Grrr...seriously!!

[dylansmom011908]

Yes, the BOH... i mean.. "MOH".. is at it again!

Background info:
I told my girls as part of their gift, i was going to either pay for their hair or nails for the wedding. My mom was suppose to throw me a bridal shower, however she feels all she can spare is $100 (even though she just spent $250 on darian lake season passes and $700 for my brother's highschool class ring...)

anyways.. the shower is going to cost about $400.. we're having 50 guests attend and it's at a restaurant. So, FH .. wanting to see i get a nice shower, said we'd put in the other $300 and just deduct it from what we owe my mother (we borrowed some money awhile back and still owed it to her)..she said that's fine...

Fast forward to a few days ago....

I texted my BMs and MOH and told them that i'm sorry, but i wouldn't be able to pay for their hair or nails like i have wanted to because me and FH now had to put in for my shower (we're paying for this whole wedding by ourselves).. my BMs texted back saying "hunny.. you and allen do what you have to do and take care of the wedding expenses. You didn't make it manditory for us to have our nails or hair professional done, so if we can afford it, great, we'll get it done, if not, dont' worry about it.. that is your day and it's about you and how you look not us.. " (did i ever say how wonderful my girls really are!)

Then i get the text from my MOH which says "i'll speak for everyone when i say that you promised. How would you feel if we said.. oh our dresses are more than we expected now you want us to pay for our hair and nails too.. i'm just saying... "

You're just saying what???!!!!! The BMs dresses (which they picked out) costed $150.. the MOH (WHICH SHE PICKED OUT) was $210... are you serious?????

And all this after i spent close to $30 for each girls gift bag and i personally made them DIY wine glasses for them to keep.

Ugh.. if i wasn't so "soft" i would have thrown her out of the wedding by now!

[WebLady]

I am sorry you are having trouble with your MOH; it seems like your other BM's are being better friends.

[Kyriel]

I'd tell her not to speak for everyone since everyone else said they were fine with it :}

[lilmsjess]

"i speak for everyone"

haha, looks like maybe she should've CHECKED with everyone!

wow, i hope everything else goes well! that's awesome that your bm's are so understanding! your moh seems like, just maybe, she accepted a title she wouldn't be able to handle. it happens alot, but most either bow out gracefully(or not), or just do what they can...i'm not paying for my girls hair or nails, but since my aunt is doing it in her shop, she is offering them a discount, since we're family...but i also told them they didn't have to get it done, either...

sorry you have to go through this. maybe she'll lighten up, maybe she's under her own stress? or made some bad $ judgements about other things? did you promise that? or what is it more like a verbal thing, like i plan to pay for it, but a nonverbal possibility of it not working?

good luck with the rest, as one poster said, it looks like your bm's are better friends...

[gwenshack]

Wow. It's in the hard times that we truly find out who our friends are, huh? I'm glad your other attendants are more supportive!

[RosieAngel]

What a self-important b!tch! I'd get permission to forward all of the other girls' texts to her and say, "Actually, you're only speaking for yourself." :irked: