Confessions of a Wedding Planner

[lalaland13]

This is a list of things that allegedly mean your marriage is doomed. I can understand some of it, but I think fighting a little is normal, especially during a stressful wedding. But yeah, a big argument would be bad.

I think the no. 6 warning sign should be, "Your bride is excited about this show she's gonna appear on called Bridezilla."

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/confessions-of-a-wedding-planner-5-signs-a-couple-will-crash-and-burn-478684/

[SkippyNXC]

lol thankfully we haven't hit ANY of those LOL nor ur #6 hahahaa

[Goders]

You know, minus the fighting in front of the planner (seeing how we don't have a real wedding planner lol) and the bachelor party thing, we've over come the other three.

He actually picked out our cake, and I think it looks amazing, his mother was trying to take control over the wedding, but we didn't allow her to, my dress is actually my grandmother's wedding dress, so I didn't spend a penny on it lol.

As far as the bachelor party goes, he's not interested in having one, even though I told his friends to take him to the strip club and have a good time, he out and out refuses.

As far as fighting goes, he really can't help much when it comes to choosing anything with colors (he's color blind and has a hard time seeing the difference between blue, purple and red), so we really don't have much to fight about, besides, he told me we could have the ugliest wedding in the world, but as long as I say "I do", he'll be happy.

I could see where a lot of these things could put a major strain on things, but I wouldn't say they always mean an impending divorce.

[~MrsTyson~]

I thought these were funny. The one thats the closest to us would be the first one. Actually I really WANTED him to be more involved, so I asked him about our first dance song because I remembered a long time ago him talking about a song he always wanted at his wedding. He was excited to pick it....but after I heard it, I REALLY, really dislike it. LOL.

(2) His birth mother isnt involved, and the woman who raised him is surrounded by people that dont like me, so she stays out of it for that sake.

(4) Our bachelor/ette party is gonna be co-ed more than likely. No worries either way.

(3) I would never, ever spend a ridiculous amount on a dress I wear once,
and luckily my tastes dont call for any prices like that anyway.

(5) I do not like people in my business enough to have a full fledged arguement in front of a stranger. I am able to keep my mouth closed until we are in private.

I guess we got lucky in a sense. Even though I dont like his choice of song, I like that he feels involved and knows that it is his day too.

[ChristineLS]

I really disagree with the bachelor party one. On one hand, there is that trust issue, but on the other hand, there is a respect issue. This isn't an issue for FH and I since we have the same values, but if someone who is about to be married feels and urge to go to a really sexually charged environment before they do it, what does that say about their perspective on the commitment they are about to make (and this goes for the bride or the groom). Again, it's my value set I suppose. I don't like the idea that a partner is supposed to shut up about something that bothers them in the name of letting sexual stereotypes be perpetuated (here, letting "boys be boys" whatever that means).

On second thought, I suppose freaking out over the bachelor party here, while that article casts the bride as a controlling freak, may be more indicative of value incompatibility and trust than it is about the women being controlling and letting boys be boys. If both bride and groom are OK with that, values align. If not, there is tension and differences in what constitutes acceptable. That's a big problem for people planning their lives together.

Are strip clubs even that common of a bachelor party? No one I know has done that, opting for a night out with friends at the bar, or camping, or something else... and it seems a night on the town is more common.

[Bunnyfeet]

I agree about the bachelor's party section. I don't like that someone is criticized for not wanting their FH to be in a sex-filled room the night before they are married. I think it would be more accurate to say there might be problems coming up if the couple can't agree on what's appropriate to do the night before. Cause if some people are cool with a bachelor/bachelorette party then okay, but not everyone is and it needs to be mutual.

(And I opened a whole can of worms by clicking on the link "Confessions of a Bachelor Party Stripper" Holy smokes! I had no idea. I mean I'm sure not all bachelor's parties are that out of control, but geez. I'd really consider it cheating at that point. Well, I would consider the whole stripper thing kind of cheating in general, but that's my relationship and our viewpoint on it. But once it gets down to actually doing things with the groom, I think that's cheating in anybody's book.)