"Oh no she didn't"... The trashy wedding attire thread

[LadyMissKimber]

So...
I thought it would be funny if anyone had any stories involving wedding guests who attended dressed horribly inappropriate.

For example, I attended a co-workers wedding and this women strolled in dressed in a mini leopard print dress that left NOTHING to the imagination.(Think Kelly Bundy from Married with Children)

I'm also curious as to what some of you might do or have done if someone attended your wedding dressed in what you deem inappropriate?

Also, what do you consider inappropriate attire?

[FFC]

Lol... I gotta snicker cuz this is funny.

I haven't seen it at weddings, just church.

If someone had come to my wedding dressed 'inappropriately' (which is, in my mind, trying to outshine the bride or groom), it all depends on who it is as to what my reaction would be. I mean come on, the only people that need to spend hours preparing for a wedding is the bridal party and the moms. Period. If someone spent hours getting ready and picking out an outfit for my wedding and they weren't in my bridal party or immediate family, we'd have a problem LOL.

[lilmsjess]

i have 2 instances, only 1 wedding related, but both involve the same woman ;)

fh's aunt, who's horribly skinny due to illegal activities, decided she wanted this aqua-torquise colored dress for her sons wedding(keep in mind, the boy didn't want to get married, bride and parents planned wedding, he just showed up lol)....

well, i wasn't around at this time, but i saw the pictures....for a late summer wedding, the MOG was dressed in this spagetti strapped, aqua blue, sheer chiffon tight, butt hugging number! it was the exact dress, i saw on my cousin in her prom pictures ;)

then, in 2007, when we lived in fh's hometown, his little cousin turned 2....well, *I* had to go buy an "appropriate" bathing suit(i usually wear boyshorts, and a halter style top-not a tankini though).....well, i run out buy a suit, next day we go to the ramada(small town, ramada is actually ghetto, but has a heated pool)....well, the woman in blue above, turns up in a snake skin, t-top string bikini, with bottoms that tie on the side! omg! i am on the large side, so was an uncle's gf(uncle and gf were 19)....so she and i are doing our best to cover our "ASSets"....and here this woman was barely hanging on to her stuff!

no one dared say anything to her either time, she's fn pyscho.....but still, thought i'd share that....she's also been known to go to funerals with mini skirts, and cami tops, with a lacey bolero i believe it was:bbredface:

[WebLady]

This topic could get into some iffy territory. We have to remember that what might be "trashy" and inappropriate to us might not be to others. There are people here (and that may see this in the future) from all different cultures and backgrounds and we really don't want to offend anyone.

So lets just tread lightly with this one ;)

Edit: With that said; I have been to weddings where a guest or two might have been wearing a dress that was a little too tight and/or too revealing for my personal tastes. I have seen some male guests in dark jeans and cowboy boots at a formal wedding. But then maybe that was the nicest they had and couldn't afford to buy or rent anything just for the event.

The worst IMPO is when people get drunk at weddings and start acting like they are at a kegger or something. I have seen many a "red cup receptions" where the groomsmen end up shirtless and carrying on like fools.

[MrsDM]

I haven't seen too many inappropriately dressed guests, but I was recently at a wedding where the photographer wore blue jeans, white vans tennis shoes, a t-shirt and zip-up hooded sweatshirt over. Totally unprofessional IMO.

[WBandMe]

Well, I don't want to get too detailed just in case somone stumbles across this.... but at a recent wedding I attended :wink: a mother came in a pretty tight low cut number ... and her preteen daughter was wearing a dress that was all black except for a pattern that drew attention to the breasts (well, had she had any) and just had a very mature cut and fit. My mother would have sooner died than let me out of the house in it at that age, and even in my twenties it's not something I'd be comfortable wearing. Let's just put it that way.

[WebLady]

I haven't seen too many inappropriately dressed guests, but I was recently at a wedding where the photographer wore blue jeans, white vans tennis shoes, a t-shirt and zip-up hooded sweatshirt over. Totally unprofessional IMO.
Wow, I am surprised any professional would show up to a wedding that way. It reminds me though; I was a photographer at a wedding once were the videographer and assistant were dressed a lot like that ... and passing out cards.

[gwenshack]

I've certainly seen some things over the years that I thought were questionable, but I figure that as long as I am not the one making an a$$ out of myself by dressing inappropriately then I can just let it go. :)

As for what I would have done had someone come to my wedding dressed inappropriately, well, probably nothing...LOL...:)

[ChristineLS]

what I would have done had someone come to my wedding dressed inappropriately, well, probably nothing...LOL...:)

Same here... I'd probably just shrug my shoulders.

[LadyMissKimber]

This topic could get into some iffy territory. We have to remember that what might be "trashy" and inappropriate to us might not be to others. There are people here (and that may see this in the future) from all different cultures and backgrounds and we really don't want to offend anyone.

So lets just tread lightly with this one ;)

Edit: With that said; I have been to weddings where a guest or two might have been wearing a dress that was a little too tight and/or too revealing for my personal tastes. I have seen some male guests in dark jeans and cowboy boots at a formal wedding. But then maybe that was the nicest they had and couldn't afford to buy or rent anything just for the event.

The worst IMPO is when people get drunk at weddings and start acting like they are at a kegger or something. I have seen many a "red cup receptions" where the groomsmen end up shirtless and carrying on like fools.

Oh yeah...I don't want to offend anyone's culture with this thread. My mind set is those people who dress a little to provocatively.Also, I was really curious as to what other people deemed as being inappropriate.

Personally,if someone dressed inappropriately to my shindig I wouldn't say anything because at the end of the day they will be known as "that girl" or that guy".

[Docsgirl]

I guess it depends really. Most of the younger female guests at my wedding showed up with spaghetti strap dresses or strapless dresses, and I wouldn't have deemed any of them inappropriate. It was hot out, and it's summer. But then again, I'm one of those girls who wouldn't have cared if another girl showed up in a white dress. I wanted a black one, but DH said no. :D Haha.

I'm going to a wedding next month and I'm having some troubles finding something to wear. It's not that I'm freaking out and think I need to look better than anyone (no one really pays attention to the other guests anyways, really, unless they cause a scene), but my DH is in the wedding, in a tux, and I don't want to look like a fool in a really casual dress....so here I am, a month away, trying to figure out what to wear. I'm not a dressy girl and it's hard to find a semi-formal dress that isn't going to be hot in 90+ degree weather. Planning ahead isn't always a bad thing. ;) I don't want to outshine anyone, but I also don't want to look stupid.

I have seen the aforementioned "kegger party" behavior at a wedding though. The groom was even in on it. You could tell the bride was a little miffed.

[Tadswife]

I haven't seen too many inappropriately dressed guests, but I was recently at a wedding where the photographer wore blue jeans, white vans tennis shoes, a t-shirt and zip-up hooded sweatshirt over. Totally unprofessional IMO.

I have to second this. I went to a friends wedding a couple weekends ago. He came in with a white polo, not even tucked it. Looked like he grabbed it from dryer threw it on which was a size to large, it hung off of him and a pair of kacki black pants. The catch was he had his sweat rag that looked like a kitchen towel hanging out of his pocket all day. Just felt free to wipe away the sweat and put it right back in his pocket hanging out. I wanted to grab it several times and wrap it around his neck. I was totally grossed out. Who does that????

[allielaurent]

I went to a wedding where the bride's mother showed up in a gold lamé track suit. It was awful.

[LadyMissKimber]

I should have titled this "Trashy Wedding Behavior".

A friend received a reply card to her wedding invitation with a response of "29 adults and 7 children"...no joke...she was dead serious. The invitees called up a bunch of their family and friends and thought they could invite them to her wedding.

Who thinks that's okay!?!

[FFC]

I should have titled this "Trashy Wedding Behavior".

A friend received a reply card to her wedding invitation with a response of "29 adults and 7 children"...no joke...she was dead serious. The invitees called up a bunch of their family and friends and thought they could invite them to her wedding.

Who thinks that's okay!?!

LOL!!! I'm sorry, I know, I wouldn't be laughing if I were that bride, but I'd better laugh instead of the other things that came to mind :innocent:

[ChristineLS]

Ever been to etiquettehell.com? It's full of stories like that.

[lilmsjess]

when my ex got married at easter, the MOB's bf was supposed to be the photographer(amatuer but "professional" everyone later said:snide:)...he was wearing the half tucked button down, with crappy pants and messed up shoes(their relationship was supposed to be on the DL-they work together), but anyways, half of our side of the family had no idea why the photographer looked like trash, and what made him think it was ok to approach the buffet table and make himself a plate before the bride and groom:bbeek: well, my ex's mom(MOG), looked at me and her other sons wife, and asked who he was and why he was eating first! she was like, go say something! (she's usually loud, but was tryin to be nice lol)...well, i started too, then decided nope, not my place that although the ex might appreciate my "sauciness" the bride hated me lol...so i send the SIL over...well, the photographer left! a few weeks later, i go back to take my fh's son home, and i stop in to see the MOG(i grew up with them so i call them my cousins now lol)...and i tell her i made the connection1
i tell her "so i heard the photog left b/c he didn't like something someone said?!" she said yea, etc...a few days later, my mammaw tells me, the photog was the mom's bf! and someone said something and he left...so i go back to MOG's shop, and we busted up laughing! she said she had NO idea they were "together" until later! and the SIL walked in, and she laughed also! to our current knowledge, no one has put 2 and 2 together and realized we 3 are the ones who made him leave!


oh yeah, and ehell.com is AWESOME! i subscribe lol

[lilmsjess]

I should have titled this "Trashy Wedding Behavior".

A friend received a reply card to her wedding invitation with a response of "29 adults and 7 children"...no joke...she was dead serious. The invitees called up a bunch of their family and friends and thought they could invite them to her wedding.

Who thinks that's okay!?!

i'm sorry, my redneck ways would have taken over, and my bad attitude, and i'd so have called and told the girl, um no...if i had wanted YOUR family there, i'd have invited them. sorry if you decide not to attend because of this, but i did not invite those people, and don't even know them...but i DO look forward to YOUR wedding:winktongue:

[2dBride]

Ok, this is reminding me of a friend's story about meeting a woman for the first time. He discovered she was wearing a dress so short he felt he had to change restaurant plans and find one with a booth to keep her from being a spectacle. When he inquired about how her mother felt about her going out like that, she responded that her mother had bought the dress for her.

On the other hand, we have deliberately kept the dress code for our reception vague. When I originally suggested "cocktail attire," my FI pointed out that some of our geek friends probably don't even own suits. We'd rather have them there and dressed inappropriately than not there at all. So we switched it to "party attire." So long as everyone shows up in outfits that would not actually get them arrested for public indecency, we'll survive a few odd attire choices.

LadyMissKimber, after seeing this and a few similar stories, we sent out our (e-mailed) save the dates with, "Name of your significant other? If you have more than one significant other, list only the one you will be bringing." ;-)

[FutureMrsWilson]

This topic could get into some iffy territory. We have to remember that what might be "trashy" and inappropriate to us might not be to others. There are people here (and that may see this in the future) from all different cultures and backgrounds and we really don't want to offend anyone.

So lets just tread lightly with this one ;)

Edit: With that said; I have been to weddings where a guest or two might have been wearing a dress that was a little too tight and/or too revealing for my personal tastes. I have seen some male guests in dark jeans and cowboy boots at a formal wedding. But then maybe that was the nicest they had and couldn't afford to buy or rent anything just for the event.

The worst IMPO is when people get drunk at weddings and start acting like they are at a kegger or something. I have seen many a "red cup receptions" where the groomsmen end up shirtless and carrying on like fools.

Were the dark jeans starched? ;)
Livestock judges often were starched jeans, nice boots (boots that have not been used for work), a button up, a tie, and a blazer. A judge is supposed to be cream-of-the-crop at a show - so if you grew up in this type of environment, that sort of look would be considered formal.

I know many of my friends and former co-workers will probably dress similarly for our wedding, and on the other end of the spectrum, my step-dad's all-doctor family will have on dresses from Saks Fifth.

[MrsFuchs09]

I should have titled this "Trashy Wedding Behavior".

A friend received a reply card to her wedding invitation with a response of "29 adults and 7 children"...no joke...she was dead serious. The invitees called up a bunch of their family and friends and thought they could invite them to her wedding.

Who thinks that's okay!?!

I'm telling my mother this story. She'll get a laugh at it. Our rude guests don't compare to this behavior by a long shot.

[Qtpie]

At DH and my wedding a good friend of ours came wearing a shaggey torn pair of jeans, a white tshirt with stains on it, and a dirty old sweatshirt, and he didnt shave and looked like he had not had a hair cut in ages. LOL.

[Bunnyfeet]

One of my friends is with this girl, I never really liked her much (not solely because of wedding things, though that didn't help, but because she always treated him badly, yelling at him in public, that kind of thing. Just rude behavior in public and presumably rude behavior in private, too.)
Anyway, she asked for me to be one of her bridesmaids. The only reason I said yes was because FH is a Marine, the groom is in the Army, and between their deployments/being stationed in odd places, they never knew when they'd really get to see each other again and they'd been good friends since childhood. If I turned down being a BM it would have caused major trouble (for most people I could have made an polite excuse not to be one, but not with this girl...)so I kind of just sucked it up for FH so he could see his friend and have it not be TOO calamitous.

Anyway, she showed me the attire for the bridesmaids...
Someone on this thread somewhere mentioned Peggy Bundy and that is the first person that comes to my mind when I think of the BM dresses. They were hot red, revealed ALOT of cleavage (like they actually had this kind of "Dip" in the front of the dress that actually went right between the cleavage and halfway to the naval :bbeek:), had no back, were super short, and skin-tight.
I seriously wish I knew where she found the picture of those dresses because I've tried to find them online to show friends when they didn't believe me about how bad these BM dresses were and I've never been able to find them.
And to top it all off the dresses were super-expensive and she wanted the BM's to foot the bill!

Long story short, they decided to elope because they were "having relationship problems" (I'm not going to even pretend to understand that kind of logic) and I was spared having to wear the bright red Peggy Bundy dress. It makes me wonder what the wedding gown would have looked like, but I guess I'll never know

[lilmsjess]

ok so me and my maidOH were talking, and she said when she was in college, a friend got married.....her friend, told her maids to buy "little black dresses" as it was a new years eve reception...well, apparently 2 maids were smart, and bought pretty little knee length black dresses. all the girls go shopping together...between the 3, they figure, the MOH should have a little bling on her dress, so the girl chooses an appropriate black dress, with rhinestone spagetti straps, and a rhinestone empire waisted band...and shoes to match the bling:winktongue: 1 of the 3, had a daughter to be FG, as bride was God Mommy...

the 2nd girl, opts for a very plain, fit(but nicely fit), black satin dress, and one of those bold rhinestone belts from claires.....

the 3rd girl, couldn't find anything in her size, and decides that she'll go to another store and find something similar(apparently she is/was big breasted)...

TADAAA! the am of the wedding, the 3rd girl shows up in a dress that barely covered her thighs, had a pearl neckline, and she chose to wear pearls, versus rhinestones(which somewhat set her apart, from the "bedazzled" MOH!)...and she had on clear heels! couldn't bend over, and her dress was strapless!(think well endowed, now)....her daughter was the flower girl....this poor 6 year old, was put into a VERY low cut, clingy white velvet sleeveless dress, with a rhinestone belt, and clear child's heels! oh, and get this! apparently, for being NYE in illinois, the poor child, had a BARE BACKED DRESS! yep, it went to below what would be a bra-line!

apparently, one picture looked like the 2 stepped out of "barely legal"!!! my MOH said another friend happened to have "accident clothes" and had a very pretty flowery dress that was put onto the FG immediately following the ceremony, as another well-intending guest, "spilled" red wine down it! so the flower girl was saved, from a VERY embarassing picture that would've been shown to prospective husbands:winktongue:

so, flower girl(no fault of her own to begin with), ends up in a pretty little purple christmas dress(JUST before photos are taken!), and mommy's looking like she belongs in the back of a cop car!

sometimes, you just have to give a kid a hug.....because even though they don't "know" better, they feel it coming!

[chocawhit]

This isn't necessarily at a wedding, but FH's oldest sister has a tendency to dress very innapropriately. For example: at her grandfathers funeral, she wore a black satin dress that fit in such a way that if you saw her from the side, you saw boobage! And to put it nicely, when she sat there was no material between her and the bench seat! To top it all off, she wore red platform shoes that wrapped up the legs and were a minimum of 6 inches tall. That's fine to wear if you want to a bar, but a funeral! FH and I were embarrased!

Well to bring it back to the wedding talk: We are both really worried as to what she will wear to the wedding. I am seriously thinking of having her be a BM so that she will be dressed appropriately! That way we don't have to cause a fight talking to her about her clothing choices.

[Mrs.Goff]

My story is a little different. At my wedding I had my 21 year old cousin read during our ceremony. Well she's 5'1" and weighs nothing (haha) she a beautiful young lady with a great figure. When she asked what she should wear, I told her what our colors were and told her I didn't care as long as it wasn't a white wedding dress. She changed her mind a couple of times before deciding on a little black dress. She asked me if I wanted to see it before the wedding and I told her no that I trusted her because she has great taste. On the day of the wedding I seen her dress and it was lovely. It wasn't quite knee length but was very tasteful. It was black with a sheer black layer over it, very cute IMO.

Anyway at the end of the night I has someone approach me and mention to me something about someone in a see through dress, so see through in fact that you could see her tush!:bbeek: I was shocked I asked them who it was and was told that it was my reader friend. I got a little snippy and pointed out that she was my cousin and that I didn't see anything wrong with her dress and it certainly didn't look see through to me. The person looked me right in the face and said I had better look again because it was in fact see through and inappropriate and that someone should tell her that she should wear such things to weddings. So the next day when when I watched my video I paid close attention to her dress. Come to find out only the bottom inch to inch and a half was see through and that was of the sheer layer and you could not see her tush!

I guess some people have nothing better to do then create drama.