I have two questions

[VickiLynn84]

1. Some close family know about our wedding website. Yesterday I received two RSVP's via the website. Two of the family members are the ones that RSVP'd (fiance's sister and brother) I have not sent our invites out yet since the wedding isn't until November. Do you think I should still send invites to them?

2. My invitations did not come with inner envelopes and there was nowhere to order them where I got them from. I didn't even think about it until I recieved them in the mail. What should I do if I want someone to be able to have the option of bringing a guest? should I just write "and guest" on the outer envelope? wouldnt that look a little weird? what would you do?

thanks!

[FFC]

Hi Vicki,

I would say that even though they've RSVP'd they still need an invitation. I think that if you assume they already know to be there and don't send them one then they may think you just didn't send them at all. It may leave them wondering if there even IS a wedding still.

As for the second one, do you want to allow your guests to bring their guests? Leaving that option open can lead to a lot more mouths to feed.

[Brian's Bride]

I agree with Justina. The ones who already RSVP'd should get invitations, even just to keep as a momento.

I don't think it would look stupid to put "and guest" on the mailed envelope. I had to do that with my invitations and it looked fine. I didn't handwrite them, though. My handwriting is terrible!

[Micah's bride]

Our invites didn't have inner envelopes, either. I only had 2 guests that needed an "and guest", so I just wrote it on the outer envelope. It didn't look bad.

[f77g4]

I agree - still send them an invitation they are family and will likely want it for a momento. Plus they will need all the info on the invite anyways.

I also dont have inner envelopes. I was thinking of on the reply card putting something like 2 seats have been saved for you and leaving them the option for them to put either 1 or 2 in a blank to indicate how many are coming. I think putting & Guest would also be fine.

[Nicole12726]

I agree send you should still send an invitation. I know some of our family might get offended if we didnt send one even if we knew they were coming. It's also a scrapbook saver for some.

[Jenkel]

I agree about sending an invite to everyone. As a scrapbooker I love adding the invite to my "wedding" pages.
And I also think it is a good reminder to put on the fridge or whatever.

As far as the question about "and guest"....I have a questions also....
Since your invites didn't come with an inner envelope, how are you having them send their RSVP cards back? I'm confused about that.

Thanks!! And good luck to you.

[tk93]

Add another vote to still sending out the invites to those already RSVP'ed! But just a suggestion - is there a way to make the online RSVP feature inactive for the time being until the invitations are sent out? You don't want to find yourself in a situation where somebody hears about your website from a family member or something and RSVP's online just assuming that they'll be invited, when in fact they're not even on your list! Or any other awkward moments that could arise from having online RSVPs active before invitations are sent out..

As for the outer envelopes, I think it's completely acceptable to write "& Guest" on the outer envelopes. I had inner envelopes, but I still listed "& Guest" on some of our outer envelopes to avoid confusion.

[EarlyBird]

I dont know if you remember ANY of my invitation saga.. but basically, i had to order envelopes from one place for my RSVPS which was HARDER then i thought because of the min. envelope sizing from usps and then i got the inner and outter envelopes from the invitation place. When i received them, at least 10 did not have inner envelopes and didnt say the "and guest" or "and family" on the outside.

in my opinion, this is what you have to think of.. even if you bought inner envelopes from somewhere, how would you write "and guest" are your handwritting or typing out your addresses on the envelopes anyway? Are you having them calligraphered? remmeber, there is an extra cost for inner envelope.. also, are there only a couple people that need "and guest" or is there pretty much the entire group??

one option if you dont have alot that really NEED THE INNER ENVELOPE, is if they are not weird shaped invites, you could probably go to a craft store or scrapbook/stationary store and pick up a pack of 10-20 envelopes and only use inner envelopes for those and have the name and guest calligraphered on the inside (although, i calligraphered all my stranglers and they looked fine.. took a couple mess ups but for the 10 or so i needed to do, it was fine)

[VickiLynn84]

Hey everyone,

Thanks for all the responses.
I will definitely send them invitations then. thank you!

I guess I will just put and guest, I just wanted to confirm before I did it :)
They did come with RSVP envelopes. I am probably going to type out their addresses on labels. My handwriting is terrible.

Thanks guys!

[Ninedays9]

Another option, if you know the guest's name is to put that person's name on the invite. For instance, a couple of my bridesmaids have boyfriends, and I know their names. I'll address the invite to my bridesmaids name and their boyfriend's name.