What gender of children?

[MOB Karen]

Simple question: Let's say all you really wanted in life were two children, a boy and a girl. But life gave you 2 boys or 2 girls, would you give up and say, "oh well, this is what I was supposed to have" or would you give it one more shot and try for the other gender?

[Kacie_bride]

I think if I had 2 boys I would want to give it a shot to have a girl, but if I had 2 girls I would be happy with that. I like little boys and would love my son if I have one, but I really would rather have girls.

[MOB Karen]

I think if I had 2 boys I would want to give it a shot to have a girl, but if I had 2 girls I would be happy with that. I like little boys and would love my son if I have one, but I really would rather have girls.

Thank you!!!! I am not speaking for everyone when I say this, just me. I had not one problem raising Amber. She was a God-sent Angel to me her whole life. But my son has given me nothing but grief his entire life. He was so hard to raise. I was always doing something wrong in his eyes, and he blames me for everything bad that ever happened to him. I love him so much, but he was so mean to me when he was growing up.

One time I noticed that he had a tattoo on his right chest and it was handwriting of a name. It said, Karen Denise, which is my first and middle name. I was so shocked to see that, because I always thought he hated my guts. He said, "Sure, Mom, I hate you. Right," and rolled his eyes like that was the most ridiculous thing he had ever heard.

Well, Amber knows how hard it was to raise her brother, and she only wants a girl. She says that if she gets pregnant with a boy, it will stay in there until it falls off. :p

[cowboysbride]

Eric and I have always said that we want one of each if we get blessed with 2 boys or 2 girls we will try for the other one more time...3 is my limit...I love boys, I love girls...I just want healthy and happy...

Now with that said I will not beat my children but they will know I am there...I was not allowed to backtalk, whine or be a terrible child...all Mom had to do with me and my sister was give us "THE LOOK" and we knew our *** was grass!

That's just us... everyone is different and has their reasons, and that's what makes the world go round!

[LizabethDavis]

I already have one of each, but I think that if I had two boys, I would leave it at that if two kids were all I wanted.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I can't honestly answer this question because I would be happy with just one healthy child either boy OR girl. However, I was the problem child growing up. I was the one who could do no right in my life. (and still can't apparently...what do they know!! I'm not on drugs anymore and I'm pretty well straight edge!!!) I guess it just depends on the temperment of the child. Sometimes we blame our parents because we don't want to blame ourselves. (this coming from that "problem" child.) I know I wasnt always right and sometimes I chalk it up to me, but I also put some blame on my parents. I don't think it really reflects on the parents though. Ok I'm babling and don't know if this even makes sense!! :)

[WebLady]

I knew someone a while back that had 2 girls and tried a 3rd time for a boy and ended up with twins ... girls!

A friend of DH's kept trying for a girl and ended up with 4 boys and finally the one girl they wanted.

I don't want kids at all but if I did, I think I would stop at 2 no matter which 2 it was.

[Kacie_bride]

Thank you!!!! I am not speaking for everyone when I say this, just me. I had not one problem raising Amber. She was a God-sent Angel to me her whole life. But my son has given me nothing but grief his entire life. He was so hard to raise. I was always doing something wrong in his eyes, and he blames me for everything bad that ever happened to him. I love him so much, but he was so mean to me when he was growing up.

One time I noticed that he had a tattoo on his right chest and it was handwriting of a name. It said, Karen Denise, which is my first and middle name. I was so shocked to see that, because I always thought he hated my guts. He said, "Sure, Mom, I hate you. Right," and rolled his eyes like that was the most ridiculous thing he had ever heard.

Well, Amber knows how hard it was to raise her brother, and she only wants a girl. She says that if she gets pregnant with a boy, it will stay in there until it falls off. :p

Well I was no picnic to raise, but there is a special bond that exsists between my mother and I that she and brother do not have. I know this is not the case with all mothers and daughters, but with us it is. Not saying that she does not love my brother, she does. She does not love me more than him either. It is just something I can't really explain in words. It is the same way with Justin and his father. Not all children and their parents even have that type of bond. I just really want that kind of bond between a daughter one day. Besides that I love to dress my little cousins up and do pretty stuff! It's more fun than Tonka trucks to me!

[katieandalex]

It depends on if I had problems with my pregnancy. If they were both really bad pregnancies and I just did it because I wanted to have a boy and a girl but ended up with 2 of the same, I think that I wouldn't try for another....also it depends on if the other children are pretty well-behaved and such. You know, if they are difficult children to raise, I doubt that I would bring another child into the world because it would be much too difficult having 3 children and then the children would suffer because of that...and I wouldn't want that. So, there are a lot of what ifs with me....but if everything was perfect, yeah I would try for another.

[LaceyinPgh]

I don't care if I end up with a kitten and a puppy. I can't see myself having three kids. I don't like them that much. If I could get rid of my baggage about being an only child I would just have one.

[MOB Karen]

I don't care if I end up with a kitten and a puppy. I can't see myself having three kids. I don't like them that much. If I could get rid of my baggage about being an only child I would just have one.

Ok, I have to say this because I totally identify with the "I don't like them that much" statement. Let me just say, I could never be a kindergarten teacher and leave it at that.
Anyway, Lacey, I feel like you can make that statement till the cows come home, but as a Mother I'm telling you right now, you're gonna like yours that much. There's a big difference between the little brats down the street,:censored: and the angels you gave birth to.:wub:
That's how I feel anyway.:)

[LaceyinPgh]

Ok, I have to say this because I totally identify with the "I don't like them that much" statement. Let me just say, I could never be a kindergarten teacher and leave it at that.
Anyway, Lacey, I feel like you can make that statement till the cows come home, but as a Mother I'm telling you right now, you're gonna like yours that much. There's a big difference between the little brats down the street,:censored: and the angels you gave birth to.:wub:
That's how I feel anyway.:)
I still hold out that two will be my limit unless something dire happens. But after #2 Sean is getting snipped during my "recovery" period. You see, babies are adorable. But, I spend all day with other people's teenagers. Those cute babies grow into those teenagers. And, frankly, there is only so much a person can take before her sanity cracks. I think living through two kids going through puberty will just about put me at that limit.

[AngelinLove]

I really want a girl and then a boy, but I will settle for healthy and all there!!! I kinda agree with Kacie and Katie both. If I had 2 girls I would be content to stop, but if I had two boys I would want to try again (Kacie), but I would also be concerned in how my pregnancies went with the first two and how they behaved before I would consider having another one. Three is my limit though....I am done after three!!!

[MOB Karen]

I still hold out that two will be my limit unless something dire happens. But after #2 Sean is getting snipped during my "recovery" period. You see, babies are adorable. But, I spend all day with other people's teenagers. Those cute babies grow into those teenagers. And, frankly, there is only so much a person can take before her sanity cracks. I think living through two kids going through puberty will just about put me at that limit.

Lacey, when you look at your teenager, you are going to see the baby. You are always going to see that baby, even when they are adults. And that love grows stronger, not weaker, every single year.

[rainbowtreat]

Well I have always wanted 3 so answering this question is a hrad one. But seeing I have a girl and then a boy I would rather have another boy. My daughter is too much like me and she is not even 7 yet and we butt heads. My son is a mommas boy. Now I dont love either of them any less or any more. I love them both so much. But they are 2 different kids with differnt personalities. I was my moms easy child. And from what I see from my daughter she will ( I hope ) be the same. My sister was my moms problem child, and I can see her dauther being just like her. ( glad it is her and not me lol ) I would perfer another boy. I just dont think I can deal with another girl. There is nothing wrong with my daughter but I am a girl and raising a girl is not easy. I worry about her every move and I cant even imagine her first heartbreak and things like that. My luck though if I get pregnant it will be twin girls. Nicholas' cousins have all but oen had a set of twin girls.

If I was to anser this question befor eI had kids I wouldnt know how to anwer it. Yes I have always wanted one of each but I dont know If I would have tired for a 3rd or not if I had had jsut the 2 of the same. I think maybe If my heart was not set on 3 kids and I had not already had 2 it would be easier to answer. OK now I am rambling.

[ikkin510]

I would love to have a big family! Neither of us really care whether we have boys or girls. We would like to have 2 and adopt one. I just like the surprise and would be happy no matter what we have! I love kids. Although I joke we Steve that they are my kids when they are young. Once they hit their teenage years, they are all his! That's another reason why I love Steve so much. While he loves little kids, he prefers teens, and is really good with them (he coaches middle school/high school volleyball.) So I know I have back-up when they get to the age that stresses me out!!! lol

[usahgrad]

I'm like Nikki...I want a big family! But Jason doesn't so much. So we've compromised. We get one of each, even if that means we end up with a bazillion boys to give me a little girl or a bazillion girls to give him a little boy. I know a family that did this...they ended up with five girls before they got a boy. I would really like a boy first, so I keep telling Jason to start pep-talking his little soldiers now, so that by the time we can afford kids, it will be ingrained in their teeny tiny little soldier non-existent minds! ;)

[ikkin510]

I also know a family that had 11 boys (yes 11) and then they finally got a girl. They planned on continuing no matter how long it took for them to have a girl!

[theweddinghelper]

I think if I had 2 boys I would want to give it a shot to have a girl, but if I had 2 girls I would be happy with that. I like little boys and would love my son if I have one, but I really would rather have girls.

I feel the exact same way but I'm sure my hubby wouldn't! He wants a boy.
I'm not sure if I would want try 1 more time, but I really do want a girl and my hubby a boy, so I guess we'll cross that bridge if we ever came to that.
(I'll just thank God for 1 @ this point though!)

[countrygirl]

We already have two and two between us. So, when we do have another, I would say a girl. I want the boys to be out numbered!! But really, I have natural son, not I want a natural daughter.

[CindySue]

I have 3 boys and 1 girl, and let me just say.......I DONT WANT ANYMORE GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!

[BriansBride07]

I had always only wanted 2 children first the girl then the boy. But faith took it hand in there and I had my boy first then i had my girl. If I ended up with both of the same sex I really believe that we still would of been done. There are too many other people out there where we could of spoiled there children.

[mlm063007]

I would have to say that I would definately try again if I had 2 the same. I want 4 kids, FH wants 2. So we compromised with 3. The only exception is if all three are the same, then we will try 1 more time, especially if they are all girls.

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

If I had 2 of one gender I would definitely try for another. I want at least 1 boy and 1 girl. We kinda just want 3 but we arent for sure yet and see what time brings us. If I end up with all of one gender or a mix I'll be happy either way...

[Crystal05]

DH and I do want two children, a boy and a girl and we've thought about the possibility of having the same gender. I think either way I would still only want two, but I know Jim wants at least one boy to carry on the family name because he's pretty much it. I guess we'll see when it happens!

[mariaandmanish]

I think I would be thrilled with whatever I got. I've heard that girls are harder to raise than boys, but whatever I get, I will be just thrilled to have them.

[MOB Karen]

I think I would be thrilled with whatever I got. I've heard that girls are harder to raise than boys, but whatever I get, I will be just thrilled to have them.

In my case, my son was so much harder to raise than Amber was. I think it's an individual child thing, and it goes beyond gender. But I wish you luck either way. :)

[bnd94]

I think I will be happy with whatever I get for my first two children. Although that is why I am here. My parents had two boys and they wanted a girl so they tried once more....and ....here I am!! Boy I bet they didn't know what they were getting themselves into. I pray if I have any girls they don't behave the way I did growing up!!! :bbeek:

[I'm That Girl]

I will only have kids if I want more kids. I won't have a kid just to try for a certain sex. I have 2 boys now. I am planning on trying for another baby next year just because Billy and I want a baby. I almost want another boy because they've been so great. I have also heard from many people who have raised boys and girls that the girls are harder. But it doesn't matter what I get. I will be happy.

My aunt knew this woman who wanted a girl so bad, she kept trying and trying for a girl. Guess what? She had 5 boys!! I think she gave up after that.