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ChristineLS
08-23-2009, 08:59 AM
After we left for Syracuse (my hometown) our days were completely eaten up by weddingness... so I'll post a bit about those too.

Will and I went to my parent's on Wednesday afternoon, and then spent Thursday buying the last bit of food that wasn't time sensitive as well as the paper products as napkins and what have you. My brother works at BJ's Wholesale club, and so we all have free memberships there. That was a huge help in the wedding planning! There we bought Sterno trays, the sterno themselves (which otherwise is really expensive), pans, and so forth. On Wednesday Mom and Dad showed me how they were apparently solving problems Will and I had no idea that we had - like getting these $1 containers to store food without crushing them in the fridge (like a part time caterer at my dad's work told him to do), using these bowls that the previous owners left in the shed, washed and sterilized to present the food in at the tables, ice storage, etc, etc. My dad also rounded up some crock pots and a coffee percolator, an extra one, from my relatives who were more than happy to help out.

Friday was craft day. Will took the silk screened table cloths and a heat gun (what silk screen table cloths and a heat gun? I will post that in DIY - but his grandmother made a silk screen design of a rose and of a dahlia that we pulled onto muslin to make the table cloths - it was her way of being involved, and they looked beautiful. OMG though it was a ton of work) and set the pattern while I finished the name tags (again, that will be it's own thread), tied the raffeta on the wine bottles, washed the punch glasses, dried the punch glasses, and of course, because it was sunny and hot out, jumped in my parent's pool in between. :D We finalized the seating arrangement, and the evening I went to a high school friend's going away party (she's now in Korea teaching English) while Will did some work on the playlist.

Saturday was food day. My sister was going to tie the name tags to the punch glasses, since I ran out of time, but I woke up at 6:00AM to discover that my father was nearly done with it. I love my dad, and he's really funny when he gets on a mission - and this mission was to make sure that Will and I had a spectacular wedding. So when he saw a project unfinished, he really couldn't help himself...

Will and I woke up at 6:00 (him begrudgingly - I shook him awake and he goes, "I don't want to go to school" and I reply, "we're not going to school, we are getting food" and his reply, "I'm not hungry" LOL he's such a bear when asleep) so we would be among the first at the Syracuse Regional Market at seven - think really enormous farmer's market. We weren't really sure how much food to buy, so we sided with caution and overpurchased really. Judging by how much money was left in my wallet from when we started, we spent about $60-$70. We bought: 15 total heads of green, romaine, red and iceberg lettuce (turns out, that was really excessive for 80 people, but I was so afraid of running out and it was $1 a head!), easily ten pounds of grape and cherry tomatoes, two bunches of radishes, more cucumbers than we could find uses for, six giant peppers, three enormous organic white onions, six regular red onions, a pound of banana peppers, mushrooms already sliced, broccoli, a $3 gorgeous bouquet of flowers for my mom (but the thought crossed my mind to buy another and use it as a bouquet myself... then I remembered that I really didn't want/need one) carrots and I know I'm forgetting like two vegetables. Everything was super fresh.

While we were gone, my parents set up the six crockpots (one of ours, two of my folks', two of my uncle's and aunt's, and the best man's) and put the pork in it for pulled pork. We had to periodically check it to make sure that the circuits didn't break... we'd never done this before, you know.

So Will and I get back, and Will, me, my mom, my dad, and my sister get to work cleaning and chopping and sorting. We realized that we needed a new peeler, so I went to the Wegmans five minutes down the road (my former employer, actually) and picked up those with donuts and bagels. Got to feed the help! My father found the salad spinner that was a wedding gift when he and Mom got married... and it was missing the important part that lets it spin. After spending 45 minutes tearing the basement apart looking for it (missions... ;)), he goes to Wegmans and buys a new one for $6. So we rip and clean and spin and sort... we had about six boxes of salad, and each box held easily 20 cups. Whoops, I guess that was excessive....

Mom was boiling the pasta for the pasta salad, and then afterwards when we had all the vegetables chopped, we mixed the pasta salad and the regular salad together. We were done with that by 2:00PM. We jumped in the pool (absolutely a necessary part of cooking! ;)) and cleaned ourselves off, then pulled out the pork from the crockpots, pulled it, and then mixed it with the Dinosaur Barbecue sauce. That was done by 3:30. Three of the five dishes were finished, and stored in the fridge downstairs. The pork, for the record, was a Boston Butt Shoulder and the butcher (Wegmans...) chopped it up for us. We trimmed off the huge pieces of fat the night before, but we had 42 lbs, chopped off 6.5 lbs. The meat cost me $42.71. The pasta and dressings and olives and chickpeas and other food probably were about $140 at BJ's, the sterno racks and stuff were about $100, and the salt potatoes and rolls were another $100. For less than $500.... we fed a main meal to and now have the equipment to feed another eighty people!

Cooking for eighty turned out not to be so bad, because the recipes were simple and tasty, and we were really organized about it.

We all swam and relaxed for the rest of the day. We felt really accomplished, not going to lie. In the evening my best friend from high school came over and we chatted, and she showed off pictures of her new nephew (awwww) and caught up... which was great for my nerves, except I didn't really get nervous. I wasn't worried about it at all for the previous three days. So she left, and really late in the evening, the best man dropped by with another friend and we chatted, and by chatted I mean some logistics and they were going gaga for my dog, who was playing the crowd really well.

See, we left my Buffalo apartment key with my friend D. and he was feeding the fish. So we realized that we left all the cheese for the initial showing up at the apartment. We asked D. if he could give the best man (here on after, T.) the cheese so he could bring it up to Syracuse when he came to visit the night before. Well, D. takes it, drops it off to T. at his job, and then T. brought it up to us. It was about 15 lbs of Yancey's fancy cheese, different varieties, and while we would have happily eaten it later... we wouldn't be able to get stuff quite as tasty. We had purchased it from the factory in Pembroke, NY after D., our friend J., Will's bro, Will and I had picked the blueberries for another of the dishes.

That's a story on itself - Tuesday we went to Will's hometown to pick blueberries, and D's from NYC, and J. and I are not from around there. We are talking to the owner about rural verses urban areas, and mention that the berries are for the wedding. Well, we go to pay for them (a bucket, easily ten pounds, is only $10 so this was a great deal) and they ask how we know of the place. Will's bro introduces Will, and the cashier, the owner's wife, used to be a substitute teacher and remembered him well (though didn't recognize him, he's a bit taller these days!). So the owner and her smile, and give us a bucket (of two) for FREE. It was so nice of them!

So we were ready for the day of...

ChristineLS
08-23-2009, 09:41 AM
I slept surprisingly well on a blow up mattress, and Will and I woke up around seven the next morning. I was still feeling really calm. Had some coffee, chatted with my parents to figure out the logistics. Still not nervous. Will and I go to Wegmans to get the last things we needed - the rolls, ice, and salt potato packs. We pick them up, with many comments from employees (who recognized me) and noticed how happy I was as "Having a party?" Oh, you could say that! :D We get home, pack up the cars (no small feat - thank goodness both my parents and Will and I have vans) with decorations, Will's clothes food and ice... and we are off.

I get a phone call from Jess, my bridesmaid, telling me she's going to be late. She and her boyfriend, Alex (also a very close friend of ours) realized that she left her dress in Rochester. But she was only 20 minutes away when she realized this, so she's going to get it. I told her not to panic, as she was coming early to set up, we were going to have a lot of help. Major catastrophe? Check. OK, I thought to myself, we are in good shape.

We get to the lodge and look around. I'll be honest, I hadn't seen the inside before... and it's beautiful. Check it out. (http://onondagacountyparks.com/oneida/arrowhead-lodge) The attendant there, Brenda, was SO helpful! She wasn't just helpful, but she's a cheerful, calm person. Who better to work with weddings? We unload the food into the industrial fridges and set up the table cloths - they looked really good. Brenda comes out and she compliments them immediately - she said that after a summer of the regular stuff, these were refreshing and really neat. Cool! Oh, and soon after Will and I, and my parents arrive, the best man (Tyler, I'll run out of letters soon) and our friend Luke came to help set up too. We had at that point more help than we knew what to do with... so Tyler cracks into the beer he brought as a joke (Genny Light yuck) and they relaxed.

We pulled out the seating chart and started setting up the punch glasses, and logistics. We couldn't do much with the food yet, it was only 10 and no one was coming until 2:30.

Jess and Alex arrive, so Jess, my mom and I leave to go get ready. Turns out I forgot to introduce Will to Brenda (whoops!) so I do that and assured her that Will and the guys knew what to do and had everything under control. Because they did.

We get home and get ready. NOW I'm starting to get nervous. Jess did my makeup, and did a great job of it. My sister did my hair... and without any hair spray or mousse got a style that showed it off. I'm trying to find pictures that really show it, my hair is lighter at the ends of it than at the roots and she twisted it in such a way and curled it that showed off the variety of color. I've never dyed my hair ever in my life - this was all sun stuff. By the time I'm ready, I'm so jittery that I knew I couldn't drive back. I asked my brother to, but he was going to take his own car and DD for my sister and her boyfriend. Jess drove me instead. So next, I need to find the car key...

PANIC!!!!

I could not find the keys. I searched my purse, then my mom did (which was a little embarrassing, since I had some contraceptive items in it intended for the evening) and I looked all over the house... like ten minutes of no keys. I'm panicked. Where are they? Then my mom, much more clearheaded than me, asked about the shorts I was wearing before I changed... and I go into the van, which was unlocked, look in the suitcase, and in the shorts were the keys. OMG. I was about to cry, I was so stressed out over that. My mom proved that yet again, she's brilliant and amazing.

So Jess drove and we chatted, and just seeing Jess (as she lives in Boston, way too far from Buffalo in my humble opinion ;)) really soothed my nerves.

While we were gone, we missed all the hard work. The guys chopped up the cheese, layed it out, with Will's mom and grandmother (who, for the record, ended up being really late and really worried my father because of that) did the flowers and cupcake table and so when I got there, everything looked amazing. They had a hard time hooking up the laptop to the speakers, so Brenda sent a park employee to Radio Shack to get the right cable. Seriously! I guess the downtown of chatting for Will, Tyler, Luke and Alex was great. And when I got there, some friends and guests were there too, so it was awesome to see them. We were glad that we did everything so informally that way, when guests did arrive early, we had nothing to hide, and we could just hang out.

All the major stress happened while I was gone, and I'm glad to have missed it!

Except we nearly forgot about the potatoes. I go to Will, and I said, "Potatoes." Will turned to Tyler, and said, "Potatoes". He smiled, rounded up Jess, Luke, Alex and my dad and next thing I see is a kitchen full of my friends, goofing off and stabbing potatoes with a fork. They got them done in time. They also shoved me out of the kitchen everytime I came in trying to help. We are so lucky to have such loving friends!

Pam, our minister, came and we did the rehearsal. Figured out some stuff, and Will coughed in the middle of practicing his vows... he tells me later that was to cover that he was about to cry, it was hitting him then. We finished that and mingled, there was cheese and drinks for everyone who came, we greeted everybody more or less together, and then at three, it's time.

We gather our attendants (Jess, my sister, Tyler, Will's brother) and stand with Pam in front of the fireplace. The place became quiet, very eerily so. I'm so glad that Will and I were holding hands, I was about to cry from happiness and so was he, so I focused on his hands so I wouldn't smear my makeup ;) Everyone loved Will's brother's reading, "May those who love you, love you. And for those who don't, may God turn their hearts. And if God can't turn their heart, may he turn their ankles so you make know them by their limping". It's very true to his brother, lighthearted and goofy. Like us :D My sister read a poem by James Kavanaugh (http://wedding.blogdig.net/archives/articles/March2009/03/Ceremony_Reading__To_Love_is_Not_to_Possess_by_Jam es_Kavanaugh.html). We said our vows, kissed... it was so surreal. I was so happy. And to see everyone! Every single face in the crowd of friends and family were smiling and beaming. It meant so much to me - everyone was so happy for us!

J. and our families went outside for pictures, while Alex and Luke set up food. OMG, the help we had. Will's mom and Dad did a ton of work. My parents did a ton of work. Our friends did a ton of work. And each of these parties were shocked in the best way possible about how much help we had from the other groups. My dad, on a mission, directed people to eat. I had so many relatives comment on what great friends we have, asking if they were always this great (yes, the answer is yes). Oh, everyone LOVED the food. One of Will's great uncles loudly commented several times, "This is the best pulled pork I'd ever had!" Loudly because he's nearly deaf. :) The cupcakes were tasty, the flowers lovely - everyone was surprised I guess that a DIY everything could come out so much. And it also seemed like everyone enjoyed their part - a sense of accomplishment, etc. Everything around me was the result of someone's love for us. I spent the whole time nearly in tears from being so happy.

I thanked my parents, and they told us, "We just wanted you to have a great wedding" Oh, I am and did!

Will and I had the first toast, of our guests and pointing out how much was done for us and how much we appreciate it. Then Tyler did his best man speech... which was more of a roast of me. A funny one, but still ;) My sister wished us well. Then we all kept eating. Will and I grabbed the first cupcakes, instructing everyone else too... they were SO tasty... and they disappeared. like a lot of the food did, but we still had so much left over.

You know what's great? Spending a few hours with like everyone you love, chatting and what have you. It was wonderful. People told us what a great time they were having, how beautiful it was, the food was great, what a sensible way to have a wedding, one aunt of Will's told us "This is how weddings used to be!" We were afraid that no one was going to like it, turns out that was not the case at all :)

So eventually, people left and helped us tear down (people who didn't help set up did a ton to help tear down, actually, it was so nice of them!!!) and we packed the vans and said our thanks and went home. Some of my relatives grabbed the tableclothes (as we were giving them away) to put on their dining room tables - they loved them. We gave away the flowers, but still had a ton. More hugs, and Will and I went off the to hotel room for the evening and just basked in the amazing time we had - and each other! :D

I guess the coffee wasn't great, and that wedding playlist was deleted so we put some jazz (from J.) on loop and that worked. Other than that... there is not a single thing I would change. Will and I can't believe how well it went, and we have such great memories... our marriage started on such a happy note. Words can't express how much everyone meant to me, and how much the outpouring of love really affected the both of us. It was perfect.

SkippyNXC
08-23-2009, 12:20 PM
wow, thats sounds wonderful, brought tears to my eyes!

it's awesome you were able to have such a lovely (mostly) stress-free wedding surrounded by the love of friends and family!

Mrs.Goff
08-23-2009, 12:51 PM
Wow is right, I'm teary eyed as I type. That sounds like a fairytale, it's exactly what weddings should be.

I'm so glad that you had a wonderful day. Thanks for sharing it with us.

Congratulations!

gwenshack
08-23-2009, 01:37 PM
Christine, that's fantastic. I'm so happy to see how you all worked together to create a special experience. (If my family tried to cook in large quantities like that there would have been pasta thrown from one side of the kitchen to another...) You all are so cute! I love how bonded you are with the people around you. :bbmrgreen:

Congratulations on being a new Mrs!

PGDesigns
08-23-2009, 02:16 PM
Add me to the list of teary-eyeds. :laugh:

Your wedding (and friends and family) sound absolutely amazing, Christine! I'm so glad everything went so perfectly! Congrats!

f77g4
08-23-2009, 03:07 PM
Sounds simply amazing and beautiful Christine! Congrats!

VickiLynn84
08-23-2009, 08:30 PM
Sounds great. Congratulations :)

kgvettegirl
08-23-2009, 08:38 PM
That was just amazing how everyone pitched in and helped. Sounds like you had an amazing wedding.

ChristineLS
08-24-2009, 08:45 AM
Thanks everyone!

There were a couple things I forgot:

-the cheese tray all but disappeared, and I've never seen that happen

-during the cermemony, I couldn't get the wedding band onto Will's finger! His hands swell when it's hot out, and it was 90. I got it to his knuckle, and then the minister said, "He'll fix it"

-The minister pulled us close to each other during the ceremony and told us to remember the moment when we are fighting, how happy we are... and everyone thought that we were getting yelled at :rofl: It was sweet though.

savepaws
08-24-2009, 11:18 AM
It sounds like you had such a beautiful and perfect wedding! I'm so happy for you! Congrats!!!! Your description of everything also brought tears to my eyes!

brendalin
08-24-2009, 11:39 AM
It sounds like you had a great day! Thanks for sharing all of the details!