Ready to sell my wedding stuff and elope...

[octoberbride09]

okay so I just reallllly need to vent..I know that I have posted most of this stuff before but when u put it all together it realllllly sounds horrible.. I just want all the planning to be over..I hate it..I dont enjoy it anymore..
1. My venue burnt down..said it was going to be ready for my reception..saw it in the newspaper about a month ago that it wasnt going to be ready, never got a phone call nothing. Had to search for 2 weeks for a new venue..finally found one..which I love.
2. Ordered FH's wedding band..had huge issue with them sending it to the wrong Post Office twice, recieved nasty emails from the company recieved the ring almost 2 months later.
3. We are on our 4th yes 4th bridesmaid dress..2 of my girls ordered the last dress and when I went to buy the other girls dress they were sold out..tried to get the company and they never returned emails and the "phone number" rang busy everytime we called it. So now we found out 4th dress and If these dont work out..the girls are wearing shower curtains ahaha.....
4. We are down 2 GMs...my brother in law got his call to go into Customs and wont be back until the weekend after our wedding...which i understand...and then our friend that moved to TX a couple of months just found out that he has a finial test for his Job training on the day of our wedding. So we are just going to have 8GM and 10 BMs...not much I can do about it..

So it might sound like yes it all worked out in the end but it has been NOTHING but stress and more stress for over 3 months now..phewwww..I just needed to get that all off my chest..I can afford for anything more to go astray..I just have had enough.. I need a wedding planner...

[doris27]

okay so I just reallllly need to vent..I know that I have posted most of this stuff before but when u put it all together it realllllly sounds horrible.. I just want all the planning to be over..I hate it..I dont enjoy it anymore..
1. My venue burnt down..said it was going to be ready for my reception..saw it in the newspaper about a month ago that it wasnt going to be ready, never got a phone call nothing. Had to search for 2 weeks for a new venue..finally found one..which I love.
2. Ordered FH's wedding band..had huge issue with them sending it to the wrong Post Office twice, recieved nasty emails from the company recieved the ring almost 2 months later.
3. We are on our 4th yes 4th bridesmaid dress..2 of my girls ordered the last dress and when I went to buy the other girls dress they were sold out..tried to get the company and they never returned emails and the "phone number" rang busy everytime we called it. So now we found out 4th dress and If these dont work out..the girls are wearing shower curtains ahaha.....
4. We are down 2 GMs...my brother in law got his call to go into Customs and wont be back until the weekend after our wedding...which i understand...and then our friend that moved to TX a couple of months just found out that he has a finial test for his Job training on the day of our wedding. So we are just going to have 8GM and 10 BMs...not much I can do about it..

So it might sound like yes it all worked out in the end but it has been NOTHING but stress and more stress for over 3 months now..phewwww..I just needed to get that all off my chest..I can afford for anything more to go astray..I just have had enough.. I need a wedding planner...

Ugh. That is way too much stress. I'm sorry you've been going through all that. I've been planning for a lot less time and had a lot less go wrong, and I'm already starting to feel that way, so I can imagine how you must be feeling. I wish I had some words of advice, but I don't. I really hope things start getting easier and more enjoyable.

[f77g4]

Has to make you wonder eh how one of the most special days of our lives can be so friggin stressful?

Everything will work out - I keep telling myself that as I am at 3 months as of tomorrow and still have so much to do and I have very little help.

[ChristineLS]

Wow, wedding planning is really turning out to be quite epic for you, in all senses of the word.

Have faith it will work out, because it will, and think of the stories you'll have for people at Thanksgiving or to console other stressed out brides after the wedding happens and goes well. Because it will :)

One thing I've been impressed with, if you don't mind me saying so, is that even though you've run into string of bad luck over bad luck, you've dealt with it really well and much calmer than certainly I would have! So keep your head up, you're fine :D

[MrsDM]

Wow, I'm sorry you had to deal with all of that! I know how you feel, we are almost at 3 months to go, and I too, want it just to be over. I was all happy and excited to be planning a wedding, but I'm quite over it at this point.

I am glad that you found a venue though, I still can't get over your old venue and not even telling you it wouldn't be ready.

Your day will be here soon, and this will all be worth it when you are standing next to your husband :)

[JJsWifey08]

All the material stuff shouldnt matter. All that matters is that youre marrying your love. If that means finding a dress, a suit and some rings for him and going to the courthouse or to a beautiful place and just marrying him is there really a difference?

[RosieAngel]

I'm so sorry you've been through all of this! I remember the saga of the burnt-down venue; it was one of the most horrible things I've seen on here!

But you're so close to everything being finished! Maybe the wedding party will be uneven and your bridesmaid dresses won't match, but come October, you will be MARRIED to the man you love! Everything will be fine!

Hang in there! :flower:

[octoberbride09]

All the material stuff shouldnt matter. All that matters is that youre marrying your love. If that means finding a dress, a suit and some rings for him and going to the courthouse or to a beautiful place and just marrying him is there really a difference?


it really doesnt have anything to ddo with the material stuff...it has to do with everything going wrong...this is what "our" dream wedding has been planned and that is how we both want it..Im am not really going overboard with material things at all...its the "events" that happen..my family is a huge part of our lifes and I wouldnt have it any other way..that is why I have such a big wedding party....so we do knnow that in the end we will be married and happy and these stories we will laugh about at some point..but when you are working so hard to make it special and things go wrong..well of course it is going to be stressfull...

I love this site because I can vent and the girls here are very very understanding..sorry if it sounded like I was being Materialistic..because is anyone knows me knows that is totallly not me... I say it everyday...if I had to give up my home my car my clothes off my back just to marry my FH then I would in a heartbeat....

[RosieAngel]

it really doesnt have anything to ddo with the material stuff...it has to do with everything going wrong...this is what "our" dream wedding has been planned and that is how we both want it..Im am not really going overboard with material things at all...its the "events" that happen..my family is a huge part of our lifes and I wouldnt have it any other way..that is why I have such a big wedding party....so we do knnow that in the end we will be married and happy and these stories we will laugh about at some point..but when you are working so hard to make it special and things go wrong..well of course it is going to be stressfull...

I love this site because I can vent and the girls here are very very understanding..sorry if it sounded like I was being Materialistic..because is anyone knows me knows that is totallly not me... I say it everyday...if I had to give up my home my car my clothes off my back just to marry my FH then I would in a heartbeat....

I don't think wanting to celebrate your marriage with family and friends and throw them a nice party makes you materialistic, hun. And I can totally understand your frustration at having things go so horribly awry, since you've put so much time and effort into making this day as close to perfect as any real event with real people can be.

Re: bridesmaid dresses, which seem to be one of the biggest stressors here on OneWed after nasty ILs, maybe you can find something pretty at a popular department store that doesn't require ordering and depending on others to be responsible? Just a thought.

Good luck with everything! I'm rooting for you here!