do you get offended??

[ddzlilangel]

ok.. the wedding is 2 weeks away.. still alot of stress.. i have no minister yet. i have called my old youth pastor and got no response.. my associate pastor of my old church is no longer ministering.. the recent youth pastor is "busy"....is this all because i dont attend that church anymore?? should i be offended that they dont want to misnister at my wedding?? another thing..i had my wedding shower today.. sent out over 80 invitations and aside from family.. only 5 friends showed up. should i be offended at that or are they just going to be at the wedding? we are having the worst time receiving the rsvp's. that brings me to another thing of should i be offended??... past co workers (of only 2 months ago) that were so excited that i was getting married and wanted all the details are all returning the rsvp's that they will not be attending. my mom is telling me not to let that steal my joy.. (thank goodness for moms.. she is my rock through all this stress). the place altering my dress is "behind" schedule and is telling me now that my dress wont be ready till the 14th which is 1 week before my wedding.. that leaves no room for anything if there was mistakes!!! anyone know of any reasonably priced day spas.. i need a pamper day..lol... i wish i had a camera to share all my pics..i have a Mon Cheri dress.. off the shoulder with the sweetheart neck, that has all the pearl detail down the hips instead of drawing all the attention to my tummy..and lots of pearl detail at the bottom and tiny roses down the back all the way down the train....its beautiful.. i cry everytime ive had to try it on..i just feel like a princess...man i am going all over the place with this post.. its just nice to get it out.. everyone around me is all about wedding planning.. i cant vent my stress to them because all they say is no worries.. yeah easy for them to say.. its not their day!!!all the girls on here have just been great.. and the pictures are fabulous!!! well i guess thats all my rambling on for now.. i cant sleep so im sure ill be back later...thanks for all the advice ladies!!! Congrats to all of you that are getting married and that have gotten married!!

[Kacie_bride]

Oh goodness. I don't really know where to start. Let me first say that I am not trying to come down harsh on you. I don't know anything about you besides what is in this post. I am just going to give you my honest opinion.

I think you need to take a good look at what has been going on in your life recentlly. It seems that a lot of people are upset at you for some reason. Could there be something that you did to cause this? Have you gotten harsh with people? Have you not been there for your friends because you have been to busy with wedding stuff? Like I said, I don't know, but I would definately try to look at what has been going on.

If you cannot figure out what is wrong with everyone, then you just need to ask someone. Ask one of your coworkers. Hopefully you will get an honest answer.

I feel very bad for you. Nobody should have to go through the stress that you are encountering. I hope I'm not sounding like I am coming down on you or accusing you of anything. I could be speculating wrong. I hope I am. It just seems odd that all these people would abandon you right now for no reason.

Talk it out with someone and hear their side. I hope you can mend things if need be. I'm sure wether they come to your wedding or not that you will have a fabulous wedding. Listen to your mother, do not let anyone steal your thunder. You will have a great and beautiful wedding no matter what! Good luck honey and let us know.

[nikkiana]

As far as the minister thing goes... I wouldn't be offended if I were in your shoes. At this late in the game you should be greatful if you can get ANYONE to do your wedding.

I wouldn't necessarily assume that these folks are brushing you off because you no longer attend church there, the wedding *IS* two weeks away, and people do make plans... However, if you're being really demanding about someone from that church doing it and you no longer go to church there, they may be a little bit put off and depending on the church, there may be rules regarding whether they allow their clergy to marry non-members.... but if that were the case, I'd hope they'd be upfront about it.

As for everything else, I think it seems kinda odd that so few people went to your shower and are not rsvping... did you do something to upset anyone?

[septemberbride06]

you poor thing! I thought I was having problems... Just stay strong,a nd everything will work out. That's what my dad always tell me, and somehow it always does!!

[WebLady]

Sorry all this is happening so close to your wedding! Try not to let it get to you too much though. Best wishes :)