Long Distance Engagement

[usahgrad]

Ok, I have to write about this, although I feel terrible for thinking this way because I know there are many who have loved ones overseas in a very dangerous situation. I live a thousand miles from my fiance. I just got back from spending Spring Break with him. It's only been two days and I miss him so much. How do I survive this?

[totalia]

You'll be fine. I have to do this all the time too. It's been almost 3 years that we've been doing this (I live in Alberta Canada, he lives in New Orleans Louisiana).

Its hard but you will work through it.

[usahgrad]

Thank you. How do you do it?

[totalia]

We talk on the phone every night with very few exceptions.

Really, that's how we have a relationship. We've very much learned to communicate. If we didn't do that, it wouldn't be a relationship at all.

We have met many times and its always heart wrenching when we have to say goodbye. But the pain goes away after a while and you just become used to the distance again.

If you feel he's worth it, then hang in there. Try not to allow the fear and loss to control you but to instead allow the hope and communication to build.

Just remember, it's only a matter of time.

[usahgrad]

Thanks...

We talk all the time on the phone. We're getting there slowly. Everyone says that I should just keep my eye on graduation, because that's what's really keeping us apart. It's so easy for them to say such things...they're not the people in the relationship.

Thanks again for your advice.

[totalia]

Your welcome. And it will get better. Just hang in there.

[mrs.Rodriguez_to_b]

You know i give you guys much props for being able to live without you fiancee's there everyday! I live with my fiance and i wouldn't be able to sleep without him! i wouldn't make it everyday with out seeing him or touching him everyday. I guess some of you guys are used to it! all i can say is to hang on there when the time comes he will be with you forever!!

Christina&Alex
July 08,2006

[usahgrad]

Hey...you misunderstood...I'm not surviving. I can't sleep without him either. I miss him so much and I think I miss sleep almost as much...it makes all nighters easy though...:)

[LaceyinPgh]

I can't imagine how hard it is for you Kelli. I hate to be the broken record that you hate hearing but stay busy with what you have now, work, school, planning for that amazing wedding that will join you with your fiance forever. Every minute that you fill by staying busy and not thinking about it will fly by ten times faster, I promise. Get through your day so that you can enjoy those precious few minutes by phone or interent that you get with him. As horrible as it is to say, stop counting the days. Its like Christmas when you are little. As soon as Thanksgiving is over you start to think about Santa and all the goodies he is bringing. It doesn't get the big day here any faster and just makes you more anxious for it. When it gets too hard, just close your eyes for a minute and think about your favorite memory of him. That way you can at least get a few precious second with him. The day when you get together will get here in time.

[usahgrad]

Hey yall!

I thought I'd bring you up to speed. In about twenty four hours I get to head down to the airport to pick up all of my family members, including my fiance. At this point, there is no goodbye in the forseeable future. I'm moving up to Ohio this next week. I'm so excited I had to share it with everyone!