is this ok??

[dizy1j62881]

So our wedding is in 3 months and I'm getting ready to do the guest list..when we had Nicholas's funeral we had about 175 people between the visitation and service itself. So what myself and FH along with his parents...mine I don't care, long story....thought that for most part we could use the registar from his funeral to do guest list...maybe I'm wrong but I figured this way it would be best because that way we could get mixture from both sides....Of course i won't make it big deal that we used it for our guest list...Does that sound ok? or should I go from memory and numerous address books? Thanks for any advice

[Whitewater]

Why not? I have slightly more than a suspicion that your idea is EXACTLY what my MiL did when we asked her for addresses for Fiance's side of the family.

Nobody needs to know where you got them! You can always say that somebody dug them out from the Christmas letter list :)


Whitewater

[gwenshack]

I think that idea is very practical and I wouldn't give it another thought. :)

[WebLady]

Yeah I think that would work; seems like those people would likely come. Of course I wouldn't really try to make it known that is what you did, but I don't see anything wrong with doing it ... as long as you want those people there. I don't think there is any etiquette that says where or how you have to get contact info for people you invite ;)

[ChristineLS]

Well, when they signed the registrar they did give you their addresses. If it bothers you because it's from a funeral, I offer two perspectives: family events draw the same people, regardless of the amount of joy, or perhaps this is Nicholas's way of helping you from beyond - leading you to think of the registrar list to decrease your stress. You remembered the registrar list - I likely would have forgotten about it, so my first thought is some sort of divine intervention. :)

[dizy1j62881]

Thanks....The way I look at it is, if they came for our son's funeral then they are family, whether blood or not. I do know of a few that, honestly just couldn't emotionally couldn't be there, that we will invite also but I figured since I did all those "thank you's" and used it...just finished mailing those out actually..lol. The funeral home did such a wonderful job on his book, folders and everything that we have his book out as a coffee table book...I guess I just think into things too much...silly brain why can't it just think easy things sometimes...lol

[dizy1j62881]

ok, so after I sent that, my neighbors dog, who nicholas loved, was at my window whimpering...scared me but she just wanted to say hi....thought it was so sweet and another little thing that my little boy, whose bday was yesterday, was telling mommy that he loves her....

[f77g4]

I think it's a great idea and agree with Christine that this may be his way of helping ease some stress.