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Whitewater
06-29-2009, 01:52 PM
I just realized that my wedding journal and so on has left many questions unanswered! Not only that, but I thought I'd create this journal so that I can talk about our honeymoon plans and the after-wedding stuff (nobody tells you as a bride that things don't end after the ceremony!) and so on without clogging up the other sections of OW's forum.

The big thing is that we're excitedly waiting for the CD with all the professional pictures on it from the wedding. Should come in the mail sometime this week. Can't wait to see them! The biggest thing is that after we get them, we can get actual prints of the pictures and send them along with the thank-you notes for our friends and family. I was hoping things would work out this way.

Still haven't received our 'official' marriage certificate from the state, though we have them from the county. I am wondering if that's enough to be able to start changing my name over for the small stuff, like my gym membership and so on. The county ones were signed and witnessed and so on, just like the 'official' certificate, so I'm thinking they would work, but I don't know for sure.

My parents turned out to be reasonably ok with me changing my entire name. I simply explained that a new name was more appropriate for the new person I am and the new relationship (and didn't say anything else), and my father understood, though I think he had a bit of a struggle to 'get' it. My mom was able to 'get' it and be ok a lot faster, because apparently when she went off to college she had the same sort of feelings about her own name, and started introducing herself with a nickname, instead of the full version of her name, so she at least had a small frame of reference for my decision. It also helped that I made it pretty clear that when it came to people who'd already known me forever, they very likely weren't going to remember the new name and would continue to call me by my old first name, and that I understood and was ok with that -- but that legally, if they were going to write checks or send something in the mail, etc, they needed to remember the new name.

Oh -- and making our own favors with chocolate was a HUGE hit and people scarfed them up. The few that weren't eaten were taken home by our friends. We had none left for ourselves! So I would recommend that for anybody who's looking for a cheap, easy, edible favor. It was dead simple to do (we just followed the directions on the packages) and didn't take up very much time, just one afternoon. There also wasn't any cooking involved, you just melted the chocolate in the microwave, put it into the molds, hit the molds against the counter a few times to get rid of the bubbles, and stuck them in the freezer for 20-30 minutes. We slammed the mold tray against the counter to release the chocolates and then wrapped them in tinfoil. Easy, easy, easy.

More later -- have to go get lunch!


Whitewater

WBandMe
07-01-2009, 12:51 AM
I thought about you on your wedding day! I hope it was everything you dreamed of! (And sorry if you've posted about it somewhere; I haven't had time to really catch up on here yet.)

Whitewater
07-01-2009, 12:09 PM
Yep, I posted a run-down in the Wedding Day journals section :) And non-pro pics in the appropriate spot too.

I was just noticing on my ticker today that it is now officially 1 week since I got married. Wow, time flies! And we're still married! LOL! Marriage feels great and I think DH feels even strongly about me and about us than he did when we were not married, even though we were 'all-but-legal' for almost two years.

We received our pictures in the mail yesterday, along with our legal, official, certified copy of our marriage license. Which was cool.

I find it interesting that outwardly our lives haven't changed all that much, but inwardly, our relationship is definitely strengthening and getting more solid, without us really consciously doing anything to forward that, so that's good.

Getting legally married hasn't changed the outward stuff at all. He still goes to work, I still take care of the house and the garden and the dogs, we still get invited places by our friends and go to sporting events like roller derby and soccer, so in that way nothing has changed. We still have the same daily budget for groceries and bills and so on. I find this comforting -- I *like* what we've already built and it works for both of us, whether married or no! So our routine hasn't changed any, which works for me just fine.

I didn't expect anything to change, but developing an even better relationship is an unexpected benefit!


Whitewater (going to the bank to change my name on everything today!)

amisteratwisterandme
07-01-2009, 12:33 PM
Whitewater!

I am so glad that your parents were okay with the name change. What a huge relief for you. I know you were going to do it regardless, but I am sure it is that much sweeter that it didn't cause any more drama in your family.