the first night i met him i had a bf and he didnt try to hit on me once. he was a gentlemen and very funny.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
bout 10 months

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
oh yes

How did the proposal go?
it was funny on new years eve

Did you get the ring you wanted?
yes i picked it out

Who did you tell first?
my friends, cuz they were there

What is/was the date of the wedding?
june 27th 2009 (parents 25th anniversary)

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
yes it was the 25th year of my parents being married

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
23

Small wedding or big?
in the middle

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
not really. there was a native american prayer.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
CRAWFISH!!!

Photographer and/or videographer?
photo

Dancing?
Yes, lots!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
both

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
yes

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
we went to broken bow, ok

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
gift cards and we got mostly those

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We already have a house.

Do you plan on having children; when?
we're tryin now

Do you both work?
yes. prison guard and a librarian

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
the temperature!

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
laugh as much as u can

[dodgercpkl]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
I just knew. He not only fit my dreams for what I had always said I'd like my future husband to be like, but he put a face to those dreams where there hadn't been one before! :)

How long were you together before getting engaged?
10 months

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yes, alot. We both knew in January that we were going to get married, so we had 8 months of talking before he actually proposed! :D

How did the proposal go?
Amazing! :) Because of a conversation we'd had the night before I didn't think he was ready to ask me, and to be fair, it wasn't something he'd planned. He didn't have a ring to give me and he didn't get down on one knee, but to me, it was everything I could have hoped for! :)

Did you get the ring you wanted?
I have a ring now and I love it! :) We both ended up picking it out together online and ordering it. :hearts:

Who did you tell first?
My mom and dad, a bunch of our friends, his parents (much later that night just because they were at a party).

What is/was the date of the wedding?
hehe... we still aren't sure! :) We are talking about Aug 27/28 but end up with an earlier or later date so the airline prices are better for his family to be here.

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
IF we go with the August 27/28 date it will be because it's midway between his and my birthdays (I'm Aug 21 and he's Sept 4). If we end up changing the dates, then it will likely just be whatever date works best for all involved. :P

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I'll be 34 or 35 depending and he'll be 28 or 29 depending

Small wedding or big?
Small! The wedding ceremony is family only (the only friends will be in the wedding party itself) and is about 20-25 total. The reception will be bigger but likely still around only 50 total.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Not sure yet. We are talking about having a friend of mine sing during a part of the wedding though.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
Buffet

Photographer and/or videographer?
Both but the videographer will only be there for the ceremony itself.

Dancing?
Yes but probably only his and my 1st dance and MAYBE the father/daughter and mother/son dances. Other then that we are planning for the music to be nice wedding and happy themed background music. :P

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Bouquet toss but no garter toss and the bouquet toss will probably be a newer twist - like a split bouquet with sayings on each flower stem or something like that.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
I haven't sent the invitations out yet

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
hehe because of our unusual situation (being that we are having a civil ceremony much earlier in the year and then the "official" wedding later) we are actually hoping to go on the honeymoon prior to the "official" wedding. We figure that we might as well go on the honeymoon while Anton is waiting for his work permit. :P

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
Prefer cards or money gifts because of limited to no storage space, but honestly, I just want to have our friends and family there to celebrate our day!

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We'll be living with my parents until we can save up money (and until he gets a work permit!) to move to our own place. With our thoughts that we MIGHT decide to have a child right away, we may end up staying for several years, but that gives us a build in babysitter, who's been just WAITING for me to have a child! :P

Do you plan on having children; when?
We both want to have at least one child together, and have been talking about trying right after our wedding.

Do you both work?
Yes for now we both work and eventually when he gets here and gets his work permit, we both will at that point too. We both plan on going back to school and when we do, we'll each also have a part time job so we can also be saving money for our future and the home we'd like and children etc. :P

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I haven't had my wedding yet

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
I'm not married yet, but communication is such an important thing. Also I would caution anyone out there that is waiting or hoping for a ring, to not pressure their partner for it. Anton and I had had many candid talks about marriage, but the most important one for me was when I told him that I wanted him to ask me ONLY when he was sure about it. I plan to live the rest of my life growing old with him and I don't ever want to feel like he asked me only because he thought he needed to or felt pressured into it. When he was ready and did ask, it made everything amazing! :hearts:

[bridesmaid101]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
We both just did.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
1 year, 2 months, but we both knew at 6 months

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yes

How did the proposal go?
Very romantic drive down the coast with various stops to places we'd been in the past...

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yes, we had gone ring shopping together beforehand :) (I knew it was coming!) :)

Who did you tell first?
my mom

What is/was the date of the wedding?
no official date set- I will work on this during my vacation but we are thinking July 2010

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
I REALLY wanted July 4th because I LOVE the holiday and firecrackers but his mom thought things would be more expensive on a holiday and that it might ruin people's usual plans so we are probably going with the following weekend....as long as I can have sparklers at the reception!! ;-)

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
28 or 29 (depending if we wait til the following summer)

Small wedding or big?
medium

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
tbd

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
?

Photographer and/or videographer?
photographer

Dancing?
Oh, there will be dancing!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Both!

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Not sure yet!

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
I don't think we'll be able to take a honeymoon but that's alright with us

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
it's the thought that counts :) we'll appreciate anything we get...it's more about the people who are there than anything!

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
renting

Do you plan on having children; when?
yes, he wants children in 2 years; me, more like 3-4 depending on our work situation

Do you both work?
I work f/t, he is in grad school f/t

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
not sure :)

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
hmm...I guess I don't have any yet since I'm not married! :)

[dearmissie]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
When I was really sick and he was taking care of me. I sat up in bed and had to threw up. He looked at me and saw it in my eyes I wouldn't make it to the bathroom so he rushed by my side and cupped his hands together and told me, "Go ahead, it's okay." I know it sounds nasty, but it was such a sweet gesture, and I give him kudos for not puking from the smell and touch of my throw up. I asked him why he didn't get sick from it and he said, "I was about to, but then I looked at you and realized what's there to get sick over?? It's you." :love:

How long were you together before getting engaged?
2 1/2 years.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yes.

How did the proposal go?
Wonderfully in Hawaii!!

Did you get the ring you wanted?
At first it was a "safe" ring because he wasn't sure what style I wanted. Later we went together to change it's setting and swap the stone out for a Princess instead. So yes, I got the ring of my dreams.

Who did you tell first?
My Mom!!

What is/was the date of the wedding?
July 1, 2011!!

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Yes, we didn't want just any convient Saturday. We chose our 6 year anniversary because 6 is his favorite number and my lucky number.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I'll be 23.

Small wedding or big?
On the smaller side, 100-125 guests.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
I don't think so.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
We having 7 hor dourves and a full buffet with 6-8 different salads, 4 sides and 6-8 meat selections.

Photographer and/or videographer?
Both.

Dancing?
Of course!!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Both!!

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Wedding hasn't came yet.

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We'll most likely go 2 days after.

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
I think we'll prefer wishing well cards once that's what many Asian guests give.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
As soon as possible!!

Do you plan on having children; when?
Yes we do. A year or two after marriage.

Do you both work?
Yes, and we both go to school!!

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
Have more money so I can go balls to the walls planning it. Haha!!

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Communication is the key. And with love, trust, patience, compromise, and understanding, you two can concur anything!!

[BlondeBride]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
That's hard to explain but I just did, he is my best friend and we share a connection I've never felt before. :hearts:

How long were you together before getting engaged?
About 4ish years

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Absolutely

How did the proposal go?
We had grilled out one night and were sitting at the table having steaks and a glass of wine. I had said I thought we should toast and so he made me go first. I gave my toast and he tried to give the same one and I told him no, then all of a sudden he was down on his knee with a ring! I was in such shock my words were "get up get up" LOL It wasn't registering with me what was happening. He still gives me grief to this day because I'm very traditional in I had always told him he better get on his knee and then when he did my response was "get up get up" LOL (To my defense I was in shock and thought something was wrong. Anyways, it was very intimate to us, which is what meant the most to me!

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yes he couldn't have picked it out any better to fit me!

Who did you tell first?
My Mom

What is/was the date of the wedding?
April 10th, 2010

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
We got engaged May 2009 and wanted a decent length engagement to plan and get money together, but also I turn 30 in June 2010 and wanted to be married before then. haha

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I will be 29.

Small wedding or big?
Fairly small and intimate. We invited about 50 people and are expecting 15-20.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Possibly, have not decided 100% yet. I am leaning towards a poem reading.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
We are having a group dining at a fancy Russian Restuarant. It will be beef.

Photographer and/or videographer?
We have that as part of our package.

Dancing?
None at the wedding, but may go out afterwards!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Nope not planning on it.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
We haven't had it yet, so can't answer.

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We are having our wedding in Vegas and are staying the 7 days after there as well.

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
Either is fine; we did register.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
Yes together within the 1st 2 years of marriage. He owns his own house now and I rent a condo. He's selling and moving in with me and we are buying together.

Do you plan on having children; when?
I think so, a couple years after our wedding. This idea keeps growing on me.

Do you both work?
Yes we do.. I do HR and he has his own automotive business.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
Nothing, because I'm planning things just the way we want them. :yesnod:

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
I'm not married yet so I'm not sure I can give any advice. One thing I have learned through being engaged is that your wedding is only about you and your FH. You can't make everyone happy, but you can make you and your FH happy. Also to just enjoy each other! :hearts:

[hsteward90]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
I could tell he wasnt just a normal guy, he treated me like a princess and puts up with me :)

How long were you together before getting engaged?
3yrs

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
yes

How did the proposal go?
We were talking about it for awhile then on my birthday he told me he didnt get me anything and waited until we were fixing to go to bed and said well, there was something i got you and he did it :)

Did you get the ring you wanted?
I never really picked out the ring I wanted but the one I have now is beautiful :)

Who did you tell first?
my sister

What is/was the date of the wedding?
August 21, 2010

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
its our 4 yrs together

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
19

Small wedding or big?
it'll be about 150 people

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
idk yet.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
just like a buffet where everyone gets their own food.

Photographer and/or videographer?
fount a nice photographer that will give me rights to all the pictures

Dancing?
None of that

Bouquet and Garter toss?
yes

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
havent had it yet

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
we'll probably wait until the following weekend and go to Gatlinburg

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
um either.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
we will buy a house when we know for sure we can afford it

Do you plan on having children; when?
we dont want kids. we just want our animals.

Do you both work?
no, i work right now and he stays home and keeps the house together.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?


What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
ill let you know when we get married

[CharlovesRichie]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
He understands my sarcastic sense of humor, and doesnt judge my goofiness or the fact that I spend at least 3 hours a day practicing my music.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
a year and half

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
We hadn't talked so much of marriage, but what we expected each other in the future was talked about quite a bit.

How did the proposal go?
New Year's Day (morning). I had stayed the night at his place after going to a party with him the night before (I live 45 minutes away). At about 8:30 in the morning, I woke up, he was already awake, watching me sleep and said "Hello, beautiful" (LIAR! :rofl: ) I could tell something was up and he said, "I was just thinking about stuff, the future mainly" and he got all teary eyed and said "I can't imagine spending another year without you by my side, will you marry me?" After staring at him in shock for about 10 minutes, I finally said "YES!" and we went out and bought a ring the next day.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Yes, he took me with him because he was afraid that I wouldn't like what he picked out by himself

Who did you tell first?
His family

What is/was the date of the wedding?
January 15, 2011

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
I would almost be done with school (1 or 2 semesters left), and my family couldn't be there in the summer of 2011.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
21

Small wedding or big?
We plan on 100 people or so.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
No

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
We are having a cocktail type reception, since our wedding will be early afternoon, after lunch and before dinner.

Photographer and/or videographer?
Photographer is actually a very good friend of mine from high school

Dancing?
There will be a little bit of dancing I am sure.

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Of course!

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
I'll let you know!

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We are going to Disneyland! about 3 months after our wedding

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
um either.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We plan on buyin a house after I graduate from college and get a job

Do you plan on having children; when?
We have two:
Ladybird - Sheltie/bulldog mix
Mean Mister Mustard - American Cocker Spaniel
but as for human children...maybe later...but not for a long while

Do you both work?
He works at a Furniture store and I work part time as a nanny/housekeeper

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be? As of right now...overbearing parents. But, I am sure I will have many more as the planning continues!

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
I will let you know in a year.:flower4u:

[2dBride]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
Well, we'd been together for nearly nine years before the wedding. So we'd had time to figure it out. ;-)

How long were you together before getting engaged?
About eight years.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
No. I proposed three days after Massachusetts opened up same-sex marriage to nonresidents of Massachusetts. Thus, we'd pretty much assumed we could never get married until nearly the day of my proposal. That made the proposal particularly hair-raising for me. I knew NotFroofy wanted to be with me for the rest of our lives, but given all the legal complications of a same-sex marriage, I wasn't sure she would want to be married to me.

How did the proposal go?
I was so nervous before proposing that NotFroofy could see something was going on, and thought maybe I was mad at her. I finally sat her down on a daybed in her study, and blurted out something like, "So what would you think of the idea of getting married?" No ring, no going down on one knee. Fortunately, she accepted anyway.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Definitely yes! For my first marriage, I had a white gold solitaire engagement ring with a honking great diamond inherited from my grandmother, and a plain white gold wedding band. However, as I got older, I found myself wearing more gold-colored jewelry, and realized I really would have preferred a yellow gold band. In addition, wearing a big diamond made me nervous when I was traveling or walking around in high crime areas. So, for my second wedding, I knew I did not want an engagement ring, and wanted a plain yellow gold wedding band.

Coincidentally, NotFroofy had a plain yellow gold wedding band that she inherited from her grandmother. It had real sentimental significance for her--see story at this link (http://sites.google.com/site/2dbride/dresses/rings#TOC-My-Ring). However, she was nervous I would want something more ornate. As it was, what she offered and what I wanted were identical.

We had a little more of an issue finding a wedding band for NotFroofy. She did not want an engagement ring, and wanted a wedding ring that would match mine. However, when we went to a local jewelry store, they told us that NotFroofy's grandmother's ring was 22 karat gold, which is almost unknown in this country. NotFroofy therefore resigned herself to getting a similar ring, but with 18 karat gold. However, without telling her, I found and bid on a ring on eBay UK that was 22 karat gold, and about the same vintage as the ring NotFroofy was giving me. Somehow, I managed to negotiate both the currency differences and the different ring size categories, and won it. She was thrilled when I told her about it.

Who did you tell first?
My children.

What is/was the date of the wedding?
October 6, 2009

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Well, when we got engaged, the only state in which we could get married was Massachusetts. So we figured we might as well have a ceremony in the fall, which is the most beautiful time in Massachusetts.

September was out, because so many of the Jewish holidays are then. Our reception venue was not available for late October or early November. So we figured that early October was our best bet. At that point, NotFroofy decided that we should have our wedding on my birthday, so that I would always remember our anniversary.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I turned 56 on our wedding day.

Small wedding or big?
Very small ceremony--a dozen guests total. A rather larger reception back in DC--60 people.

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
No special ceremonies. Our reading was quite unusual, though--it can be found at this link (http://sites.google.com/site/2dbride/ceremony/ceremony-text#TOC-Reading).

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
We had a luncheon at Legal Sea Foods immediately following the ceremony. We gave guests a choice of lobster, fillet mignon, salmon, or crab cakes.

Our reception back in DC was a heavy hors d'oeuvres reception. We had a couple of different kinds of meatballs, pigs in blankets, a ham, vegetarian quiches, and a gourmet cheese tray, along with various sides. We also had a chocolate fountain, and of course wedding cake.

Photographer and/or videographer?
We had a professional photographer for the ceremony. Friends helped with videography for the ceremony, and photography at the reception.

Dancing?
Yes. Our first dance was a swing dance to Leonard Cohen's "Dance Me to the End of Love." Many of our friends are dance enthusiasts, so there was a lot of dancing.

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Definitely not! We gave one of our bouquets to my former sister-in-law (the only local guest at the ceremony) and the other to the staff of the synagogue where we were married. NotFroofy kept her garter as a souvenir, and I sold mine.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
We had several that sent RSVPs and did not come. Some got sick and some just no-showed without giving a reason.

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
No, we did not take a honeymoon.

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We had only one couple that gave us a cash gift. We got a few gift cards, and several gifts. Many people gave us gifts of services--everything from being the musician at our reception to doing the video of the ceremony. I was particularly touched at such personal gifts.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
I've owned my own home since 1980.

Do you plan on having children; when?
Between finances and our age, that's not going to be happening.

Do you both work?
Usually, yes. I've been self-employed since 2000. NotFroofy lost her job in the recession, but is doing some free-lance work and looking for a job.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
Well, there were a lot of minor issues that occurred. But honestly, the wedding felt just perfect to us.

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
I'd say the absolutely biggest thing is to learn how to negotiate. My ex-husband would turn up as about 98% compatible with me on almost any scale you could come up with. The problem is that he had absolutely not idea of how to negotiate. Thus, the other 2% ended up never getting resolved. When he became depressed, and isolated himself from all adults other than me, he basically started blaming me for his depression.

[Tammy]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
I just knew...I had never been involved with someone who cared so much for me or I for him. I had no idea that I could love another person this much, least not one I hadn't given birth to.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
Just shy of 2 years

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yes, several times

How did the proposal go?
It was Christmas day. We had been having some money issues and had decided to focus more on making sure the kids had a good Christmas. So after the kids had opened their gifts I was curious to see what "small" thing he had gotten for me. I got him a pair of slippers!! So he said someting to the effect of" I guess I have to give you your gift" All nonchalant.like it was no big thing. He pulled a black ring box out of his pocket. I swear I was gonna pass out!! He never got down on one kneee or anything but it was memorable just the same

Did you get the ring you wanted?
Well I didn't know what I wanted but I love my ring so yeah I guess I did get the ring I wanted LOL.

Who did you tell first?
My sisters and my friend Gina, then I put it on my facebook staus and finally told my parents. His Mom knew already as did most of his family.

What is/was the date of the wedding?
Sept 4 2010

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Not really...He didn't have a preference and I wanted to get married in the summer when it wasn't wicked hot.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I'll be 31 FH 32

Small wedding or big?
Medium I guess we're inviting between 140-150 people

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
I have a reading picked out that my friend Amie will read. I also think we'll do a sand ceremony. our ceremony was written by a friend of mine.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
During cocktail hour we'll be serving cheese, crackers and pepperoni and fruit and veggie platters. For dinner it will be antipasto salad, chicken parm, ziti meatballs and sausage. Of course rolls, butter and coffee. We'll be having a 3 teir wedding cake. Yellow cake with a raspberry filling.

Photographer and/or videographer?
Photograper yes. My FSILs BFs Brother does videographing so I was hoping he'll give us a good deal.

Dancing?
Yes and as much as possible!!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Yup...I had a Fortune Toss Bouquet made

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
I haven't sent invites yet

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
We'd like to but it will be money permitting

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
Since we are currently living with FHs Mom cash and gift cards would be nice but any gift we get will be appreciated

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
Evetually we would like to own a house but with the economy who knows what will happen.

Do you plan on having children; when?
I have 2 kids and he has 1 but I would like 2 more he's only promising one LOL

Do you both work?
Normally yes. I am a dog groomer but thanks to the recession FH, who's a construction worker, is out of work.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I don't know...I haven't had it yet LOL

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Don't go to bed angry at one another and always kiss goodnight

[Century Guy]

My first inkling is kind of a personal thing that I'd rather not share here to be honest. But about 4 months into our dating relationship, there was just too much about her that was exactly what I was looking for in a wife/life-long partner to dismiss that she was the one for me.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
6 months to the day.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yes, several times

How did the proposal go?
I've shared the story elsewhere here at the OneWed Forum...but I'll boil it down to the fact that I proposed partially with an audio production I created (I worked in radio at the time), and make my proposal to her in front of the altar at church where we met.

Did you get the ring you wanted?
I got the ring SHE wanted. ;) She and her mom both worked for a jeweler at the time. I got a 1 kt. Princess Cut diamond/gold band (which is now dipped/coated) for a very, very good deal. She loves her ring.

Who did you tell first?
Well, I talked to my parents first about what I was thinking. Then, I asked her parents permission. After she said "yes", we went back to her house (she was living with her parents), and her folks, and mine (and my two sisters) were all there. They all knew I was proposing...and were there to celebrate with us. So our families were the first to "officially" know. I'm just glad she said "yes". ;)

What is/was the date of the wedding?
April 28, 2001

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
We didn't want to wait TOO long before getting married. I wanted to get married on my birthday. (Happy birthday to me.) Gayle was wiser and said "let's wait for a week after. I want you to have your own day for your birthday."

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
We were both 25. (34 now.)

Small wedding or big?
Big. We had about 500 people at the reception I believe? (She and her family know a LOT of people very well, and my extended family isn't exactly small...nor is hers.)

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
We had a Christian Wedding ceremony, and shared communion together. I don't remember the readings exactly, but I believe one was probably 1 Corinthians 13.

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
I don't remember anything super special. Chicken, vegetables, etc. The cake was a chocolate raspberry cake. That I DO remember. It was very good.

Photographer and/or videographer?
We had both. The photographer still shot film then (though I think she's since switched to digital.) Also had a videographer that my Dad knew/worked with. He did video on the side. He did a fine job.

Dancing?
Oh heck yes...

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Yes, both.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
I honestly don't remember. ;)

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
Yes, we flew out the next day. We honeymooned on Sanibel Island, Florida.

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
We had plenty of gifts, and a number of cash gifts also. Can't remember which was more.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
No we did not. Didn't have the downpayment, and the market was getting to the height of the bubble at that time. Took us 2 years I believe...and the very height of the bubble.

Do you plan on having children; when?
We adopted our son who is turning 6 at the end of January 2011.

Do you both work?
Yes. I work for PrintMyThing.com / PrintMyRibbon.com - she works very hard managing our home and son, and also babysits. I appreciate her so, so much. Not sure why some people look down on women that work at managing their homes. She juggles a LOT and I highly respect that she pulls it all off. I try and help when I can.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I would have hired a band rather than a DJ. But, I'm partial to live musicians. I played piano/drums growing up. (Funny enough, I was a radio DJ for 13 years...but still preferred live music.)

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Love keeps no record of wrongs. Don't understand what the word "divorce" means, and don't allow the use of that word in your marriage. It can be hard...but the best things in life are worth fighting to keep.

Romance your spouse as much as possible. Keep the spark alive. Its work at times, but again, its work that is worth it.

And my last bit of advice (that I cannot take credit for...they're not my words) is: "A cord of three strands is not easily broken."

[hleef]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
on our first date we went to a horrible restaurant and saw a horrible movie, but ended up talking in the parking lot till like 3am (the movie let out at 10) so on the way home I knew he was the one!:wub:

How long were you together before getting engaged?
just under a year

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
absolutely! We started dating in july and on valentines day he gave me a promise ring :hearts:

How did the proposal go?
I was in Idaho for school and he flew out to surprise me and called me to walk outside while I was eating dinner with one of my friends there ( I didn’t know he was in Idaho) and as I was turning around he was running towards me and did a baseball slide and asked me to marry him! :lafhard:

Did you get the ring you wanted?
No but I love the one I got :yesnod:

Who did you tell first?
The woman I was staying with for school (had to tell her why I wasn’t going to be back for the next two nights! Lol)

What is/was the date of the wedding?
:hearts: 9-10-11 :hearts:

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
originally no but I love it now neither one of us will be able to forget it

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
we both will be 26

Small wedding or big?
medium-large 150-200 people

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
sand ceremony and possibly a reading of the Irish blessing

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
we going to have a pasta station meat carving station and a salad station as well as a few finger foods for the cocktail hour

Photographer and/or videographer?
we hired a photographer and were going to hand a friend a video camera lol

Dancing?
absolutely!!

Bouquet and Garter toss?
both

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
not yet…

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
wed love to go right away to St.Lucia but were not sure if well be able to afford it at this point so we might pick somewhere else to go

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
doesn’t matter to us I just want everyone there

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
we live in a house now that well be staying in

Do you plan on having children; when?
plan on having them eventually

Do you both work?
yes, he makes way more than I do but im tryin to start a business and work full time so hopefully well be even someday lol

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
hasn’t happened yet but as of right now I wish all 4 of my grandparents and my half sister could be there (RIP)

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
don’t go to bed angry, communication communication! Communication!!!!! Love each other and have fun!!

[xxeverafterx3]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
I knew before we started dating, but we had been friends for about a year and a half before we started dating. I knew I was in love with him before our first official date and knew he was the one!

How long were you together before getting engaged?
4 1/2 years

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Kind of - I don't know, we discussed that we definitely wanted to marry each other, We both knew that way before we got engaged.

How did the proposal go?
We were at a car show and all of our friends and family started showing up, I assumed they all came just to see his car (that's typical at car shows) and right after the national anthem around noon (Big thing we do at every car show) the DJ called me up to the DJ booth in front of the whole crowd (he had told them not to leave because he had a special announcement) and Ky got up there and proposed!

Did you get the ring you wanted?
I didn't necessarily have a specific ring in mind, so I guess you can say yes!

Who did you tell first?
Our family and friends were all there so they all knew, then we put up a big facebook announcement and announcement on our Mustang forum

What is/was the date of the wedding?
2.4.2012

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
It's the day after our dating anniversary

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
I will be 21 he will be 24

Small wedding or big?
Smallish medium - right now we have 145 on the guest list

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
Hand blessing, unity candle, memorial candle and possibly a bible reading

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
We love Italian so it'll be Chicken Parm, Chicken Piccata, a pasta station and a prime rib carving station - along with our cocktail hour food

Photographer and/or videographer?
Photographer is booked, working with the wedding planner to book a videographer

Dancing?
I've told everyone that I want everyone from my 2 year old nephew to my 84 year old grampa on the dance floor at some point

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Yes and Yes

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
The invites haven't been sent yet

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
As long as FH's work will permit him taking the time off, we'd like to leave 2 days after the wedding - I want to go to Jamaica but we are still exploring our options

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
I just want my friends and family!

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We are looking to buy a house by fall time which will be about 5 months before the wedding

Do you plan on having children; when?
Eventually yes, I'd like to just let nature take it's course right after the wedding but I think FH wants to wait which I will respect

Do you both work?
Well ... no I'm a full time student right now in nursing school -- but he works and come June I will be working too

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
We haven't had our wedding yet, but I truly wish his father could be there. I know that'll be tough to not have his dad there - Spiritually he'll be with us though!! :heart:

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?

Be each other's best friend - never take each other for granted and never go to bed angry!

[Salayia]

How did you know that she/he was the one?
It was a long process, but I think I finally realized it when I found out that he was moving a thousand miles away. I realized that I would be losing far more than just my best friend... I'd be losing my soul mate.

How long were you together before getting engaged?
almost 18 months - 1 day shy.

Did you discuss marriage and what you both want/expect before getting engaged?
Yes. But really, the whole idea of getting married happened about a month before we got engaged. So not too terribly long

How did the proposal go?
I was freezing (it was the first week in January and he proposed outside). I honestly don't remember a whole lot, other than thinking, "HURRY UP SO I CAN GET IN THE CAR AND GET WARM!!!" LOL! :redface:

Did you get the ring you wanted?
I never went to pick one out with him, so I guess I have to say no.

Who did you tell first?
Well, before the proposal, I told my best friend and 2 other friends, my co-workers and I think my brother (we'd planned when he was going to do it - it wasn't a surprise). Afterwards, the first person I told was my mom, and I called her at 7am because it was already posted on facebook, and I didn't want her to find out from somebody else! LOL!

What is/was the date of the wedding?
September 10, 2011

Did you choose the date for any special reason?
Yes. 9-10-11.

How old were you/will you be when you got/get married?
Um.... old. LOL!

Small wedding or big?
Pretty big. We wanted to keep it small and have it at a place that only held 55 people total... but we have too many family/friends for that! :redface:

Were/will there be any special ceremonies or readings?
YES! Probably too many! LOL!

What sort of food was/will there be at the reception/party?
Well, it's supposed to be prime rib and salmon, but if the price of salmon goes up too terribly high due to the radiation in the ocean, then we'll decide on something else later. ;)

Photographer and/or videographer?
Yes and yes.

Dancing?
Yep! :)

Bouquet and Garter toss?
Yes and yes.

Anyone RSVP and not come or anyone show that didn't RSVP?
Haven't sent out invites yet, so I don't know. Hopefully not! LOL!

Did you go/do you plan to honeymoon right away; if so where?
Yes - we're going on a Disney cruise 10 days after we're married. That'll give me enough time to get me moved to Seattle before we set sail. :)

Prefer gifts or cards; which did you get more of?
Don't know yet.

Do you have or plan to buy a house right away?
We're gonna wait a while.

Do you plan on having children; when?
Yes. Whenever I get pregnant.

Do you both work?
Yes.

If you could change one thing about your wedding, what would it be?
I'll know in September! ;)

What kind of marital advice do you have to offer someone?
Marry someone who compliments your personality - not matches it perfectly. Don't dismiss someone simply because they're not your "type." Your "type" might just be the reason why you're still single! LOL! And marry your best friend! :)