FBIL problems

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

So Jonathan did not ask FBIL to be his best man and we're both paying dearly for it. Here's the story:

Jonathan got married in 2003 and FBIL was his best man. An hour before the ceremony he was supposed to show up with the bride's gift. He never showed. They pushed the ceremony back an hour waiting for him but again he never showed. His excuse? He "had to work" and he posts in his Live Journal 3 days later that he blew off the wedding to go hang out with friends. Jonathan was not amused. He later admitted it to Jonathan and said he didnt want to be there because his friend was having a birthday party and he wanted to take her out before her party.

So Jonathan does not want him to be the Best Man but he asked him to be a groomsman, which I think is awfully generous considering the circumstances. So now FBIL is throwing the equivalent to a hissy fit (he's 24) because he's not getting his way. He's told me and Jonathan off numerous times, ruined countless family gatherings (we get together every week for Brunch) and has threatend to not show up again.

I think I can deal with it and I know its tearing Jonathan up, but he honestly feels that it is the best decision.

Thanks for listening!

[AngelinLove]

Well, the way that I see it...I would rather him not show up as a groomsmen than as the bestman. I would tell him point blank....you can be a groomsman, be happy about it, and show up...or we can replace you with someone else right now and be done with it!!!!!

[StaceyMc]

I would say that he should count his blessings that he's even a groomsman! I can't imagine someone being involved in a wedding, much less the best man and brother of the groom, and just blowing it off to go to a party!!

[MOB Karen]

I can't believe that anyone would want him to be one of their groomsmen. He so doesn't deserve it. He sounds like a jerk to me. You are way more forgiving than I would be in this situation!

[HelenAngel]

I think Jonathan is being MORE than generous having him as a groomsman. He didn't show up when he was Best Man before, why in the WORLD would he think he would be asked to be Best Man again? It sounds like this guy has some issues with needing to be the center of attention.

[Kacie_bride]

I'm with Karen on this one. For one I would never consider him as a groomesmen. He would be lucky to even get an invitation to attend if it were me. He is being such a jerk.