Do you keep Onewed a secret?

[MOB Karen]

Amber & I were having a discussion with someone, and I mentioned one of you guys in the conversation. Right when I said it, I wish I hadn't of, because she looked at me and said, "Who?" Most people I tell don't get it, and she was no exception.

So I was just wondering if your friends and family knew about Onewed and how they felt about it. I really don't tell many people, especially work for obvious reasons.

So, who do you tell or not tell... why?

[CindySue]

I tell everybody. But thats just me, but I mean its almost the same as "this girl at church, or this woman at work, or this lady at the grocery store". Onewed IS actually apart of my daily life! I think Brian even knows you all by name and location too!:bbmrgreen:

[countrygirl]

I tell people about it. I love this place too much not too. I am also a gossip queen.

[MOB Karen]

I guess it's sort of like the stigma you get from online dating, where people don't get it. I don't care if they get it or not, I get it. I was just wondering if anyone else had that problem. It might be just me. Oh well, Amber & I like it here and that's all that counts. :p

[countrygirl]

People do look at me weird when I talk about it. J is used to it by now, and my sister undertands because she was on a similar one when she was trying to get pregnant.

[LaceyinPgh]

I don't talk about it with people. Not because I have an issue with it. But, because what I do isn't anyone elses' **** business. If someone asked about it, I would talk about it with no issues.

[countrygirl]

I don't talk about it with people. Not because I have an issue with it. But, because what I do isn't anyone elses' **** business. If someone asked about it, I would talk about it with no issues.

You tell them Lacey!!!!!!!

[WebLady]

I've talked about it to DH and my sister before.

[Jenn060306]

I've talked about it with my mom and SIL. Mark know's too and usually asks what's going on on the board. Other then that i don't really talk about it. Not because i don't want too. It's more that it usually just doesen't come up in conversation.

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

I stumbled across this when I was looking for something. I'm glad I did. I am a ******* but only on my Local board which isnt bad at all, unlike a lot of other boards on the knot. I had never heard of it. I've googled wedding stuff so many times and never stumbled across this site.

I'm not saying a lot about this site because I think what happend to the knot is that it got so overly popular that it turned into a 3-ring circus on a lot of the advice boards... its hardly even wedding chat. I guess the local boards they have are good for help with things in the area, but the other boards are for the birds... I think that this site is full of wonderful people who arent snarky and mean about people's ideas and plans. I hope that if this site grows with popularity, that the same thing wont happen to it.

I think I've found a great home with wonderful people!

[MOB Karen]

I don't talk about it with people. Not because I have an issue with it. But, because what I do isn't anyone elses' **** business. If someone asked about it, I would talk about it with no issues.

It's not that I care, it's just that I don't want to give them the satisfaction of rolling their eyes.:bbrolleyes: But it looks like it's just me, so never mind. :)

[countrygirl]

It's not that I care, it's just that I don't want to give them the satisfaction of rolling their eyes.:bbrolleyes: But it looks like it's just me, so never mind. :)

I get alot of that whatever attitude too Karen, I just blow it off. What do they know!! They have no idea how wonderful the girls here are. I think that all of you are the reason I come back every day!!

[MOB Karen]

I get alot of that whatever attitude too Karen, I just blow it off. What do they know!! They have no idea how wonderful the girls here are. I think that all of you are the reason I come back every day!!

That's exactly how I feel. They have no idea how wonderful it is to be a part of this kind of a group, even if it is on the internet. How encouraging it is here, and how people make you feel so worthy, and how people value your opinions. Thanks, Heather, I just couldn't think of the words to say what I meant. :)

[AngelinLove]

I just wanted to say that I love it here and that I always catch myself saying "one my onewed", "on onewed", "on the wedding forum I am on", and things of that nature. I don't care what people think and I guess they either have no opinion about it or they know that I don't care, because I have not heard anything negative or received any rolled eyes or any of that. I just don't care anywho. I love you all and don't care who knows!!!!

[ikkin510]

I talk about you guys to Steve all the time. You are like any of my other friends and he knows exactly who I'm talking about anymore, since he likes to read over my shoulder now...lol.

[countrygirl]

That's exactly how I feel. They have no idea how wonderful it is to be a part of this kind of a group, even if it is on the internet. How encouraging it is here, and how people make you feel so worthy, and how people value your opinions. Thanks, Heather, I just couldn't think of the words to say what I meant. :)

I feel ya baby!!!! Us girls here, we gotta stick together!!! Ithink half of it is that no one can look at us w judgement in thier eyes when we complain, or whine, or even cry. I know that is a big one for me.

[MOB Karen]

I feel ya baby!!!! Us girls here, we gotta stick together!!! Ithink half of it is that no one can look at us w judgement in thier eyes when we complain, or whine, or even cry. I know that is a big one for me.

That's huge!!

[countrygirl]

That's huge!!

After spending the past five months on here, I can't see not planning me wedding with you all.

[Jacklynn]

Matthew knows about it, because I always tell him about the ideas that I find :)

[Amber818]

I totally hear what my mom is saying. People at work are always like, "are you on your wedding forum again?" or "oh, jeez!" There is a negative stigma with talking to people online. Be that dating or just friendly chat...I think the stigma will always exist since bad expierences happen all the time. A lot of people do look down on it. I know a girl who is getting married and everytime I bring up Onewed she rolls her eyes. People do not get it unless they do it. I love it here and am very glad my mom found you guys.

I just wanted to add my two cents.

To reiterate I do not care what people think. I just 100% agree and understand the feeling of people not getting it.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I talk about y'all like y'all are my friends! I just say, "This girl I know..." and launch into a story or whatever. To me, I don't care what others say. Some people say "Don't you worry that they could be like a 50 year old man or something?" And i tell them if any of you were, you sure are doing a fantastic job of hiding it!! lol. I speak of you all very fondly!! Matt is much like Mark and Brian, he knows most of you by name and location!! And he is always asking what's new with you all and sits and tells me sometimes what he woudl do in certain situations. And he enjoys the jokes and such too. :)

[WebLady]

... Some people say "Don't you worry that they could be like a 50 year old man or something?"
Oh, did I forget to tell you that I am a 100 yrs old with 20 cats :p :bblol:

Yeah some ppl think that everyone is out to screw you in some way or another. While some ppl out there are, I don't see that from the regulars here. I love it here and probably spend too much time on here but it is just such a fun and pleasant experience ... I'm addicted ;)

[MOB Karen]

Oh, did I forget to tell you that I am a 100 yrs old with 20 cats :p :bblol:

Yeah some ppl think that everyone is out to screw you in some way or another. While some ppl out there are, I don't see that from the regulars here. I love it here and probably spend too much time on here but it is just such a fun and pleasant experience ... I'm addicted ;)

And we post so many pictures of ourselves, plus our wedding pictures, it would be a pretty huge scam to pull off if we were making it up. :)

[hummingbird521]

I talk about this site and all of you (i consider everyone a friend) to some of my family and of course jerry. I don't hide it or feel weird about it in anyway. But even though this is the first forum i have ever been on the internet dating is how jerry and i met. So he completely understands and so does my family. but they do at times think i might give to much info (they worry as most people do). but doesn't bother me. I can't imagine a day going by without checking in on everyone and seeing how things are going. I have become an addict. But if i am addicted to something this would be one of the best addictions i can think of. :D

[darkangel090260]

Ross ask for up dates about what is going on and sometime reads post over my shoulder. And i do talk about you all with some of my other on line friends. ok i am a SAHM and dont know anyone here my on line friend keep me saine

[katieandalex]

Really, the only people I talk about my messageboards to is Alex (and its funny because he knows a ton of people on UW by their names just because I talk about them all the time and I've been on the site for so long)...I sometimes talk to my one friend (BM) about it and sometimes randomly say some stuff to my parents....but generally, I don't talk about my messageboards.

[LizabethDavis]

Pat knows about this place, as does my mother. I really don't have much of a need to talk to people about it, but when people at Gwen's wedding asked how we met, I just told them. Of course, she met Nicholas online, so nobody there thought it was a big deal. I will be telling everyone at my wedding the same thing when they ask how Gwen and I met. I don't care what people think, I just don't feel the need to tell everyone about it.

[rainbowtreat]

I talk about it all the t ime if something comes up and it makes me thing of one of you or a post I have read. I do the same and say " on this wedding forum I am a member of" or something to that fact. With Nicholas I just talk about you all and say you know the ones on line.

I dont try to hide it nor do I go out and yell it on the streets. But I dont keep it a secret by any means. I met Nicholas on line and we are now married and I wouldnt trade him for the world. And I met one of my best freinds online.

My family used to think I spent to much time on the pc after my split with my ex husband. But to me, I was a single mom with 2 little kids and not alot of money. My family should have been gratefull I was just on line and not out getting drunk and leaving my kids with who ever. Being on here keep me sain.

[MsJessica07]

I think these kinds of forums will become more and more accepted...I mean, when I'm married and someone says they're planning a wedding, I might even suggest to them that they seek out a forum to help them. Right now, only my FH knows, but I did mention it to my friend who's thinking about becomming a wedding planner and I'm planning to mention it to my friend who's also planning a wedding the next time I see her (prob. later tonight).

We have a great thing going...people don't get it, and will only understand slowly, I think.

[Kacie_bride]

I tell all kinds of people about this board! I talk to my mom about it every day! I don't care what they think if they have a problem.

[theweddinghelper]

People do look at me weird when I talk about it. J is used to it by now, and my sister undertands because she was on a similar one when she was trying to get pregnant.
What is the place she went on when she was trying 2 get pregnant?

[nikkiana]

Since I'm so new to OneWed I can't speak specifically about it, but I belong to a lot of other message boards so the same situation applies... I occasionally talk about the boards I belong to and what I've read in real life, but I don't give out the names of the boards I post at... Mostly because I don't really want real life friends and family looking for them.

I usually don't have a problem with people giving me a hard time for posting stuff online.... Though, if I do, I've noticed that it's generally from people I know who are older, computer illiterate and believe everything they see on TV....

[Mrs. Pickering]

Nope!! As soon as I found this place I was so excited I just HAD to tell Ryan! I had been moping about not having UW and being able to talk to my girls so when I got on here he just let me alone and let me play!!

[HelenAngel]

I'm on a few places so it's not like I mention them (or here) specifically. But my life has pretty much been 0nline since I was 12 so it's not strange to myself or anyone I know to refer to things that are 0nline. I guess it's just different when you grow up with it and all your friends did as well.

[cowboysbride]

I talk about it with Eric but that's about it...I vent on here and that's private stuff to me so I wouldn't want the people I am venting about to find it, but if they did I'd tell them.... "Well you pissed me off that day and I had one of two choices..1. vent to my onewed friends or 2. knock the sh*t out of you for pissing me off during the happiest time of my life LOL!

[MOB Karen]

I talk about it with Eric but that's about it...I vent on here and that's private stuff to me so I wouldn't want the people I am venting about to find it, but if they did I'd tell them.... "Well you pissed me off that day and I had one of two choices..1. vent to my onewed friends or 2. knock the sh*t out of you for pissing me off during the happiest time of my life LOL!

Exactly. Considering the alternative, I think they would understand. LOL!

[cowboysbride]

Exactly. Considering the alternative, I think they would understand. LOL!

LOL that what I thought!:wink:

CONGRATS KAREN, MOB/MODERATOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks, Ellen!!

[serda23]

I'm new here too, so I cant specifically say I have a "OneWed" secret... I do talk about the friends I've made on the boards we were on beforehand with certain people. Jeff knows most of you by description rather than by name "the girl that sent me the pretzels?" or "the one that sent the shoes?" (Yeah, seriously, I have made some of the BEST friends via these forum thingies!) However... my mom? I tried explaining how I scored free shoes from an "internet friend" and all I got was some very funny looks. lol.