nikkiana
07-10-2006, 10:35 PM
Originally, a friend from FL was going to officiate our wedding... Unfortunately, about a month ago, he started having some health problems... He had two heart attacks in a matter of two weeks and had to have a catherization.... Due to money and stress levels and things, he had to bow out of being a part of our wedding... I totally understand where he's coming from and I'm not really upset over it, these sort of things happen...
But... it left me without an officiant.
FH and I are not particularly religious, we sorta used to be, but were burned very badly by the church... It doesn't matter much to us whether it was a JP or a minister, but it does matter some to FH's mother who was full of snide comments when we chose to have the wedding outdoors and instead of in a church... She was only quieted over the fact that it was a minister performing the ceremony. At this point, I don't think she gets a stay because it's like a month and like two days until the wedding and at this point, we'll take anyone with the qualifications that says "Yes, I can do it."
FH has mostly been the one trying to find someone new.... I'm just too stressed with other stuff... Thus far, no luck. Everyone he's called is either busy on August 12th or doesn't do weddings anymore.
I'm getting kinda nervous that the only option I'm going to have is to use my mother's friend who is a JP but doesn't like doing weddings (she's only a JP because she works for the state and the state paid for her license to perform weddings), I know she'd do it for me but I don't want to put her into that position because I know she really doesn't like doing them....
But... it left me without an officiant.
FH and I are not particularly religious, we sorta used to be, but were burned very badly by the church... It doesn't matter much to us whether it was a JP or a minister, but it does matter some to FH's mother who was full of snide comments when we chose to have the wedding outdoors and instead of in a church... She was only quieted over the fact that it was a minister performing the ceremony. At this point, I don't think she gets a stay because it's like a month and like two days until the wedding and at this point, we'll take anyone with the qualifications that says "Yes, I can do it."
FH has mostly been the one trying to find someone new.... I'm just too stressed with other stuff... Thus far, no luck. Everyone he's called is either busy on August 12th or doesn't do weddings anymore.
I'm getting kinda nervous that the only option I'm going to have is to use my mother's friend who is a JP but doesn't like doing weddings (she's only a JP because she works for the state and the state paid for her license to perform weddings), I know she'd do it for me but I don't want to put her into that position because I know she really doesn't like doing them....