Help with my brother

[Kacie_bride]

My brother is 22. He is kind of a late bloomer in the girl department. He has only had one girlfriend and that only lasted a couple of weeks and has never really had much of a crush on someone before to my knowledge before now.

My brother has it bad for this girl whom I cannot stand. He actually lived with her for awhile. They were just roommates. They had a 2 bedroom apartment. But from what I gather he was paying most of the bills and buying her clothes and shoes and concert tickets. He would let her use his truck all the time. He would drive her ragity car and let her have his nice truck.

He finally wised up and moved out. My parents and I were happy because we thought he had come to his senses until Saturday. My mom and I had just gotten back from somewhere and we pulled into the driveway. My brother was there because he works offshore and usually my dad takes him to the meeting place when he goes out so he does not have to leave his truck there for 2 weeks. Low and behold the stupid girl was there to and took his truck. And I found out from talking to a friend of his that she is planning on taking the truck for a 3 hour roadtrip with her boyfriend this week.

Then this weekend Justin and I went out with some of his friends and they let me in on a lot of stuff. He is still obsessed with her. She was over at the apartment and was trying to kiss all over his friend. His friend kept telling her no. Why they didn't throw her out is beyond me. She has a boyfriend. I hear she was lifting her shirt up and showing all the guys.

I know my brother brings a lot of this on himself and he's a grown up now. I just want to call the girl and tell her to leave my brother the hell alone.

[LaceyinPgh]

I know it sucks. But your brother is an adult. The minute you or your mom open your mouths you become the bad guys trying to make him pick between his family and so called "friends". Two of my uncle's brought home total skanks back when they were your brother's age. My mom and grandma confronted them about it, and guess who lost the battle? The ony thing you can do is let him come to his senses on his own. He will in time. The more you fight it though the longer it is going to take. Just try to ignore the situation. Eventually he will catch on that she doesn't love him. She is just a 'ho using him for her own gains.

[MOB Karen]

This is what you call "p*ssy-whipped." Girls do this to guys because they can. If you confront them about this, you will just push him firmly into her arms. The best thing you can do, is ignore it. Also, by ignoring it, it can't upset you. One day when you least expect it, he will have another girlfriend and it will be over with the "trashy ho." Just give it time, he just needs to come to his senses.

[AngelinLove]

I agree with Karen and Lacey...you just gotta ignore it and let it go!!! He is an adult and will fiqure it out. Plus his friends are aware of the situation, and they will eventually confront him about it.

[countrygirl]

I agree w the girls to a point, but my question, have you tried to talk to him about it lately? Me personally, I would have to say something to him. Not her, buecause she will prob just run to him w some made up story, and prob give him an ultimatum (me or them). I would just sit w him for a friendly discussion and let him in on what she is doing, and how he should maybe step back from the situation for a moment. I know that it could cause waves. We have had several situations in my family where one of us have called another's sig other on somthing, and though it may cause us not to speak to eachother for a bit, in the long run, it helped. Eventually, it could help him see her for who she really is.

[Kacie_bride]

Thanks everyone. We have been ignoring it. I have not said a word to him about it. I know his friends have and my dad has. Travis even realizes and admits this is a bad situation and says that he is doing it to himself. His friends have talked him to about it. They told me the other night that it is starting to effect their relationship as friends. He left to go offshore on Saturday, but is only staying out 1 week instead of 2 because he is in a wedding. Maybe he'll meet someone nice at the wedding or something. We'll see if things cool down any this week. I was very close to calling the girl last night, but I didn't. I just looked through her myspace site. Can you believe she has wrote on her about me section that she likes driving fast in her truck with the windows rolled down and the music loud. Her truck? I'm glad I did not call her because I would have been livid.

[WhiskeyGirl]

While I agree with the Ladies, I also know how hard it can be! Been there done that with my older brother. And he actually knocked the girl up twice and eventually married her. We were lucky in that we actually managed to find a good part of her and now actually love her. (She has really changed) It was the same way when we confronted Justin about his new GF, we just ended up pushing him further into her arms. Give it time. If he realizes what a bad situation he is in, he'll eventually change things. I would still suggest "Slight" nudges about what kind of a hoe this girl is. Good luck with this Kacie!! :)