Bachelorette Party

[Chubear]

Tonight my sister ( and BM) asked me if i could fit one or two of her friends into my hen's ( bachelorette) day out.
I'm not sure how i feel about this.
It's meant to be a day about me, while i dont want to seem selfish, it rarely is about me, and its often about her.
I told her all the games would be oriented to how well you know me etc and wouldnt they feel uncomfortable? She reckons not. I have met one of them a couple times and one once.
i'm just not sure if i should do this. I think she wants someone else there so she can have someone she can talk to since she doesnt know all my friends, but mum will be there and another old family friend she knows.
I'm torn i think. I kinda want to say ok, whatever, and then her and her friend will have their day alongside me cos the friend/s wont know anyone - though i'm sure they are nice ladies.
I know what my other BM would say "F#$% no!" but.... i waver from one second to the next. It wouldnt be a hardship, i'm not paying any extra for them - if they wont fit in the maxi taxi they'll have to pay their own way cos i refuse to pay another $60 for a taxi.
every few minutes i talk myself into going the other way.
i think i will run the numbers and if i give them the details and they have to pay taxi as well they may not want to come anyway...

what do you girls think?
How would you feel if you were in my shoes? or the shoes of the extra friend who doesnt know me? :huh:

[Chubear]

well i just checked and we will all fit in the maxi taxi.
that didnt help me solve anything.
FH justs piped up. "can i decide? No way its about us not her."
still torn.
I am so used to doing everything her way its hard to buck the system.
Every ten minutes or so i feel strong and think "No its not appropriate" but then i waver......

[EmmaM]

If it was happening to me I'd probably be wavering like you!

...But from the outside I'm with your FH, it's not about your sister and her friends giggling in a corner, however lovely they might be, its about you! And especially with those games that they will not be able to join in with.

Good luck!

and more importantly: enjoy!

[tk93]

I would say no if I were in your position. A Bachelorette Party is about you and surrounding yourself with people you love and care about and those that love and care about you. Having your sister's friends present could create discomfort for yourself and others present. It's not like your sister won't know anybody, since like you said, your mom and family friends will be there.

[MrsDM]

Stay strong, and say no! Along the lines of tk93's post, if she is going to feel uncomfortable because she won't know as many people as you, oh well. It isn't her party. You have every reason to be selfish, this is about you! Not to mention, I don't know how well you know her friend, but it could be uncomfortable for you too if you don't know her too well.

[SkippyNXC]

it'd be one thing if ur sis were asking u to bring along ONE FRIEND... then i'd understand and prolly say yes but several?? hell to the no! unless they were friends i had met, hung out with and liked... i'm more of a the more the merrier type of person tho...

perhaps u can compromise her and tell her it'd be OK to bring just one friend? Tell her u were looking forward to spending time w/her and u'd be afriad that if she brought along a few that they may take her away from the focus of the day...

otherwise if any friends makes u waver... just say no!

[FFC]

I'm with your FH on this one - no way! It's about YOU, and you want the people closest to YOU. You want to be able to be crazy and silly and enjoy yourself with your friends and not have to feel like you're being looked down on by someone you don't know.

[WebLady]

I would be first to think no that it should be about you and if you don't know her friends then they can't come.

But maybe you can compromise with her and tell her she can bring one friend (the one you know) and that is it.

:goodluck:

[Chubear]

Thanks everyone for your advice.
I think iam going to go with the No response.
I will give her a catalogue for the lingerie party so she can buy if she likes
but if sister wants to do theother stuff withher they can do iti another day.
And some of the games will get rather personal, and while i'm not generally embarrassed by that, i'd feel very self conscious of how her friend would feel.
So i'm decided. Now i just need to stay strong - but FH is helping but being very definate.
And i have also told mum previously she cant bring any of her friends either so really i'm being fair too:o

Thankyou!

[Chubear]

today i told my sister i didnt want to invite anyone else and she said she thought it would be better just us anyway, so either she being nice or actually means it, either way its good for me.
yay problem sorted!:o

[EmmaM]

Yay! That's good, glad it worked out. Now here's to a fun party :beer_smile:

[WebLady]

today i told my sister i didnt want to invite anyone else and she said she thought it would be better just us anyway, so either she being nice or actually means it, either way its good for me.
yay problem sorted!:o
Glad it all worked out then :)