After the Wedding: The Good, the Bad, & the Ugly

[MOB Karen]

Please help all the bride-to-be's out with what not to do on their special day. Thanks!

The Good (Best Memory of your entire Wedding):

The Bad (What do you wish you would have done differently):

The Ugly (Wasn't bad, but wasn't worth the money/time/trouble or headache):

[CindySue]

Please help all the bride-to-be's out with what not to do on their special day. Thanks!

The Good (Best Memory of your entire Wedding):

The Bad (What do you wish you would have done differently):

The Ugly (Wasn't bad, but wasn't worth the money/time/trouble or headache):
Great idea! Thanks Karen!!

My greatest memory from the wedding was looking into Brians eyes and seeing his smile right after we were pronounced husband and wife. Up until then I had forgotten everyone else was there.:D

I wished I would have asked for more help. That way I would have ended up with maybe too much help than not enough. I had to rush around on my wedding day trying to get everything set up. I planned the dang thing for 9 months and it felt like it was thrown together at the last minute. I also wished I would have put RSVPs in the invitations. I ended up with so much stuff left over!!!!:bbconfused:

We should never had wasted the money or the time to build that stupid dog pen to keep the dogs out of the front yard during the reception. As soon as we got back over here, Brians grandmother let the dogs out and we couldnt get them back in.........:bbmad:

[MsJessica07]

What a great idea for a thread...can't wait to see what others say!

[katieandalex]

Me too! Great idea Karen! This should be extremely helpful and interesting!

[LaceyinPgh]

The good - The limo ride from the church to the reception. We had 45 minutes to ourselves. We drank our bottle of sparkling wine and just talked and laughed. It was really enjoyable.

The bad - I would have changed the location of the cermeony. I gave in to my mother and grandmother and had a religious ceremony at my grandmother's church to appease her. Then right before the wedding she threw a hissy fit about kids not being invited and had her entire family boycott he event. So I ended up having a ceremony for her and them and none of them were there. A civil ceremony at our reception venue would have been far more fitting to our style.

The ugly- Having my 2 cousins as bridesmaids. They helped with nothing. Didn't participate in anything. They didn't even come to the reception. They showed up, got dressed, walked down the aisle, and left. They barely even spoke to me all day. Which was fine because I didn't want them speaking to me by that point.

[WhiskeyGirl]

The Good (Best Memory of your entire Wedding): Walking down the aisle and seeing Matthew's face as he saw me for the first time. His smile and tears in his eyes will be my fondest memory of them all!! :)

The Bad (What do you wish you would have done differently):
Well we wouldn't have invited so many German guests. The inlaws seemed more concerned about being their for the guests that they really left Matthew and I out in the cold. They neglected us and everything we asked of them. we set up a meeting to do the arch decorations and MIL was over an hour late! I was pissed and so upset! And at the gift opening they all buggered off and visited outside and away from us. My mom and dad were left to sit alone. (HOW RUDE!)

The Ugly (Wasn't bad, but wasn't worth the money/time/trouble or headache):

The midnight lunch! No one touched it (or barely did) and my parent's still owe us $800 bucks for it. Doubt I'll see that ever!! When people tell you they are giving you money for something THEY want at your wedding, get the money up front!! :)

The other thing I wouldn't have, is a bridal party! They are just a headache! (and most of you ladies know that!!) I think we would have only had a MOH and Best Man and have left it at that if we were smart!!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Please help all the bride-to-be's out with what not to do on their special day. Thanks!

K - Not married yet so I will give you my answers from my first wedding ....

The Good: My 12 year old nephew came to my room while I was getting dressed and asked me to take him to the park because everyone else was too busy! LOL

The Bad: Should have locked my brother-in-law out! He gave my ex some wacky tobacy as a wedding present (after my ex had quit - or so I thought). Our honeymoon = ZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzz

The Ugly: Making a guest list because my future inlaw invited whomever he wanted when someone else could not attend - example - one uncle could not attend so he told him to give the invite to his son!

[rainbowtreat]

The Good (Best Memory of your entire Wedding):- There was alot that I loved about my wedding, The sand ceremony has to be one of my favorites. It involved my kids and it turned out to be a beautiful thing. Having Lizabeth marry us was the best thing. The ceremony her and I worekd out was amazing ( mostly her ). And saying the vows to Nicholas and him wiping my tear away I will never forget. And we didnt have just a simple little kiss we had a GREAT kiss. OK I know that was more then one but there was so much I loved about my wedding and so much more but I will leave it at that.

The Bad (What do you wish you would have done differently): My hair could have been better. With the weather it loosened up alot before the ceremony and where we were getting ready we didnt have an outlet for the curling iron. And I felt rushed when getting ready. I would have allowed myself more time. I thought a 4:00 wedding was time enough but it wasn't.

The Ugly (Wasn't bad, but wasn't worth the money/time/trouble or headache): Mainly things that hit just before the wedding. Like 2 weeks before. One was my friend who was doing the flowers never did them never called or showed up ( she was to be in the wedding too ). And 2 my MOH decided to tell me 2 weeks before the wedding the dress didnt fit and she didnt have one and tried to get away with wearing an ugly dress not in my color scheme.

[hummingbird521]

The Good (Best Memory of your entire Wedding): I really have two of them. The first was when i was getting ready. We didn't care about the tradition of seeing one another before hand and while in the bathroom curling my hair I became upset because it wasn't turning out to look like the hair dresser had done it. I was about to cry and kinda of pulling at it in frustration when jerry came up behind me and put his arms around me and pulled me around toward him and said "I am marrying you not because of your hair, you could be bald, have a mohawk or three strands on your head and i wouldn't care. I am marrying you because i love you."

the second is: each time during the ceremony when i would almost start to cry i would look up at jerry and he would be making faces at me (like rolling his eyes, crossing them or have a funny face) and this would make me laugh instead.

The Bad (What do you wish you would have done differently):
not stressed about how the children would behave for the ceremony. They ended up being themselves and cutting up and make it much more relaxing for everyone there. This was a complete waste of my time to have stressed over it.

The Ugly (Wasn't bad, but wasn't worth the money/time/trouble or headache): The making of my own RSVP cards. No one returned any of them and I spent hours doing them myself on the computer.

[Kacie_bride]

Oh Treasa! I can't believe nobody returned those RSVP's. How fustrating is that! Gosh that makes me boil!

[LizabethDavis]

The Good (Best Memory of your entire Wedding):- There was alot that I loved about my wedding, The sand ceremony has to be one of my favorites. It involved my kids and it turned out to be a beautiful thing. Having Lizabeth marry us was the best thing. The ceremony her and I worekd out was amazing ( mostly her ). And saying the vows to Nicholas and him wiping my tear away I will never forget. And we didnt have just a simple little kiss we had a GREAT kiss. OK I know that was more then one but there was so much I loved about my wedding and so much more but I will leave it at that.

The Bad (What do you wish you would have done differently): My hair could have been better. With the weather it loosened up alot before the ceremony and where we were getting ready we didnt have an outlet for the curling iron. And I felt rushed when getting ready. I would have allowed myself more time. I thought a 4:00 wedding was time enough but it wasn't.

The Ugly (Wasn't bad, but wasn't worth the money/time/trouble or headache): Mainly things that hit just before the wedding. Like 2 weeks before. One was my friend who was doing the flowers never did them never called or showed up ( she was to be in the wedding too ). And 2 my MOH decided to tell me 2 weeks before the wedding the dress didnt fit and she didnt have one and tried to get away with wearing an ugly dress not in my color scheme.

First of all Gwen, you made me blush.....Thanks very much for the sweet compliment.

Secondly, I thought your hair was beautiful, but I could see how you felt rushed...never a good feeling...and it didn't help that you had to try to prove Nicholas wrong.:bblol:

Thirdly, she really tried to get away with that? Wow...umm...aren't you glad the stress is all over??

[SerendipityCrafts]

First of all Gwen, you made me blush.....Thanks very much for the sweet compliment.

Thought I read that wrong at first and I wasn't sure the Lizabeth Gwen spoke of was you ... Lizbeth are you a minister, rabbi, pastor, officiant (no point in asking if you are a priest LOL)?

[LizabethDavis]

Thought I read that wrong at first and I wasn't sure the Lizabeth Gwen spoke of was you ... Lizbeth are you a minister, rabbi, pastor, officiant (no point in asking if you are a priest LOL)?

Elizabeth,

I am in fact a Notary Public for the State of Maine, which is where Gwen was married and therefore, I was able to actually perform her marriage! It was very exciting to think that I was actually able to be a part of her wedding!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Elizabeth,

I am in fact a Notary Public for the State of Maine, which is where Gwen was married and therefore, I was able to actually perform her marriage! It was very exciting to think that I was actually able to be a part of her wedding!Kewl - I guess that was the only role I left out of the list. LOL

It is indeed special when someone that knows you as a friend marries you. Our minister is a friend and two other friends (who happen to also be ministers (married) will be taking part in our service. We feel so blessed (pardon the pun) :)

[Shawna Bride]

The Good: I think my favorite part was half way through the night Ryan and I snuck up to the Bridal Suite and took a 20 minute nap!! All our wedding party was joking around that we were consumating our marriage, but after waking up at 6am, barely sleeping the night before, we really wanted a moment just to cuddle and close our eyes. The photographer caught us and we have a really cute picture of our nap!
The Bad: I would not have done a recieving line. It took almost the entire 'cocktail hour'. We spent so much time planning out the cocktail hour to be fun and exciting. We had a martini bar, different food tasting stations and music. I didn't get to sample any of it.
The Ugly: I can't really think of anything I wasted money on... Maybe my shoes. I spent $150 on them, and ended up taking them off as soon as I walked down the aisle. Other than that, I'm happy about what we spent money on.

[rainbowtreat]

First of all Gwen, you made me blush.....Thanks very much for the sweet compliment.

Secondly, I thought your hair was beautiful, but I could see how you felt rushed...never a good feeling...and it didn't help that you had to try to prove Nicholas wrong.:bblol:

Thirdly, she really tried to get away with that? Wow...umm...aren't you glad the stress is all over??

Yes she realy did try to get away with that. I was about ready to kill some one. BUt she is my sisster and I plain out told her she was not wearingone of those dresses. It just so happened that she had the pink dress that she wore. It fit in perfectly.

And you did make the ceremony so much better then it would have been. I cant wait to see you get married.

[WebLady]

The Good: The most memerable memoment for me was right after the 'kiss' at the end of the ceremony. DH whispered in my ear and said "I Love You Baby" Oh, I will never forget that moment :wub:

That and my Daddy cried a little ;)

The Bad: Well, we didn't have guests besides our parents, so we went out to eat after and wanted all our close friends and family to come ... not many ppl did.

The Ugly: I guess the closest thing to ugly was my mom and her little comments under her breath or her overly happy face when I know she is thinking something else. But all in all, she was good, for her ;)

I don't really know if I would really do anything differently, well I sort of wish we had a nicer reception so I could have danced with my daddy. That and I would have stuck more to my diet so I would have lost the weight I wanted to.

[PurpleFlower]

The Good (Best Memory of your entire Wedding): I really have two of them. The first was when i was getting ready. We didn't care about the tradition of seeing one another before hand and while in the bathroom curling my hair I became upset because it wasn't turning out to look like the hair dresser had done it. I was about to cry and kinda of pulling at it in frustration when jerry came up behind me and put his arms around me and pulled me around toward him and said "I am marrying you not because of your hair, you could be bald, have a mohawk or three strands on your head and i wouldn't care. I am marrying you because i love you."



This is soooo sweet!!!