RSVPs

[Ninedays9]

We are in the process of putting together our invitations, and we are trying to figure out how to do our RSVP cards. We are having an outdoor, fairly casual wedding. I feel like if we send out stamped envelopes, we won't get many back, and it would be a waste of stamps.

Does anyone have any ideas for how we could work our RSVP cards if we just included our website and possibly my phone number (FH doesn't want to get calls at work, and I work when no one would call.). Should we still make it into a form that they could mail back if they really wanted to? Eddie suggested we do that and then put the envelopes in without stamps. Would that be appropriate, or would it just be confusing? We'd be giving them three ways to RSVP (our website, phone, mail). Is there a better way to work it (without having to include stamped envelopes)?

[Whitewater]

We just didn't send envelopes. Period. We just included the cards with our online information on them.

Now, that method doesn't seem to be working too well at the moment because out of 79 sent I've gotten 10 back, but there are also still two weeks until my 'Please RSVP by' date, so perhaps a bunch will happen then. Who knows.

I DO know that people I thought would NEVER figure it out were the first to RSVP, and that all the younger, computer savvy people have yet to respond.

I'm afraid I can't help much, at this time I can't tell you whether what we decided to do was a good or a bad decision!


Whitewater

[jessicermoon]

For our RSVP cards, we gave them 3 options... Phone, email or the cards (sent without stamps). Out of about 70 RSVPS, only 4 were from email, 3 from phone and the rest were mailed to us.

[savepaws]

OMG people SUCK at RSVPing! :irked:


We put our website information & a phone number. If you put a phone number, then make sure you have voicemail so that if you aren't home/able to answer, they can just leave a message. We put my mom's number down for RSVP's and she didn't tell me that she had gotten rid of her voicemail. So people have told us that they have tried to RSVP but the phone just rings and rings and rings. If I would have known that, I would have put down her cell phone or even my cell phone number.


We've gotten a few (probably around 5) telephone calls. Who knows how many people actually did try to call, got no answer and then forgot. A fair amount has RSVP'd online but most of our "rsvps" have been us seeing the people and asking if they were coming. :irked: We've gotten a few cards in the mail with notes inside saying that they can't come. And then there's a very large number that hasn't replied in any way and the due date is TODAY. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr........ :irked::irked::irked:


I wanted to also send out a response card that they could send back so that they would have 3 options of responding, but my mom said that if I did that then I HAD to put stamps on them because she's big on etiquette. I am SO glad though that I didn't waste the money on stamps that would have never been used.

[Mrs.Goff]

We sent cards with our phone number and stamped envelopes. We only had 1 RSVP by phone, it was DH uncle and he also sent his card back. He was a good RSVPer. haha

There was only 1 person that didn't RSVP that showed up. It was my uncle and he had sent word through my grandma that he was coming.

[Ashleyerin2]

I didnt put a stamp on the envelope, but I made sure to put a card with our reception information and website information.

That way RSVP's can be made online and the normal way.

[sandy03]

We didn't do RSVP's because we aren't doing a full meal so I don't have any great personal experience to share. However, a friend of mine just put their website and her mother's phone number down for RSVP's, no card to mail back. She recently sent an e-mail to everyone she had an e-mail address for to remind everyone to RSVP

I'm bad about not RSVP-ing if there isn't a card to mail back - if there is a card in the invite I usually fill it out and stick it in my out box as soon as I get it. Everything else seems to get lost or forgotten about, but that's just me.

[princessbridezilla]

i got invited to a very casual wedding a few years ago; their invites were just a postcard and on the back said rsvp:(phone#) or (email address)

the whole mailing-rsvp tradition comes from back when there were no phones or email.

[f77g4]

I am including stamps on ours even though I'm also listing our website. Just seems wrong to me to put it in without. Older people are more likely I think to return the card rather then phone or via website just because that's tradition.

Maybe you could stamp some and not others?

[mbohio]

We did an RSVP post card with a stamp that also gave people the option of using the website. That way, people could do whatever seemed easier to them. I think that including a card with a stamp gives people a physical reminder that they're supposed to respond. We received about a third of our cards back in the first week.

[lilmsjess]

We did an RSVP post card with a stamp that also gave people the option of using the website. That way, people could do whatever seemed easier to them. I think that including a card with a stamp gives people a physical reminder that they're supposed to respond. We received about a third of our cards back in the first week.


in my book, those are "dream guests" :rofl: