Minster issues

[FutureMrsDuke0511]

I have a sort of vent. My dad and I were talking about the wedding the other day and he put his two cents worth in. He's a die-hard Southern Baptist. My mom is Methodist. They are divorced and he despises Methodists especially the majority of the ministers that have been at my mom's church. Well, the minister that I wanted to do my wedding is one of the ones he despises. The minister is a real nice guy. He left the church and went another one in south Louisiana and then decided to join the Army as a chaplain. Anyway, my dad is wanting me to use a Methodist minister that he liked and not this one. What should I do? :huh:

[Goders]

Try talking to him and explaining that you really want this minister, and that it's your day and happiness that's really important.

Just remember, it's your wedding, as long as you and your FH are happy, that's all that should really matter.

[FFC]

I'm with Goders on this - it's your wedding.

My officiant was a close friend of mine. We had a very long and tedious discussion, my hubby and I, as to who would marry us. It means a lot to me to have someone special marry me. So... I say, go with who YOU want to marry you. Have a talk with your dad, remind him it's your wedding, and this is how it's going to be. Period.

Good luck!

[gwenshack]

I think picking an officiant, and the actual content of the ceremony, is the one thing that you shouldn't compromise on. I feel those are the most personal aspects of the wedding - you need to do what makes you feel comfortable.
Good luck! :)

[FutureMrsDuke0511]

Thank you so much! Yes, I do feel the same about the officiant being the personal aspect of the wedding. My fiance said it really didn't matter to him who married us. I want this guy to marry us because he made such a big impact on my mom and her church before he left. We are just seeing what 2 years down the line holds before we ask him to do the ceremony. :)

My parents are divorced so that's going to be a whole other issue to deal with once the wedding date gets closer. I don't know if I am going to seat them together or not. They still get along, but it's all because of my baby sister who is 10. Anyway, that's a whole other thread that I could possibly start.:irked:

[Century Guy]

It's a shame there's so much dislike between many "Christians" considering we're all supposed to be one Body in Christ.

*sighs* I'm thankful I had a varied upbringing/experience when it came to my relationship with Christ. Was Catholic until 17, went to an Open Bible Church, a Baptist College (while attending a Non-Denom church), now attend an Assemblies of God Church, all while just considering myself a follower of Jesus...which is ultimately what it's all about anyway.

Hope the minister issue works out for you!