Danielle and Jon want a baby ...

[Danielle9608]

So I wasn't going to start a journal till I actually got pregnant but it seems now like that might not be for a while. I figured I could start a journal to keep track of my cycles and keep me from going insane. So here it goes...

We have been actively trying for our first baby since February 2009 with no success. As a teenager I had very irregular periods and went on BC to correct the issue. And then later stayed on it as a form of BC. I started BC at 15 and came off it at 25. I am now 26. My first 2 periods coming off the pill were regular so I thought everything was okay. Then I had a 56 day cycle followed by the 61 day cycle that I currently am on. I don't ovulate in between. I have been charting and taking OPK's but I want to start charting my CM too.

My doctor says there is nothing they can do until I get to CD 90 (I am at CD61 today) and even then, they can only talk about how to correct my period issues not my ovulating issues. She said they can not do any tests or give me any medication until we have been trying for a full year.

I explained how I don't ovulate every month and that I have only ovulated (according to an OPK) 3 times this entire year. But still nothing. :( She just kept saying "I am sorry, this is the protocol."

This is my second OB/GYN and I don't think I can see a specialist without a referral and they wont give me a referral till we have been trying for a year.

I think I may have a long journey ahead of me, I know it going to be a tough one. It been hard this far, but it the end I know it will be worth it. I just want to be a mommy!

[savepaws]

I so hope that it happens for you and soon!! It must be so frustrating that your doctors just say keep trying and won't look into it any further.

[amisteratwisterandme]

Danielle,

We are all rooting for you! I think you would be an excellent mommy, and hope it happens for you soon.

[SkippyNXC]

Danielle,
I hope you get your BFP soon... to share a story (hope it's helpful) when my parents were married (1973 i think) they decided they wanted a baby (me!) but my dad had enlisted in the marines so they said they would start trying once he got back. Well very shortly before he was going to be shipped out, I believe days before, some blood work came back from his physical and my dad had cancer. They told my parents he probably would not survive the cancer. My mom always says that it was the thought of me in his future that helped him survive. He beat the cancer... and they were cleared to start TTCing... this was 1976... I was born in 1981! While they took a lil time before seriously trying, it took them a really long time to get PG... but it happened! And i think it happened when it was meant to happen... there was no fertility treatments... it just happened i think when it was supposed to... i'm a big believer in fate
i can't imagine being in yours or their shoes! I don't know if it's helpful at all but i thought i'd share. If my parents hadn't had difficulty I may not be here LOL there may be some ugly guy who looks like my brother in my place!

i really hope your time is soon! take a deep breath tho! Try your best to relax and enjoy the time with your husband! Before you no it, u'll have that BFP and never be alone with ur man again! ;)

i'm keeping my fingers n toes crossed for you!

[starsthrumysoul]

Danielle,

I've been following your posts on the TTC thread.

I'm thinking you need a new doctor. When I went to see my new gyno for the first time 2 months ago, she said that she would take me off BC, schedule me an appt 4 months away, and that I could go on clomid then. I don't think there's any good reason for having to wait 90 days. If you're anxious, I would see a doctor who's willing to move forward with you (cautiously, of course).

[Heywie]

Yay! You finally started a journal! Now I don't have to stalk the TTC thread to find out what's going on with you!

I'm with you on the long time on BC thing... I've been off for 2.5 months now and I sure hope my cycle doesn't follow yours! Best of luck!

[Qtpie]

Danielle I hope everything falls into place for you soon, that way you dont have to wait until Feb. 2010 to get help.

[Danielle9608]

Thanks everyone!! :hug:

[gwenshack]

Danielle,

We are all rooting for you! I think you would be an excellent mommy, and hope it happens for you soon.

She took the words right out of my mouth. :)

[yam102284]

:hug:I really hope you get that BFP soon! Like Nicole said, take the time with your husband and enjoy it. Before you know it, you'll have that BFP.

[FFC]

Danielle, you brought tears to my eyes. You will make a great mommy one day... and I can't wait to hear the news when you get your BFP!!! I'm going to literally do the happy dance when you are successful :)

In the meantime, I have to agree and say I think it's time for yet another OB/GYN. I hate switching doctors, it's such a hassle, but if it's something you're willing to try - they say third time's a charm.

[Brian's Bride]

Do you know for sure if you need a referral? Because I just called the fertility clinic in Milwaukee and they took me without one. Needing a referral never came up. So just doublecheck to make sure you actually need a referral. And I have to agree with Justina, doesn't sound like the new OB/GYN is going to work out, especially if they just keep telling you "it's protocol."

Good luck!

[Danielle9608]

Do you know for sure if you need a referral? Because I just called the fertility clinic in Milwaukee and they took me without one. Needing a referral never came up. So just doublecheck to make sure you actually need a referral. And I have to agree with Justina, doesn't sound like the new OB/GYN is going to work out, especially if they just keep telling you "it's protocol."

Good luck!

No I don't know for sure, I am just assuming that I needed one. I think I am going to wait it out till CD 90 (July 17) because then they have to let me see the doctor. This whole time I have been talking with the medical assistant and I think she is wrong about the "protocol" or at least I don't think it should apply to me since I am not even ovulating. I am just worried each time I change doctors I loose some creditability. But if she says on CD 90 that I still have to wait a year to do any tests then I will look for a new doctor. I would hate to wait a year and then find out that I am not even able to ovulate.

On another note I ordered a smokey topaz pendant. It is suppose to boost fertility. We'll see; I don't really believe in that kind of stuff but I'll take all the help I can get now ;)

[Danielle9608]

Here is my smokey topaz pendant, it is actually pretty too.

http://i238.photobucket.com/albums/ff190/danielle9608/31gj8Gxc89L_SS500_.jpg

[FFC]

Wow Danielle that pendant is gorgeous!!!

[Heywie]

I love the pendant! Whatever works!

I agree with you about the doctor. I think you've come this far (aren't you close to CD90 as it is?) and if they don't start doing tests and such then you should switch for sure.

Good luck with the pendant! Let me know if it helps!!

[Danielle9608]

I love the pendant! Whatever works!

I agree with you about the doctor. I think you've come this far (aren't you close to CD90 as it is?) and if they don't start doing tests and such then you should switch for sure.

Good luck with the pendant! Let me know if it helps!!

Thanks! Today is CD 65 so 25 more days to go.

[Nekochanpurr]

I don't have any words of wisdom.. But good luck to you!

[brendalin]

Here is my smokey topaz pendant, it is actually pretty too.

http://i238.photobucket.com/albums/ff190/danielle9608/31gj8Gxc89L_SS500_.jpg

This is beautiful! I think that I want one because it is so pretty!

[Docsgirl]

That pendant is really pretty!! :D

[Danielle9608]

Thanks everyone! I hope I get it soon. :) Today Jon found out his work does flexible spending. We get our health insurance through my work since they pay for 90% but they don't offer flexible spending. The enrolling period is only once a year in December so we will enroll then. Hopefully by then I will be pregnant. Either way this should help with the co-payments (which are $10 for each visit) if I am or not pregnant by December, it will be close enough to a year of trying to start seeing fertility specialists.

[Brian's Bride]

Flex Spending is awesome! I put away $1500 for this year and only have $300 left! Stupid fertility stuff!! Just call and ask for pricing on your HSG exam (fallopian tube check) and Jon will need the semen analysis. That's what I based my flex spend account with. I also used it for some acupuncture sessions. You might want to check that out, too, and it might help you to get a period.

[Danielle9608]

Flex Spending is awesome! I put away $1500 for this year and only have $300 left! Stupid fertility stuff!! Just call and ask for pricing on your HSG exam (fallopian tube check) and Jon will need the semen analysis. That's what I based my flex spend account with. I also used it for some acupuncture sessions. You might want to check that out, too, and it might help you to get a period.

Did insurance not cover the HSG exam? I guess I should look into that!

[Brian's Bride]

We didn't think it would, because a lot of infertility stuff isn't covered through a lot of insurance. But we lucked out and they covered either $600 or $900 of it. I don't exactly remember. I remember it was a $1200 procedure, though!

[smileyone2002]

Ohh I am so glad that you started this!! I have VERY similiar problems as far as the irregular periods and such. My only issue is that Charlie doesnt want to sart offically trying until December so I have to sit and wait..haha! But I wish you good luck with everything!!:)

[Goin2thechapel]

Hey Danielle,

You are in luck my love. Massachusetts became one of like 14 states that MANDATE health insurance companies to provide infertility treatment. Sucks for me since I just moved to NH, but something you might want to check out.


Copied from asrm.org
Massachusetts
This state's law requires health maintenance organizations and insurance companies that cover pregnancy-related benefits to cover medically necessary expenses of infertility diagnosis and treatment. The law defines infertility as "the condition of a presumably healthy individual who is unable to conceive or produce conception during a one-year period."
Benefits covered include:

Artificial insemination;
In vitro fertilization;
Gamete Intrafallopian Transfer;
Sperm, egg and/or inseminated egg retrieval, to the extent that those costs are not covered by the donor's insurer;
Intracytoplasmic Sperm Injection (ICSI) for the treatment of male infertility; and
Zygote Intrafallopian Transfer (ZIFT).
Insurers may, but are not required, to cover experimental procedures, surrogacy, reversal of voluntary sterilization or cryopreservation of eggs. (Annotated Laws of Massachusetts, Chapters 175,§ 47H; 176A,§8K;176B,§4J; and l76G,§4, 211 CMR 37.00).


Here's a wesbite that explains the law and gives you the actual law number
http://www.ncsl.org/IssuesResearch/Health/InsuranceCoverageforInfertilityLaws/tabid/14391/Default.aspx

[Danielle9608]

Thanks Amanda that is super helpful and the best news I've heard all day :)

[firespirit]

Thanks Amanda that is super helpful and the best news I've heard all day :)


Just make sure you pay attention to the 1 year legal definition (otherwise it looks like insurance might be able to deny the claim).

[Danielle9608]

Just make sure you pay attention to the 1 year legal definition (otherwise it looks like insurance might be able to deny the claim).

This might be why my doctor isn't willing to offer any help to me before one year, even though I am not ovulating.

[Danielle9608]

Nothing new to report today today is CD 72, 18 more days till I get to see the doctor.

[Danielle9608]

So my smoky topaz necklace came in the mail yesterday. It is really pretty in person. As soon as I saw the package I yelled to Jon. He was so cute, he came running over and was like "open it, put it on!" And I put it on and he was like, "so... is it working yet?" LOL I told him it's not like a magic lamp. But I am still hoping it helps. :bblol: I am wearing it today so I will keep you posted ;)

[FFC]

Awww I'm glad he's such a good support system for you. That's great that he was excited about it too!

[Danielle9608]

Awww I'm glad he's such a good support system for you. That's great that he was excited about it too!

Don't get me wrong I really really want a baby, but I think Jon wants one even more. It's pretty cute. :)

[brendalin]

"open it, put it on!" And I put it on and he was like, "so... it is working yet?"

Too cute! Hopefully it works!

[Qtpie]

good luck danielle, I hope you get to come on and give us all a BIG surprise soon, I cant wait to hear that you got your BFP.

[Danielle9608]

Today is CD 79. Starting to get REALLY antsy and I want to call the doctor but I don't want them to tell me to wait and call back when I am closer to CD 90. I think I will call on Wednesday or Thursday when I am CD 81 or CD 82.

Jon said he wants to come to the appointment with me. He wants to make sure they test me for PCOS. I showed him this WebMD article I was reading because I have all the symptoms. I just really want some resolution about what is going on with me. I really feel like this last month has been torture. All of these strange things are happening to my body and I feel like all I ever hear is "what and see." It's enough to drive a person INSANE!! </rant>

[FFC]

That's good that Jon wants to go with you. Let him be the bad guy and get nasty with them if needed :)

[kgvettegirl]

I love when RC goes with me cause he gets all defensive and down their throats. Things really start happening then cause they don't want to deal with an irate husband. The key phrase is "I want you to figure out what is going on with my wife and I want you to do it now!"

Also have them check your thyroid, hormone levels and Blood sugar just do a total check up.

[Danielle9608]

I love when RC goes with me cause he gets all defensive and down their throats. Things really start happening then cause they don't want to deal with an irate husband. The key phrase is "I want you to figure out what is going on with my wife and I want you to do it now!"

Also have them check your thyroid, hormone levels and Blood sugar just do a total check up.

Yes he is getting pretty pissed at this point! Cause it's July and I have only had 3 periods this entire year. 2 of them were in January and February. I stopped BC in December. I will definitely have them check my hormones. I am not a doctor but I am willing to bet money my hormones are levels are NOT were they are suppose to be now.

I got really depressed this weekend. Cause it was the first hot and sunny day in a long time. And I wanted to wear a cute tank top. But because of my skin is so broken out and ***** and gross looking I felt so self conscious and didn't. Jon and I were waiting in line at dairy queen and there was a bunch of teenage girls in front of us with tank tops on. And I got all sad remembering how clear and nice my skin was at that age. :( It's not fair. At 26 you shouldn't be getting acne like this.

[kgvettegirl]

I know how you feel at 51, I should be way past acne. Once they figure out what is going on and get you on the right meds it should get better.

[smileyone2002]

Aww, Danielle I hope things get better for you! You should be enjoying yourself right now, not having to stress over things like this. :whyme:

I am curious to see what the doctor says because your symtoms sound a lot like mine. I went off BC and had a couple back to back periods and then nothing for a couple months. My back broke out real bad, which it has cleared up now...but anyways you get the point....I just want to hear what they have to say! Taking your hubby is a good idea, it will be harder for them to out TWO off you off instead of just one.

I have been thinking about you, and hoping for the best. I come on here and check your journal first, just to see if there is any good news!! :hug:

[flyerso6]

good luck. I know how you feel about the acne thing. While I was on bc and even the few years before starting it my skin was nice and clear. When I got pregnant it cleared up a little, but after m/c it was terrible. One week it would look ok and then the next it would look really bad. I was so mad because I am 24 not 14.. grr. Since being on clomid my hormones are somewhat normal so my skin is looking alot better.

Good luck at the Dr. I really hope they figure things out for you... I kind of wish my Dr. would have ran tests to try to figure out my problem instead of just giving me clomid. ( run tests and still give me the drugs :-) ). Its great your DH is going with you!!

[Danielle9608]

Guess who finally got an appointment? ME! I am going to have a blood test done on July 17 (CD 90) and a followup to discuss the results on July 22. I hope they will finally take me seriously now!

[SkippyNXC]

YAY!!!! *happy dance ensues*

[Heywie]

FINALLY!!!

It's about time! I'm so happy for you! Now that you're in, don't let them send you away without some answers!!!

[FFC]

WOOP WOOP!!!!! Good job Danielle! Jon's going with you right?

[Danielle9608]

WOOP WOOP!!!!! Good job Danielle! Jon's going with you right?

Yup. He is coming to the follow-up. The first one they are just going to draw the blood. They are testing my hormone levels and giving me a pregnancy test. LOL I giggled at that one. I was said it's not like I haven't taken 18 pregnancy tests already, but knock your socks off. ;)

[firespirit]

Guess who finally got an appointment? ME! I am going to have a blood test done on July 17 (CD 90) and a followup to discuss the results on July 22. I hope they will finally take me seriously now!

YAY! I'm glad it's moving along. (Sucks that you had to go through it, but at least something might start moving in the right direction finally)

[FFC]

Yup. He is coming to the follow-up. The first one they are just going to draw the blood. They are testing my hormone levels and giving me a pregnancy test. LOL I giggled at that one. I was said it's not like I haven't taken 18 pregnancy tests already, but knock your socks off. ;)

Yayyyyy... it sounds like they're being more thorough. Is this the same doctor's office?

[Danielle9608]

Yayyyyy... it sounds like they're being more thorough. Is this the same doctor's office?

This is the second OB/GYN not the first one that refused to even give me a blood pregnancy test. With this place it was always an option open to me, but I am 100% I am not pregnant. I just needed someone to figure out why I am not getting my period and ovulating.

[Qtpie]

Yay, a Dr. appointment, I cant wait to hear what they say. I hope they have some good answers for you. Hope everything starts working out for you Danielle. Your going to be such a great mom.

[yam102284]

Glad you got a doctor's appointment. Hope they come up with some good news for you! :)

[gwenshack]

Awesome! Glad you got an appointment. Hopefully you'll find the answers you seek...! :)

[ikkin510]

Finally an appointment is set! I hope it will bring you your much needed and deserved answers!

[smileyone2002]

Awesome!!! Good Luck and hopefully you will get some answers!!

[NOTKT]

Whew! That's great news! Your husband sounds so sweet!

[Danielle9608]

Thank you everyone! I am counting down the days till my appointment. Only 10 more days till the first one. I really am hoping to be pregnant by the end of the year. I was originally hoping by the end of the summer but I doubt that is going to happen, but will be very nice if it does. :innocent:

[Brian's Bride]

Good luck at the doctor appointment! Are you going to bring in all of your charts?

[Danielle9608]

Good luck at the doctor appointment! Are you going to bring in all of your charts?

I brought my charts in for the first appointment but she didn't really seem interested in looking at it. I kept charting until mid June and then I stopped. I guess I was just frustrated with it because my temps were all over the place and it was clear I wasn't ovulating. But I have kept up with the OPK's and haven't ovulated.

[starsthrumysoul]

It sucks when you're doing everything YOU should be doing (like OPK's, charting, etc.) and can't get anywhere with the doctor's office. I'm glad that you've finally gotten an appointment - way to go for sticking it out until CD 90 (I think I might have beaten in their door by then). We're hoping only good things for you!!

[Docsgirl]

Good luck with your appointment! Hopefully they'll figure everything out for you! :D

[WBandMe]

I'm so glad you finally got an appointment. Best wishes to you that you get some answers and get yourself back on the baby train!!

[brendalin]

YAH!!! So happy to hear that you finally got an appotinment! Hopefully they figure out what is all going on with you guys soon so you can feel at peace!

[Danielle9608]

Tomorrow is my blood test. I am getting antsy! I actually hope something is wrong with me so they can fix it and we can FINALLY move on to the next cycle. This past 3 months have been the longest ever. I can't believe the last time I had my period was in April, seems so long ago!

[Brian's Bride]

I hope that blood test is revealing, too! Good luck!

[brendalin]

Good luck tmrw! I hope that they find somthing wrong with you too (I am saying this in a nice way!) Then they can fix it and you guys can have the baby you have been hoping for!

[Qtpie]

Good Luck tomorrow Danielle. I hope that they can figure everything out and get you pregnant.

[FFC]

Keeping my fingers crossed for you!!!!

[flyerso6]

Good luck!!! Hopefully you finally get some answers.

[smileyone2002]

Hope everything goes well and you figure some things out! Good luck!!:innocent:

[FFC]

*hyper hyper hyper* Can't wait to hear about your appointment Danielle!

[Danielle9608]

Thanks I go in an hour to get the blood work done and then on Wednesday I find out the results. I was on Web MD all night. I think (of course I have no medical degree or training) that I have either a over acting thyroid or PCOS.

[FFC]

O gosh you have to wait 5 days? :irked: Psh.. what's 5 more days after 90 already right? I'm sorry...

[Danielle9608]

O gosh you have to wait 5 days? :irked: Psh.. what's 5 more days after 90 already right? I'm sorry...

Yup, today is my 90th day. However in fairness to them they need 2 days to do the blood work so Wednesday really was the earliest the could see me.

[FFC]

Yup, today is my 90th day. However in fairness to them they need 2 days to do the blood work so Wednesday really was the earliest the could see me.

My doctor does the blood work and because I'm registered online, they send me the results online. I sometimes have results within 24 hours. I wonder if yours can do that or if they're supposed to wait to have you 'in house'.

[Danielle9608]

My doctor does the blood work and because I'm registered online, they send me the results online. I sometimes have results within 24 hours. I wonder if yours can do that or if they're supposed to wait to have you 'in house'.

Wow. I don't think my doctor even has a website. :upsidown: I think they want me to come in. I hoping they will discuss putting me on medicine to make me get my period and make me ovulate, but will see. At the very least I just want to know what is wrong with me and how to jump start my cycle again. I am really hoping to be pregnant by September. :)

[FFC]

Wow. I don't my doctor even has a website. :upsidown: I think they want me to come in. I hoping they will discuss putting me on medicine to make me get my period and make me ovulate, but will see. At the very least I just want to know what is wrong with me and how to jump start my cycle again. I am really hoping to be pregnant by September. :)

That would be SO COOL if you are successful by September!!!!!! I've never hoped for a period so much before - especially when you're TRYING to get preggo LOL.

[Qtpie]

I hope everything goes smooth today Danielle, and I would LOVE for you to have your BFP by September.

[Brian's Bride]

I figured we'd have to wait on the blood results... at least it's a step in the right direction!

[NOTKT]

*fingers crossed* :)

[Thalia_themuse]

Best of luck with the test results... Hopefully they fix you up and you can pregnant asap!!

:heart:

[brendalin]

I was thinking about you this weekend... hope to hear some positive news on wednesday!

[Danielle9608]

I was thinking about you this weekend... hope to hear some positive news on wednesday!

Thank you! I am sooo antsy waiting. LOL I think I have been pretty patient up to this far, but now I keep checking my calendar every minute thinking maybe it somehow it magically became Wednesday. So far it's still only Monday thou :geek:

[FFC]

Thank you! I am sooo antsy waiting. LOL I think I have been pretty patient up to this far, but now I keep checking my calendar every minute thinking maybe it somehow it magically became Wednesday. So far it's still only Monday thou :geek:

You have an amazing sense of patience. Give yourself a pat on the back for me :)

[Danielle9608]

You have an amazing sense of patience. Give yourself a pat on the back for me :)

Thank you! I think god is making me practice my patience for when the kiddos come cause ... I'll need it. :winktongue:

[flyerso6]

good luck!!! You even have me excited for Wednesday hehe.. Hopefully they will figure out whats wrong and start treatment!!

[scarymary48]

Oh wow! I've been avoiding this whole part of the board for a few weeks, but I'm glad when I decided to peek back in, it was to see good news. It's already Wednesday in my neck of the woods, so I hope you aren't too far behind me time-wise, and get those results soon.

Good luck :flower:

[Danielle9608]

Oh wow! I've been avoiding this whole part of the board for a few weeks, but I'm glad when I decided to peek back in, it was to see good news. It's already Wednesday in my neck of the woods, so I hope you aren't too far behind me time-wise, and get those results soon.

Good luck :flower:
Thank you! I hope you are doing well too. Glad to see you back.

[starsthrumysoul]

Oh wow! I've been avoiding this whole part of the board for a few weeks, but I'm glad when I decided to peek back in, it was to see good news. It's already Wednesday in my neck of the woods, so I hope you aren't too far behind me time-wise, and get those results soon.

Good luck :flower:


Aww, still only Tuesday here... Can you see the results over there?!!?! :geek:

[Danielle9608]

Aww, still only Tuesday here... Can you see the results over there?!!?! :geek:

LOL that would be awesome. :)

[smileyone2002]

well today is wednesday!!! I cant wait to hear what you found out! Good Luck!

[FFC]

Oh yeah, and it's 1pm over there, isn't it?

We should be getting an update soonnnn.... I hope it's good news Danielle!!! :hyper:

[starsthrumysoul]

If patience is a virtue, what is impatience? I'm DYING over here!!

[gwenshack]

I'm actually glad I was gone during this waiting period so I didn't have to sit in the anticipation everyone else did! Hope you get your test results back ASAP so you can figure out what's going on and move forward! :)

[Danielle9608]

First off, I just want to say how touched I am over everyone's concern over me. Thank you!
I just came back from the doctor and she said my LH hormone was very high, but because the did the test randomly on and not on certain cycle day they can't be sure why. She said most likely I have PCOS but not to worry or get to caught up over the diagnosis because it's very easy to treat. She refered me to a Reproductive Endocrinologist, who is going to do more blood tests. They are also going to check Jon's sperm count a possibly do a test to make sure my tubes are open. After that they will put together a plan for me, and most likely put me on clomid. So right now I am just waiting for a phone call back from the RE. But all and all it's pretty good news because I feel like we are actually making progress now.

[Qtpie]

at least you got some kind of answers, sounds like your going to have to go through a handful of tests now. good luck danielle, and I really hope they get this all sorted out for you very soon.

[Mrs.Goff]

Well at least you know what your next step is. I hope that whatever it is it's easily treated.

[FFC]

Oh YAY you have some answers! Now you are making some progress. Even though they didn't say anything for sure, at least now you know where you're going, rather than sitting around, waiting for AF.

[SkippyNXC]

I'm happy you're movin along! I hope the RE can get u in soon so u can get even more answers n get that BFP!

[amisteratwisterandme]

I am so glad you have a bit of a plan now! Hopefully you can get your next appointment soon and be on your way to becoming a mommy.

[gwenshack]

It sounds like you have somebody working for you now! I'm glad that they told you not to get caught up in the diagnosis - that implies to me that it IS indeed something easily worked through! :)

[flyerso6]

thats great that you got a referral and have some answers.. it is a step in the right direction

[Brian's Bride]

Yay! A plan! I hope the RE has an opening for you soon! :)

[ChristineLS]

I hope this is the permanent end of the waiting game and that they continue to take you seriously (as you deserve!).

I'm not happy that there may be something wrong, but I'm happy that it looks like they are going to help your fertility! Good luck! :flower:

[Danielle9608]

I have an appointment with the RE on August 14. So 23 more days of waiting. But at least it's progress.

[Thalia_themuse]

I have an appointment with the RE on August 14. So 23 more days of waiting. But at least it's progress.

:( Sorry you still have to wait so long, but at least this is going somewhere! It's great that there is a plan now, so its not aimless waiting at least! Every day is bringing you closer to that first little baby.

Best of luck!!! :heart:

[Heywie]

You finally get to see a specialist! Hopefully this is a quick 23 days and then you've got a doc that actually knows what's going on with you!

Best of luck! So happy to read there was some sort of progress and they didn't just turn you away again!

[brendalin]

YAH! So glad that you got some answers and a plan in place! 23 days will be nothing when you had to wait 90 this last time!!!

[Danielle9608]

I told my boss about it today. No one at work knows that we have been trying. I figured it would be a good idea to give her a heads up though, because I am going to have a lot more doctor appointments and I didn't want her to think I was interviewing. She told me that she understood and for me to take all the time I need. :)

[FFC]

That's great that you have your boss's support!!!

[Qtpie]

sounds like you have an amazing boss. Good Luck danielle.

[Danielle9608]

Okay so I consider myself a fairly calm and laid back person but today I want to scream and punch someone!! Warning this is long ...

Okay for those of you that remember when I first started trying I was seeing a OB/GYN that flat out refused to give me a blood test when I was over 3 weeks late. They were condescending and not very friendly so I changed to a new OB/GYN. Well my PCP works in this network of doctors that has a bunch of different departments. Think of it as a mini hospital. But with my health insurance I CAN see people outside of this network. So my new OB/GYN works outside this network.

So now my new OB/GYN referred me to a RE that she works with. But my HMO requires me to get a referral for my PCP. So I call my PCP and ask for the referral. They told me they wouldn't be able to write me the referral because it's to someone outside their network. So I then explain how I used to see the OB/GYN department there but I had a problem with them and do not wish to see them anymore. They said fine, but they still will not write the referral - that I could see a RE in their network but not the one my OB/GYN referred me to.

So I call back my HMO and explain the situation. They were very empathetic but they said I only had two choices, 1. see the RE in their network or 2. change my PCP.

So I had to change my PCP...

So now that I have a new PCP I made a appointment on Thursday because I need them to write me a referral ASAP (my appointment with the RE in Aug 14th). I call my old PCP to get my files and they are giving me a hard time about it - telling me that I can have my latest immunizations but the other files will take 2 weeks to get and even if I go there to get them they are off site.

And after all this I don't have the referral to the RE yet. I am so frustrated I could SCREAM!! I have been on the phone for the past 2 hours straight. :irked:

[ChristineLS]

Okay so I consider myself a fairly calm and laid back person but today I want to scream and punch someone!! Warning this is long ...

Okay for those of you that remember when I first started trying I was seeing a OB/GYN that flat out refused to give me a blood test when I was over 3 weeks late. They were condescending and not very friendly so I changed to a new OB/GYN. Well my PCP works in this network of doctors that has a bunch of different departments. Think of it as a mini hospital. But with my health insurance I CAN see people outside of this network. So my new OB/GYN works outside this network.

So now my new OB/GYN referred me to a RE that she works with. But my HMO requires me to get a referral for my PCP. So I call my PCP and ask for the referral. They told me they wouldn't be able to write me the referral because it's to someone outside their network. So I then explain how I used to see the OB/GYN department there but I had a problem with them and do not wish to see them anymore. They said fine, but they still will not write the referral - that I could see a RE in their network but not the one my OB/GYN referred me to.

So I call back my HMO and explain the situation. They were very empathetic but they said I only had two choices, 1. see the RE in their network or 2. change my PCP.

So I had to change my PCP...

So now that I have a new PCP I made a appointment on Thursday because I need them to write me a referral ASAP (my appointment with the RE in Aug 14th). I call my old PCP to get my files and they are giving me a hard time about it - telling me that I can have my latest immunizations but the other files will take 2 weeks to get and even if I go there to get them they are off site.

And after all this I don't have the referral to the RE yet. I am so frustrated I could SCREAM!! I have been on the phone for the past 2 hours straight. :irked:

This is precisely why I think our current system of health care needs to be changed. If it's primary goal was to actually treat people, as opposed to keeping the money in their own pockets, you would not have been on the phone trying to convince people to let you jump through the hoops so you can get the care you actually, very much need :irked:

I spent Tuesday on the phone for about 45 minutes with doctors offices and my insurance company trying to make sure that the tests I need to make sure I don't have what they think they have (I don't want to post it in a public forum) are covered. It was so frustrating, but not close to how frustrating yours is. I cursed the phone as I hung it up, and that's not like me at all... If I had been in your shoes... yeah.

And I'm laid back too. It's a crappy system, that you shouldn't have to deal with!

Good luck though!

[amisteratwisterandme]

Gosh Danielle! I would want to scream also. Hang in there!

[Qtpie]

oh danielle, i hope you get everything straigtened out in time, what a mess.

[gwenshack]

WOW. That is SO annoying. I'm sorry for all the frustration! :irked:

[flyerso6]

oh wow that really stinks. Hopefully you get it sorted out.

[FFC]

GoodNESS Danielle.. that stinks. I hate dealing with HMO's :irked: I hope you get it all worked out :(

[starsthrumysoul]

Well I finally just got caught up with everything. Glad to hear that you *were* starting to make some progress, but sorry to hear about all the **** that you're getting about switching doc's to get the referral. It's hard not to get frustrated when all of this is so much out of your hands.

I hope that in the end, it makes the reward all that much more worth it.

[Danielle9608]

Well I finally just got caught up with everything. Glad to hear that you *were* starting to make some progress, but sorry to hear about all the **** that you're getting about switching doc's to get the referral. It's hard not to get frustrated when all of this is so much out of your hands.

I hope that in the end, it makes the reward all that much more worth it.

Thanks, sometimes I feel like God is testing me or something to see if I can really handle it. I know when it does finally happen it will be that more special because all the work we put into it. I am really *trying* to stay positive. But with that said, it's so much easier said then done. :whyme:

[FFC]

But with that said, it's so much easier said then done. :whyme:

Unfortunately, this is SO TRUE. Hang in there Danielle!

[NOTKT]

:hug:Try to hang in there, Danielle.

[starsthrumysoul]

it's so much easier said then done. :whyme:


You said it :whyme:

[Danielle9608]

I remember when I was getting married and I got to 100 days away and then it felt like it went by so fast, well today I am at CD 100. It feels like a year ago the last time I had AF. 18 more days till my appointment with the RE.

[Heywie]

Oh my! CD100!!! If you weren't trying to have a baby, that would be a blessing for me! I wish I could go that long without AF!

I hope the next 18 days cruise by and you can get some good help from your RE!

Did you ever get everything worked out with your provider?

[Danielle9608]

Oh my! CD100!!! If you weren't trying to have a baby, that would be a blessing for me! I wish I could go that long without AF!

I hope the next 18 days cruise by and you can get some good help from your RE!

Did you ever get everything worked out with your provider?

Thanks! Still working on it. I have a appointment with my new PCP on 8/7.

[LadyDante]

Hey Danielle. I read the 3rd commentary on this page( labeled "Whole Fat Milk and Fertility") and throught of you.
http://www.westonaprice.org/causticcommentary/caustic-commentary-2007su.html

Check it out. Best of luck

[Danielle9608]

Hey Danielle. I read the 3rd commentary on this page( labeled "Whole Fat Milk and Fertility") and throught of you.
http://www.westonaprice.org/causticcommentary/caustic-commentary-2007su.html

Check it out. Best of luck

Wow this is very interesting. I also drink skim milk. I guess I will be switching to whole. Thank you for sharing this with me! That was so sweet for you to think of me.

[LadyDante]

Wow this is very interesting. I also drink skim milk. I guess I will be switching to whole. Thank you for sharing this with me! That was so sweet for you to think of me.

My pleasure. I hope it helps.
Oh, and also avoid soy products, for both you and Jon. Makes it harder to concieve. If you use vegetable oil, check the label, because it may be made from soy

[FFC]

My pleasure. I hope it helps.
Oh, and also avoid soy products, for both you and Jon. Makes it harder to concieve. If you use vegetable oil, check the label, because it may be made from soy

Wow!! This is good info. I eat soy on a regular basis! Thanks for sharing!

[LadyDante]

Wow!! This is good info. I eat soy on a regular basis! Thanks for sharing!


My pleasure. Oh, and btw, check out on that website, under food categories, the article about what to feed a growing baby. It is totally different from "traditional" method, but it makes sense to me

[Thalia_themuse]

My pleasure. Oh, and btw, check out on that website, under food categories, the article about what to feed a growing baby. It is totally different from "traditional" method, but it makes sense to me

Hmm, while some of what they say makes sense, some of the information given is in opposition to the World Health Organisation, who really are the ones with the best info. http://www.who.int/topics/breastfeeding/en/ Has topics to do with breastfeeding and this page (http://www.who.int/features/qa/21/en/index.html) has a table of how much to feed a baby, and what is good to. It's a really good guide, and it is the WHO that sets the world standards based on the most up-to-date research and best health info available. My mother is a physiotherapist in charge of Women and Babies' health in the maternity ward of her hospital (I am jealous she gets to see babies every day, lol!). She keeps telling me about new studies having been done etc. that back up the WHO's guide lines. They are currently discussing the idea of introducing babies to solid foods at 4 months instead of 6, but this would seriously be little tastes of various things, and no actual 'meals' until 6 months as per usual.

If you guys want advice about health and nutrition for your future children I would definitely suggest verifying everything via the WHO site. Whole milk is a definite must for growing children though, unless they have allergies or the like. Of course, children who are breastfed to the extents the WHO recommend are far less likley to develop allergies than bottlefed babies.

Sorry for the long post, I am just anxious for babies to get the best possible health requirements, which happens if parents have access to the most accurate and up-to-date info. (I don't intend to come off like a 'nazi' or anything on these issues, I am seriosuly just trying to be helpful.)

[Danielle9608]

Thank you both for the information! I have been reading up on all the different theories about breastfeeding. There are so many ideologies on the subject and it can be quite over whelming at times. I figure if I read up on all of them I will have all the information to decide which is best for me and my baby.

[Danielle9608]

So last night Jon and I were talking about the provera thing. I made a post about it but if you did see it, long story short I think I am going to have my period on our anniversary. So I asked him if he wanted me to hold off on taking it. He said it was up to me but he was okay with no sex on our anniversary and didn't want to postphone the baby making any longer. What I sweet guy I have. :soppy: So I guess I wont be pregnant by September. :bbcry: I just really hope it happens before the end of this year.

[FFC]

So last night Jon and I were talking about the provera thing. I made a post about it but if you did see it, long story short I think I am going to have my period on our anniversary. So I asked him if he wanted me to hold off on taking it. He said it was up to me but he was okay with no sex on our anniversary and didn't want to postphone the baby making any longer. What I sweet guy I have. :soppy: So I guess I wont be pregnant by September. :bbcry: I just really hope it happens before the end of this year.

It sure would be nice to announce your pregnancy to your folks for Christmas wouldn't it? Even if you are *hopefully* 8-12 weeks along by then :)

[Danielle9608]

It sure would be nice to announce your pregnancy to your folks for Christmas wouldn't it? Even if you are *hopefully* 8-12 weeks along by then :)

Sure would be! :D

[gwenshack]

I did see the other thread. Jon's such a sweetheart - I'm glad you two have each other during this whole TTC process. I know it's been said time and again on this board, but high school really doesn't do justice to how difficult it is to have a baby. I really thought if I got anywhere near a man the sperm would come flying to my eggs like a magnet. LOL :bbeek:

I think delaying the provera vs not delaying - eh, probably you should just take it. Get the long term gratification quicker vs the short term. Although, all I thought when I read this, if I hadn't had my period for 100 days and delayed taking medicine so I would continue to not have it on my anniversary, it would end up just coming on its own on that day...LOL. Although, Murphy's Law seems to rule my life...:ooh:...!

[flyerso6]

You never know, your period may be over by your anniversary. If you start taking it the 14th, your last pill will be on the 23rd, which is 2 weeks before your anniversary. If af shows right away, I really hope you wouldn't still be on your period 1 1/2 weeks - 2 weeks later. Depending on which route your RE takes and you start af right after provera, you could be ovulating around your anniversary :-)

Oh and about the whole high school thing. I know it makes me soo mad!! I think that is why ttc is so heartbreaking, because you never prepare for not being able to get pregnant.

[Danielle9608]

I just had the appointment with my new PCP. She did write me the referral to the RE. But she seemed a bit worried that the RE might tell me to keep trying till it's been a year before they will anything. I sure hope she isn't right. She also scheduled me for an pelvic ultrasound to see if they can see any cysts on my ovaries. I almost hope they find some, I am so sick of trying to convince people there is something wrong with me.

[Qtpie]

Danielle, I really wish you could just get pregnant. All these doctor appointments. I can only imagine how you must feel, I really hope your pregnant before the end of the year. Good luck with the RE.

[Mrs.Goff]

I can understand making people wait simply because of the risk of multiples. Plus people have lost the ability to wait for things. Everyone expect instant gratification now days.

HOWEVER, waiting isn't going to help your problem. It's not like you just have bad timing. Not having AF for over 100 days isn't normal. Clearly you're not trying to rush the process, you're just trying for equal odds.

I sincerely hope that they are willing to test and treat you now. I hope whatever the issue is, that it's easily corrected and that your are able to announce a BFP sooner rather then later.

All the best to you.
(((Hugs)))

[FFC]

So have you made your appointment with the RE yet or do you get to keep the same RE you had an appointment with previously?

[Danielle9608]

So have you made your appointment with the RE yet or do you get to keep the same RE you had an appointment with previously?
I kept the same appointment I had previously. I just needed the referral to cover me insurance wise. If I didn't have it my insurance wouldn't cover it.

[FFC]

I kept the same appointment I had previously. I just needed the referral to cover me insurance wise. If I didn't have it my insurance wouldn't cover it.

So you're going in in a week'ish?

[Danielle9608]

So you're going in in a week'ish?

One week from today. I can't wait!! I really hope they can me. I really have been fine through this whole process trying to stay positive but lately I can't help feeling a little jealous of families I see when out and around. I mean not in a mean way or anything, just a weird feeling. I can't really explain it. I love my husband and he makes me so so happy, I just feel like having a family will make me feel more complete.

[FFC]

I hope they figure out whatever's going on! I understand just a tiny bit of what you're talking about. Our friends and family are pregnant and having babies everywhere so it's tough to watch that and not have one or be preggers yet. I couldn't imagine being in your shoes.. it's hard enough in mine and we've only been unofficially TTC for 2 months.

[Danielle9608]

So guess what I got ... AF. I am happy but sad. Happy cause I will have a shot to get pregnant soon but sad because I am worried the RE wont take me seriously now. Guess I need to reschedule that pelvic ultrasound now.

[gwenshack]

I don't know whether to say CONGRATS :grinhappy: or CR@P :irked:!

I will say that I hope all of this anxiety and frustration results in a baby at some point soon! :pompom:

[flyerso6]

I wouldn't worry about getting af. I am sure your RE will agree that 100+ day cycle isn't normal and will find out what the problem is.

[ChristineLS]

I wouldn't worry about getting af. I am sure your RE will agree that 100+ day cycle isn't normal and will find out what the problem is.

Exactly. I agree with her.

[FFC]

I've gotta agree - 100+ day cycle is not the norm. Your RE should understand, especially since you have your doctor's referral to back you up.

On a side note - I have to agree again. I'm happy for you and unsure at the same time. I hope this is a good sign for you!

[Danielle9608]

Thanks ladies. Hopefully in 14ish days I will be O'ing. If you could spare any baby dust please throw some at me. I mean business this cycle!!

[FFC]

Thanks ladies. Hopefully in 14ish days I will be O'ing. If you could spare any baby dust please throw some at me. I mean business this cycle!!

*dumping baby dust at ya!!*

Good luck Danielle!!!

[brendalin]

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Trying to send a little your way!

[SkippyNXC]

good luck hun! I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

[Brian's Bride]

Good luck, Danielle! Here's some *BOY baby dust* for you! :)

[Danielle9608]

So I hope you girls don't think I am crazy. I haven't told anyone and don't plan to tell anyone this for fear they will think I'm nuts. Not even Jon - I don't want to get his hopes up and make him even more nervous then he already is right now.

So in the past 8 months in my journey to get pregnant, I never once had a pregnant or baby dream ... till last night. It was one of those dreams that felt like it lasted all night. It started with me finding out I was pregnant. Then I delivered on the floor of my OB/GYN office (lol don't ask me why, sometimes dreams don't make sense) in just one push (lol, yea I wish). I had a beautiful baby boy. We took him home and I was rocking him and breastfeeding him and then he feel asleep. I was just about to lay him down in the crib, when (in real life) I feel my body shake and it's Jon waking me up.

This dream was so real. So vivid. I could paint a picture of my son's face. Normally you would think I would wake up from something like this upset and sad that it wasn't real. It was the complete opposite. I woke up happy and uplifted - almost like this was a sign from God telling me not to give up and this is what I have to look forward to if I stay positive.

Okay, so this is where it gets really strange and you might think I am nutty. So I get up and go into the bathroom to take my shower. And I'm in the shower doing my thing and washing. I run the soap over my boobs and ... they hurt. Almost like I was actually just breastfeeding. Weird huh? I swear I'm not crazy.

So I would like to believe that this is a sign, that all the months of heartache are going to be worth it and this will be our month. But on the other spectrum I want to be realistic. I have been very realistic from the beginning never trying to get my hopes up. And because of that I have never once broken down and cried over the heartache. I have come close a couple of times but never actually did it. I'm afraid that if I get my hopes up about this cycle and it doesn't happen that I am going to crash and burn.

I don't know - I am probably reading way to much into this. But get this. I have been trying for 8 months. And next month, when I will probably be close to when I'm ovulating (or maybe close to the end of this month) and it will be 9 months. 9 months - if I had got pregnant at the begining of this I would be right about to give birth. What better time then now, for it to finally happen.

Sigh - Okay you all think I am certifiably crazy huh?

[kgvettegirl]

Nope you are not crazy. Sometimes God's timing is not ours. We want things when we want them and sometimes when we have to wait we appreciate it more. Maybe now is the right time where everything is aligned and what you've dreamed will come true. Except for the part where you have him on the floor. Hopefully they will have a nice labor and delivery room you can use.

[FFC]

Of course you're not crazy! That's awsome.

You just opened the door for me to tell you what my cousin told me this weekend - and please take it with a grain of salt, I know you're tired of hearing "It'll happen when it's meant to happen".

My cousin's neighbor has been trying for two years.. TWO YEARS to get pregnant. They've taken all the tests and been examined several times - both of them have. Both are fit as a fiddle and there's nothing wrong with their reproductive systems. They just can't get pregnant.

Well, the neighbor says to my cousin "You know J, I've come to the realization and acceptance that God is the one that decides when we get pregnant, and he hasn't decided that it's our time yet. When God feels it's the right time for us, we'll be pregnant in no time." The awsome thing is that even after 2 years, she completely believes that. As hurtful as it is that she can't get pregnant, she accepts that there's a reason for it and it'll happen in God's time.

Danielle, I hope, REALLY hope that that dream was a good sign for you. Maybe it's God's way of saying "Okay, I've tried your patience long enough, you've proven to me you're ready for this". I'm praying for you!

[kgvettegirl]

RC's mom and dad prayed for 7 years before he showed up. Good things come to those who wait!

[Danielle9608]

Thanks Ladies, nice to hear you think I am not insane. :geek: I really hope he decides that it's our time soon.

[dizy1j62881]

Thanks Ladies, nice to hear you think I am not insane. :geek: I really hope he decides that it's our time soon.

Danielle, if you do get pregnant this month then you would be almost repeating my history of 3 years ago when I got pregnant with Nicholas...so wishful thoughts for you...I'll ask Nicholas to watch over you and Jon in this month and maybe he'll send some angel to you...

[gwenshack]

Certifiable? No. An woman who found some hope and encouragement after a long frustrating period of time ? Yes. And that's a good thing. Cling to it and let it give you the strength to move forward. :)

[Thalia_themuse]

Danielle - you are not crazy. And I really think you should keep your hopes up and stay as positive as possible... Dreams express all sorts of things, but they can be your body's way of communicating something to you as well... It's possible that things in your body are getting better and you may be able to get pregnant soon. *fingers crossed*

No matter whether it happens this month, or the next one, or later on... You will get that beautiful baby and you won't care about how long it took when you look at that face. Stay happy and healthy and it will probably happen all the sooner :heart:

*BABY DUST*

[Goin2thechapel]

God, If you're crazy then I'm crazy +1!!! LOL

Someone that I'm close to at work had a very hard time concieving (14 years ago...LOL)...She told me that this "journey" that we're on is god's way of teaching us patience for when we have our own child. I truely believe that! Having children definitely trys your patience over and over again...This is just preparing us!

I love your dream :)

[Danielle9608]

So I had the appointment with the RE today. It went really well and she seems very much on board with getting me pregnant ASAP.

They are going to do an SA test for Jon next week and he is allowed to "collect" it at home and then bring it in. Which is good for him because he was kinda weirded out by the fact that he would have to do it at the office.

They are doing a CD3 blood workup on me, a HSG test, and an internal ultrasound for me. Only bad thing is I have to wait till CD3 and I'm on CD6 today, so it's more waiting for me :(. But the nurse said if I get to CD35 they will give me provera. So I am excited. I am still hoping we get pregnant this month on our own but if we don't at least I know there is hope!

[gwenshack]

Yay for hope! :)

I'm happy things were productive with the doctor today. Glad Jon can "collect" at home. I know my DH would NEVER go for some sort of clinical deposit...:)

[Danielle9608]

Yay for hope! :)

I'm happy things were productive with the doctor today. Glad Jon can "collect" at home. I know my DH would NEVER go for some sort of clinical deposit...:)

Yea he said he would if it came to that cause he REALLY wants a baby but I could tell that he was happy about not having to go there to do it.

[Heywie]

That's great news, Danielle!

If only you got in there a few days earlier, you could have had all that work done on the spot!

Glad to hear you have someone working for you this time, though!

Good luck BDing in the mean time!

[flyerso6]

That is great that you have a plan!!! And no more 100 day cycles. Regardless of what I said when I was taking provera, its really not that bad but hopefully you won't even need it.

[Goin2thechapel]

So I had the appointment with the RE today. It went really well and she seems very much on board with getting me pregnant ASAP.

They are going to do an SA test for Jon next week and he is allowed to "collect" it at home and then bring it in. Which is good for him because he was kinda weirded out by the fact that he would have to do it at the office.

They are doing a CD3 blood workup on me, a HSG test, and an internal ultrasound for me. Only bad thing is I have to wait till CD3 and I'm on CD6 today, so it's more waiting for me :(. But the nurse said if I get to CD35 they will give me provera. So I am excited. I am still hoping we get pregnant this month on our own but if we don't at least I know there is hope!


HAHAHAHA...I ahd to laugh because Jon is going in for HIS SA on Thursday...LOL. He too was excited that the...errr...."deposit" could be made at home but needed to get there within 30 minutes. LOL...

Soo...Both of our Jon's will be busy this week ;) The things they do for us :)

I'm glad that your appointment went sooo well. She sounds like a GREAT doctor!!!! Good Luck hun!

[Danielle9608]

HAHAHAHA...I ahd to laugh because Jon is going in for HIS SA on Thursday...LOL. He too was excited that the...errr...."deposit" could be made at home but needed to get there within 30 minutes. LOL...

Soo...Both of our Jon's will be busy this week ;) The things they do for us :)

I'm glad that your appointment went sooo well. She sounds like a GREAT doctor!!!! Good Luck hun!

HAHA what are the chances of that! When are you going for your HSG? Wonder if we will be going around the same time... BTW How are you doing hun? I miss seeing you around!

[NOTKT]

ABSOLUTELY GREAT NEWS! *fingers still crossed*

[Qtpie]

Good Luck Danielle. And let me give you some ~Baby Dust~

[Goin2thechapel]

HAHA what are the chances of that! When are you going for your HSG? Wonder if we will be going around the same time... BTW How are you doing hun? I miss seeing you around!

LOL...It was scheduled for yesterday (HSG)...But since I already ovulated this cycle, It's now September 3rd...

I'm doing "OK" It's tough, but I'm coming to the realization that it's just going to take longer for me than others :)

I miss you too!!!

[FFC]

Danielle, that's AWSOME to hear that the RE is going to work with you! I really really really hope that it doesn't come down to provera - that you get preggers on your own this month. I swear I'll do the happy dance for you - at work - when I hear that you're pregnant LOL.

[Danielle9608]

LOL...It was scheduled for yesterday (HSG)...But since I already ovulated this cycle, It's now September 3rd...

I'm doing "OK" It's tough, but I'm coming to the realization that it's just going to take longer for me than others :)

I miss you too!!!

Aww sweetie I know! But in the end I think we will appreciate it even more because it took all these blood, sweat and tears to get a beautiful miracle.

Ah, they are going to do my HSG and internal ultrasound during the CD3 bloodwork so I only have to come in once, and I won't be on CD3 by September 3rd so you'll have yours before me. Good luck. Please let me know how it goes. I am kind of nervous, I've heard it's very uncomfortable. :petrified:

So this may be TMI but they are doing everything on CD3 and I will have my period then. Do you think it's strange that they are going to do the internal ultrasound and HSG test then? :purplex:

[Danielle9608]

Thank you for the well wishes ladies!

[kgvettegirl]

Aww sweetie I know! But in the end I think we will appreciate it even more because it took all these blood, sweat and tears to get a beautiful miracle.

Ah, they are going to do my HSG and internal ultrasound during the CD3 bloodwork so I only have to come in once, and I won't be on CD3 by September 3rd so you'll have yours before me. Good luck. Please let me know how it goes. I am kind of nervous, I've heard it's very uncomfortable. :petrified:

So this may be TMI but they are doing everything on CD3 and I will have my period then. Do you think it's strange that they are going to do the internal ultrasound and HSG test then? :purplex:
That's because they don't have to dilate your cervix. It is already thinned out and easier to go through because of your cycle.

[Danielle9608]

That's because they don't have to dilate your cervix. It is already thinned out and easier to go through because of your cycle.

That makes sense then. I guess it will just be a little gross though. I hope it isn't heavy. :bbredface:

[SkippyNXC]

That makes sense then. I guess it will just be a little gross though. I hope it isn't heavy. :bbredface:

lol don't worry they're used to it and have seen things MUCH grosser that ur heaviest of flows:puppy: so just go with the flow (pun intended)

*thinks of some of the things that FH has removed from various "down there" orifices... not pretty*

[Goin2thechapel]

So this may be TMI but they are doing everything on CD3 and I will have my period then. Do you think it's strange that they are going to do the internal ultrasound and HSG test then? :purplex:

Hmmm...My doctor doesn't want me to come in until CD 5-9 for this reason...Each doctor has thier own procedures though...I'm sure it's going to be ALOT more uncomfortable for you than the doctor ;)

[Danielle9608]

lol don't worry they're used to it and have seen things MUCH grosser that ur heaviest of flows:puppy: so just go with the flow (pun intended)

*thinks of some of the things that FH has removed from various "down there" orifices... not pretty*

OH my! I bet he has MANY crazy stories!

[starsthrumysoul]

Danielle - I knew that you posted somewhere about having a pregnancy dream, but I couldn't find it. I thought of you this morning when I woke up after having my own pregnancy dream!!

It was SO weird - I went to see a doctor (which I'm doing next Wednesday!) to get some tests done, and she told me that I was pregnant. And I'm like "no, I just took a home pregnancy test" (which I did last week) "and it was negative." And she said "well, for girls who are overweight (which I am), home pregnancy tests don't work." The rest of the dream was Paul and I telling my parents and grandparents that we were expecting.. it was all really.. nice :)

I'm not saying that my dream means that I'm pregnant or something, only that it shows how much I want to be. And I know you do too - so here's to dreams becoming reality :beer_smile:

[Danielle9608]

Aww that is sweet that you thought about me. I hope your dream comes true. And good luck with your appointment!

[Danielle9608]

I took a smiley opk last night. It was negative but I thought it was funny because the negative isn't a sad face like I imagined it would be, it's just a circle. I bet the makers didn't want to discourage the users with sad faces. My regular strip opk's are getting darker so I hope that it's going to happen soon!

[FFC]

Keeping my fingers crossed for you!!!!

[Heywie]

Go get it girl!!!

*ahem* I mean, crossing my fingers you get your positive OPK!

[NOTKT]

Fingers crossed! Baby dust thrown!

[Dani]

Fingers are crossed!

[Brian's Bride]

Yay for your RE appointment! CD3 was when they wanted me to come in and do my internal U/S, too. But I was already PG! Have fun on your vacation this weekend!!

[Danielle9608]

So if I was on a regular 28 day cycle I should be ovulating today. I tested last night and still no positive OPK. So wish me luck tonight. Hoping to see a smiley face on my OPK! --> :)

[FFC]

Ohhhh keeping my fingers crossed for you Danielle!

[flyerso6]

are your opk still getting darker??

I think the whole women have 28 day cycles thing is a myth..haha.

Good luck!!

[FFC]

Danielle... how's it going??? Any luck with the OPK?

[Danielle9608]

Not much is new on the baby front. I got my smiley face on Tuesday. So I am in my 2WW right now. I am 4 DPO.

[Qtpie]

Not much is new on the baby front. I got my smiley face on Tuesday. So I am in my 2WW right now. I am 4 DPO.

Good Luck Danielle, heres some ***BABY DUST*** for you. I cant wait to hear your good news in 2 weeks. *fingers crossed*

[Danielle9608]

Thanks! I forgot one little tid bit. Jon had a SA done and it came back that he has 100 million sperm when they expect 20 million and 67% mobility when they expect 50%. The nurse called him an over achiever! So he certainly isn't the problem.

[gwenshack]

Thanks! I forgot one little tid bit. Jon had a SA done and it came back that he has 100 million sperm when they expect 20 million and 67% mobility when they expect 50%. The nurse called him an over achiever! So he certainly isn't the problem.

Wow, the news every man wants to hear - he's a super sperm producing machine. :fish: LOL...

[Thalia_themuse]

Thanks! I forgot one little tid bit. Jon had a SA done and it came back that he has 100 million sperm when they expect 20 million and 67% mobility when they expect 50%. The nurse called him an over achiever! So he certainly isn't the problem.

Well it's good to have one less thing to worry about, and I bet he was pretty impressed with himself? :winktongue:

Best of luck, sending lots of baby dust!! :bun:****baby dust****:bun:

[f77g4]

Good luck with everything Danielle!!!

[FFC]

Congrats on getting your smiley!!!!!!! Baby dust to youu!!!!

[Danielle9608]

So I am having what I believe to be implantation bleeding. I told Jon about it and he doesn't seem convinced we are pregnant because I thought I had implantation bleeding the first time we tried and we weren't. But this time it's different - it heavy like a period but brownest and a different texture. Sorry TMI. I am trying not to get my hopes up but I can't lie, they already are. Today I am 5 DPO and I would love it if I could get a BFP before September 6 for our anniversary. I think it would be perfect to tell Jon that we are pregnant on our anniversary and it would be a WAY better present then Red Sox tickets. Please, pray and keep your fingers crossed for me, I really hope this is it!

[yam102284]

I've got my fingers crossed for you Danielle! I really hope you get a BFP before your anniversary! That would be an amazing present for both you and Jon!

[kgvettegirl]

I've got fingers, toes and eyes crossed for you. I'll be praying for a BFP for you and Jon.

I remember one time when I got pregnant I could have sworn that I felt the sperm hit the egg. It was like an explosion of light.

[flyerso6]

good luck.

[Dani]

My fingers and toes and everything else that I can cross are crossed for you! Sending good vibes your way!

[Danielle9608]

Thank you so much everyone! I will take all the good thoughts I can get. I will be sure to keep you ladies updated. :)

[gwenshack]

Danielle! I hope this is it! :) I've got everything crossed!!

[f77g4]

Ohh how exciting! I hope this is it Danielle!

Positive thoughts your way!

[Thalia_themuse]

Crossing everything for you and sending all my positive thoughts your way!!!! Hope you get your BFP!!!!!!!! :jphappy::goodluck:

[Qtpie]

Good Luck Danielle, I hope this is it for you. Please let us know as soon as possible.

[Heywie]

This is the only time I would ever cheer for something brownish and period-like coming out of anybody! haha

Good luck! Loads of *baby dust*!!!

[SkippyNXC]

:goodluck:danielle i'm REALLY hoping that this is your month, i'm praying that maybe finally be heard and getting that RE apt maybe was the tension release u needed to sort of "make it happen" Plus I'm sure that lovely vacay helped too ;)

Good luck, i'm cheering you on!:pompom::pompom::pompom:

[ChristineLS]

I'm crossing my fingers AND toes for you! ;) GOOD LUCK! I hope this is your month!!!! :D :D :D

[Danielle9608]

Well the "spotting" hasn't gone away yet, which worries me a little. And it seems to be getting heavier. So I don't know if I am starting AF or not. It doesn't feel like AF to me, plus it's only CD 23 and 6 DPO. I called my RE and left a message because I am suppose to call when AF starts to get blood work done. I hope they bring me in and do a blood test. I am not giving up hope yet. I really feel like this is not AF!

[FFC]

*~*~*~*~Baby Dust~*~*~*~*

[Danielle9608]

I am going for a blood test tomorrow to see what's up. They are going to check my hormones to see if it's a period and give me a blood pregnancy test.

[Danielle9608]

So ... I just went to the bathroom and it's now red. It's AF. WTF! Come on, I go 113 days without AF and now I have a 22 day cycle. I am done with my body I want a new one. This one is broken! :(

[FFC]

So ... I just went to the bathroom and it's now red. It's AF. WTF! Come on, I go 113 days without AF and now I have a 22 day cycle. I am done with my body I want a new one. This one is broken! :(

Oh shoot Danielle :( At least you can start trying sooner this time :fish:

[Danielle9608]

Oh shoot Danielle :( At least you can start trying sooner this time :fish:

Yea, you are right. I just upset because I felt so sure that is was it. I spent the last day picturing in my head how I would tell Jon. ****, I told myself I wouldn't do this if it didn't happen. I'm just so disappointed. I really wanted it to happen for our anniversary. I guess this wasn't our time, yet. :(

[FFC]

Yea, you are right. I just upset because I felt so sure that is was it. I spent the last day picturing in my head how I would tell Jon. ****, I told myself I wouldn't do this if it didn't happen. I'm just so disappointed. I really wanted it to happen for our anniversary. I guess this wasn't our time, yet. :(

This is no little thing to just assure yourself that you won't get disappointed - which is completely understandable. It's okay to be disappointed, just don't blame yourself. Maybe your cycle is finally adjusting back to normal after 3+ months of no AF for some reason.

[gwenshack]

Yea, you are right. I just upset because I felt so sure that is was it. I spent the last day picturing in my head how I would tell Jon. ****, I told myself I wouldn't do this if it didn't happen. I'm just so disappointed. I really wanted it to happen for our anniversary. I guess this wasn't our time, yet. :(

Danielle, I'm so sorry. I know you're disappointed, but at least AF is coming now...so that must mean your body is at least :star: TRYING :star: to participate...! And you have a doctor that wants to help you. So things are looking up and I don't think it'll be long before you get your BFP.
I'm sorry that this wasn't it though - we were all rooting for it. :(

[firespirit]

Yea, you are right. I just upset because I felt so sure that is was it. I spent the last day picturing in my head how I would tell Jon. ****, I told myself I wouldn't do this if it didn't happen. I'm just so disappointed. I really wanted it to happen for our anniversary. I guess this wasn't our time, yet. :(


:hug: It's hard not to be disappointed. Just stay positive though! :D

[Dani]

:hug: It's hard not to be disappointed. Just stay positive though! :D


I agree....stay positive!

[dizy1j62881]

Danielle I hope you get your wish this year...Reading your story just breaks my heart and I think of you often whenever I see a baby...Hopefully soon we will here the good news and we will all be doing a happy dance for you!!!!!!!

[Mrs.Goff]

Oh Danielle, I'm so sorry. I have no words of comfort that someone else hasn't already given. I pray for you daily and every time someone announces a BFP on here or in my life I think of you. I hope it's your turn soon. Big hugs and lots of luck to you.

[Qtpie]

Darn, I was rooting for you. Atleast your body is trying to cooperate with you. Good Luck next month.

[flyerso6]

aw that stinks! But at least you get to do your blood work earlier. At least you still have hope!! I have given up and am like yup af will be coming no matter what i try.

[f77g4]

Aww I'm sorry to hear Danielle! I sure hope you get your BFP soon!

[ChristineLS]

*hugs* I agree with everyone else - maybe your body is trying to normalize itself, 23 is much closer to normal than 113! Maybe things are turning around...

I'm rooting for you that the next cycle will be your BFP!

[Brian's Bride]

I also want to give you a hug! Let us know how everything goes at the doctor today. I'm praying the RE will know WTH is going on with you. And good news about Jon's over-achieving status! Take care, hon!

[Danielle9608]

Thanks again everyone. I really feel loved when I come on here :jplove:
So I get into work this morning and I start having immense stomach pain. Like someone was twisting my stomach. It last for about ten minutes. I just went to the bathroom at one point to sit down and breath cause I was in so much pain and I was at work. I took some Tylenol and I am better now. But the weird thing is, this has happened before. In March I remember almost the same thing happening. I was spotting at 10 DPO but it was just spotting not like the heavier bleeding I am having now. And then at 12 DPO I had the same painful cramping. I wonder if this means anything...

[FFC]

Danielle, I hope that cramping is a good sign - odd though that it's the second time it's happened. Maybe something you can discuss with your RE?

[Danielle9608]

*Sigh* well my so called "period" is gone now. Not sure what to think. It was way to heavy to be spotting but much more light then my regular periods. Guess I will find out tomorrow. :bbmad: <-- This is me impatient and confused.

[Qtpie]

Maybe it was implantation bleeding. Fingers crossed. Good Luck Danielle.


***BABY DUST***

[Mrs.Goff]

Ugg, I'm frustrated for you. I hope that you and your doctors can figure out this puzzle and solve it soon. (((hugs)))

[FFC]

Frustration doesn't seem to be a strong enough word to describe how you must feel Danielle.... I'm beyond frustrated for you, so I can only imagine how you're feeling right now.

[Danielle9608]

Today started out to be a really frustrating day. My appointment was at 7:15 and apparently there was 2 radiology departments in Milford Hospital and the front desk sent me to the wrong one. I waited there for 30 mins before someone realized I was in the wrong place and then when I got to the right one I had to wait even more because I had missed my appointment. GRR Why does this have to be so difficult??

[FFC]

Today started out to be a really frustrating day. My appointment was at 7:15 and apparently there was 2 radiology departments in Milford Hospital and the front desk sent me to the wrong one. I waited there for 30 mins before someone realized I was in the wrong place and then when I got to the right one I had to wait even more because I had missed my appointment. GRR Why does this have to be so difficult??

So did they see you at the other one anyway or did they send you away with a new date? Yes, that is very frustrating :irked:

[Danielle9608]

So did they see you at the other one anyway or did they send you away with a new date? Yes, that is very frustrating :irked:

No they did see me. I was just later then I wanted to be for work. I'm eating my lunch and then I will call the office and follow up with them.

[gwenshack]

At least they saw you! Phew! :sweatdrop:

That's really annoying though. I can't stand waiting in the doctor's office - it gets my anxiety all in a rage.

[Qtpie]

I would have been super irritated. Its funny that the people who work there wouldnt know which one to send you to. Anyways, good luck on the update.

[FFC]

Well I'm glad they saw you at least.... But I understand the whole "being later than you planned" for work - that is frustrating!

[Danielle9608]

I'm impatiently waiting for my doctor to call about my results today. :worry: I called an hour ago you think it would be annoying of me to call again?

[FFC]

I'm impatiently waiting for my doctor to call about my results today. :worry: I called an hour ago you think it would be annoying of me to call again?

I'd say call again! Who cares if you're buggin em :D :D :D

[Heywie]

Call away!!!

+1 FFC

[gwenshack]

It's nearing the end of doctor's hours isn't it? I would give another call, to at least put a reminder in that the doctor needs to call you before she leaves for the day.

[Danielle9608]

ah voicemail :(

[gwenshack]

ah voicemail :(

:censored: Irritating! :icon_barbar: